Looking for a buddy who logs in a lot :)

[Aayla]

So hubby surprised me. He told me that if the letrozole doesn't work he wants to go as far as ivf. We had discussed it awhile ago and chose to move to Scotland with that money (it is $16,000 for one try). But scotland was put on the back burner due to some logistics. But it was never off completely. With the mc and such we haven't discussed it much.
But yesterday he said he is thinking of going back to my work for my parents. It is way more money than his current job which is a go no where type but a lot more stress and many more hours. My dad is a workaholic and pretty much expects that of his employees.
But hubby wants to give me the life he thinks I deserve and wants to start putting away for ivf if we need it. If not then we will have some wicked savings and maybe can get a house.
But ivf means I have to lose a lot of weight. Over 100 lbs. They won't accept anyone with a bmi over 30. So much to think about.

I agree that I would rather not conceive ever month than go through multiple losses. I know someone who is on her third pregnancy in a row. Her last 2 ended in early losses and they were back to back. I don't know how she does it.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Aayla- wow I knew it was a lot but I didn't realize it was that much and I didn't realize there was a bmi limit. I'm confident you won't have to though!

 

[Aayla]

Yeah. The college of surgeons has put it that no one with a bmi over 30 can get ivf outside of a hospital. Except hospitals don't do ivf. They are only done in private clinics by fertility specialists. At least here in BC Canada. In some ways I understand. Fat pushes the organs into different positions and it an be hard to do egg retrieval. Not impossible but it makes it far more difficult to have to go through so much fat. Also lots of fertility drugs are fat soluble like clomid. The more fat you have the more the fat absorbs it and the less it gets to where it needs to be.
So we are going to plan for it but still keep doing what we are doing. I am sure we won't have to go that far too.

 

[mrs.green2015]

So much i didn't know. Are you trying to loose weight now?

 

[Aayla]

Yes. I have been sick for nearly 2 weeks so I haven't been to work out. I, used to work out all the time, but then I got paranoid about it causing a miscarriage so I stopped when we went into full time ttc. Combined with the depression of losing my job it was easy to fall into a rutt. But then I had a mc anyway.
So I got a new program for christmas and I wanted to start last week but I got sick.
So now I am waiting to get better where I can work out. I did a decent grocery shop the other day so we have some good food on hand. But I will be starting a program in full as soon as I can workout.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Being sick is the worst! I hope you feel better soon.

 

[tcinks]

That is so wonderful of your husband! I mean, obviously like you said, it would be ideal not to have to go that route, but the fact that he's willing to make those sacrifices is so great.

I have been so slacking in the exercise department. Ugh. That gym membership is just going to waste!

 

[Uni tsi]

It's times like these I wish I knew you ladies in rl so we could be work out buddies too. I totally slacked going on Friday. Although, to make up for it I found a phone app that took me through a series of exercises that used body weight and that felt pretty good. Some of them were HARD though, like a one legged plank.

If you don't do anything else today, do a plank! Try holding it for 15 seconds. I would love to be able to do a two minute plank. Like, I would say to myself "wow I'm in good shape" but I'm stuck with 15 seconds for now. Still, I guess at least it makes me efficient

Aayla, I hope you feel better soon! Two weeks is a long time to feel under the weather.

 

[tcinks]

Good for you Uni! I might try planking.

So shortly after my last post, I got my lazy butt out of bed and went to the gym Seriously just needed to give myself a kick in the pants. I only worked out for like 35 minutes, but that's better than nothing! I might do some videos here at home too.

 

[Uni tsi]

Good job going to the gym! 35 min is a very respectable amount of time to have been there.

 

[Aayla]

35 min is great! Most of the workouts I do are 30 min. I have had great results. Working out for hours on end is a thing of the past. Get in, get out.

 

[mrs.green2015]

35 is fantastic! Good job girl!

 

[kmpreston]

AF got me

 

[kmpreston]

AF got me

 

[mrs.green2015]

So sorry km hopefully next cycle is it!

 

[tcinks]

AF got me

Sorry dear That stinks.

 

[tcinks]

How is everyone else doing?

Uni, how are you feeling? Any news?

I am fairly certain I ovulated yesterday. I had about a week of varying degrees of fertile cm, then last night it turned tacky. And more today. We didn't dtd as much as I'd hoped, but still quite a bit.



Let's see how far into this tww I actually wait to test...

 

[mrs.green2015]

So exciting tc! Can't wait until you test. What days did you get to bd?

I haven't ovulated and I'm grumpy about it. Lol if we don't catch the egg this month I'm totally ok with it since we weren't officially trying. BUT I am going to be upset if I don't ovulate.

 

[tcinks]

Ugh. I hope you O! I think there was a cycle or two when I didn't right after the loss.

We BD every other day from when af left until ovulation. I meant to do it the day after ovulation too, but we have just been a little busy. I hope it waa enough!

 

[Uni tsi]

FX for both you ladies!

I'm doing ok. I've been put on metformin cause my fasting glucose levels are a little high and I had GD last time. Generally I don't like the idea of being on meds, but everything I've read about metformin is really reassuring. I guess it's used a lot for PCOS, helps with fertility in general and it apparently even helps the bean stay sticky although I'm not sure by what mechanism. After two days it has brought my morning numbers down to normal range so it's working great. So far, it has only one unfortunate side effect, which seems to be it's flushing the extra sugar out of my system. To avoid tmi, let's just say it is flushing so I am flushing, if you get my drift. It was bad enough yesterday I couldn't go to the gym! But, it's a little better today, and they say I'll get over it soon as my body adjusts.

Other than that, there's really nothing to report. It's not always the case, but I feel ok today. Optimistic. I have my first scan two weeks from today.

Although I'm lurking more than usual, this is still my favorite thread I hope everyone is having a beautiful day and staying warm!