International bumps to be!

[Madrid98]

Hi

dusty I've been told before that as men get older, everything is a bit more complicated . My dh is 41 so maybe he isn't on that stage yet but it must be very frustrating for you. I don't think is a question of you not being attractive enough to him I just think as they get older they're weaker in that sense. Fair enough men can have children until they're older but I'm sure sometimes extra help is needed. Please don't hold yourself responsible because at the end of the day is his issue; he should be worrying, not you.
On the other hand, I understand you worry because you want another baby and that's in your way to get it but the more you worry & the more you think about it, it isn't going to help you. You'll get more stressed & depressed & eventually is going to affect your relationship with your dh.

rjsman you're having an stressful time as well hun; we all feel sometimes that it'll be better to be alone & with noone to stress about, but is that what you really want? or is it just one of those down moments we all have?
Just take it easy & focus a bit on yourself and hopefully by feeling better you'll be able to see things in a more positive frame of mind.
Also you need to start thinking about your interview and how you're going to blow them away

mzswizz I'm sorry that af made an appearance after all!! But if that's the case your lp is far too short. Have you thought about going to see the doctor?

Today I've been quite busy at home because I wanted to leave everything clean and ready as we're going on holidays on Friday. The thing is that now I feel quite tired of course and I'm here relaxing with a decaf and your company
On Tuesday I have a meeting with my manager and I've decided to tell her about my appt with the midwife on Thursday. I was keeping it to myself & I was planning to make an excuse but she's been so demanding that I don't see the point hiding it from her any longer. I'll ask for confidentiality at least until September. Hopefully if I'll make it that long they'll notice themselves anyway.
I'm so anxious about the whole thing; can't help it.

XX

 

[Hena]

Hi everyone! I only have a minute, crazy busy here, but I just found this on Amazon (while plotting my ttc shopping in the States ) and I thought you'd all appreciate it https://www.amazon.com/Fertility-ad...arel&qlEnable=1&ie=UTF8&qid=1310328944&sr=1-5 I'll get on tomorrow and try to catch up with you all!

 

[mzswizz]

Madrid-i was thinking that maybe i am having whacky cycles. I have thought about seeing my doctor though but i dont have anything like temps etc and also DH has a new job so he doesnt have the health insurance that we use to have which means it will be out of pocket and we dont have that. Hopefully we will be able to concieve before we have to see the doctor.

Hena-the shirt made me laugh I think i should get that shirt

AFM, dh and i are just playing games on the xbox pretty much. Nothing to really update and the cramps are now gone. Oh and i think i am getting sick ugh.

 

[ChrissiK]

Sooooooooooooooo....
Today would have been AF day on a 28 day cycle. I usually range from 28-31.
So I tested. I didn't want to waste my last digi, so I used a cheapo Boots test.
There is the FAINTEST second line on the test. I tried to take a photos, but it's hard to capture.
Have this urge to pee on my digi RIGHT NOW, but will wait until tomorrow morning.

Oh the roller coaster!

 

[stuckinoki]

I see it Chrissi, and I didn't even have to squint. Looks like a BFP to me. Congratulations.

 

[stuckinoki]

Sorry I haven't been around much ladies. I've just been busy. I got an positive OPK yesterday and a really positive OPK this morning except DH couldn't finish when we tried this morning I'm completely pissed off about the whole thing.

He went to bed at 6pm last night so we didn't get a to BD and this morning he didn't finish. We only BD'd yesterday morning, and probably tonight when he gets home, but I'm still convinced that this cycle is worthless now since we haven't had sex at all since I got my positive OPK yesterday.

This is our last cycle TTC for a long while and I really wanted to make it count. I'm so irritated with DH right now.

 

[stuckinoki]

https://i52.tinypic.com/33xyq85.jpg <----- Tweaked
https://i56.tinypic.com/2s0mrtl.jpg <----- Grey Scaled
https://i53.tinypic.com/qnjmuh.jpg <----- Inverted

***I see the line clear as day in all of them***

 

[Hena]

OMG Chrissi!!!!! hoorah!!!!!! I want you to pee on your digi now too maybe you should wait until tomorrow's fmu though hehe. I don't even have to squint to see your second line, this is brilliant!

stuckinoki, we missed you!!!! don't worry so much, if you bd's yesterday morning and again tonight you have a very good chance. Just think of it as DH building up a store of swimmers to deposit just before the egg drops. In the end it is only one that has to make it, right?

 

[ChrissiK]

Hi everybody,
I'm a tad overexcited right now... OMG. What if it's really true... Had the digi in my hand twice already! Will probably pee on it tonight, if I can wait that long.

Stuckinoki - we covered OV days this month with a 36h rhythm (alternating mornings and evenings), because I did some research on sperm survival in cervix vs sperm regeneration in men over 35. Every day seemed to short and 2 days maybe too long, so that's what we did. In that case, if you BD tonight, you (and your ripening egg) are im good shape to catch a

I also have to say that this cycle brought my husband close to the breaking point. He did NOT want to BD the last time (after a week of 36h rhythm, since I couldn't pinpoint ov). We put on the porn, had some wine, I could have won a "sex noise" Oscar and it still took forever. We even had to take a break (I was so mad!). I think he then was really looking forward to the AF break and the stop of my demands.
All I want to say: You are not alone. If this is your last chance for a while, try hard, even if you have to stop-and-go. 36h might be the magic number!
Good luck tonight!

 

[rjsmam]

chrissi - woweeeeees how exciting!!! looks very clear, you must be itching to pee on that digi!! hope the wait isn't too painful!!! very excited to see our 2nd international BFP !

mzswiss - yup my dh doesn't cope with stress well & it's just like male pms haha. hope you are feeling better & didn't get sick!

madrid - think its a good idea to tell your manager, specially if she's been demanding. are you going somewhere nice on your hols?

stuckinoki - sorry about dh, i know that feeling, its very frustrating - and too common round here! is it worth explaining do dh about this cycle's importance or does that apply to much pressure...

hena - that tshirt is v funny! how was your trip to the inlaws?

dusty - how you doing hon, how was the rest of your wk end?

so sorry for the gloomy post the other night - tough times around here. i don't really want to be on my own - just sometimes i get nostalgic for having no one else to worry about! being a step mum/wife/working mum is tough at times & it's been a tough few wks and i have come to terms with not being in the game this month. if there's any chance i get this new job it's prob for the best. however if i dont get it I will be all guns blazing full on, no excuses at ov time, mega TTC !

looks like ff was right my last cycle - remember my temps where wacky & it said i ov cd20 but i didn't believe.. my temps are now much steadier & I thought they'd rise yesterday for ov, but they dropped really low instead.. and again today.. so am cd19 and temps show no sign of ov yet so i guess i ov late, also think that means i have a short luteal phase which will look into

xx

 

[stuckinoki]

Thanks so much Chrissi. That really made me feel better. I've been stewing in my own misery all day today.

Yesterday morning, we BD'd and then for giggles I took the OPK, when it was positive I told DH that we were in baby mode and had to BD that night before bed [I was going to use a soft cup too] because I knew I wouldn't be able to get anything out of him this morning.

He "accidentally" took Tylenol PM at 4pm and was passed out in bed by 6pm. I was so mad but I figured I'd just pounce him when I went to bed, nearly 4 hours later. Obviously it didn't work....

Then all night I kept having dreams that I missed my ovulation window and that DH didn't want sex in the morning...so I kept waking up freaking out.

I made him do it this morning and 15 minutes later, he was sweating and like "I can't do it...you know it doesn't work this early in the morning".

I was freaking crushed. He knows this is our last shot. I actually cried a little bit because I was so disappointed and after all of those dreams I just felt like shit...so I ended up chewing him out a little bit about taking tylenol ...

Hopefully tonight is better.

I'm sorry you had a rough cycle too Chrissi...I'm glad that you got your BFP out of it though.

I soooo can't wait to see the digi!

 

[ChrissiK]

I lasted a whopping 2.5h before I peed on the digi...

And here it is!

 

[stuckinoki]

Wooooooooooo hoooooooooooo!!!!!
Congratulations momma to be!

 

[stuckinoki]

Also, I want to know more about this top secret ttc facebook page

 

[ChrissiK]

The secret FB page is a group of TTC woman that have the urge to post on FB, but can't because it's a secret. A small, but very friendly group. FB also give you the opportunity to link to articles/photos etc a little easier than this forum (I think).
Nobody can view the posts if they are not in the group.

I also wanted to say: what worked for me this month (apparently - still hard to believe)...
FertiliTea (to shorten/strengthen my cycle), BD every 36h and putting in the soft cup right after.

Would anybody like a soft cup? I have 5 left over and you can reuse them, if you want...

 

[Madrid98]

Excellent news Chrissi!!!!

I had the feeling that your Friday test was a bit too early. So glad you tested again today and the best news ever!!!!!!!!!!! I bet you can't believe it yet! I was the same when I got mine!!
Have you told your dh? Are you waiting a bit longer?

Stuckinoki welcome back! I've missed you all these days!!! I'm sorry dh was so selfish this morning but men are like that sometimes. Just try not to get too upset about and cheer up for this afternoon/evening when he gets back home.

rjsman I'm going to southern Spain on Friday until the end of the month. It's the first time we travel to that part of my country together so it's going to be nice and a bit of an adventure. Can't wait!!!!

mzswizz that's the problem when you don't have a national health service. You need insurance or it's too costly. I've read in another thread also that the maternity pay is quite low or none whatsoever which is like shocking comparing to the European systems. Maybe the cycle will go back to its normal self gradually. Fx'd

Hena how was the weekend?

Dusty how are you feeling today?

XX

 

[stuckinoki]

Welp, this cycle was a complete waste of time.

DH is just now leaving work at 830pm which means that he won't be home, showered and relaxed until at least 10pm. I'm so freaking mad at him right now. How could he just stay late and not call to tell me. He knows we're in baby making time right now.

 

[ChrissiK]

Stuckinoki - Don't give up yet. Put on the red thong and wait for him in the shower!
(Try not to be mad at him today, there is enough time for that in the months to come...)

 

[dusty_sheep]

Hey everyone -

Chrissi - congratulations!, this is sooo exciting I don't know what a softcup is - would you mind to explain?

Nothing new really regarding TTC, besides the frustration. Though it was so not the time to conceive, but anyway, we haven't in a while, for several reasons.

And well, I didn't think a lot of TTC this weekend anyway - was at the hospital visiting my grandma who's in a very bad condition. Actually, no one knows if she'll leave the hospital at all. The worst thing was that she is suffering so badly, she's in pain and desperately asking for help - but no one even considers to give her appropriate meds to ease her pains.

Instead, they sediate her so she can't complain. She's got hematomas on her arms that she must have gotten by the staff people. It's so hard to see her like that... and I'm worried about my mom losing her mom My grandma and I, we were not close, but no one deserves to live in pain like that and be treated so unfriendly like this hospital staff treats her.

So yeah - I have to deal with the complete other end of life right now, thank god it's not time to BD right now.

 

[ChrissiK]

Oh dusty - that sounds terrible! Hope your grandma finds some relief soon, which ever way that might (maybe unfortunately) be...
A soft cup is something that was originally created to catch menstrual flow, it's like a diaphragm with room for liquid (if that makes sense) that cups your cervix. You can ALSO use it to hold the sperm in after BD, so that there is more chance for them to travel up.

Madrid - I'm not familiar with the UK health system (yet). What do I do next? Appointment with a midwife? Do I need to wait a couple of weeks?