Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[wellsk]

That's awful wannabe!
I would just tell them straight that you don't won't to talk about it with them. You understand they're position and you're sorry for them. But it's just not something you're comfortable discussing.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Thanks wellsk, the worse thing is it's my best friend. So i feel i've lost the person i talk to about stuff because i can't talk to her about i feel about ltttc.

 

[Mikihob]

A friend of a family member has had three kids with two different girls. Both were high and then decided they didn't want the kids. My friend adopted the three kids. Now her friend has gotten his new girlfriend pregnant!! What?? Why can all these undeserving, drug addicts get pregnant and we can't?? SUPER annoyed!! UGH!!

 

[flagirlie7]

Thanks wellsk, the worse thing is it's my best friend. So i feel i've lost the person i talk to about stuff because i can't talk to her about i feel about ltttc.

Hey, hugs
My BFF (who also works with me daily) is pregnant. The same person I have been talking to all my stuff for the past two years! Even if she says 'I understand' I cant take her seriously. Pregnant on BC twice. So. No! I don't know how I;m gonna get through next 7.5 months!! I feel the need to mental health counselor, seriously. My DH just dismisses all my worries. It's nice sometimes but other times I wanna vent!!
In my case, I knew she has always been against abortion, but honestly, in her short and angry relationship, I gave her a hint... I actually support people who don't want children (or at least in the moment) to do it, instead of making one little suffering child!

PS She confirmed her pregnancy at the doctor hours before I got AF, how's that for a Friday?

 

[Mz412]

Hi all..I 2 have been ttc for 10 yrs with success 2 yrs ago but resulted in a m/c @ 6 wks. Been tryn since then but with no avail. Now I take supplements and vits. to help me get my body ready to produce a baby.

 

[Regalpeas]

Mz412 praying this is your year! I am claiming this year for myself too! Have you consulted a doctor about your time TTC?

 

[Mz412]

Hey Regalpeas! I haven't consulted my doc since my mc 2 yrs ago. Baby dust to u to dear. I am also claiming this healthy pregnancy year!

 

[Hope3]

Just when I thought I was ok.

So I'm watching the Real Housewives of Atlanta when Phaedra is getting her son dedicated. Her pastor mother starts going on about how Phaedra has joined an elite organisation. I'm thinking what organisation, does she mean the church? Then after a pause she says motherhood and goes on about children being a blessing etc etc

That got to me.

 

[Mz412]

Thatz how ppl w/ money act!

 

[Ahanabenson]

 

[Mikihob]

I hate being upset when people announce pregnancy but I can't help it!! My stepdaughter babysits for this couple and they moved to Palmer at the end of April. She took her IUD out early March or April and wanted to surprise her husband...my stepdaughter comes home...guess what guess what?? "Sammies mom is pregnant!!!" I almost broke down and cried....ALMOST.

 

[Mz412]

Miki- U r NOT the only 1! My husband cousin has 6 kids by 6 diff. dudes and didn't even WANT the last damn 3! Excuse my language but it pisses me off. Its sooo many ppl ttc and can't and she round town havn random sex, gettn preggo and pawning them off to her parents! It makes me bitter. I do have a WONDERFUL 12 yo but I wanna expand my family so he can have at least one sibling. I got preggo w/ clomid first try 2 yrs ago but lost the baby at 6wks and haven't been able 2 conceive since! UUGGGHHHH....had ta vent sorry

 

[Mikihob]

I hear ya. I have some family members that are the same way. A cousin of mine is knocking up all of these girls and doesn't want any of them. His sister has already adopted the first three. Now his new girlfriend is pregnant. My DH is bummed that this "stupid" man has sperm for babies and he doesn't. It's frustrating!!

 

[Mz412]

I know, but jus thank God in advance. Has u or ur husband tried anything over the counter to help?

 

[Mikihob]

I tried Clomid for my PCOS before we found out about hubby's azoospermia. Currently we are waiting for the go ahead with HCG. It is supposed to restore sperm production. We take it for 4-5 months and check for an improvement in SA. If so, Clomid for me again to ovulate and we should be ok. I have been taking prenatals since Nov. 2011 and he has been on tons of vitamins since February.

 

[J_Lynn]

My husbands giant slut exwife who only had their first child because her mother told her that's the only way to ensure she keeps getting money when they divorce, and they were stupid and had a second child after a drunken night - when they were already in the middle of splitting up and they're both stupid (I make sure to let him know all the time how dumb he was for having kids with that vile creature), anyway, she has decided that she and her new husband want to have a kid. Her oldest is almost 15, youngest is 12 and she has her tubes tied and burnt. She wants to have some surgery to reopen her tubes so she can have a kid with this guy because he's only 26 (she's 37 - she started sleeping with him almost 10 years ago - she's a pedophile, disgusting tramp!) and he wants kids and she knows if she doesn't give him one he's going to leave her and since she didn't get child support from my husband (he's primary custodial parent because she's unfit for anything except the casual use of guys around here on the weekends!) she's trying to do anything to make sure her money train doesn't leave.
So now if this bloody mess of a creature gets pregnant before me - I will give up. And I mean I literally will give up, and I will probably leave and never come back because I will NOT be able to deal with that being rubbed in my face every day.

 

[Regalpeas]

I know it seems so unfair, it really does. One of lifes mysteries. We have one like that around us. She has 8 kids had a 9th all in the system eventually because she's all kinds of messed up. I feel sorry for everyone and everything in this situation but then I think wow she was favored to be a mother and not me. I know I have no right to be presumptuous or even to question God nature universe whatever about who gets life who is chosen for a mother or not but that just stings more than anything else.

 

[J_Lynn]

OH WOW - LOOK AT ME, I'VE BEEN TRYING SINCE FEBRUARY OF THIS YEAR - I CANNOT BELIEVE I AM ALREADY PREGNANT! I JUST DIDN'T THINK IT WOULD HAPPEN LIKE THIS, IT TOOK SO LONG!

Oh gag me with a fork and SHUT UP.

 

[stacergirl]

Not knowing if you'd rather be alone on a Friday night while dh is away bc both of your good friends whom you would hang out with are pg and having just started ivf injections myself, talking about their pregnancy or about my ivf to a pg woman is the last thing I want to do. Then theres my sister who just got back from her ttc honeymoon who could tell me anyday now that shes pregnant. Hmm i Guess I'll hang out with my pup.

 

[Mz412]

Regalpeas-don't worry bout it God WILL bless us! U'll b up here n bouta month saying Mz412 I'm PREGGERS! YAAAYYYYY!