Is it right to smack a child?

[AppleBlossom]

Unfortunately Grace is a very stubborn, independent three year old who firmly believes that the word 'no' doesn't apply to her. For example 'no Grace, you can't have a magazine' equals giant meltdown in the middle of Sainsbury's complete with lying on the floor screaming, kicking her legs... Although I wouldn't smack her for that, to be honest I just walk off and leave her to it, she soon gets up and runs after me. Kids...

 

[Laura2919]

Well I can assure you that with the twins they egg each other on but sometimes they are in two different places so watching them all the time is hard when there is only one of me and my eyes are firmly attached to my head!

Like for example I was packing as we were going away for the weekend in May with FOB's family. Chloe was on the trampoline and Jaycee was watching tv.. Chloe called me so I went out to see her and when I got back Jaycee had lovingly drawn on my living room door, hallway wall and my bedroom wall... In the space of a minute. I cannot keep my eye on them every single second. I told her it was naughty and not to do it again but I dont really see how someone can sit there and watch their child all the time. Its absolutely impossible in this household I can assure you

 

[AppleBlossom]

Grace is full to the brim with mischief but if I had to sit and monitor her every move I would never get anything done. God knows how you do it with two. Especially since we're both single parents so we only have our eyes!

 

[Laura2919]

Grace is full to the brim with mischief but if I had to sit and monitor her every move I would never get anything done. God knows how you do it with two. Especially since we're both single parents so we only have our eyes!

So are the girls. could you imagine the laundry pile? I cant keep up now Its hard when your on your own so you have to try and raise your children as best you can and sometimes others dont agree but who cares. Grace is gorgeous and a happy child and so are the girls so I dont personally care if people dont agree with the way I raise them.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Grace is full to the brim with mischief but if I had to sit and monitor her every move I would never get anything done. God knows how you do it with two. Especially since we're both single parents so we only have our eyes!

So are the girls. could you imagine the laundry pile? I cant keep up now Its hard when your on your own so you have to try and raise your children as best you can and sometimes others dont agree but who cares. Grace is gorgeous and a happy child and so are the girls so I dont personally care if people dont agree with the way I raise them.

Exactly I think by BnB standards, pretty much everything I do/have done has been "wrong" but hey, our kids are healthy, happy, bright and love us very much so I'm not really that bothered

 

[Laura2919]

Same but I am at a point where it doesnt matter. Everyones life is different and we cant compare so while one thing works for one it doesnt work for another.

 

[Lightworker]

do you think that your circumstances impact your parenting choices in this context? x

 

[AppleBlossom]

I'm not sure, maybe to a certain degree but I can't say for sure because I've not been on the other side of the spectrum.

 

[Eve]

I jyst wrote a massive post and my phone messed up

 

[cherryglitter]

I was smacked as a child. I use the same as what my mum and dad did.

The girls get one warning, then another, then naughty step and when all else fails a smack on the hand, not hard. I dont whack them or lose my temper with them. I've warned them they know the drill. Most of the time they stop at the second warning.

I wouldnt want the girls to fear me. I dont smack the girls each and every time they are naughty.

pretty much all of this.

 

[indy and lara]

Grace is full to the brim with mischief but if I had to sit and monitor her every move I would never get anything done. God knows how you do it with two. Especially since we're both single parents so we only have our eyes!

So are the girls. could you imagine the laundry pile? I cant keep up now Its hard when your on your own so you have to try and raise your children as best you can and sometimes others dont agree but who cares. Grace is gorgeous and a happy child and so are the girls so I dont personally care if people dont agree with the way I raise them.

Exactly I think by BnB standards, pretty much everything I do/have done has been "wrong" but hey, our kids are healthy, happy, bright and love us very much so I'm not really that bothered

That's the thing though. There is not one 'right' way to do anything. Emma was a very difficult baby- she never napped at all unless held, couldn't transfer her from car to bed without her waking up, needed to be BF to sleep and then needed a dummy in order to stay sleep(most of these were related to silent reflux but still hard to get through).

My friend's LO is 1 month younger than Emma but did all of these things the opposite way from Emma. How we did things was totally different but the other's way would not have worked for us. This is much wider than the smacking issue but sometimes we get so caught up in our way/ our opinion/ our thoughts being the 'right' ones that we cannot see that our way may not work for another child or mum. Not all toddlers will listen to and follow instructions, even if your one does.

 

[pinklightbulb]

Add me to the camp of stubborn kids that appear not to be able to hear when they very well can. Time out doesn't work here either.

 

[xolily]

time out? HA! only if i had some sort of device to literally strap her to something..

i'm with you on the doing everything wrong by BNB standards AppleBlossom, i know that everyone parents differently but everyone seems to jump on the "perfect parent" bandwagon and i'm pretty sure some people bend the truth so they don't look bad! x

 

[pinklightbulb]

I think I've been cast into BnB hell a few times now

 

[louandivy]

I think I've been cast into BnB hell a few times now

i think we both were after the weed thread

 

[pinklightbulb]

I think I've been cast into BnB hell a few times now

i think we both were after the weed thread

Ohhhh yes the weed thread. Fond memories

 

[Eve]

You both will be thrown to the lions the next weed thread too, as will I.

 

[JackiePed]

.... what are weed threads....?

 

[JackiePed]

LoL Nevermind.
Weed.

I'm a bit slow today.

 

[Eve]

^^ haha!