Helllooo. Seee iv had the same problem, i am in my first trimester. i only found out last week that i was pregnant, and i am so scared that something is going to go wrong and i really dont want that happening. I would love to tlk to someone whos more like me to know a bit more about what the docs say ectect. xx Everyone i speak to are small tiny girls.x Hope to hear from you soon x
Hey! Congrats on being pregnant!!!!The first trimester can be scary but im sure you will be ok! How far along are you? A large percentage of miscarriages happen before a woman even knows she is pregnant...so if you tested positive thats already a plus! Take it easy, get your rest, take prenatals (make sure your getting your folic acid!!! SOOO IMPORTANT!!!!) and just take care of yourself.
I was really nervous throughout my first trimester...but it went very smoothly. Every week you pass lowers your risk of miscarriage and by the time you reach 12/13 weeks the risk is very low. Just take it one day at a time and try not to worry (easy to say...but hard 2 do...I know)
As for doctors, my Ob/gyn is GREAT! Shes been my gyno for years so she knows me and she knows my body. She has never even mentioned my weight (I have...lol... she says Im young and healthy.. and doesnt appear worried) The first apt I had they did a transvaginal ultrasound to confirm pregnancy and make sure it was viable. At my second and third appt she tried to use the doppler but couldnt pick up the heartbeat through my fat so we did tranvaginal ultrasounds again to check the baby. Since then, she hasnt tried the doppler anymore.... she just has the us machine set up..I graduated to abdominal ultrasounds by my 4th appointment. **This doesnt mean you will have this prob...I really have a large amount of stomach fat in the way.
Whenever they do an abdominal ultrasound (or tried to use the doppler) I would hold up my belly so she could get the machines in closer to the baby. This may be helpful for you if you end up having trouble w/ an ultrasound or doppler. If your doctor doesnt suggest it, you may want to offer... It def can make a HUGE difference.
Now at my doctor, they send you to a different office for the comprehensive ultrasounds. I went at 13 weeks for a ultrascreen (checking for chromosonal disorders) and at 20 weeks (2nd trimester comprehensive us) and then 23 weeks for a follow up. The 13 week scan was pretty easy. The baby was still lower then and lifting up my belly gave the technichion a good look at him. The 20 week was tougher as my uterus/baby had grown up more in my abdomen so going under the belly didnt produce as clear a picture but going over the belly also wasnt great. They were able to see a bunch of what they wanted to see but it wasnt very clear. They had me come in at 23 weeks for a follow up. They were able to see what they couldnt see before...still not ultra clear... but the doctor overseeing the ultrasound seemed pretty comfortable with it. This doctor also used some different techniques that the doctor at 20 weeks didnt use..this made a big difference in getting a good picture of what she wanted to see.
The ultrasound doctor told me to make another appointment for 5-6 weeks from now. Shes assuming that my doctor will want me to come for more frequent ultrasounds as it is hard to measure the growth of my baby through measuring my uterus.
My doctor did have me take the gestational diabetes test early and now I have to take in again in a couple of weeks. It wouldnt surprise me if I have to take it a third time as well. My dad is diabetic which puts me at high risk for gestational and so does being obese...so its a double whammy! lol Hopefully the 2nd test will be ok. **cross fingers**
Right now, my OB/GYN is on maternity leave (ironic huh?) she will be back in sept. Until then I am seeing other doctors in the practice. I find it very nerve wracking to go to the other doctors... I went to one last week...she wasnt mean or anything but also wasnt very warm. Im trying another doctor (who my doctor highly recommended) for my August appointment.
There are rumors (through doctors and on the internet) that you may not feel your baby move or it may take longer if your heavier....well I can tell you that wasnt true in my case (and I am MUCH MUCH heavier then the average obese woman). I started feeling occasional movement around 18 weeks...there was a couple of times before then that I thought I felt him...but its hard to tell at first. Over weeks 19/20/21/22 I started feeling him more and more...now at week 23 I often feel him moving, mostly just little movements still...but sometimes ill feel a big kick and I even felt him have the hiccups already! Its awesome to feel him!! I love it... sometimes if I press gently on my belly he will squirm or kick me in protest...you cant feel it from the outside yet...but im SURE that I will get to the point as he gets bigger. Which is exciting!
I dont really look pregnant right now....just bigger...but im expecting I will eventually look more pregnant then fat..lol.
If you have any questions let me know!!! I remember how I felt in my 1st trimester and how I still feel sometimes....it is so much better to get the questions off your chest and get some support!! Also..when it comes to choosing your doctor..if you dont already have an ob/gyn you trust dont be afraid to try a few different ones until you find a supportive doctor who you like and trust. If any doctor is unkind to you then find another one! Also, although it hasnt happened to me, I have heard stories of doctors telling big women that they cant possibly carry a baby, they will complications, baby will die, they will have to have a c section, they will die, etc. Any doctor who says this is not a doctor you want. Its not true.....the majority of heavy women (even women around my weight) get through pregnancy and labor with little or no complications. Any doctor with preconceived notions of how your pregnancy is gonna go is NOT a doctor you want to use. Find another one and prove them wrong!! lol
Also, theres a really great plus size pregnancy website. This website isnt letting me post a link to the web site for you because im new....but if you google plus-size-pregnancy your should find it pretty easily. On that website in a link the the owners blog. She has a ton of great info there as well!!! I highly recommend checking out both of them!!
Now that ive written an ULTRA long answer...im gonna stop...lol I wish you the best of luck! Let me know how it goes!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi girls I am 12 weeks and just had ultrasound number two. I have P.C.O.S and am Obese. Hubby and I had our daughter when i was 17, he was 18 and 17 years later after a health kick, joining a gym and green juicing I fell pregnant at 34 years old in Feb around our 15th year Anniversary. I am extremely tired and now I am in the 2nd trimester I want t get my butt back to swimming and treadmill action at least. I have always been a bigger person and was a size 18 with my first pregnancy but i am currently a 22/24 depending on the make of clothes. I want to say a big THANK YOU to you woman for being honest and posting this thread. Not only does it give us someone to chat to and understand each other it also shows the ladies out there wit P.C.O.S and weight issues that they can fall pregnant.
I was always told hubby and I would need I.V.F to have another child... and yes the Doctors don't know everything...
I look forward to hearing how your all going and I wish you all the very best. Hugs from Me & The jelly bean ( who I think is a blue one)
Helllooo. Seee iv had the same problem, i am in my first trimester. i only found out last week that i was pregnant, and i am so scared that something is going to go wrong and i really dont want that happening. I would love to tlk to someone whos more like me to know a bit more about what the docs say ectect. xx Everyone i speak to are small tiny girls.
Hey! Congrats on being pregnant!!!!
I was really nervous throughout my first trimester...but it went very smoothly. Every week you pass lowers your risk of miscarriage and by the time you reach 12/13 weeks the risk is very low. Just take it one day at a time and try not to worry (easy to say...but hard 2 do...I know
As for doctors, my Ob/gyn is GREAT! Shes been my gyno for years so she knows me and she knows my body. She has never even mentioned my weight (I have...lol... she says Im young and healthy.. and doesnt appear worried) The first apt I had they did a transvaginal ultrasound to confirm pregnancy and make sure it was viable. At my second and third appt she tried to use the doppler but couldnt pick up the heartbeat through my fat so we did tranvaginal ultrasounds again to check the baby. Since then, she hasnt tried the doppler anymore.... she just has the us machine set up..I graduated to abdominal ultrasounds by my 4th appointment. **This doesnt mean you will have this prob...I really have a large amount of stomach fat in the way.
Whenever they do an abdominal ultrasound (or tried to use the doppler) I would hold up my belly so she could get the machines in closer to the baby. This may be helpful for you if you end up having trouble w/ an ultrasound or doppler. If your doctor doesnt suggest it, you may want to offer... It def can make a HUGE difference.
Now at my doctor, they send you to a different office for the comprehensive ultrasounds. I went at 13 weeks for a ultrascreen (checking for chromosonal disorders) and at 20 weeks (2nd trimester comprehensive us) and then 23 weeks for a follow up. The 13 week scan was pretty easy. The baby was still lower then and lifting up my belly gave the technichion a good look at him. The 20 week was tougher as my uterus/baby had grown up more in my abdomen so going under the belly didnt produce as clear a picture but going over the belly also wasnt great. They were able to see a bunch of what they wanted to see but it wasnt very clear. They had me come in at 23 weeks for a follow up. They were able to see what they couldnt see before...still not ultra clear... but the doctor overseeing the ultrasound seemed pretty comfortable with it. This doctor also used some different techniques that the doctor at 20 weeks didnt use..this made a big difference in getting a good picture of what she wanted to see.
The ultrasound doctor told me to make another appointment for 5-6 weeks from now. Shes assuming that my doctor will want me to come for more frequent ultrasounds as it is hard to measure the growth of my baby through measuring my uterus.
My doctor did have me take the gestational diabetes test early and now I have to take in again in a couple of weeks. It wouldnt surprise me if I have to take it a third time as well. My dad is diabetic which puts me at high risk for gestational and so does being obese...so its a double whammy! lol Hopefully the 2nd test will be ok. **cross fingers**
Right now, my OB/GYN is on maternity leave (ironic huh?) she will be back in sept. Until then I am seeing other doctors in the practice. I find it very nerve wracking to go to the other doctors... I went to one last week...she wasnt mean or anything but also wasnt very warm. Im trying another doctor (who my doctor highly recommended) for my August appointment.
There are rumors (through doctors and on the internet) that you may not feel your baby move or it may take longer if your heavier....well I can tell you that wasnt true in my case (and I am MUCH MUCH heavier then the average obese woman). I started feeling occasional movement around 18 weeks...there was a couple of times before then that I thought I felt him...but its hard to tell at first. Over weeks 19/20/21/22 I started feeling him more and more...now at week 23 I often feel him moving, mostly just little movements still...but sometimes ill feel a big kick and I even felt him have the hiccups already! Its awesome to feel him!! I love it... sometimes if I press gently on my belly he will squirm or kick me in protest...you cant feel it from the outside yet...but im SURE that I will get to the point as he gets bigger. Which is exciting!
I dont really look pregnant right now....just bigger...but im expecting I will eventually look more pregnant then fat..lol.
If you have any questions let me know!!! I remember how I felt in my 1st trimester and how I still feel sometimes....it is so much better to get the questions off your chest and get some support!! Also..when it comes to choosing your doctor..if you dont already have an ob/gyn you trust dont be afraid to try a few different ones until you find a supportive doctor who you like and trust. If any doctor is unkind to you then find another one! Also, although it hasnt happened to me, I have heard stories of doctors telling big women that they cant possibly carry a baby, they will complications, baby will die, they will have to have a c section, they will die, etc. Any doctor who says this is not a doctor you want. Its not true.....the majority of heavy women (even women around my weight) get through pregnancy and labor with little or no complications. Any doctor with preconceived notions of how your pregnancy is gonna go is NOT a doctor you want to use. Find another one and prove them wrong!! lol
Also, theres a really great plus size pregnancy website. This website isnt letting me post a link to the web site for you because im new....but if you google plus-size-pregnancy your should find it pretty easily. On that website in a link the the owners blog. She has a ton of great info there as well!!! I highly recommend checking out both of them!!
Now that ive written an ULTRA long answer...im gonna stop...lol I wish you the best of luck! Let me know how it goes!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have a question.... If your BMI is really high are you still able to give birth in a normal hospital environment? Mine was over 30 at my booking in appt and now it has gone up with putting on the pregnancy weight
My mw hasn't even mentioned my weight being an issue but looking at some of the comments, it seems some of you have? I had the GTT at 27 weeks which was fine, and haven't had any problems in pregnancy.... haven't had anything mentioned about not being able to get an epi for the pain etc?x
I'm just hoping an praying this is ny month I really am
. Finding nice clothes is a little tough, but it often is when you're this big. I'm starting to show now, although no strangers have ventured a word yet. People are quite cautious when you're a big girl, which is just fine with me. I tell people every chance I get! Hope you get your BFP soon. 
