How would you feel about this?

[Foogirl]

Okay, asked Mr P. There is a lass at his old work who is actually pregnant so asked if she had done this, without his knowledge, what would he do. He said if she went in to labour at work, he'd probably be the one who ended up taking her (him being the boss and all that) When I asked him if it were someone he knew less well, he said he'd still probably do it, but would be less happy.

When I asked him if I had a problem with it and didn't want him to do it he said he would find someone else with a car. When I asked if he would try and convince me otherwise it was a definite nope.

 

[AP]

See, I think my David would say the say as Mr P. For sure. He's a helpful lad, and im sure Mr Katy is being helpful and with good intentions but is forgetting toes could be stood on here.

See, I would get David to say, i need to be home to help the missus cause Alex doesnt go down to bed well....... (and thats true in my case, without him its POW! chaos, just because he aint around)

Or he could just be honest and say he feels a lil uncomfortable - i mean, what else could she say in retaliation?

 

[katy1310]

Mr Katy is just too helpful to the world and his dug He never feels like he can say no.

Aaargh, I'm struggling so much seeing her this pregnant as well. I do really really like her but this does bother me

 

[Foogirl]

And that's what bothers me most. Not his reaction to her, but his reaction to you. If it bothers you then he would be better to respect that, whether he agrees or not.

 

[Agiboma]

For my next one I don't care how it's delivered as long as it isn't coming out of my tummy before 37 weeks.

i could not agree more.
@katy yes i would feel very uncomforteble with this especially since she is expereincing all the things we missed out on, Isn't their anyone else that can take her?

 

[Stelly]

Personally, I think it was really inappropriate of her to ask that of your husband without speaking to you first. To me, thats very weird. Does she not have female coworkers??

I feel for you hun I would not be ok with that at all. Your husband should understand that is a tender subject for you... I too struggle with knowing I can never have a "normal" birth now, I wouldnt want my hubby sharing an intimate moment like that with someone else.

 

[25weeker]

I will keep my fingers crossed she goes into labour at a weekend or is overdue and gets a planned inducement so your oh doesn't have to be involved.

 

[katy1310]

Thank you everybody. I wish she'd even asked me how I felt about it She must have female co-workers who can drive. I'm so glad you all understand how I feel. There are a couple more things I'd love to say but I'm scared in case she ever finds this!
x

 

[AP]

Welllllll.... You could always delete after or me

 

[sethsmummy]

^^ WSS you could always delete the post afterwards xx

 

[katy1310]

Ok....I'll do it tomorrow when she is at work, then delete it

 

[katy1310]

Deleted just in case

 

[AP]

Edited

 

[25weeker]

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[weebun]

I totally understand how you feel and would be really upset about it. I have had 3 sections. My first was a straight forward emcs from prev relationship, all well afterwards. When I had my middle child in 2011 I obtained a bladder tear and and was on the table a while and didn't get to hold my daughter for 4 hours once surgery was over in the early hours and I had gone to sleep. and I was so traumatised for a long time afterwards and felt like we were cheated out of the stereo typical experience which is what we all want. Then in December I had a planned c-section under advice , and that went well but my baby was born poorly and nearly died and would have had she not received a blood transfusion within minutes, I didn't see her for 24 hours,all I had was a picture from the ICU i didn't get to hold her for days, didn't know what she really looked like because of all the mask and tubes etc....

It isn't the stereo typical experience for everyone,I can't even watch one born every minute because I see the holding of the baby straight afterwards, kisses and cuddles and photographs being taken, and that's with straight forward c-sections and normal deliveries...

I had only just got over my middle child and what happened to me then to nearly lose my second daughter and have another birth go wrong... I am emotionally wrecked .

I wouldn't even be letting my partner be a contact,, end of, I could not cope I feel cheated enough and i find it quite odd to be honest that he would think it was ok x

 

[weebun]

P.S tell her to back off and leave your man alone and stop relying on him so much xx

xxx you hang in there hun xxx

 

[katy1310]

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[AP]

Why oh why do they have to kiss the mouth people out there I WILL NEVER KNOW!!!

 

[katy1310]

[QUOTE=AtomicPink;25381577]Why oh why do they have to kiss the mouth people out there I WILL NEVER KNOW!!! [/QUOTE]

I know, what's that all about?!

 

[sethsmummy]

hun you do not sound in the least bit jelous!

I would be the same as you hun! And i seriously cant believe she asked your DH to help her move when your baby was so tiny! Thats just uncalled for Does she have no compassion for people?

and omg for her hubby passing the cold onto your l/o!! I cant stand when people come visit knowing they are ill when you have young children! I have warned everyone if they are ill they dont come visit now ds is back at nursery. And ill be even stricter when ds2 arrives. Theres just no need for it.. OR the kissing on the mouth!