June Baby Angels

[vegasbaby]

Stef: I am so sorry you are in pain. They really should have given you something strong to take. I hope you are feeling better today. Let us know how you are doing. We are here for you.

Jasmine: Glad you had as nice an evening as possible. I only ended up with one drink too. It's all I need these days. I don't mind being a cheap date.

Last night and this morning I had some cramping. Not too bad, but I guess it means things are shrinking down or something.

Did any of you name your baby? My dh wants to name him/her. Of course not knowing the gender is a bit of a problem. I know he needs this for closure, but I'm not sure. I told him he could name it (he doesn't like me calling the baby it). I think he settled on Chris (as it could go both ways). I suppose I have detached myself a little from this child knowing that because of the genetic issues it would have never been a child that could have lived, like it was never really a baby even though it was and it had a heartbeat and looked normal until it all just ended. I hate every bit of this situation. We are all too good of people to have been given something only to have it taken away. I'm sorry, I'm just feeling a bit down today. Hope you all are feeling OK.

 

[StefNJunk]

vegasbaby We aren't naming the baby, even though we both know in our hearts it was a boy. He doesn't even want to see it as a baby, I think it hurts him too much to think of it that way.

Last night was the worst experience of my life. I did pass the sac and baby around 3:30 this morning after 8 1/2 hours and horrific pain and hours of screaming. Wrote about the experience on my new journal - https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/ttc-journals/1519939-no-more-losses-please.html#post23578869

Hope everyone is doing ok today.

 

[Middysquidge]

Jasmine: Glad you had as nice an evening as possible. I only ended up with one drink too. It's all I need these days. I don't mind being a cheap date.

I had quite a few drinks but was drunk after just one, oops! I definitely needed it though after last week. I'm so sorry Stefnjunk that you had such an awful experience, I'm glad it's over for you. Sending masses of hugs to you, you poor thing x x

 

[Mamma74]

My due date was June 28th 2013... I m/c at 9wks 3 dys and the baby stopped at 8wks 4dys, the day after I heard the heartbeat... I'm at day 6 of bleeding.. Still can't get over it...

 

[Megan1986]

My due date was June 28th 2013... I m/c at 9wks 3 dys and the baby stopped at 8wks 4dys, the day after I heard the heartbeat... I'm at day 6 of bleeding.. Still can't get over it...

I am so sorry for your loss. I was at just about the same point.

 

[Middysquidge]

So sorry Mamma74 and Megan1986, it's not fair

 

[Mamma74]

It's not...
Today is my 6th day and I've been having temperature up to 100.4.. I managed to get it down, but I'm worried... Anybody else?

 

[Meli_H]

bluebird
omg, 2 years apart would have been perfect!! sigh...
I know what you mean about the feeling that a piece of your family is gone forever.
I feel the same way, like we're incomplete..not sure if this feeling will ever go away?? I hate this feeling!!

vegasbaby,
what a coincidence-you an I having the same DD, and our husbands having bdays around that time also!
It's funny because you bring up a good point--that if we are lucky, we will end up with a baby born around the same time we were trying to avoid--late fall and holiday season. Funny how this changes things-now I am NOT picky as to when my baby is born--just as long as my baby is healthy.

Some of the the most important things I learned from my experience are the following:

1. I am not in control of anything--as much as I plan and plan and execute something, I am not really in control. God is...

2. I would tell anyone who will listen to me that if they are ever in this horrible situation, and start miscarrying naturally, don't try to be strong or a martyr. Go to the ER stat to make sure that you can get the hard stuff LOL, not any of this over the counter meds that dont work--they are for the birds!!

3. OR, if you are able to choose between d&c or medically managed, and decide to go the medically managed route, INSIST on the hard core real meds-like morphine or hydrocodone...trust me, the pain that you will most likely experience are basically labor pains/cramps.

jasmine,
so glad to hear you had a great time last night. I also got a little buzzed from 1 glass of wine, and I'm normally not a lightweight lol!
I am still spotting heavily, I can't tell whether it's AF or not, but I guess at this point it doesnt matter since I dont plan to start trying again until January. I've already bought TONS of the OPK's from the Dollar Tree (I didnt evenknow they sold them there--saved me loads of money, before I was buying them from Walmart and paying $8 for tests).
I won't start using the OPK's until after I at least stop bleeding...

Hopefully we'll both have good news in late Jan/early Feb!

With this pregnancy that I lost, I had been taking regular prenatal vitamins, and Similac Expecta DEHA supplement.
I have still been taking my prenatals, but what I am doing different is that I just started taking folic acid supplements and the baby aspirin daily.
I plan to do the Robitussin thing also around the time of ovulation.

Anybody else thinking of doing anything different the next time they start TTC?

 

[Meli_H]

Stef: I am so sorry you are in pain. They really should have given you something strong to take. I hope you are feeling better today. Let us know how you are doing. We are here for you.

Jasmine: Glad you had as nice an evening as possible. I only ended up with one drink too. It's all I need these days. I don't mind being a cheap date.

Last night and this morning I had some cramping. Not too bad, but I guess it means things are shrinking down or something.

Did any of you name your baby? My dh wants to name him/her. Of course not knowing the gender is a bit of a problem. I know he needs this for closure, but I'm not sure. I told him he could name it (he doesn't like me calling the baby it). I think he settled on Chris (as it could go both ways). I suppose I have detached myself a little from this child knowing that because of the genetic issues it would have never been a child that could have lived, like it was never really a baby even though it was and it had a heartbeat and looked normal until it all just ended. I hate every bit of this situation. We are all too good of people to have been given something only to have it taken away. I'm sorry, I'm just feeling a bit down today. Hope you all are feeling OK.

vegasbaby,

No, we didn't name our baby. I can't bear to. I know that I am the Queen of Denial, but denial seems to be a succesful coping mechanism for me LOL. I really wish that I could be strong like you and name my baby, because it feels wrong to me NOT to, but detachment/denial is my modus operandi.

 

[Meli_H]

vegasbaby We aren't naming the baby, even though we both know in our hearts it was a boy. He doesn't even want to see it as a baby, I think it hurts him too much to think of it that way.

Last night was the worst experience of my life. I did pass the sac and baby around 3:30 this morning after 8 1/2 hours and horrific pain and hours of screaming. Wrote about the experience on my new journal - https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/ttc-journals/1519939-no-more-losses-please.html#post23578869

Hope everyone is doing ok today.

Stef,
I just read your journal. It's heartbreaking, and I'm so sorry you had to go through this. It sounds like the worst of the physical pain has passed--now to concentrate on healing the emotional and mental pain...

 

[Meli_H]

It's not...
Today is my 6th day and I've been having temperature up to 100.4.. I managed to get it down, but I'm worried... Anybody else?

Mamma74 and Megan1986,

So sorry to hear about both of your losses..
It totally sucks but hopefuly the worst of the physical pain/process has passed..

Mamma74,

Not sure about your temperature question..are you saying that you've had a temp since you started the MC 6 days ago? Actually, now that I think about it, my answer to your question is the same, regardless of whether you've had the high temp for 6 days, or just started having a high temp recently. I would definitely suggest seeing a DR about it. I'm not a nurse, but I believe that a high temp means the body is fighting an infection, and if you don't have other symptoms as one would have if they are coming down with a cold or flu (cough, nasal congestion, etc) then I would definitely be concerned and want to be seen ASAP..because, although you may be able to get the high temp down with meds, all it's doing is masking the high temp. You don't want to mask a symptom, you want to treat it...

 

[vegasbaby]

Mamma74: I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with Meli, it might be a good idea to call your doctor and discuss the fever. You need to take care of yourself at this time.

Meli: I don't think I am going to do much differently when I ttc because I think I finally figured out what worked for us. OPK's, vitamin B6 (to help lengthen my short luteal phase) and vitamin C (because it can't hurt and I hear it helps). I bought those cheap Wondfro OPK's off of Amazon along with HPT's of the same brand. I think I paid $15 for 40 OPK's and 10 HPT's all together. I use the cheap OPKs every day until I get what looks like a positive and then I check it with my very expensive Clearblue monitor that gives me a smiley face if it is positive. This way I was not wasting money. I monitored for two months before I got my bfp whereas I had been trying almost a year before I started all this. Not sure when I will start monitoring again. I think my doctor will insist I use some sort of birth control for a few months while they monitor my hcg levels (again, I had a weird pregnancy that includes a lot of medical follow-up).

I really need to start decorating the house for Christmas, but I think the manger scene might upset me. I started crying the other day when I read the story of the nativity to my dd. She just handed me some stupid game of hers that requires her to spell out the word "baby" and now that has upset me. There are reminders everywhere I look and it is hard to get my emotions in check at the moment. How are all you handling things?

 

[nessaw]

I teach 5/6 year olds and am finding the whole xmas thing quite difficult.strugglong to find much enthusiasm.one of my class asked if i had any kids on fri and when i got back from being off with the mc they asked was it my tummy.

 

[sweetmommaof2]

I was due in june at some point I have no idea when because I wasn't keeping a record of when my lmp was. Went in for a dating scan to see only a sac then went back 3 weeks later to see only a gs again. My hcg had gotten to 45,000 at supposedly 8 weeks.

I would have had 2 children in march and 2 in june

Sending massive virtual hugs to you all

Hi, can I join this group? I was due June 2nd, but went in for my 12 week check-up (actually week 13) to find that my baby's heart had stopped beating somewhere around week 8 (just days after my first ultrasound where we saw a strong hb). It appears as though I had a partial-molar pregnancy, so there was no way this baby would have ever made it to term. I haven't read all the way through this thread yet, but has anyone else experienced this sort of mc? Sweetmomma, you post above indicates that you may have. At least I have an answer as to why, but it doesn't make it any easier. I like the idea of a Christmas ornament to honor the child. I would like some way to remember and this sounds like an appropriate tribute.

Going in today for my d&c. Wish me luck!

So sorry for all the losses here. I hope we all go on to have our rainbow babies.

I am so sorry for your loss! I wasn't told if I had that or not. I only know that it was a missed miscarriage... The baby had died but the placenta was still healthy and my body didn't want to let it go.... I hope your proceedure went well and that you can start the heeling process... Lots of hugs and everyone is welcome in this thread. You can share your story and talk to others...

 

[sweetmommaof2]

Hi ladies,

Can I join in with this group too? I would have been due June 3rd, mmc at 12 week scan baby was 9 weeks

I had d&c last Thursday (22nd) and am having some very faint bleeding still, a few pains and feel a bit faint, was my first day back at work today so I'm thinkin the faint feeling is down to this!

I took my first pg test today, it was a negative but I didn't use FMU. Is anyone getting positives when it's not FMU, or are you all using FMU? Anyway, I'll try again in the morning! My OPKs came too and I'm excited to be using them again after one natural cycle!

I'm trying to keep myself busy, Im a bear artist. I mak traditional mohair teddy bears and have decided to make one in honour of my little Pippin, it's a black 5 way jointed bear called 'Sorrow' and I'm also knitting my non existent new baby a baby blanket because it takes a good few months to knit, my aim is to have a BFP before it's finished!

Hope all you ladies are doing okay, or at least better. Sending masses of hugs x x

I have not had a d & c before but am wondering could your dizzyness be from low iron? I would ask your Dr if they could check your levels... I am sorry for your loss. I wish I could knit... I pike your ideas and that way you are not stressing out so you can get pregnant easier...

 

[sweetmommaof2]

I am really sorry you ladies are here. I am so sorry for your losses.

I got a bfn on a test Friday or Saturday with really diluted urine and a positive on Sunday with fmu. It was pretty faint though. I passes my baby on the 9th.

Sorry what is fmu? Still learning all the lingo....

 

[sweetmommaof2]

Waiting to pass baby and sac here... just found at yesterday at 11+3 that baby died around 8 weeks, within about 2 days of first ultrasound and hearing HB.

Midwife told me I can give it until next week to pass naturally, but after that I should do something to avoid infection. Since I'm steadily bleeding and have minor cramps, I decided to give it until tomorrow afternoon. I need to move on...

I'm just wondering how long it will take for everything to get back to normal so we can try again. Last MC I had in August was not missed and was only 5+2, so my HCG levels dropped quickly, within a week. I assume because this was missed and the sac continued growing after the baby stopped, that the HCG levels continued rising? We didn't test because we confirmed miscarriage with an ultrasound.

I am so sorry for your losses... I had that as well... They told me it was a missed miscarriage.... My numbers were going up 200 every few days... They said they were still. Rising because the placenta was still healthy... Mine was confirmed by ultrasound as well... Hugs sweetie

 

[sweetmommaof2]

Stef: I'm glad you found this thread. I was so sorry to see your post on the June baby thread the other day. It just seemed like we should have all been in the clear by now. I hope you pass everything quickly so you can move on-at least to some extent.

Today I am mad. I am mad at statistics that say things like once you've heard a heartbeat then you have a tiny chance of miscarriage. I am mad that I got pregnant with something that would never develop into a normal child and that I was given such false hope at my first ultrasound. I mad that this could happen again. How the hell I am supposed to prevent two sperm from fertilizing my egg? I am mad that I may have to wait a year to start TTC again because my type of pregnancy could give me cancer.

Jasmine: Enjoy that glass of wine. They only injected me with antibiotics so I've been drinking (only one glass a night) since I found out my baby had no heartbeat. I also enjoyed real sushi the night before my d&c. At least there are a few things we can enjoy now that we couldn't while being pregnant. Of course, I know we would trade it all for a healthy baby. One of these days.....

I hope your numbers go back down really quick and stay down so you don't get the cancer... I don't know if having a d&c ups your risk or not but my Dr wanted me to come in every two weeks to check my hcg levels to make sure they are going down properly because if they go up that meant cancer... I got really lucky... Lost the baby November 4th and my numbers were at 8.4 by the 14th and 1.8 by the 28th.... I have to make a follow up now to see when I can start trying again.... Originally she said after the proceedure and the first cycle then it moved to after my cycle gets normal and I need to have 3 normal cycles after that!!! Hopefully that isn't true... Hope and pray you don't get the cancer...

 

[StefNJunk]

How is everyone doing today? Had a rough weekend myself. Just wanted to send out some hugs

 

[vegasbaby]

Stef: My weekend was just OK. I sort of yelled at my dh because he wanted to go to church on Sunday and I told him he could go alone and that I was pretty angry at the big guy upstairs. We didn't go. We rarely go anyway so why go now.

Am I the only one who is trying to pretend this didn't happen? I think at times I am trying too hard to get on with life. I went for a run both Saturday and today. Just three miles, but perhaps I am pushing myself too much considering I had my d&c on Wednesday. I felt fine after other than a getting a charley horse Saturday night (boy those hurt!). I think I am in denial that I might have to wait six months or more to try again (based on my particular pregnancy issue). Personally I feel as if my hcg level drops to zero in a few weeks then I should be able to try again after my next cycle starts. I figure it may take a while, so why not go for it. Again, I may be in la la land.

How is everyone else feeling about their loss and where do you all stand on trying again? Surely we will all be luckier next time.