Looking for TTC buddies

[karoolia]

I'm sorry ladyapril, I'm glad you aren't in limbo anymore though, that is the worst in my opinion. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you for July!

Cookies, I can imagine how nerve wracking that is. I wish they had told you they were doing tests. I hope they call you back soon!

ricschick so it sounds like you definitely haven't missed it yet. I'm sure you'll catch it since you are doing opks. It is hard not to feel anxious. I was super worried, especially since I didn't think I ovulated the cycle post-mc. I was convinced I was broken. I have faith in your body to get it done! Keep us posted.

 

[loves_cookies]

Got hold of the hospital - the tests have shown it was a partial molar pregnancy. I have to go back to hospital tomorrow for more blood tests and an appointment with the consultant. Really hoping we've been unsuccessful this cycle now.

 

[Mom15]

I'm so sorry lady! Hopefully July will be your lucky month!

Ricschick - hoping O will happen for you soon! I used to O really late like cd 30 or so and always worried I'd miss it, but in the end I always caught it. I'm sure you will too. Are you temping and tracking cm or just doing opks?

 

[karoolia]

loves_cookies, I'm so sorry you are experiencing this! So this is from your miscarriage in March? I'm glad they caught it, but surprised it would take so long. I'm so sorry this whole process has now been elongated and that you are now worried about this cycle. What dpo are you now?

Did they give you any information about whether any treatment is needed? I remember being nervous about a molar, but my OB said since I had a D&C and everything was scraped out there was no need to worry so I didn't do much research. How are you feeling?

 

[Mom15]

Love - I hope all is well, it must be nerve wrecking to find out about tests you didn't know existed. At least they hopefully provide some answers. Something that will always bother me, that I will never know the "why" I miscarried.

 

[CowgirlBaby]

Congrats to those who got their BFP. My life got turned really upside down :/ my now ex husband had an emotional break down and blamed the MC on me and said that he couldn't be with someone who couldn't give him a family, even though the MC wasn't my fault, but he left and has filed for separation. So I am still going to have my family, I'm looking at IVF instead.

 

[karoolia]

Congrats to those who got their BFP. My life got turned really upside down :/ my now ex husband had an emotional break down and blamed the MC on me and said that he couldn't be with someone who couldn't give him a family, even though the MC wasn't my fault, but he left and has filed for separation. So I am still going to have my family, I'm looking at IVF instead.

oh my goodness Cowgirl, I'm so sorry! I hope you know in your heart that the MC was not your fault! Even those who have physiological reasons for not being able to carry to term are not at fault. That was a terrible thing for him to say.

You sound positive and determined, which is a great thing. I know there are a lot of ladies on this site who are working towards having a family without a partner. If that is the path you choose then I know there are others on here who can give you support and share their experiences.

I wish I could comfort you more, but I really don't have the words. I know MCs can sometimes be difficult on relationships, but I wonder if he is just using this as an excuse. My cousin's marriage ended after their miscarriage, but they later both admitted it was heading in that direction anyway.

I'm thinking of you

 

[ricschick]

Cookies glad they got back to you! So what does this mean now? Will you need treatment for it? Will this affect a new pregnancy. Good luck tomorrow.

Cowgirl I am so sorry he had done this! Blaming you is just low and very cruel! I agree with karoolia maybe he is using this as an excuse you sound like you are a very strong women and I wish you the best of luck in your quest for ivf. Xxx

 

[ricschick]

Am I getting close??

 

[Mom15]

Love - I hope this doesn't effect future pregnancies and was just a one and done. I didn't see you had already posted when I wrote my last post.

Cowgirl - I can't believe what's happened! I agree with the other girls, it is not your fault! If I recall you had gotten sick from mold (I hope I don't confuse your story with someone else) and that is not your fault. Sometimes unfortunately we are at the wrong place at the wrong time it's in no ones hands.
It is weak of him to say and i hope he comes around and at least apologizes to you.
I hope you find a way to have your family, but as mentioned you sound strong and I know you will find your way! Keep us posted, stick around!

 

[Mom15]

Ricschick - it's so hard to say if you are close! What did your other tests look like. With my own I can usually best judge when looking at the progression and by cm. I seem to always get about 5-6 days of ewcm before I O.
Looking at your test alone it still looks pretty negative, but I usually don't get a darker test line than the control line. Mine are usually just equal when I O.

 

[Mom15]

Ricschick - now I'm confused after I looked at your pic again. On the blue dye which one is the test line?

 

[ricschick]

The lighter line is the test line x mine only ever get as dark as the control line x

 

[CowgirlBaby]

Thanks gals I don't know what his issue was, and maybe he was just looking for excuse, but that's okay, good luck to everyone!

 

[CowgirlBaby]

Love - I hope this doesn't effect future pregnancies and was just a one and done. I didn't see you had already posted when I wrote my last post.

Cowgirl - I can't believe what's happened! I agree with the other girls, it is not your fault! If I recall you had gotten sick from mold (I hope I don't confuse your story with someone else) and that is not your fault. Sometimes unfortunately we are at the wrong place at the wrong time it's in no ones hands.
It is weak of him to say and i hope he comes around and at least apologizes to you.
I hope you find a way to have your family, but as mentioned you sound strong and I know you will find your way! Keep us posted, stick around!

Thanks hun, no you're right, my old apartment was infested with mold and unfortunately I got sick and that was determined to be the cause of the MC. I thought about it all, and I think as others have said he was using it as an excuse to leave, which is his derogative.

Thanks I plan to stick around and I have a friend at my new job who is also starting to TTC with a donor, so her and I are going to be work TTC buddies and hopefully, pregnancy buddies :3

Either way I will have my little family In the mean time. I can work on myself, getting my new place, since I had to sell the condo when he left, get the people who helped me get the condo repaid, maybe look at upgrading my car. Not sure about that one, but just take some time to get back on my feet after the MC and the big move into a condo after we found out about the mold, and getting a new job and then this. Take some time to heal myself before I focus solely on bringing a little one into the world.

I am so glad I have you lovely ladies in my world for support.

 

[ricschick]

Sounds like a good plan cowgirl! When did all this happen? Do you have any contact with him? X

Afm still waiting to ov and it's driving me insane I've run out of ic opks so have some coming tomorrow so having to use just my cb digital but only have 3 tests left. 😳

 

[ladyapril777]

Cowgirl- I'm so sorry hun, just remember it's NOT your fault. And he's a jerk for even saying that imo! -rickchic- I would say start BD now , you are close!

 

[loves_cookies]

Cowgirlbaby, sorry to see you update. I can't believe anyone would say that to their partner.

 

[loves_cookies]

So i've had my hospital appointment. The hospital policy is to conduct routine tests when they perform surgical management of miscarriage. It should have been explained to me at the time. The reason it's taken so long is once the lab identified a suspected partial molar the sample is sent to a Charing Cross clinic (London for those of you who aren't UK based) which specialise in Molar miscarriages. They then run their own test. The report confirming the molar pregnancy came back on 5th June. I didn't get an answer as to why it's taken 3 weeks to get in contact with me.

The hospital isn't unduly concerned as I had a negative test with them 4 weeks after surgery (having been referred back to them because it was positive after 3 weeks). They've taken blood today to test my big to ensure it's remained at 0. They weren't concerned when I told them we'd been given the okay to try again and I could in theory be pregnant (I haven't tested). I will get a phone call later on with the results of the test so there won't be any POAS for me this month as I'm 11dpo!

I will now be referred to Charing Cross who will contact me with more information and to detail if any follow up tests are required. From what I've read it sounds like I won't need it as the surgery was 11 weeks ago.

I will need a scan at 7 weeks in future pregnancies and I will also be tested by Charing Cross after any future miscarriage and successful pregnancy to make sure there are no mole cells present.

Depending on where you look molar pregnancies occur 1 in 600 or 1-3 in 1000 pregnancies. Now I've had one the chances of having another is 1-2 in 100 even though it's categorised as being a random event.

 

[emilydee87]

Yea Cookies, it sounds like they dropped the ball. Its so disappointing when our health care is not what we expect it to be I'm glad it seems to not have caused any damage? Do you think you will switch practices after this?