Is anyone obese and pregnant?

[Kage76]

Hey love- im the same BMI- and my pregnancy and birth went really really well. I was considered high risk and had to go to the high risk hospital- but im so glad i did- they treated me so well and never once made me feel like I was going to die or that my pregnancy and birth was ever anything unusual. Just because you are big doesn't mean that you have done anything wrong or that something will automatically go wrong. Demand that they treat you the same and if they want to go down a path you dont want to get them to explain why and make sure you are involved in the decision making. You and the baby will be fine.

Thanks for your reply. This makes me feel so much better. This is my 3rd baby but the first time that I have been in this situation. My ob/gyn told me yesterday that I will not be able to deliver at the hospital where I planned to deliver and where my other 2 children were born. He is referring me to a bigger hospital who are much better equipped to deal with high risk deliveries. He said I will transfer over at 30 weeks and I will see new doctors from 30 weeks until my scheduled C-section at 39 weeks. I don't like it one bit that I have to go to new doctors when I have been at my current ob/gyn practice for over 15 years and then to deliver in a different hospital. I feel like I am starting over and I feel comfortable and trust the doctors/hospital where I delivered the past two times but he told me that I will be in much better hands at the other hospital. I guess if I wasn't pregnant I could deal with this better but these pregnancy hormones just have me totally emotional. I am due on September 26 but I will have the baby a week before. Only 4 more months but I think this will be the longest 4 months of my life. What do they do different during a high risk delivery C-section? It sounded like to me that my doctor was saying that they will have 2 to 3 surgeons instead of just one. I want to be informed about everything but sometimes I think ignorance is bliss.

hello hun, i wanted to share my experience also with you. This is my 2nd pregnancy, my daughter is 2.5 yrs old. My bmi with my daughter was 38 and it wasnt an issue to docs and midwifes, anyway my birth ended up in an emergency section, which went well and i recovered pretty quick.
This time with my 2nd my bmi is 41 and my weight and bmi are a huge issue to docs and midwifes all over my notes HIGH BMI HIGH BMI is written which makes me feel pretty shit really. I like you have gotten down about this also and it has made me have the same thoughts as you that i would probably end up dieing during my planned section which is due in 12 days. Havnt really discussed with anyone how i feel but with only 12 days to go im just trying to feel as positive as i can. But i understand where you are coming from completely. dont mind chatting if youd like to. xx

Try not to get too bummed about the notes- I had an anterior placenta and all over my notes was all about my placenta and my bmi- Now i had to take a step back - think logically- why was I getting so upset about my BMI notes and not my placenta notes? To the doctor they were the same weighting of risk- they were not judging me- they were stating a fact- I was fat- i knew this already- it wasn't a judgement - just a medical observation.

 

[dalewonju]

I'm obese and trying. Any of you ladies get pregnant using Clomid? I'm on my way to the second round.

 

[redlaughinmum]

hey, i weighed 22stone when i fell pregnant. I am now 19weeks pregnant and having my first consultation on wednesday. this is my second pregnancy and the first went fine, i even had no pain relief during the birth so im hoping i can do that this time round....i have been told by one of my midwives that just because im big doesnt mean i will have problems as i have a normal blood pressure and always have, i didnt get gestational diabetes either. she said apart from my bmi...i was fine. its weird the way they work things out.... anyway congrats to all who are pregnant and good luck to any trying....

 

[thenewme]

Hey, im new here
I am 35 years old, 5ft 3in and 19 an half stone, i am also trying to get pregnant have been for 8 months, is there any advice you ladies can give me to get there please, i sooooo want a 3rd baby, i also have cysts on both my ovaries, please help me x

 

[mrs_cookie]

hello. i am new here to bnb. my hubby and i had been ttc for over 5 years and about a month ago it happened! i am 5'6 330 lbs, my hubby is 5'7 153 lbs (he loves bbw) ok so i am now 9 weeks. did i mention that we conceived naturally??? we have never taken any drugs or meds or any treatment for infertility what so ever. i am so excited and pray that everything goes well with me and my baby during and after this pregnancy. for me i know that God waited until he saw fit for us to conceive & with faith and prayer we are well on our way to becoming parents. i know how tough it is to really want to get pregnant and cant. i pray that all of the women that post that they are ttc becomes pregnant and blessings to all!

 

[ChimChims]

hello. i am new here to bnb. my hubby and i had been ttc for over 5 years and about a month ago it happened! i am 5'6 330 lbs, my hubby is 5'7 153 lbs (he loves bbw) ok so i am now 9 weeks. did i mention that we conceived naturally??? we have never taken any drugs or meds or any treatment for infertility what so ever. i am so excited and pray that everything goes well with me and my baby during and after this pregnancy. for me i know that God waited until he saw fit for us to conceive & with faith and prayer we are well on our way to becoming parents. i know how tough it is to really want to get pregnant and cant. i pray that all of the women that post that they are ttc becomes pregnant and blessings to all!

Praise the Lord, and prayers for a safe nine months!

 

[TheSmpsns]

hello. i am new here to bnb. my hubby and i had been ttc for over 5 years and about a month ago it happened! i am 5'6 330 lbs, my hubby is 5'7 153 lbs (he loves bbw) ok so i am now 9 weeks. did i mention that we conceived naturally??? we have never taken any drugs or meds or any treatment for infertility what so ever. i am so excited and pray that everything goes well with me and my baby during and after this pregnancy. for me i know that God waited until he saw fit for us to conceive & with faith and prayer we are well on our way to becoming parents. i know how tough it is to really want to get pregnant and cant. i pray that all of the women that post that they are ttc becomes pregnant and blessings to all!

Congrats to you! I am in a similar situation, I was 5'3" and 326 pre pregnancy, DH is 6'9" and 250. We conceived naturally after a year of trying. I am also from texas!

 

[nbarlowcleal]

hello
i was wondering for some advice i'm 32 and obese (hate that word) but i have just discovered that i am pregnant both me and my husband r both very happy and our eldest is to but well i'm a little worried i have pcos so i have convinced myself that i would never conceive so as u can imagine this is a surprise to all of us but i'm worried my doc will only go on about my size and not the baby i am a big lady i was a size 28 but i had began to loose the weight then fell pregnant and now well i'm only going to get bigger i want this baby more than anything but i'm worried about what the docs will do

 

[Skrepka]

I am for 29 weeks to 10 kg fatter. Now in my 70 kg.
The doctor is very swears, she says that this is unacceptable. It's summer and I try to eat fruits and vegetables, but still gain weight. The doctor has appointed a special procedure - the pressure chamber. Say it is practiced in Europe? I have read that compressed oxygen is good for baby and mom, improves circulation and of placenta is getting better.

 

[Kage76]

hello
i was wondering for some advice i'm 32 and obese (hate that word) but i have just discovered that i am pregnant both me and my husband r both very happy and our eldest is to but well i'm a little worried i have pcos so i have convinced myself that i would never conceive so as u can imagine this is a surprise to all of us but i'm worried my doc will only go on about my size and not the baby i am a big lady i was a size 28 but i had began to loose the weight then fell pregnant and now well i'm only going to get bigger i want this baby more than anything but i'm worried about what the docs will do

I was really worried too especially when i was put into the high risk hospital- but in reality it was a blessing in disguise- the people there were used to dealing with ladies my size and i was never ever made to feel like a freak or irresponsible.(my greatest fear) The doctors should really do anything different- you may see them more often than if you were an average size but if you are ever unhappy in the way you are being treated ask for a different doctor.

 

[paulasx]

Hi all
I'm so pleased to find this forum!!! I am 35 and currently 18+5 pregnant with my 4th child. I was overweight with 2 and 3 and have had NO problems whatsoever apart from spd. However, this pregnancy, I weighed in at 142kg, BMI 52, and thats all they seem to focus on, not the fact I have low blood pressure, normal cholesterol and despite tests no where near having diabetes!! I am seeing the midwife and consultant regularly, have to take injections as I am at risk of DVT apparently, and also have to see an anaethistist later in case I need a c-section; hasn't happened so far but............
anyway, I have lost 4kg up to now due to a decrease in appetite and nausea but think im making up for it now! I'm just worried because I haven't really felt the baby this time, can't remember when I did last time as it was 6yrs ago and altho I have felt some movement its not all the time, maybe one or two flutters/kicks then nothing for a few days! I also worry that I can't feel any difference in my stomach, when I'm standing it does feel as tho its becoming more 'D' than 'B' but still can't help worrying!! you would think as it was my 4th I would be less worried but I honestly can't remember much from my last pregnancy!!!
sorry for the long winded post!

 

[gingermama]

Thanks to everyone! This is just an amazing thread. I read it in one sitting (took me about an hour and 15 min!) but I truly feel connected to people who have similar concerns as me and that's a good feeling!

I am a 29 yr old mom to an almost two yr old and I found out last week I'm expecting again. I think I'm only about 6-7 weeks and I haven't seen a doctor yet, but I am definitely dreading it.

With my first, I started out at 280 pounds and lost about 10 pounds due to morning sickness/ lack of appetite throughout the pregnancy - until the VERY end - then I skyrocketed to 310 pounds! Ugh, it was terrible. I don't even know what my bump looked like because I refused to take pictures/let pics be taken while I was expecting. In fact, the ONLY pic there is of me pregnant is of from the chest up and I'm holding my cat in front of my face!!

Anyway, I still haven't lost what I gained and I'm sure I'm at least 330-340 by now. I blame it on depression and comfort eating combined with stopping breastfeeding (not very willingly) when my daughter was 6 mos. I could blame it on even more than that, but why bother? Fact is, I'm huge and I can't do a heck of a lot to change it right now. I'm eating better due to a lack of appetite, but I don't have the morning sickness like I did with my first...yet.

I had an extremely normal and healthy first pregnancy, but with lots of fetal monitoring and weekly ultrasounds after week 30 and on. I was induced at 39 weeks, 1 day, only because my doctor was afraid my BP *might* go up - it was only slightly raised and not into a dangerous spot. I personally think she was just protecting herself, but I can understand that.

The only issue I had with my first baby was that it took forever for the inducing process to work. I was given drugs to soften my cervix first (sorry if this is TMI!!) and then I was on a pitocin drip off and on for two and a half days with excruciating contractions that weren't accomplishing anything. And of course they wanted me hooked up to a fetal heart rate monitor constantly. My baby NEVER had any distress during the whole process. Although I'd told myself and my husband that I wouldn't, I did eventually get an epidural about 8-9 hours before I finally gave birth because the contractions were so intense and close together that I couldn't take it anymore. I don't know if the problems with the labor induction were due to my weight or if it was because my daughter just wasn't quite ready to meet the world. I'm just glad I didn't have to have a c-section.

I live in a different city and won't be able to use the doctor that delivered my daughter. I'm scared to death about what the new doctor will think of me and my situation. The first OB/GYN was pretty great, with only a remark here and there about "I bet you can't wait to get that baby out so you can start exercising!"

Anyhow, it's just good to get that off my chest. On a different tangent, I hope my bump eventually looks like a baby's in there and not like I'm smuggling lumpy pillows under my shirt!!

 

[mrsotoole]

I just wanted to say this forum has helped me so much. I am obese, I am 42 and about to go through donor egg procedure abroad (well we have the tx on 1/12/12.) I have tried so hard to lose weight but to no avail. I go to the gym and feel fairly fit. I do worry about the weight I could put on when/if pregnant but I still don't see my bmi should be a blocker for me being a parent. Let's hope in December I will have survived the 2ww and get s positive result!!

 

[Elainey]

Great to read all the different stories in this thread - I think overweight mums really get a bad name in the news and in the beginning I actually felt embarrased about being fat and pregnant. It doesn't help when One Born Every Minute do a special show about plus size mums and you get some stick think specialist claiming that its far worse for a mum to smoke through out her pregnancy than be overweight!
I'm almost 37 weeks pregnant and had a starting BMI of 40+ when I fell pregnant...it doesn't help being a shortarse, I'd be ok if I was stretched a bit taller lol! I was really scared about what the midwife would say but she has never ever made an issue about it. I was referred to consultant care and again I was a bit worried about this but its not been an issue at all. Obviously my bmi has hindered some of the scans and in fact at my 12 week one I had to have an internal scan as my belly was in the way but my baby is measuring fine! I lost a few pounds in the first trimester and after weighing myself this morning, I think I've only put on about 12-14lbs which I'm happy about...could have been a lot worse! I passed my gestational diabetes test, I've been feeling fine and healthy and I only finished full time work on Saturday so I've managed to keep quite active.

It just goes to show that even though I am a fatty, I can still have a healthy and normal pregnancy! I understand there can be issues with the birth for bigger ladies but I'm keeping my fingers crossed that everything goes fine and with no probs

 

[greenfaerie]

I went into pregnancy expecting a big fuss to be made about my weight. I lost 5 stone a couple of years ago, then put more than half of it back on, then found myself pregnant just as I got my head back together to lose it again.

I knew that my BMI would be high, and always assumed I was morbidly obese. To my surprise my midwife never mentioned anything, other than to hand me a high BMI leaflet in a handful of others. Turns out at my booking in my BMI was 37, and was just under the cut to qualify for co care. I had a frank discussion with my midwife last week and she says that my weight isn't a problem with the check ups, I don't need to see a Doctor at any point, and I have never had bad news at an appointment. I'm always given a clean bill of health. It's so annoying how people look down on overweight people, especially when pregnant. I actually had some men in a car scream "fatty" at me the other week, when I was over 6 months pregnant.

My mother said I didn't have a bump as much as a tyre. :S My bump has tended to just push my flab out, sadly. I've rounded out a bit more in the past month though, and as long as I dress appropriately I can manage to look pregnant and not like I have a beer belly.

 

[Elainey]

I actually had some men in a car scream "fatty" at me the other week, when I was over 6 months pregnant.

I've had this too, it makes me so angry that strangers can be so rude like that.

 

[x-ginge-x]

I'm pregnant with my first baby and am currently 33 weeks and 5 days I started off at 14stone 10 (205lbs) and last weighed at 16stone (224lbs). I have PCOS and all the doctors would tell me before I got diagnosed was 'its because of your weight' after a while I had ad enough and demanded blood tests knowing there was a reason behind my weight gain, when the results came back doctor said 'Oh looks like you have PCOS' Its in my pregnancy notes and not once have I had a doctor or midwife mention my weight. I did have a nurse comment about high BMI when I mentioned having to have a Gestational Diabetes test(which I passed) and I replied sharply with no, because of my PCOS and its relation to insulin resistance. The nurse went bright red. She might think twice about smart comments next time. But I have had a textbook pregnancy so far, growing to the charts and everything, don't let them fool you with the overweight = complications crap, a friend of mine is an athlete and she ended up with gestational diabetes, bleeding etc! Good Luck in your quest TTC x

 

[Sombra]

One thing I have been so relieved about is that my doctor has not made my weight an issue. I was very heavy when I got pregnant. Luckily, I haven't gained any weight at all with this pregnancy. I was losing for most of it until my last weigh in at 31 weeks when I finally caught up to my pre-pregnancy weight.

I do think the extra weight I already had had made this pregnancy very physically tiring for me. At this point (almost 32 weeks) I am having a lot of difficulty getting around, bending over, knees hurting, etc. I am not sure it would be as bad were I not obese to begin with.

At this point I am focusing on getting my little one out and into the world and then trying to lose weight afterwards. No one should make you feel bad about being an overweight mom...there are far more important things to worry about...and it's not like we don't know we're overweight, so the comments aren't a newsflash for anyone!

 

[IsaiahsMommy]

i found some comfort in your post and i guess you could say im just looking for someone to talk to. this is my first pregnancy im only 20 years old and i weigh right now 340+ lbs. im 28 weeks and i've gained 19lbs thru my whole pregnancy but 10 of that i gained in 2 weeks. i went to my doctor tonight and she said my uterus wasn't measuring up right it was off like 6 inches, she was totally concerned about the ten pounds i gained, when the nurse right before that told me i was doing really great. my blood pressure has been perfect every time and just last week i measured up perfect and the midwife was happy with everything. im really scared my doctor totally freaked me out tonight to where i was crying, i think im doing pretty damn good. well im just wondering how your pregnancy went? and if anyone has advice for me?

 

[IsaiahsMommy]

Hi,

I just saw this site. I am very very overweight, larger I believe then anyone who posted on this site so far.

I am 26 years old, 5'7" (a little more) and weigh 432 lbs. I am also 23 weeks pregnant. I was not planning this pregnancy..it was a complete surprise. I honestly thought it would be hard for me to get pregnant plus I was on birth control. I guess it was meant to be.

Despite my weight, I am fairly active and eat decently. I lost a little weight in the 1st trimester and have stayed pretty much the same throughout the 2nd.

Of course I worry about whether there will be any complications with my pregnancy but so far everything is going as well as possible. My little boy appears healthy....all tests came back fine and I feel him squirming around all the time.

I have had to have a lot more ultrasounds then is normal..which I dont love..... I worry if too many ultrasounds is ok for my munchkin.

I pray every day that my pregnancy will continue to go smoothly...and every week that things are still going well, I am thankful!

I wish all of you beautiful women the best of luck with your pregnancies/current children!

i found some comfort in your post and i guess you could say im just looking for someone to talk to. this is my first pregnancy im only 20 years old and i weigh right now 340+ lbs. im 28 weeks and i've gained 19lbs thru my whole pregnancy but 10 of that i gained in 2 weeks. i went to my doctor tonight and she said my uterus wasn't measuring up right it was off like 6 inches, she was totally concerned about the ten pounds i gained, when the nurse right before that told me i was doing really great. my blood pressure has been perfect every time and just last week i measured up perfect and the midwife was happy with everything. im really scared my doctor totally freaked me out tonight to where i was crying, i think im doing pretty damn good. well im just wondering how your pregnancy went? and if anyone has advice for me?