long cycles support thread :) the yelping vaginas club! (closed group)

[cmwilson]

Hey ladies I'm in need of a little support. We had to put our cat Darcy to sleep tonight and I am absolutely crushed. She was only 2 years old. She was acting fine until yesterday when she was a bit lethargic and not really hungry. Today she wouldn't eat so we took her in and they found a large mass on her pancreas blocking the gall bladder. They were pretty sure it was cancer and that even if they did surgery there was no guarantee. I just hope we made the right decision and that she didn't have more years in her. I will always be second guessing my decision. She was my best buddy and a momma's girl and I don't know what I'll do without her. I know this stress isn't good for the baby but I can't stop feeling miserable.

 

[mrsc81]

caroline Ive had 5 cats in total since me and DH have been together, and now ive got 3 little dogs.
We had 3 cats around the time we got married and one of them was really ill, it was awful, he would sit in his bed and not move, i took him to the vet and they said he had some kind of arthiritis of the spine, he was only 1-2yrs old, he just got worse and worse, wasnt eating or drinking, and i didnt know what to do, so when we went on our honeymoon i said to my parents as they were coming round to feed the cats, if he doesnt get better would they do the right thing and put him to sleep.
And thats what they did, it was awful but i know i did what was best for him and didnt prolong his suffering, and you have done the right thing with your cat as well

Cats have caused me nothing but heartbreak, i had one get run over and then the other one we had at the time disappeared not long after, then the one had to be put to sleep, so i rehomed the last 2 as i just couldnt cope with the upset.

 

[seabean]

aw Caroline, I'm so sorry about your kitty! That is devastating that they discovered the growth, but you definitely did the right thing! Don't beat yourself up over this. It's not your fault at all. And putting your cat through all the surgery and treatments might have been miserable for it just to prolong the inevitable, but with a worse quality of life. I've never had a cat, but I have a little bulldog and I am going to HATE the day we have to say goodbye to him

 

[Rachel789]

Aww Caroline you def did the right thing. I know how hard it is to loose a pet because they truly are family. I have a 9 year old cat and love him so much and now that he is getting older I keep thinking about how crushed I would be to loose him. I work from home and he spends so much time with me and is my companion and I consider him like a child to me.

My cat that stays with my mom we got on my 17th bday was just diagnosed with cancer a month or so ago. When my mom told me I was crying and so upset. Luckily the cancer was still small and just under her skin so it was in an operable place so they removed it but we read there is no guarantee it won't come back. So we are hoping it stays away

Don't beat yourself up over your decision. It was the right thing to do in this situation as your cat was suffering. With time you will feel better.

 

[bnporter81]

Hi everyone

Caroline, I'm so sorry about your cat. It's always hard to lose a pet and it's even harder being the one that has to make a decision like that. Like the others said, you did the right thing. I know you didn't want it to be in pain and suffer...I knowr that doesn't make it feel any better, but try not to be too hard on yourself, hon.

Dee, your chart is looking GREAT! Wishing you lots of luck this cycle

Mandy, sorry AF arrived, but I know how you feel about just being glad for a long cycle to be over. I've had my longest cycle be about double what you had and it's always such a relief to feel like you're starting over fresh and have hopes that the current cycle will be closer to normal Good luck!

Hope the pregnant ladies are doing well! I know time will go by quickly and it won't be long until we get to start seeing bigger bumps and adorable baby picsI can't wait!

AFM, my blood pressure was lower at my appt. on Monday, but still high enough where the doctor wanted to put me on something. So she decided to put me on a low dose of something that she said would be safe when/if I conceived. She talked of possibly putting me on Metformin in a few months and she said it would probably help my ovulation as well as helping me lose a few pounds which she said would help, too. Guess we'll see how it all goes.

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[mandy1229100]

Wow I could not imagine having a cycle double that! Your one strong lady!. I'm glad they found something for your blood pressure that's safe!

 

[raventtc]

caroline sorry to hear about your cat, you did the right thing thou don't second guess yourself, you weren't selfish with her, you made sure she won't suffer with all the pain that she could have endored.

bethany glad to hear you got something safe from the doctors to help with your blood pressure

afm- i am think and hoping o is soon, we have been at it like rabbits...lol, but we are making it fun....

 

[bnporter81]

Raven, looks like you O'd to me! Good luck

 

[raventtc]

yeah i think so too, just a few more temps and ff should give me crosshairs, late last night i had some cramps not bad but felt something and i just figured it was because i ate cheese pizza and cheese and me are not friends..lol

 

[seabean]

Congrats on ovulating Raven!! Hopefully all that sexy time was just what you needed to get that BFP this cycle!!

Bethany - I think it's great news that your BP went down a little! The medication should help, and BP is one of those risk factors that you can help with some simple lifestyle changes - it sounds like you already know that though and hopefully it's something you can get under control again. metformin might also be a great boost for ovulation - I think many women with PCOS will use that to help O'ing.

Well this TWW is draagging on for me. I'm really resisting testing b/c I only have 2 FRER's in my bathroom and I don't want to waste $ if I don't have to. There is nothing dramatically different about this cycle so far. I feel super thirsty constantly the past few days and also crazy sweaty (eww), but I think being only 9DPO would be too early for that to mean anything. Another friend announced she was pregnant this weekend. I think it's almost double digits, the number of girls that are pregnant across all our friend groups right now. Hopefully I will be joining in this crazy baby boom!

 

[mrsc81]

Good luck Dee and all you other girls

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[bnporter81]

Hi girls, nothing much here. AF is finally gone (after 8 days)Geez, I'm glad for that. Now back to the same old grind, I suppose

This weekend was pretty good. DH and I celebrated our anniversary so we went out to a nice Italian restaurant and I got to have my favorite, TiramisuSo all in all it was a pretty good weekend

Hope all of you had a good weekend as well

 

[mandy1229100]

Good luck for when you test! Fingers crossed

 

[raventtc]

bethany glad to hear af is gone and sounds like a good time....i love tiramsu too!!

afm- just same old same old for me. 2ww is killer sometimes, but next week will be sooo busy that it will fly by so that is a plus

 

[seabean]

Happy Anniversary Bethany!

 

[Rachel789]

Happy anniversary Bethany!

Good luck to those in the TWW

 

[Diddums]

Happy anniversary Bethany

Hubby and I recently celebrated 8 years together. Well nothing going on here. No ovulation and no signs either. My temps have been stable over the last few days but nothing else. Don't think I will ovulate. Just hope it's a short annovulatory cycle weightless has slowed down as I've stopped cycling outside. My exercise bike arrives yesterday so going to be doing an hour every evening from now on. Really need to shift another 20lb by the end of jan xxx

 

[Diddums]

Quiet here today

I've had my first patch of egg white cm since January. It's been so long I couldn't remember what I was looking for. But there it was. Clear egg like and stretchy! Hopefully this is positive and it means I may ovulate his cycle. Time will tell my new exercise bike is fab! Get a good workout and hopefully can continue to lose weight

 

[mandy1229100]

I hope your right and its time for O =] better get busy besides bding is great exercise as well lol

 

[raventtc]

diddums -- great news on the ewcm!! yes get some bd in just in case and glad to hear you love your indoor bike just the same, i give you a huge applause for riding bikes...this weekend the hubby and i rode some and oh my lets just say that biking isn't for me...or atleast the bike i rode was not a pleasent experience at all

afm- just found out that i am spotting...it was there when i wiped -- its way to early for af to show up, FINGERS CROSSED this means something good!! and that my body isn't starting to go back down the long dark road of wonder and confusement (don't think that is a word)

hows everyone else doing??