Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[03Cobra]

Hi Ladies, mind if I join in?

A bit about me, I'm 39 Dh 53, we've been ttc for a total of 10 years off and on.

m/c- Jan 2003
m/c-July 2003
m/c-Sept 2003 then told to not even try for a year
m/c -May 2005
m/c-Jan 2006 went on bcp I couldnt take it anymore
m/c-Mar 2009
m/c-Aug 2010 again told not to try this time for at least a year

We've been trying again for over a year now and am on my third round of clomid, all I keep hearing is the tic-tock in my body

So really what brought me here today was a friend of mine who is pregnant with her 3rd child and knows most of what's been going on with us. I endured an hour of her at lunch time telling me how she can't wait to find out the sex and she still has morning sickness and she feels bloated and fat...to top it off how I really should just relax and let it happen like she does and I might have 3 kids in no time....after all I'm not 40 yet really? wow I just sat there dumbfounded and didnt know what to say, how do you respond to that with someone who knows what's going on? Needless to say I'm questioning that "friendship" but then I think maybe I'm being overly sensitive to it all...I don't know anymore...

I agree with you ladies about the ttc threads it just blows my mind how some people can be, I guess it would be easier if I just stopped trying to figure people and things out...

Okay I've ranted, thank you....

 

[PinkPeony]

that is awful. I'm so sorry hun. Sorry for your losses and sorry you have to deal with a frenemy like that. I think a lot of ppl on here have frenemies like that... It's not worth trying to understand what's going on in their minds. You're not being too sensitive... I've wondered the same thing a lot of times, but when it comes down to ppl that know what's going on it's so rough.
Do what you have to do to preserve your own sanity - if they won't show you the slightest bit of compassion, they're not worth you trying to give them leeway.

 

[03Cobra]

Thank you, Peony I never really thought of it as you so nicely put it.."Do what you have to do to preserve your own sanity - if they won't show you the slightest bit of compassion, they're not worth you trying to give them leeway." You made me tonight and that goes a long way to keeping the sanity!

I'm very glad I found this thread everyone here seems so much more real!

 

[stacergirl]

Just got a group text from a friend with her ultrasound pic. The best part is I get to continue to get messages from everyone in the group message. Fun! I deleted it and never responded. Ugh! I'm happy for her, just don't need it rubbed in my face that I have to do ivf to even attempt to get pregnant.

 

[Mikihob]

30Cobra I understand what you mean. I have had "friends" tell me that they are working on their second baby and if I don't hurry they will have two before I have one. WOW!! I almost punched her..lol. But it really broke my heart to hear that. I agree with PinkPeony that sometimes you just have to do what you can to preserve your sanity. It's nice to have friends to talk to but sometimes they just make the situation harder.

Stacergirl I HATE group texts in general because I have to get all the other texts but that would be awful. Of course you are happy for her but at the same time, you want that too. I hate seeing my friends announce their pregnancies, I am happy for them but I want to break down and cry. They have one and then another and then another while I am still trying for 1!! Based on your signature you are going in for IVF soon. My husband and I also have to use IVF and we are very nervous. We are going to find out at the end of May if we need to start preparing for travel for IVF. How are you?

Can you message me or post how your IVF cycle goes? If not I completely understand, I would just love first hand information and experience before I go in.

Baby Dust for us all!!

 

[PinkPeony]

Thank you, Peony I never really thought of it as you so nicely put it.."Do what you have to do to preserve your own sanity - if they won't show you the slightest bit of compassion, they're not worth you trying to give them leeway." You made me tonight and that goes a long way to keeping the sanity!

I'm very glad I found this thread everyone here seems so much more real!

Touched I was able to help! PM me if you ever want to chat.

 

[Castastic]

Coming up on ttc for three years. Sex ed lied! One time... 100 times... Not one single BFP.
Is it weird I feel betrayed?

Finally started talking to by GYN about and she set up my CD 3 and 21 tests along with hubby's SA. I've never had so much blood taken in my life! Wow. I felt like I was supplying for a vampire .

 

[Fizzyfefe]

Holy shit, now there's pregnancy announcements on my tumblr feed? Why can't I escape it? Go ahead, universe, keep rubbing it in my face that I still am STILL not pregnant after almost 17 months.

 

[Mikihob]

Holy shit, now there's pregnancy announcements on my tumblr feed? Why can't I escape it? Go ahead, universe, keep rubbing it in my face that I still am STILL not pregnant after almost 17 months.

I hear ya. If I hear one more pregnancy announcement or see one more rant about being pregnant I am going to pull my hair out. I have a friend that I actually don't see much that has done nothing but complain the whole time she was pregnant. Now she is complaining because she isn't ready for the baby to be here in a month. I wish MY baby was going to be here in 1 month, ready or not.

Why is it so hard??

 

[DBZ34]

Just got lapped...again. Second time in two weeks. I love waking up to pregnancy announcements.

 

[jabish]

K here goes...i have been trying to concieve for almost 8 years....i am on 11dpo and have had no symptoms and no luck on the testing....I am sooo tired.tired,tired of poas that i could vomit....opk and hpt....I am about fed up....everyone around me includeing my 2 sisters ans sister in law have had all thier children that they ever wanted with no problems and without poas more than a few times...it just gets soo old seeing women at work come and go pregnant mutiple times with no problems...everyone does feel terrible for me but it's not thier fault...i keep a smile on my face and stay positive...but today i feel like i am falling apart...i have had enuff and may give up..just soo tired of it all!!

 

[Mikihob]

K here goes...i have been trying to concieve for almost 8 years....i am on 11dpo and have had no symptoms and no luck on the testing....I am sooo tired.tired,tired of poas that i could vomit....opk and hpt....I am about fed up....everyone around me includeing my 2 sisters ans sister in law have had all thier children that they ever wanted with no problems and without poas more than a few times...it just gets soo old seeing women at work come and go pregnant mutiple times with no problems...everyone does feel terrible for me but it's not thier fault...i keep a smile on my face and stay positive...but today i feel like i am falling apart...i have had enuff and may give up..just soo tired of it all!!

I am sad to hear that you have been trying for 8 years. Have you and DH had any tests done for fertility??

My DH and I went to my doc because I have PCOS (my doc told us that as soon as we wanted to try, we needed to see him) and after 7 months of trying with no success we went to my doc again and they did an SA on my hubby. Now, four SA's later he is still at zero sperm. May 10th is the final SA before talks about biopsy's on him. We aren't thrilled with that idea, but if it helps, great. I have heard about men who have blockages so the sperm isn't getting through. I have seen women on here post that their husbands SA results increasing dramatically after the surgery.

I can also suggest some fertility aids. FertilAid for women and men and also FertileCM are pills I have read many great reviews about. It may help give you and your hubby a boost in fertility.

I hope that this year is your year. BFP in 2013.

 

[pipilotta]

Why do so many people assume we don't like kids or don't want any, just because we don't have any?
I'm tired of hearing that question over and over again...

 

[Hope3]

Rant of the day- I am so sick of all the "suggested posts" on Facebook. All I have been getting lately is baby/pregnancy/parenting related ones. Gee Facebook, rub a little more salt in that wound!

Don't forget all those gushy poems aimed at mothers that end in ...if you have a son/daughter share with everyone.

Facebook have outdone themselves. A suggested post in my newsfeed on the Andriod version of FB has come up for an IVF prediction test. What the...?!

I haven't searched for anything like that on my phone. What's worse is that I can't get rid of the suggested posts on my phone in the same way that you can on the computer version. I hate suggested posts at the best of times but this is just too much.

 

[trying2beamom]

hsg works by ladies baby dust to everyone

 

[jabish]

K here goes...i have been trying to concieve for almost 8 years....i am on 11dpo and have had no symptoms and no luck on the testing....I am sooo tired.tired,tired of poas that i could vomit....opk and hpt....I am about fed up....everyone around me includeing my 2 sisters ans sister in law have had all thier children that they ever wanted with no problems and without poas more than a few times...it just gets soo old seeing women at work come and go pregnant mutiple times with no problems...everyone does feel terrible for me but it's not thier fault...i keep a smile on my face and stay positive...but today i feel like i am falling apart...i have had enuff and may give up..just soo tired of it all!!

I am sad to hear that you have been trying for 8 years. Have you and DH had any tests done for fertility??

My DH and I went to my doc because I have PCOS (my doc told us that as soon as we wanted to try, we needed to see him) and after 7 months of trying with no success we went to my doc again and they did an SA on my hubby. Now, four SA's later he is still at zero sperm. May 10th is the final SA before talks about biopsy's on him. We aren't thrilled with that idea, but if it helps, great. I have heard about men who have blockages so the sperm isn't getting through. I have seen women on here post that their husbands SA results increasing dramatically after the surgery.

I can also suggest some fertility aids. FertilAid for women and men and also FertileCM are pills I have read many great reviews about. It may help give you and your hubby a boost in fertility.

I hope that this year is your year. BFP in 2013.

hi there..ya he and i have both been tested..no problems with him but i do have PCOS and insulin resistence..have had multiple months and doses of clomid and metformin with noo success...recently i started atkins and ovulated with no drugs to help but i am still on the metformin for my insulin reststance...I just feel defeated....did the clomid thing 3 years ago for months and agin this past year....

sorry for the troubles you have had and thank you for the responce I pray it's both our year

 

[moose31]

got my period at work yesterday, had to stop on my way home to get tampons and of course the only parking spots even remotely close to grocery store was "expecting mother/mother with infant spot" but I said F' it ...those chubby bitches need the exercise more than me ...and I took the spot LOL !!!

 

[Regalpeas]

Exactly! I don't like "when are you going to have kids?" What type of answer does one expect? "Well we were thinking Dec 29 2012 would be a good date oops that's passed already."

Or...

"You two need kids" in response to why we're doing something that seems like we have too much time on our hands.

How rude and insensitive!?


If I wasn't trying to keep calm and private about all this I would give them their tails in their hands!

Why do so many people assume we don't like kids or don't want any, just because we don't have any?
I'm tired of hearing that question over and over again...

 

[jabish]

14 dpo here and no symptoms of pregnancy except bb's hurt but that's pretty much normal for me at this time except they are sore neer my pts also...but also no signs of either...have been haveing twinges on the right side of my uterus all day..had some cramps 2 days ago during the night...and considered myself out of the running..not sure what to thing
k..i know exactly when i oed and i have a 14 day LP
any thoughts?

 

[awifey]

Today I turn 30.

I met my husband when we were 25.
By 26 we'd decided we wanted children together.
By 27 we were married.
By 28 we were trying.
At 29 we discovered he has azoospermia, no reason why yet.

We waited. We were responsible people. Now it will either take an act of God, or humans acting as Him to have a baby.