Hurry up BFPs!!! We are ready when you are :-)

[ladyluck84]

Off to have a sexual health test tomorrow! My gp as said they need to rule everything out before referal was anyone else asked to do this?!

 

[cathgibbs]

hhmmmm my GP didnt recommend it but after the ectopic I made df and I go as Iv heard a cause of mc's can be due to an infection - not necesssarily a STD or STI but just a bacterial infection like BV or something hun xxx

 

[xxDreamxx]

Off to have a sexual health test tomorrow! My gp as said they need to rule everything out before referal was anyone else asked to do this?!

When I was referred to a fertility specialist the first thing they did was a full std screen, thyroid function, ovarian reserve test (Amh) & all the auto immune stuff like lupus etc

 

[cathgibbs]

When a GP refers you a GP will not do all of that - its diff to Australia/USA to the UK - your first apt with a FS in the UK/Ireland will be a talk through of your family history, see what vaccinations you have had as you may need a top up - if so you cant ttc for a few weeks. then they will weigh you and take measurements etc then will make an apt for you to go back and have DH's SA and for you to have a scan etc and maybe even book you in for a HSG - thats why we are going private - my apt for NHS is in December then I will have to go back for SA and scans whereas private I will get scanned, DF will get his SA and they will go through the next step - hopefully if I need a HSG we can just jump back to the NHS then

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

Hi ladies.
Im back from the hen do. Had a good weekend. Very tired still.
Ive not been thinking about ttc. Im not going to temp or think about what cycle im on. I will prob be quiet on here this cycle and see if it helps. Prob wont help get me a bfp but might help me feel happier and not as obssesed.
I hope u are all doing ok xxx

 

[cathgibbs]

Mrsb I havent took my temp since Sat and feel so much better for it - I think we are going to take the relaxed approach too hun xxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Broody glad you enjoyed the hen did ya have much of a sore head lol..

 

[c.m.c]

Off to have a sexual health test tomorrow! My gp as said they need to rule everything out before referal was anyone else asked to do this?!

No but I rem before they knew about the ectopic the Registrar thought I had an infection (like a STI) and did a swab....needless to say it came back clear and my pain was obviously not due to an STI but an ectopic. I think ectopic s are more common in women who have maybe been carrying something like clamydia for years without knowing. Not to scare you but I guess it's just to rule out anything that could cause it to happen again.

90% of ectopics are a fluke....no reason no cause for it so I wouldn't worry if I were you. It's prob just a formality

 

[c.m.c]

Temping drove me a wee bit to obsession!! I stopped when I got my BFP as it was falling a bit and I was in a panic!

I think the O tests are fab though......

 

[cathgibbs]

yeah c.m.c i heard something like that too - I was a paranoid mess going there but its such a relief after you have gone though isnt it?

I love LOVE LOVE using OPKs but I know when we go to the clinic they will tell us to stop using opks (as my cycles are quite regular) and just dtd ever 2-3 days cause iv heard that from a few people who have been and i know df will grass me up if i say im not using them lol so if I dont use them this month I can say with confidence - no I dont but I used to haha ill start back up after the apt then! xxx

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

Ive been temping for ages too so its nice to stop. I stopped before when i got my bfp. I cant decide if i should do opkz. Prob not as i know roughly when i o with clomid anyway. Im just going to enjoy the summer hols and sex lol.

I didnt get very drunk so no sore head
Xxx

 

[HappilyTTC]

Broody- Not getting drunk? Well, that's no fun!

 

[c.m.c]

MrsB glad you had a good time.....you're very good not getting drunk


Cath...yeah it's scary at the time but defo good when it's done. A relief when it came back ok

 

[ladyluck84]

Well had scan, blood tests, husbands had sperm test and the GP said they are more likely to accept the referral if I also have an sti check. Because I haven't been trying for 2 years my local authority can turn down the referral until then. I have to say I have been married for 5 years so its unlikely but did I guess your right I also read that with an ectopic some can be tube damage from having an infection years before and have been unaware. I would be really upset if this was the case as only had 2 partners....I would be very unlucky!

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

I got a bit drunk just not very drunk lol.
There was a girl on the hen do who was 13 weeks pregnant so that made me feel a bit down thinking that i should be pregnant too.
X

 

[c.m.c]

MrsB I know that would ave been difficult.

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

Thanks hun. I know u guys understand. I keep feeling so down. I just want me baby back and i keep having a little cry. Im not the same person anymore. This stuff changes who u are. I used to be confident and an achiever. Now i just feel like a failure.
Sorry im not very positive. I dont want to bring u girls down. Im just thinking out loud.
X

 

[HappilyTTC]

MrsB. No need to feel bad about being down. We can try to pick you back up!

 

[Nina83]

Thanks hun. I know u guys understand. I keep feeling so down. I just want me baby back and i keep having a little cry. Im not the same person anymore. This stuff changes who u are. I used to be confident and an achiever. Now i just feel like a failure.
Sorry im not very positive. I dont want to bring u girls down. Im just thinking out loud.
X

You're not a failure hun
I wish I had something wiser to say, but I don't. This stuff does change a person, I keep telling myself that in a few years I'll understand that this molded me into who I will be. Stronger. That's the only thing I have that can keep me going. It's so hard to understand and accept though. ((hugs))

 

[ladyluck84]

I feel exactly the same! I'm not the person I issued to be. We celebrated our anniversary a few weeks ago and I just kept thinking wow I was so happy then and if only I knew what was lying ahead of me. But I totally agree with Nina it has changed us but in a few years time we will look back on this a stronger person and wonder how we ever got through it