sequeena
Winging it.
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I'm so done with sleep clinic and I have a few weeks left to go.
On the first day they ask about your circumstances and I made it clear why we still co-sleep with Thomas (he becomes violent and distressed when in his own bed. He headbutts the bed posts and/or wall). I also made it clear that whilst I would tackle getting him into his own bed sometime in the future, right now all I wanted to do was get him to sleep more than 4-6 hours a day.
The HV and community nurse were completely fine with that.
Fast forward a few weeks later and now I'm being told that Thomas needs to be in his own bed. He had his own bed which is in our bedroom. Right now our bed is in Thomas' room because next door is being renovated and my OH works nights so during the day he can't sleep. Thomas' room is a separate extension which doesn't connect to next door so you can't hear the work that's going on. Our bed being in his room means there's no room to also put his bed in there. Whatever. It's just a temporary situation.
I've been told to go buy a camp bed to put in our room with Thomas' bed so I can get Thomas to sleep in his own bed.
Just... what? What happened to being fine with the co-sleeping?
It doesn't stop there. Another mum commented that her son never slept with her and he was in his own room at 6 months (she didn't mean anything by it it was just how she did it). The HV and nurse went onto congratulate her like she'd won parent of the year.
I'm sorry but it really shouldn't matter how we get our children to sleep as long as they and we are getting sleep
I'm really angry and feel quite belittled as a parent. I'm not going to stop co-sleeping yet. It's the worst idea ever especially as we are attending a 'ditch the dummy' clinic on December 15th. An SEN child with no dummy is going to be hard enough without trying to put him into his own bed too.
Sorry for the long rant. All I want is for him to sleep a bit more at night
On the first day they ask about your circumstances and I made it clear why we still co-sleep with Thomas (he becomes violent and distressed when in his own bed. He headbutts the bed posts and/or wall). I also made it clear that whilst I would tackle getting him into his own bed sometime in the future, right now all I wanted to do was get him to sleep more than 4-6 hours a day.
The HV and community nurse were completely fine with that.
Fast forward a few weeks later and now I'm being told that Thomas needs to be in his own bed. He had his own bed which is in our bedroom. Right now our bed is in Thomas' room because next door is being renovated and my OH works nights so during the day he can't sleep. Thomas' room is a separate extension which doesn't connect to next door so you can't hear the work that's going on. Our bed being in his room means there's no room to also put his bed in there. Whatever. It's just a temporary situation.
I've been told to go buy a camp bed to put in our room with Thomas' bed so I can get Thomas to sleep in his own bed.
Just... what? What happened to being fine with the co-sleeping?
It doesn't stop there. Another mum commented that her son never slept with her and he was in his own room at 6 months (she didn't mean anything by it it was just how she did it). The HV and nurse went onto congratulate her like she'd won parent of the year.
I'm sorry but it really shouldn't matter how we get our children to sleep as long as they and we are getting sleep
I'm really angry and feel quite belittled as a parent. I'm not going to stop co-sleeping yet. It's the worst idea ever especially as we are attending a 'ditch the dummy' clinic on December 15th. An SEN child with no dummy is going to be hard enough without trying to put him into his own bed too.
Sorry for the long rant. All I want is for him to sleep a bit more at night