shambaby
hayden's personal chef
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Me & hubby are planning to TTC pretty soon, but I am getting really frustrated. He has got it into his head that the best month to have a baby is August (thanks for that - will be lovely to be heavily pregnant through the summer!!) and has worked out that we will need to get pregnant in November to achieve this. And apparently it's as simple as that.
He thinks I should stop taking the pill a couple of months before that, but use a barrier method in case the pill causes any problems and then we can get pregnant in November. I have tried to point out that, at 31, it can take quite some time to conceive, apparently the average is 9 months (!) and that you can't just decide when you will have your baby and that it isn't as simple as that and that i might not get pregnant at all and what does he say? It'll be OK. Plus some women are extra fertile as soon as they come off the pill and I don't want to miss out on TTC in case we miss our chance and then have to wait for months, especially considering the advice to wait was relevant when the pill contained much higher doses of hormones and there is no evidence that modern pills can be harmful to babies. The only reason to wait is for your cycle to settle down so you can get more accurate dates, but I will test if no AF and I know dating scans are accurate and offered to everyone where I live.
Sorry, really long post, but needed to rant. Worst thing is, I know his answer to any worry is always 'it will be OK' because he wants to reassure me and stop me from worrying, but he doesn't seem to get that it feels like he is dismissing my concerns which makes it worse - I have to worry for both of us. And that's not good for TTC!!!!
He thinks I should stop taking the pill a couple of months before that, but use a barrier method in case the pill causes any problems and then we can get pregnant in November. I have tried to point out that, at 31, it can take quite some time to conceive, apparently the average is 9 months (!) and that you can't just decide when you will have your baby and that it isn't as simple as that and that i might not get pregnant at all and what does he say? It'll be OK. Plus some women are extra fertile as soon as they come off the pill and I don't want to miss out on TTC in case we miss our chance and then have to wait for months, especially considering the advice to wait was relevant when the pill contained much higher doses of hormones and there is no evidence that modern pills can be harmful to babies. The only reason to wait is for your cycle to settle down so you can get more accurate dates, but I will test if no AF and I know dating scans are accurate and offered to everyone where I live.
Sorry, really long post, but needed to rant. Worst thing is, I know his answer to any worry is always 'it will be OK' because he wants to reassure me and stop me from worrying, but he doesn't seem to get that it feels like he is dismissing my concerns which makes it worse - I have to worry for both of us. And that's not good for TTC!!!!