Love,Patience,& Support-Staying tgther until all preggo! 14BFPs! 2 Twins 4 angels

[katrus78]

And wow, BBA, you are a lemon!!!! You are now oficially in the second tri, congrats, hun!!!

 

[Yumenoinu]

All the preggo ladies - time flies! I can't believe you are all in or almost in your 2nd trimester!

As for me - Towards the end of the month I'm going to schedule an appointment with the nearest fertility clinic. We are definitely wanting to get the ball rolling. We're going to talk to the specialist and get some testing done. A big part of infertility is my PCOS, but we're gonna test for more stuff as well. Hopefully by October we will fall pregnant. wish me luck ladies! I'll definitely keep in touch and let you know when my first appointment is.

 

[katrus78]

Yum, good luck, and maybe you will even fall pg before October. Tell them you already tried for a year, so they don't waste time. We will all be cheering for you all the way, sweety!

 

[sallyhansen76]

Wow, I have lots to catch up on.
Kat thats amazing, I am pretty sure he is right about the sexs and im happy you finally have your girls. (but i ll keep my excitement to a minimum until its confirmed next week) hee hee
BBA hope you did well on your tests!! Keep us posted on how that goes
Yum, sorry hun af got you but im glad to see you in good spirits and extremely happy that you and oh seem so ready for help!! Your bfp is soooo close! xx
i wish my oh would be soo into ttc.

As for me, just got back from my weekend in the woods. Af decided to finally show up (perfect timing, sigh) and holy hell this is a period from hell! im going through pads and tampons like no tomorrow. (sorry maybe tmi) and My god the CRAMP are fucking unbelievable! ok rant over...lol So i ve started my bc pills and feel a little blah about that...and hoping still that they dont really work

I had lots of fun at the lake and my dog had a blast! Those of you that have fb can see the videos i posted. It was super cute.
Although since there has been a distance between oh and I. He hasnt noticed but definately on my end. Im not sure how to feel at the moment due to a comment that he said that i just cant get out of my head. IM not sure if im over reacting or not....maybe some advice? We were at the cabin and we were reading a joke book out loud in a gang of friends. And the jokes were VERY bad. Terrible. And oh said 'they could have done a better job, these are terrible. And then said 'They should have done a book about jokes of dead babies, that would hvae been funny'. In that instant i felt shattered because how in gods name could he even think something like that let alone SAY it...afterwards all i did was look at him and he looked back like 'oh come on, that was funny, stop over reacting..' When we went to bed that night i stayed calm and asked how he could say something like that...and all he managed to say was he found those jokes funny before and just because we lived soemthing like that that he wouldnt allow it to change how he sees the world or his opinions on things. I cried myself to sleep that night and havent viewed us the same. I jsut feel like im alone in this and would expect at least him to share my pain. Maybe not as much...but at least some? He has carried on our relationship as if it was still perfect..and im just left feeling alone and disconnected. Am i over reacting?
In other news i also need tampon advice lol hahaha i took one out yesterday but a piece ripped off and stayed stuck inside..lol now i have no clue what to do. I looked for it, and so did oh. (that was a little uncomfortable but u gotta do what u gotta do..hahaha) but neither of us could find it. should i wait for it to come out?? Should i go to the dr? is it possible the tampon was ripped when i put it in?? lol

 

[katrus78]

Sal, I think you are not over reacting... HOWEVER, please please don't take it that close to heart as men are in general are not as sensitive as we are, and often say the stupidest most insensitive things we never imagine them say or do. My advise - just erase it from memory, like it never happenned. I think it will be nearly pointless to question him more about it, as he will probably try to stick by what he said about his oint of view of the world (even if he doesn't believe it actually). Try to forgive him, and erase it from memory.
Now, about the tampon... Here is the story I know - someone I know had completely forgot to take out a tampon, and it buried inside her. Then her husband smelled a really bad smell coming out of her vagina during an oral sex (tmi, I know, but oh well). So they went to a doctor and they took it out So yeah, I think you need to get that checked out. Was it a big chank of the tampon that was missing?

 

[sallyhansen76]

Well not super big...maybe a 1/2 inche wide and an inch long..

 

[katrus78]

Sounds like something that needs to be checked out. Sorry, hun

 

[Yumenoinu]

Sal - oh hun, well I do agree with kat but at the same time I dont. Yes, men do say very insensitive comments. However, that doesn't mean you SHOULD easily erase it from your mind. Sure, maybe he does want to forget about the incident, but you shouldn't have to put up with comments such as that. In this case, I would seriously put a foot down, tell him those kinds of comments hurt and are not to be said around you. Do not be afraid to hurt his feelings by telling him how YOU feel. If you become super submissive about this, he will continue to comment this way. Does not mean he cannot express himself and how he feels, he can still do it, but he can do it without commenting in a pretty insensitive way towards you. You are the woman he loves, you deserve the respect of your feelings, period. As for the tampon thing, it usually happens to me sometime, but it comes out naturally usually. If it doesn't the next couple of days, go see a doctor. I'm sorry, I don't wanna be so bold or brash about it but it has been looking like you've been very caring and sensitive towards his feelings, but back off quickly when it comes to your own.

As for me - well girls, so I think the fertility clinic may have to wait. I recently (about a week ago) found a lump in my breast. I thought possibly it may disappear after a few days. (at first I thought it was a zit coming in) but looks like it's around to stay. I'm going in sunday to a doctor to check it out. I'm really hoping it's not something serious. DH keeps reassuring that it's not, but I can tell he's worried too.

 

[Yumenoinu]

sally - I'm sorry if I offended you at all....

 

[trying412011]

Hey girls how r u all, I can't believe how fast time is flying with all these pregnancys before u kno it u will b holding ur perfect little baby/ies in ur arms.
Yum it's great that ur getting the ball rolling with ur other options it's great.
Afm: hubby got his results yesterday he seem ok he has 55 million spermatozoa per ejaculation which is ok bit low but that's because there was a lot of confusion when he went to do his test. Went to the hosp today and iv been schedualed for a laporoscopy but it's gunna take 8 weeks to get my appointment date I got my blood test results and that was good I kno for sure that I'm ovulating so I'm just gunna keep charting and praying.
Anyway hope u all have a good day talk soon

 

[Laura617]

Sal - It's not my intent to offend either as it's probably different judging from the outside looking in then to actually be in your relationship. *I do agree with Yum though. * I fail to see the humor in what he said anyway but even if that is his sense of humor and he likes to act as though nothing ever happened I think that's incredibly disrespectful to you. *Whether he likes it or not your pain is real and very justified, *you have suffered a great loss and making comments like that just seem cruel to me. *He needs to try to be more sensitive, *I know men do things differently but if my husband had said that after going through something to heartbreaking I think I would have thrown something at his head and given him a piece of my mind. *I hope you are feeling ok and I so hope things look up for you. *Sending you big virtual hugs from here.

Yum - hopefully it turns out to be nothing and you don't have to be delayed on anything. *I didn't say anything at the time as I was a bit nervous because of family history but when I went for my first appointment they did an exam and found a lump. *Thankfully everything turned out ok but it can be quite unnerving. *I had DH entertaining our son while I was getting the exam, he had taken him to the car to watch cartoons and I texted him that I was nearly done but they found a lump. *I think it took him about 45 seconds to run from car to exam room lol. *I later asked him if he panicked and was scared to which he said "yes, *you aren't allowed to get sick and leave me". *My DH is not a touchy feely kind of guy so it was nice to hear. *Man I turned that into a long story lol anyway keep us posted.

 

[Laura617]

Trying - sorry you have to wait so long for appointment but glad things are looking good so far. And yes keep up the charting and trying while you wait, fingers crossed.

 

[Laura617]

Lol! Sorry just looked back at my post and see tons of ***. I typed from my phone and apparently my phone thought it would decorate my reply so ignore those, they don't mean anything!

 

[Laura617]

I seem to post and then remember something else lol Kat where are you, I want scan update!

 

[katrus78]

Hi girls, so I went for the private scan and it was so clear that I am having...

TWO GIRLS!!!!

I don't know what to do with myself! Very happy!

 

[Laura617]

Aw Kat yay! Congrats!!!

 

[trying412011]

Omg Kat that's such great news congratulations )

 

[katrus78]

Thank you girls!!

 

[Yumenoinu]

I knew it!!!! Congrats Kat!! so excited for you!

 

[sallyhansen76]

ahhhh thats amazing!! Sooo happy for you kat!! How amazing is it that u have exactly what you wanted!! whooohooo
Now we have three girls..its time for a little boy now.

Yum, i hope the lump is nothing. Keep us posted. Try not to worry too much, i know it must be nerve wracking, but try adn stay positive.

Trying im glad you are getting the ball rolling on tests. It will help in the long run and u will have ur bfp before u know it.

AFM, thanks ladies for the advice. And no one has offended me. I ve expected those responses, but its nice to see im not totally over-reacting. Its just hard sometimes talking to a man, because he doesnt realize that they actually hurt you and when u talk to them about it, they think we are just trying to make them feel guilty for no reason, instead of actually seeing something wrong with what they did.