Is your sex life better or worse now?

[beth_terri]

Before we had any kids sex was as you imagine teen sex to be haha. Then after having my first child it got pretty boring. Was pretty much go to bed, have sex, go to sleep. There wasn't much 'passion' involved and no spontaneity at all. Now that we have two and the opportunities are even harder to come by, sex is amazing lol. I think it's helped that we've not been getting along lately but have made up! Were making use of every opportunity and it's so much more exciting, passionate and intense than ever!

How you finding it with kids? Xx

 

[roomaloo]

Sex?!

 

[libbylou]

Don't know, we haven't done it yet
We rarely DTD when I was pregnant because it was seriously uncomfortable and bordering on painful for me.
When LO got here it was just not even an option for the first couple months because I was so sleep deprived and overwhelmed.
Now I'm ready to try, but feeling really nervous about it because it's been so long!

 

[Jox]

I'm hoping to get the spark back. My body has been nothing but a baby making machine for 3 years. Hoping I can lose some weight, feel me again and things will get good in the bedroom xx

 

[Saphira]

Non-existent! Especially now that I'm pregnant again! Would you believe when we found out I was pregnant with my daughter (6 weeks along) we had no sex, not once, until over 3 months after she was born? Looks like it's going this way with the second pregnancy too..

 

[jenniferttc1]

Our sex life is still the same as it was pre pregnancy, and during pregnancy. We try to atleast find the time 2 times a week, but sometimes do it 3-4 times a week.

 

[kmbabycrazy]

Our sex life was pretty amazing before LO and we haven't had sex much but it's pretty special now as like you said opportunities are hard to come by. What I love is that OH seems to find me so much sexier now. I don't know if it's because he appreciates me more or because I ballooned up to elephant size and now I'm thin again haha!!!

 

[Waiting4bb]

Sex is WAY better for me now after having a baby. We didn't have sex that often before and it wasn't very pleasurable for me. Now it's completely reversed. We have sex a lot and it's amazing.

 

[qpaulina42]

worse

 

[Aphrodite]

It was fine after DS1, Better even, now its crap! I dont feel any desire atall and it doesnt feel as good. I hope it returns

 

[Fruitymeli]

the same as ever

 

[RedRose19]

Sex after having Jamie is amazing! It's nit as often as before I got pregnant (we barely had sex while I was pregnant) the stitches I had done seems to of made me tighter and more sensitive so like I said amazing

 

[VeryHopeful]

Worse because I'm about 30 lbs heavier LOL

 

[Jaylynne]

Better and worse...

Better because we are closer now that we have a baby together and are married but worse because I feel huge.

Either way, I'm always a nympho. If I'm sad, I want it. If I'm happy, I want it. If I'm bored... Well you get the picture.

 

[Samah007]

The urge and spark are still there but the time is not. We can't take our time like we used to. Now it's like, "she's sleeping...GO!"

 

[Reno]

Well 3 months in and I still have a lot of pain down there! beginning to think it's past the point of no return now and the damage can't be repaired! only DTD twice and both times I literally felt like it wont going to go in! After I persevere through the initial pain it's ok, but even still...it nearly had me in tears! We just have to satisfy each other in more creative ways now! I imagine things will pick up once LO moves into his own room!

 

[kmbabycrazy]

Better and worse...

Better because we are closer now that we have a baby together and are married but worse because I feel huge.

Either way, I'm always a nympho. If I'm sad, I want it. If I'm happy, I want it. If I'm bored... Well you get the picture.

Hehe I'm like this x

The urge and spark are still there but the time is not. We can't take our time like we used to. Now it's like, "she's sleeping...GO!"

Same. MIL took both the kids out yesterday and me and OH were like "go,go,go!" lol x

 

[mlyn26]

The same as before i would say. We have only dtd 3 times since lo was born and the first time obs too soon as hurt. Since then i feel fine. I think also the swelling or whatever has made me more sensitive. Bit like preggo sex! Amazeballs!

 

[freedom08]

Oh my god so much worse, just so tired all the time. Ok going to be honest here i can't stand been close to my husband it makes me sick. He hasn't done anthing wrong it just i am totally turn off by the thought of sex. I go to bed before him most nights pretend to be asleep when he comes into the bed. Never thought i would be this way.

Can just imagine he is probably watching porn at night time when i go to bed (i couldn't care less now if he watch's it, before LO was born i would hate him watching it)

 

[loving_life]

I'm actually way too scared to even try so it's been a long time but im petrified.
I am worried about it causing long term psychological issues.
I had a 2nd degree tear with a lot of stitches and bruising and swelling so I feel like down there is a no go area. It's not sore Amy more but feels different and weird.
Still not had my 6 week postnatal either so I've no idea if I'm even good to go.