I'm new here just thought I'd drop a line to give a little encouragement to all trying to concieve.
8 years ago I was diagnosed with PCOS,
not PCOD. I hate when doctors put that down wrong. There is a difference, even if it is only slight. When I was diagnosed my doctor said that I might be able to conceive, but it will be harder. It seemed to me that if you don't have your monthly (sorry tmi) you can't get pregnant. A few months later found out that my husband as well had issues. We were sent to a specialist.
The specialist tried figuring out what was happening with my husband, and he refused to have the surgery. We were at a stand-still for about 5 years. After while my husband and I started the idea of trying to adopt. We were only 6 weeks away from adopting a newborn boy. when the birth mother decided to keep the child. After that husband decided that maybe we shouldn't go that route and go back to try and to concieve our own. I was elated. But from our previous visits with the specialist we had learned that it would be expensive to do what we needed to be done. Our insurance only covered certain things but not all.
Last year we finally were able to have enough money saved to start on our adventure to having a baby. Right before we started up my clomid cycles, I found out that I had cervical cancer. I know this sounds not good, I promise it gets better. We had to deal with that, Thankfully they were able to get it all with one surgery. 2 months later, we were back at the fertility specialist. We learned the first month that I can ovulate,
Yay! But my husbands condition had gone down. We were faced with having to stop or try for sperm donor. My husband, made up our mind and said lets do it. Just because it not my DNA doesn't mean it wont be my child. So within a week of searching I had narrowed down the search between 2 donors and my husband had final say in which one. the next month, I was put on a different drug, sorry can't remember the name, to help me regulate, then I had to take a gonad shot to release my egg at a certain time. My doctor decided that it was the best thing to do is take it in stages. First clomid (didn't work), then IUI, and if needed IVF. It did take us 4 tries on IUI to get the timing down. But I am now 33+3 weeks, I have been diagnosed with incompetent cervix since 21 weeks, but that is due because of the surgery I had for the cancer. They couldn't put in a stitch/cerclage bc it was too short but I've made it thus far via progesterone suppositories ( sorry tmi).
I hope this will help all who are feeling a little bit over whelmed. Please don't be! Your day will come and it will be a wonderful experience. I know it can seem frustrating and it can put you through a whole lot of emotions. But, the best thing to do is think "Either it's gonna work this time or it may not, and if it doesnt then we will just do it again." Stress can be more harmful during this time. I learned that the hard way. Once I relaxed and got to that point, it was on my fourth try, It finally worked and I was pregnant!! I found out on Mothers day that it took, and I haven't looked back. It was a tough road but I put my chin up and kept on, keepin on. I am now in the waiting game for my precious mircle baby girl to arrive. And she is due on my birthday of all days, and no it wasn't planned that way but hey, i look at it as a sign that it was meant to be.
sorry I am so long winded! Good luck too You All!!!!