redlemonade
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I haven't read all the posts, and I don't know how to fix your issue...but maybe when you send them cards/etc., make sure the return address is how you would like to see cards addressed to you. I've been married for almost 4 months now, and have yet to be called Mrs. John Smith.
For formal invitations (i.e. wedding invitations) I see no problem in addressing a letter to: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.
But for a Christmas card no way! Either Mr. and Mrs. Smith or John and Jane Smith or The Smith Family
I may be the minority, but this is how I feel. It is a BIG deal to give up your last name and take someone else's. Will I? Yes...eventually because I want to have one family name too. But if people start forgetting or deleting my first name and replace with just a Mrs. (as in Mr. and Mrs. John Smith), I'd feel like I had truly lost my individuality. I'm a strong woman, and successful and I'm proud of who I am (and this includes my name!).
So, I totally get where you are coming from OP. I'd be annoyed too.
You could always play the passive-aggressive card and the next time you see them you could say, "Thanks for the Christmas card, it was very pretty. Ever since I got married seems like I've lost my first name! <ha ha> I'm just Mrs. John Smith now". Maybe they're doing it on purpose, and maybe they're doing it because they think its proper or you actually like being called by your DH's first name/last name dohh.
Best of luck. That would drive me crazy.
Thanks for understanding and for great advice! I'm glad I'm not alone
Haha, I wouldn't appreciate a wedding invitation addressed in this way either but maybe that's just me!
I like your advice in how to bring it up with them. But you know what? Last Xmas, our first xmas married, we both had our names on the envelope. Don't know what's happened in the meantime