is/was your LO a really bad sleeper? support and advise thread!

[MrsHedgehog]

Kosh - I know what you mean about teething, I use it to explain LOs poor sleep but then she's fine all day. We have 2 molars coming through at the moment and they're taking ages. We had an awful night last night, bed att 11.30pm, a wake up or 2 until 5am when she started waking every 20mins wanting to nurse until 8.30am when I gave up and passed her to DH. He took her for 10mins but then had to leave for work and she's been screaming for the past hour. Doesn't help that I'm already stressed as we have end of year show at school this afternoon, I have work night out tonight and we're leaving for Scotland at 8am tomorrow morning! I've not packed, there's washing still to do and LO won't let me put her down for a second. I could cry I'm so fed up.

 

[kosh]

i know a bit late, but i wanted to wish all the sleepless mums a happy xmas!
hope 2013 brings us more sleep!!

 

[chocolala]

Looks like I'm back!

I just shouted at lily, made her really cry She's fighting sleep again, she's still sleeping pants at night, but worse than usual, sometimes waking every half hour to feed. That's one thing, but add on sleep fighting and I can't cope! She's kicking her legs, rubbing her eyes, asking to feed, talking and then crying if she does drift off. It's so f***ing frustrating, hence just shouting at her because she was kicking against the sofa trying to keep her self awake.

I had just been sat in the bedroom with her while she cried. Previous to that I had fed her, had her in the carrier and fed her a whole lot more. Horrible as it is, sometimes the only way she'll sleep is if she gets really upset and then has boob, but that is so far removed from how I actually want to parent.

I'm tired and each time there is a bout of sleep refusal my fuse is that much shorter.

 

[Claireyb1]

Sadly (for you) I say welcome back!! shame it's not because of lots of sttn!
All of what you have said is what we are going through...not all the time but more frequently than I would like.
It really is putting me off trying for No 2
Are you still co sleeping? we are and I wonder if this is part of the issue? although the thought of having to actually get up out of bed so frequently to settle her is enough to make me carry on with the cosleep thing as it is generally a lot easier.
What the hell do we do and when will it get easier???!!!!!
Hugs to us poor sleep deprived mummys.

Looks like I'm back!

I just shouted at lily, made her really cry She's fighting sleep again, she's still sleeping pants at night, but worse than usual, sometimes waking every half hour to feed. That's one thing, but add on sleep fighting and I can't cope! She's kicking her legs, rubbing her eyes, asking to feed, talking and then crying if she does drift off. It's so f***ing frustrating, hence just shouting at her because she was kicking against the sofa trying to keep her self awake.

I had just been sat in the bedroom with her while she cried. Previous to that I had fed her, had her in the carrier and fed her a whole lot more. Horrible as it is, sometimes the only way she'll sleep is if she gets really upset and then has boob, but that is so far removed from how I actually want to parent.

I'm tired and each time there is a bout of sleep refusal my fuse is that much shorter.

 

[chocolala]

Sadly (for you) I say welcome back!! shame it's not because of lots of sttn!
All of what you have said is what we are going through...not all the time but more frequently than I would like.
It really is putting me off trying for No 2
Are you still co sleeping? we are and I wonder if this is part of the issue? although the thought of having to actually get up out of bed so frequently to settle her is enough to make me carry on with the cosleep thing as it is generally a lot easier.
What the hell do we do and when will it get easier???!!!!!
Hugs to us poor sleep deprived mummys.

Looks like I'm back!

I just shouted at lily, made her really cry She's fighting sleep again, she's still sleeping pants at night, but worse than usual, sometimes waking every half hour to feed. That's one thing, but add on sleep fighting and I can't cope! She's kicking her legs, rubbing her eyes, asking to feed, talking and then crying if she does drift off. It's so f***ing frustrating, hence just shouting at her because she was kicking against the sofa trying to keep her self awake.

I had just been sat in the bedroom with her while she cried. Previous to that I had fed her, had her in the carrier and fed her a whole lot more. Horrible as it is, sometimes the only way she'll sleep is if she gets really upset and then has boob, but that is so far removed from how I actually want to parent.

I'm tired and each time there is a bout of sleep refusal my fuse is that much shorter.

Hello.

Yes, we're still co-sleeping. I also wonder if its making her night waking worse, I don't know I just know at 6 months old and co-sleeping she went from sleeping 4,5,6 hours at a time, and over night started waking 6 plus times a night. Perhaps it would be different if she was in her own room, but I suspect not.

I've just found out I'm expecting baby number 2, not planned so we're rather panicked about how we'll cope I just hope it sleeps better!

 

[Claireyb1]

Sadly (for you) I say welcome back!! shame it's not because of lots of sttn!
All of what you have said is what we are going through...not all the time but more frequently than I would like.
It really is putting me off trying for No 2
Are you still co sleeping? we are and I wonder if this is part of the issue? although the thought of having to actually get up out of bed so frequently to settle her is enough to make me carry on with the cosleep thing as it is generally a lot easier.
What the hell do we do and when will it get easier???!!!!!
Hugs to us poor sleep deprived mummys.

Looks like I'm back!

I just shouted at lily, made her really cry She's fighting sleep again, she's still sleeping pants at night, but worse than usual, sometimes waking every half hour to feed. That's one thing, but add on sleep fighting and I can't cope! She's kicking her legs, rubbing her eyes, asking to feed, talking and then crying if she does drift off. It's so f***ing frustrating, hence just shouting at her because she was kicking against the sofa trying to keep her self awake.

I had just been sat in the bedroom with her while she cried. Previous to that I had fed her, had her in the carrier and fed her a whole lot more. Horrible as it is, sometimes the only way she'll sleep is if she gets really upset and then has boob, but that is so far removed from how I actually want to parent.

I'm tired and each time there is a bout of sleep refusal my fuse is that much shorter.

Hello.

Yes, we're still co-sleeping. I also wonder if its making her night waking worse, I don't know I just know at 6 months old and co-sleeping she went from sleeping 4,5,6 hours at a time, and over night started waking 6 plus times a night. Perhaps it would be different if she was in her own room, but I suspect not.

I've just found out I'm expecting baby number 2, not planned so we're rather panicked about how we'll cope I just hope it sleeps better!

Oh Big congrats chocolala!! how far along are you? I totally understand your worry about being pregnant with No2 as this is my concern about ttc (not that I ever get the chance with Lucy being such a poor sleeper!lol)
Does your LO do alot of comfort sucking at night? mine does and sometimes it seems like she wants to constantly,which means I cannot get any sleep. I'm so tired today and actually feel so fed up of being so tired!
I swear I feel more tired with her sleep now than I did when she was a newborn!?
I know if I talk to most people about it they just say let her cry etc etc. Easier said than done, I just cannot bear to let her cry!
Oh well,I guess one day she will sleep

 

[chocolala]

Thank you. We only found out today, I'm, I think 3 weeks 5 days. I'm currently swinging between happiness,fear about how we'll cope and fear of loosing it. We had been planning on trying in march, though we had kept putting it off, one of the reasons being time, as lily doesn't sleep and tiredness.

Yes, lily comfort sucks a lot, always has done. I also can't sleep while she's feeding and sometimes she'll feed for a long time, or keep popping on and off. I'm sure she feeds more now at night than when she was born, I just don't get it

 

[Claireyb1]

Thank you. We only found out today, I'm, I think 3 weeks 5 days. I'm currently swinging between happiness,fear about how we'll cope and fear of loosing it. We had been planning on trying in march, though we had kept putting it off, one of the reasons being time, as lily doesn't sleep and tiredness.

Yes, lily comfort sucks a lot, always has done. I also can't sleep while she's feeding and sometimes she'll feed for a long time, or keep popping on and off. I'm sure she feeds more now at night than when she was born, I just don't get it[/QUO

A mixture of emotions for sure. At least you have another 9 months to hopefully get Lily sleeping better
I orginally (before Lucy arrived) wanted to TTC about now so that I could have another baby before I turn 40...I am 39 on Sat. I feel so much pressure as I know the clock is really ticking for me.If I was younger I would leave it for a bit longer until Lucy was a bit better at sleeping and then try, but I don't want to leave it too long now that I am heading towards the big 4 0
Right now I would settle for her waking 3 times a night - I could really cope with that I think.
It has to happen sooner or later.....surely???
I hope you are feeling ok.
xx

 

[SabrinaKat]

am glancing at this thread (some of you know me already from this and over-35 first time mums) as my LO is erratic in his night-time sleep (e.g. last night sttn 10-6, but I couldn't, the previous 2 nights, up from 12.45am to 4.30am...and the other from 2-4am and when my OH finally got him to sleep, he woke up again and I burst into tears again....)...now, I have noisy neighbours and even though LO takes naps, I can't....am exhausted.

hope nobody minds me looking over for a bit of comfort.....

thanks and hugs.....

 

[Claireyb1]

am glancing at this thread (some of you know me already from this and over-35 first time mums) as my LO is erratic in his night-time sleep (e.g. last night sttn 10-6, but I couldn't, the previous 2 nights, up from 12.45am to 4.30am...and the other from 2-4am and when my OH finally got him to sleep, he woke up again and I burst into tears again....)...now, I have noisy neighbours and even though LO takes naps, I can't....am exhausted.

hope nobody minds me looking over for a bit of comfort.....

thanks and hugs.....

Funny, I was just reading your post over on the over 35 thread! lol
Come and have a virtual hug as I know how utterly awful and tough it is.
Can you do anything about your neighbours? I hate noisy neighbours!!!
I am hoping for a better night, but I hope for this every night!

 

[kosh]

Sadly (for you) I say welcome back!! shame it's not because of lots of sttn!
All of what you have said is what we are going through...not all the time but more frequently than I would like.
It really is putting me off trying for No 2
Are you still co sleeping? we are and I wonder if this is part of the issue? although the thought of having to actually get up out of bed so frequently to settle her is enough to make me carry on with the cosleep thing as it is generally a lot easier.
What the hell do we do and when will it get easier???!!!!!
Hugs to us poor sleep deprived mummys.

Looks like I'm back!

I just shouted at lily, made her really cry She's fighting sleep again, she's still sleeping pants at night, but worse than usual, sometimes waking every half hour to feed. That's one thing, but add on sleep fighting and I can't cope! She's kicking her legs, rubbing her eyes, asking to feed, talking and then crying if she does drift off. It's so f***ing frustrating, hence just shouting at her because she was kicking against the sofa trying to keep her self awake.

I had just been sat in the bedroom with her while she cried. Previous to that I had fed her, had her in the carrier and fed her a whole lot more. Horrible as it is, sometimes the only way she'll sleep is if she gets really upset and then has boob, but that is so far removed from how I actually want to parent.

I'm tired and each time there is a bout of sleep refusal my fuse is that much shorter.

Hello.

Yes, we're still co-sleeping. I also wonder if its making her night waking worse, I don't know I just know at 6 months old and co-sleeping she went from sleeping 4,5,6 hours at a time, and over night started waking 6 plus times a night. Perhaps it would be different if she was in her own room, but I suspect not.

I've just found out I'm expecting baby number 2, not planned so we're rather panicked about how we'll cope I just hope it sleeps better!

congratulations chocolala!!!!
how are you feeling?

 

[kosh]

am glancing at this thread (some of you know me already from this and over-35 first time mums) as my LO is erratic in his night-time sleep (e.g. last night sttn 10-6, but I couldn't, the previous 2 nights, up from 12.45am to 4.30am...and the other from 2-4am and when my OH finally got him to sleep, he woke up again and I burst into tears again....)...now, I have noisy neighbours and even though LO takes naps, I can't....am exhausted.

hope nobody minds me looking over for a bit of comfort.....

thanks and hugs.....

hi sabrina, you're in the right place for comfort
hope finn gives you a decent night tonight

 

[kosh]

Oh Big congrats chocolala!! how far along are you? I totally understand your worry about being pregnant with No2 as this is my concern about ttc (not that I ever get the chance with Lucy being such a poor sleeper!lol)
Does your LO do alot of comfort sucking at night? mine does and sometimes it seems like she wants to constantly,which means I cannot get any sleep. I'm so tired today and actually feel so fed up of being so tired!
I swear I feel more tired with her sleep now than I did when she was a newborn!?
I know if I talk to most people about it they just say let her cry etc etc. Easier said than done, I just cannot bear to let her cry!
Oh well,I guess one day she will sleep

we are back to square one again i used to be abble to rock him back to sleep at least a couple of times per night, but now, only BF settles him (and sometimes not even that). i really don't want to try any night weaning as now that he's at nursery during the day i know that he needs to feed more at night, but at the same time i do worry when (if?) he'll be able to settle without boob ever again
as you know, i do believe that it will happen, but there are days that i feel i am clutching at straws

 

[Claireyb1]

Thank you. We only found out today, I'm, I think 3 weeks 5 days. I'm currently swinging between happiness,fear about how we'll cope and fear of loosing it. We had been planning on trying in march, though we had kept putting it off, one of the reasons being time, as lily doesn't sleep and tiredness.

Yes, lily comfort sucks a lot, always has done. I also can't sleep while she's feeding and sometimes she'll feed for a long time, or keep popping on and off. I'm sure she feeds more now at night than when she was born, I just don't get it

Typed a reply and lost it? don't have the energy to write again.
Only will say though ,I can't believe I turn 39 tomorrow!!!

 

[Gemmamuk]

Thank you. We only found out today, I'm, I think 3 weeks 5 days. I'm currently swinging between happiness,fear about how we'll cope and fear of loosing it. We had been planning on trying in march, though we had kept putting it off, one of the reasons being time, as lily doesn't sleep and tiredness.

Yes, lily comfort sucks a lot, always has done. I also can't sleep while she's feeding and sometimes she'll feed for a long time, or keep popping on and off. I'm sure she feeds more now at night than when she was born, I just don't get it

Typed a reply and lost it? don't have the energy to write again.
Only will say though ,I can't believe I turn 39 tomorrow!!!

I was just going to text you to say happy birthday!! Hope Lucy's present to you is a good nights sleep
Xx

 

[Claireyb1]

Thank you. We only found out today, I'm, I think 3 weeks 5 days. I'm currently swinging between happiness,fear about how we'll cope and fear of loosing it. We had been planning on trying in march, though we had kept putting it off, one of the reasons being time, as lily doesn't sleep and tiredness.

Yes, lily comfort sucks a lot, always has done. I also can't sleep while she's feeding and sometimes she'll feed for a long time, or keep popping on and off. I'm sure she feeds more now at night than when she was born, I just don't get it

Typed a reply and lost it? don't have the energy to write again.
Only will say though ,I can't believe I turn 39 tomorrow!!!

I was just going to text you to say happy birthday!! Hope Lucy's present to you is a good nights sleep
Xx

Thanks Gemma,sadly I didn't get the lovely sleep I wanted! xx

 

[kosh]

happy bday claire!!
don't worry, 39 is fine!!

 

[Claireyb1]

God I feel sooooo tired today! Lucy was up every hour or more allllllllllll night!
Just don't know what to do anymore? I surely can't keep going like this on so little sleep?
How is everyone else?

 

[Ramie]

Hello everyone

Not been on here for a while but things still the same with me - still in sleep hell. Back to cosleeping but he's still going with the hourly or more frequent wakings, restless and crying and nothing I do seems to be good enough.

Happy birthday Clairey and congrats on your pregnancy Chocolala

Will try to keep posting as really need the support at the moment

 

[Ramie]

Naps gone to pot too. Been trying for the last hour to get him to sleep