Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[tezz2012]

Hi wondrrin if someone could help me iv been trying for a baby now just over a year and nothings happening iv tried charts folic acid everything what can i do we really want a baby

 

[DBZ34]

Just a little rant about how unfair life is and how is it fair that people that dont even like their children can have them by just looking at a man but people like me who have been ttc for over 4 years cant even ovulate. Fed up with seeing all my friends get pregnant and start their families, just want to be able to give my husband what he wants more than anything. Feel like a failure.

 

[DBZ34]

Hi wondrrin if someone could help me iv been trying for a baby now just over a year and nothings happening iv tried charts folic acid everything what can i do we really want a baby

Have you talked to your doctor about it? After a year, they can start testing and looking for what is preventing you and your OH from having that baby you've been wishing for.

 

[ickle pand]

Ditto what DBZ34 said. Just wanted to say though that folic acid doesn't help your fertility, it just helps stops abnormalities when you do get pregnant. That's why they recommend starting before your pregnant, so you've got a good store of it in your body.

 

[DBZ34]

I don't usually rant, but....

I am starting to get really fed up with people (outside of BnB) telling me about their friend who tried for years and then adopted fell pregnant right after the adoption went through. You know what? How is that helpful? What advice are they trying to give me? Give up on trying? Adopt and then I'll magically get pregnant?

And the people who, trying to be helpful (still outside of BnB, I find I don't mind BnB advice at all, but real world advice winds me up), tell me that BDing every other day worked for them. Or that using opks worked for them. Or that they BD'd once, based on CM, and got pregnant. You know, if it was that simple, no one would be LTTC.

 

[moose31]

omg ... a girl on my facebook (coworker from a long time ago) is posting the play by play of her labor( ie 5cm dilated, getting epidural, ....) ?!@# Really get off your phone, but i am sure you'll be a great mom....LOL

 

[DESPONDENT]

OH GREAT...Fergie from the Black Eyed Peas has just announced she's pregnant.

DBZ34 -thats precisely the reason DH and I havent told a single soul over the last 2 years that we are TTC. The reassurances people give you, whilst they may have good intentions at trying to make you feel better, are just so annoying!! I mean if it were that simple like "Just dont stress and it will happen naturally" then none of us would be in this group right now. I just couldn't handle constantly being asked whether it has happened yet or not, so I just keep saying to people "we are not ready yet and will think about babies next year".

 

[PinkPeony]

omg ... a girl on my facebook (coworker from a long time ago) is posting the play by play of her labor( ie 5cm dilated, getting epidural, ....) ?!@# Really get off your phone, but i am sure you'll be a great mom....LOL

Omg my SIL did that. I wasn't even TTC at the time but I was still like WTF? So weird...

 

[lilyV]

tamithomas - congrats, that's awesome! I also have a house full of rescues

 

[tezz2012]

Hi wondrrin if someone could help me iv been trying for a baby now just over a year and nothings happening iv tried charts folic acid everything what can i do we really want a baby

Have you talked to your doctor about it? After a year, they can start testing and looking for what is preventing you and your OH from having that baby you've been wishing for.

Hi i have been to doctors and they wouldnt do no tests coz of age my partner had a little girl with ex partner but dont seem to work for us i was rushed to hospiral few weeks back due to havin a cyst pn my ovary and asked nurses if any sign im infertile they were saying no

 

[DBZ34]

Hi wondrrin if someone could help me iv been trying for a baby now just over a year and nothings happening iv tried charts folic acid everything what can i do we really want a baby

Have you talked to your doctor about it? After a year, they can start testing and looking for what is preventing you and your OH from having that baby you've been wishing for.

Hi i have been to doctors and they wouldnt do no tests coz of age my partner had a little girl with ex partner but dont seem to work for us i was rushed to hospiral few weeks back due to havin a cyst pn my ovary and asked nurses if any sign im infertile they were saying no

Hi again. I'm sorry the doctor's weren't any help. Though, the vent thread isn't really the place to talk about the specifics. Why don't you come over to the TWW? Introduce yourself and tell your story. There's quite a few ladies there that might have some suggestions on how to proceed.

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/two-week-wait/300592-welcome-two-week-wait-976.html

And if not, hey, have a good moan about your doctor here.

 

[ESwemba84]

I've been trying to be positive lately, but...

I FEEL LIKE I WANT TO SCREAM.

I'm probably being completely irrational at this point but I don't care. I am 28 and most likely experiencing premature ovarian failure. I just started seeing an RE after noticing shortening cycles following a MC last year. What I thought was a hormonal imbalance has now turned into poor ovarian response and now I missed my period this month for the first time in my reproductive history. If it weren't for the negative tests, I would think I'm pregnant right now. I'm having the worst PMS. It feels like my body is trying to start AF and it just can't, and things are getting backed up down there.

I hate seeing other people with kids, pregnant women, HPT commercials, and anything else that reminds me that I'm in the throws of infertility. I have just started the journey of tests and treatments, and all the emotions are just swirling around and I don't know what to do with myself. I don't feel like anyone understands why I'm upset and bitter about this situation. I'm pissed and I feel like crap.

Ugh. Ok, that's all.

 

[Castastic]

I had my first late cycle in a year this month. I had all the right signs and 4 days late before even thinking about taking the HPT. After taking a PT, it showed up negative and I got my monthly jerk just a few hours later. Nothing like a huge smack in the face, punch in the gut and that little nagging feeling of something lost that I didn't really ever have.

Cue the chocolate.... tons and tons of it.

 

[ChartsNHearts]

Someone on another thread saying that they have been TTC for ONE MONTH and asking what's wrong with them/why they haven't conceived yet!!!!!

 

[DESPONDENT]

AAAAHH Ladies....Im so grateful we have this thread so we can see that we dont have to feel guilty about feeling annoyed at seeing pregnant women and babies all over the place and that those feelings are natural considering what we are all going through!!!
I avoided DH's friend's baby's 1st birthday party this weekend, made hubby go alone cos I couldnt bear it. Obviously happy for them, but decided to put my feelings first this time and not put myself in a situation I KNOW would depress me....

 

[Countrygirl13]

First vent on here......right then......
I have our new scheme of work, i get to teach sex ed to y7 then all about ivf and infertility. Spent lunchbreak the other day watching birth video clips on youtube to find a suitable one for my group. Sob. Babies.....card sort activities on choosing treatments for infertility...'the developing embryo powerpoint.....labour videos......more babies.....big plastic baby models...... Grrr!

 

[Miaw]

I wish my fiance would not be fucking tired all the time, he works like a maniac at his job and started his own company a year ago, now he gets 5 hours of sleep on a good night and I am left alone.
When we BD ONCE near ovulation I am super lucky. We go at least 3-4 weeks before we do it again, seriously?? I did not sign up for this -_-
I know he works super hard because he is trying to build a safe future for us, but the present is important too, I already have fertility problems, I don't want to wait years before we properly try!!!
I wish he would just quit his damn job already, the company is doing extremely well, we don't fucking need the headache anymore.

Am I a horrible person for feeling like this? I did tell him it's making me sad, and I know he loves me and wants me, he is just so tired all the time.

EDIT: We made love more often when we lived apart and saw each other every two or three weeks than we do now living together.

EDIT 2: Oh and guess what, I am going to a damn baby shower this weekend AND I NEVER EVEN MET THE GIRL! The father is one of my fiance best friends, I met him multiples times, but it just feels dumb, like I'm sorry but I don't fucking care.

 

[lilyV]

Miaw - I'm so sorry, your situation sounds awful *hugs*

 

[Miaw]

Miaw - I'm so sorry, your situation sounds awful *hugs*

Awww thanks

The baby shower was hard, there was w pregnant girls total and a one month old baby. I had to try really hard to be nice but I was feeling so down inside.

All the cute little booties and baby pyjamas

 

[itakp]

I hadn't been to the hairdresser's for ages as last time I went I was properly upset by the girl doing my hair questioning me if I was going to have kids (I replied that as we both are infertile, probably not! Didn't stop her going on about it, tho. This conversation was preceded by her gushing about her colleague giving birth that very same day and the place was covered in 'it's a boy' banners...). I'd been since looking for another salon to go to and was recommended this very nice one some way away. I went today and as the girl recommended a hair colour, I said no thanks (we're doing IVF). She didn't drop the subject and pressed me to have at least some highlights. I then said I can't due to IVF to which she replied 'I just found out yesterday I'm pregnant!'. Great! After which she blathered on about not being sure if she was going to keep it!!! I'm never going to any bloody hairdresser's ever again.