My husband's father is being a real jerk. He has seen Darwin twice in the last year - once was just after Darwin was born, the other time was at about six months (and he was here for literally 5-10 minutes and stood by the door). He and his girlfriend live a few hours away, so I understand that they can't come too often, but their behaviour lately has been really hurtful and I'm so sad I needed to vent and get things off my chest. About two weeks ago my hubby's aunt was down visiting my father in law and his girlfriend, and they said they had a Christmas card for her to bring to us (she's spending Christmas day with us). She asked if they had a birthday card for Darwin, because his birthday is on December 20th. They said no, so she asked if they wanted to stop and get one (hint, hint). They said 'no, maybe we'll just call them.' On his birthday they didn't call, visit, give him a card, or a present. They didn't even acknowledge his first birthday. He's my FIL's only grandchild, and the man can't even be bothered to pick up a phone. We got the Christmas card today, it's a generic card, the same one I'm sure they sent to everyone else on their list. They signed it, but didn't write anything special, and our gift was cash (and not much either!) Yes, they got us something but god, you think for their grandson's first real Christmas (last year he was only 5 days old and just 24h out of the NICU) they'd at least TRY to get him a present and write something nice in the card. I mentioned earlier to someone in the family that they could at least call us, or chat with us on the computer - I said we have a little video camera we could send, and then we could see each other on the computer while we chat. That's when I got REALLY upset - she told me that they already have a camera on the computer, and spend hours each week talking to my FIL's girlfriend's family. Wow. I'm angry, not for us but for Darwin. He has three wonderful grandparents - my parents and my hubby's mom - but I think it's awful his grandfather doesn't even care about him. He's only going to be this age once, and they're missing out on him growing up. I know that it's the girlfriend's doing, she's insanely jealous and doesn't want him talking to anyone that has anything to do with his ex. I think it's pathetic that my FIL can't grow a spine and tell her that he has a right to see his grandson (and his son and daughter in law for that matter) - we were close before she came along, nothing has changed except this woman coming into his life. I very much want to call/write him and tell him how I feel, but my hubby thinks it's a lost cause. It's cast a shadow on our Christmas, and that makes me really sad, but I know he's right.