Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[Teach2]

Not really a rant but a man at church asked when DH and I thought we would start a family. I was just honest and said that we had been trying for a year and a half and that nothing had happened. Turns out his wife had problems and they had tried for 10 years before conceiving their one year old. His wife came over and told me the whole story it was actually really refreshing I might tryit again next time someone asks.

 

[xlouloux]

Well we finally moved in to our new home and we're surrounded by people who have kids. They are everywhere, and our neighbours don't seem very nice. They sit outside drinking from morning until gone midnight whilst the young children sit around doing nothing.

 

[Mikihob]

Teach2 that is awesome. I have never had that happen. I know of some friends of mine who have also been trying for quite a lot longer than me but neither of the couples want to talk about it. It is refreshing when you can sit and talk to people who have had problems too. If you think about it, maybe the husband thought you may have a problem and needed to talk to his wife. That is just great and kind of her to share.

xlouxloux I hate that. Luckily our neighborhood isn't too bad. Both of our direct neighbors have kids coming out the wazoo, but they take great care of them. On the other hand, the street over from us has homes where their children are out at night playing in the street. Really?? The drinking?? I hate that. It reminds of my co-worker who told me she was going to go get "crunk" (I think) . I asked about her breastfeeding and she said she would pump it out of her breast milk. What?? Some people. I am sorry that your neighbors aren't nicer. Maybe they are shy or wary since they have kids.

Good luck ladies and I pray this is our year.

 

[Regalpeas]

Praying for us all. Is this our year?! I sure hope so.

Right now I'm battling the...

"you must be pregnant" syndrome...

If I say:

Me:I'm tired

Lunatic: You must be pregnant

Me: Oh please put olives on that

Lunatic: Let me find out you're pregnant, chile!

Me: I'm not in the mood

Lunatic: Pregnancy hormone! I know it.


Um....am I apart of this guess if she's pregnant game. I try really HARD to remember this person(s) know nothing of my condition. It is truly excitement not malice. Still it hurts. It annoys. It damages. Sighh...

 

[Hope3]

Don't want to talk about it...

I've got a couple of well meaning colleagues who keep going on about how the baby will come along once my partner and I are married (in 3 months time). One of them even said, my future son or daughter was waiting for me to get settled.

I know they're trying to make me feel positive and I want to believe them but I don't want to get into it because then I'd have to talk about the crushing disappointment month after month when pregnancy doesn't happen.


And another thing...

Being regarded as some kind of strange freak because I'm not drinking. I'd love to knock back a couple of large glasses of red wine whenever I felt like it but I can't because I'm ttc.

 

[DBZ34]

Praying for us all. Is this our year?! I sure hope so.

Right now I'm battling the...

"you must be pregnant" syndrome...

If I say:

Me:I'm tired

Lunatic: You must be pregnant

Me: Oh please put olives on that

Lunatic: Let me find out you're pregnant, chile!

Me: I'm not in the mood

Lunatic: Pregnancy hormone! I know it.


Um....am I apart of this guess if she's pregnant game. I try really HARD to remember this person(s) know nothing of my condition. It is truly excitement not malice. Still it hurts. It annoys. It damages. Sighh...

I know the feeling. I had a relative that was that way, even before we were TTC. Every time she saw me. I'm just glad we live overseas now and so I only have to talk to her periodically. I still get, "You face is looking a bit round....Are you pregnant?" to which I reply, "No. I just got fatter since the last time you saw me, thanks for bringing it up."

I've tried telling her that if I was pregnant, I'd let her know....Doesn't deter her in the slightest, but, like you, I try to remember it's because she went through some things with fertility and it's from a place of caring and not because she wants to upset me. But it really really sucks.

 

[xxshellsxx]

Took my mum to an urgent gynae appointment yesterday and she had to have a hysteroscopy done... her DR was my FS Dr... spoke to him about my weightloss briefly and he shook my hand... then asked 'So are you pregnant yet?'... erm no! i'm seeing you on Monday for my HSG!

 

[Pinkie 33]

AAAAAGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH

Why is this so hard for us and so easy for others?

Not sure how many times I can re-group to go through this again

 

[J_Lynn]

Dear retailers,

Please stop sending spam emails with the subject: "Happy Mothers Day, Mom!" and advertising some great sale.

Thanks for stabbing me with the theoretical double-edged sword. Go f*ck yourself.

 

[nobump]

Yeah I got a happy mothers day weekend message from a US based work colleague. She's not to know my situation. But then bump into a pregnant girl later in the day. No getting away from it!

 

[awifey]

Aarg... So I went out for a friend's bday, she knows dh has azoo, yet because I wasn't consuming alcohol or sweets she asks if I'm pg. seriously? I'm not drinking because of diet and even though I used to be a smoker, if I ever get pg I'm not hanging out in a smokey bar!

 

[Natalie6]

"I'm so stressed, we've been trying for 2 MONTHS to have a baby, why is it taking so long?" 2 months?? 2 months?? Try 5 and a half years!!!!! Infuriates me!!!

 

[Natalie6]

Oh you're all at the hospital because you've gone into labour and about to have your child... Then why the HELL are you all standing in the smoking area outside of the hospital puffing away when when your about to give birth!!!

 

[MadCatLady]

After nearly losing it on Friday at work (really cute kid who was just laughing at everything I did - made me laugh but then suddenly on verge of hysterical crying) - have felt really down since. Then I get asked again "don't you want kids then?" - why is it always assumed that this is a choice I'm making to be in this position? Then to top it off - go to get my hair done - time to just sit there and have a coffee, chill and read - and she announces she's pregnant again cue lots of cooing from the entire salon and me wanting to run out crying

 

[Natalie6]

After nearly losing it on Friday at work (really cute kid who was just laughing at everything I did - made me laugh but then suddenly on verge of hysterical crying) - have felt really down since. Then I get asked again "don't you want kids then?" - why is it always assumed that this is a choice I'm making to be in this position? Then to top it off - go to get my hair done - time to just sit there and have a coffee, chill and read - and she announces she's pregnant again cue lots of cooing from the entire salon and me wanting to run out crying

God I know its awful when everyone just assumes you don't want children, you would think fertility problems didn't exsist with the amount of times I've had people ask when or if want to have a baby! People just don't think!

 

[MadCatLady]

Agree Natalie6 - it goes "don't you want kids then" followed back "how old are you then"? And that look on their face of "well she'd better hurry up and get a move on"! Instead of just half smiling and saying "hopefully" or " sometime" I'm reaching the point of saying something really honest next time just so that they maybe they realise and don't be so insensitive to someone else!

 

[Natalie6]

Agree Natalie6 - it goes "don't you want kids then" followed back "how old are you then"? And that look on their face of "well she'd better hurry up and get a move on"! Instead of just half smiling and saying "hopefully" or " sometime" I'm reaching the point of saying something really honest next time just so that they maybe they realise and don't be so insensitive to someone else!

I agree! I think I'd go completely insane if it wasn't for threads like this

 

[Mikihob]

My hubby used to take testosterone injections. We stopped in Nov. 2012 because my dr pointed out that it can cause low or zero sperm count. Since then his sex drive has decreased to zero. We haven't had sex in three weeks. On Friday, May 10 he had his fourth SA scheduled. They asked if we had abstained for 3 days min but a max of 7. What?? A max of 7. They took the sample anyway but didn't feel confident about it.

I am on the verge of giving up on TTC just to put my DH back on his testosterone so he will be "normal" again. I too, can't stop crying when I see happy children and pregnant women. My neighborhood is filled with young kids and babies and fertile women. I can't take the sadness anymore.

The past two days all I want to do is break down and cry!!

 

[MadCatLady]

Oh Mikihob, I really feel for you, it's completely and utterly crap having to be in this position and having to make these decisions just in the pursuit of being a mum, which so many people take for granted. It's tiring, it's confusing, it's frustrating, it tests every relationship esp that with DH, it makes you sad and the bottom line is that it is just not fair. Hope you're ok Mikihob.

 

[nobump]

Baby season has started friends in Germany have just announced the birth of their second baby girl. Really happy for them. Another friends wife is due next month. But worst of all royal baby is due in July. Giving up hope exp us.