Lovely Ladies TTC

[AuCa]

I am CD14 and a bit disappointed that my lines aren't getting darker on the OPKs. Last cycle I had an almost positive on CD14 followed by a + on CD15. Rationally I know it's totally normal to not ovulate on the same day each cycle but I'm just getting nervous that I'm going to be one of those ppl for whom clomid works on some cycles but not others

Hopefully you'll get a darker line tomorrow!
I had no idea that clomid can be like that....

 

[Smiler82]

Thanks! I'm hoping for that too...

Yeah I have read a few ppl on this board say clomid worked some cycles and not others. Don't know why

 

[Smiler82]

AuCa I have such a bad memory and chat to far too many people...you're not on any meds or anything are you? I keep confusing ppl on here with ppl on a clomid thread I'm on!! Is CD20 pretty normal for you?

No worries , I keep forgetting the details about everybody as well...

No, I' not on any meds, and ya, CD20 or so is normal for me. My cycles are between 30 and 35 days with a 12 day LP, so I ovulate anywhere between CD 18 and CD23, typically around CD20.
I actually had a chat with my mom on the weekend and asked her out of curiosity if she remembered how her cycles used to be, and she told me that she also always had slightly longer cycles (around 5 weeks total). But I also know that it took her almost 2 years to conceive #1. So I've always been kind of worried that I might have issues conceiving easily. On the other side I know that she's always had thyroid issues which I don't and I think that might have caused her problems.

Ugh, just don't know what to think. My plan is to keep trying for at least another few months and if we don't get a BFP get ourselves checked out by latest mid next year (as there is also a slight suspicion that there might be a male factor). I'll be 33 in December, so not much time to waste

So how long have you guys been trying? Do you mind me asking what makes you think there's a male factor? I hope it doesn't get as far as tests etc for you guys but usually there is something they can do to help

 

[AuCa]

Not very long at all (3 months), that's why I still want to give it a couple of months.
There is something that suggests that he might have a lower sperm count. But I don't want to send him for testing before we didn't try for a while, as this is such a touchy subject for men to begin with...

 

[Smiler82]

Yeah, it really is. Is he taking any vitamins or anything? Me and my DH take Pregnacare preconception tablets for men and women. My DH had to have a SA done as they won't give the woman any treatment til the man's been checked. Initially it came back a little low, but he'd been ill and stressed so they did it again 3 months later and it was a lot better. But he still worried about it so much and after the first result came back he was pretty down about it. It takes 3 months for sperm to be created so they tell you to eat healthy, keep the testicles cool etc and it should all help. But it only takes one little swimmer, so you never know

 

[AuCa]

Yeah, it really is. Is he taking any vitamins or anything? Me and my DH take Pregnacare preconception tablets for men and women.

No, he's not taking anything. He is really bad about taking meds, supplements etc unfortunately. He often doesn't even take the medications he needs (for his allergies and asthma) .
But maybe I'll try to get him to take something as it's only fair that we both take vitamins.

 

[Smiler82]

Yeah that's what I keep saying! My DH forgets to take his; I hate having to nag him but he gives me no choice!! At the moment my line is: "there's no point in my taking clomid if you're not going to keep yourself healthy!"

 

[AuCa]

Yeah that's what I keep saying! My DH forgets to take his; I hate having to nag him but he gives me no choice!! At the moment my line is: "there's no point in my taking clomid if you're not going to keep yourself healthy!"

I know...i hate to nag too, but more than often we really do have no choice!
I had my first success tonight, I was actually quite surprised. I really got him to take some multivitamins, he didn't even complain. But I have a feeling that I'll have to constantly remind him....

 

[AuCa]

Ladies, I need your advice (and not really anybody outside of the forum I could talk about this...) - it's about the often discussed topic "how to deal with pregnant/about-to-pop SIL".

Today was my SIL's due date. She didn't give birth yet, but it is bound to happen in the next few days. My DH's brother and her live all across the country, so we usually only see them 1-2 times/year.
My DH is (understandably) quite excited that he's going to be an uncle (and I truly think I would be too if it was my sister and not my SIL), and wants to fly out there on a weekend. I really get that. However, I really don't, but I don't know if I should go with him anyway or not...

I'm not super jealous per se, but my relationship with his family is a bit strained, especially around the topic children. I think I mentioned this early on in this thread (or the old one), but I sort of stopped talking to my MIL when she started attacking me over the phone about how bad of a person I am because I am "so old" and still don't have a baby. This really upset me, not only because I think it is so rude to say something like that, but also because at that time I was 100% ready to TTC but my DH wasn't yet (which I did not tell my MIL because I don't want to ruin my DH's relationship with his mother). So I think I still have a lot of hard feelings/resentments about this.

I don't want to ruin the relationship to his family completely, because in the end they are part of my family now and I would really like to get along. But I just can't see myself taking a plane to see this new baby now (my SIL is of course almost 10 yrs younger than me). Should I just make myself go, or should I go with my gut feeling and make up some sort of excuse? What do you think??? I really can't make up my mind about this....

 

[Smiler82]

Ooh that's a tough one. If you knew your MIL wasn't going to be there would you feel differently? To be perfectly honest I think there are times when you just have to grit your teeth and stick a smile on your face even when you don't want to. This is a happy time for your SIL and I'm sure she would love for you to share in her baby's first few days. I've had to do this myself and I know it's not easy, but I like to think that these people I've made an effort with will make the effort back when we finally have a baby.

Do you not get along with your SIL, or is it just your MIL? If it's your MIL you have an issue with, then I'd say you really need to talk to your DH about it. It might be an idea to agree to go, but let him know you have reservations about spending time with his family, particularly MIL, and why. Does he know about all the things your MIL has said to you? She really has no right to say anything to you. It is NONE of her business, and he needs to tell her that. He has to be the one to step up and let her know that those kinds of things are insensitive and hurtful. Then if she says anything to you whilst you're there, you can tell him and hopefully he will take her aside and ask her to be more sensitive.

If you don't really have a problem with the SIL I would say suck it up and go. But if you don't get along with her either, then I don't think you should feel bad about coming up with an excuse not to go. Can you plead extra hours at work, feeling sick, etc?

 

[AuCa]

Thanks Smiler82

Well, I do get along with my SIL but we are really not very close at all (too much age and cultural differences). I haven't talked to her in a while (think I chatted with her once during her pregnancy).

Yes, my DH knows all about it. We've had many discussions about it and he is completely on my side, which is great (he said he understand if I don't want to go and it's completely up to me). He also talked to his mom about this topic, but she just doesn't listen and keeps doing the same things. I don't think she'll ever change.

Anyway, maybe I'll just suck it up, go, and ignore my MIL.

 

[Smiler82]

Oh well if your DH understands then that kind of changes things I think...before I was worried for you that if you didn't go, your DH would be upset and it would cause further issues with you and his family. But if he's on your side and he understands, and doesn't mind if you don't want to go then if you really feel you don't want to then don't! But then again the new baby is your niece or nephew and speaking as an auntie myself, it is brilliant to spend time with them

 

[PurpleIvy44]

Hi Ladies- I hope everyone is doing well. This morning I had my 2nd US at 6+2 and I was able to see my little bubba & it's heartbeat, I am so relieved! Bubba is measuring on point 6+1 with a HB of 117.

I didn't tell my hubby last week b/c I wasn't sure what would happen today and didn't want to get his hopes up and then burst them the next week. I bought a nice picture frame and put 2 of the US pictures in it and will tell him I bought him a little something. I'm pretty sure he's not going to know what the heck he's looking at but I thought it was a cute way of telling him.

I read that after seeing the heartbeat mc rates go down quite a bit so I'm still praying everything is well from here on out. The pic attached doesn't really show a lot other than there is a baby. The big circle is the yolk sac and the white blob is my bubba, she described it as the diamond on top of the ring.

 

[Smiler82]

Oh PurpleIvy that is soooo exciting! Lovely pics! You mean you haven't told him you're pregnant?! How on earth did you keep that to yourself!

I love that description, diamond on top of the ring xx Congrats xxx

 

[PurpleIvy44]

Oh PurpleIvy that is soooo exciting! Lovely pics! You mean you haven't told him you're pregnant?! How on earth did you keep that to yourself!

I love that description, diamond on top of the ring xx Congrats xxx

Correct, I haven't told him at all. It's been so hard. We've been watching Family Feud reruns and I swear at least one question on each show we saw had to do w/pregnancy. It was driving me crazy!

I thought that was a nice way to describe it also. Thank you!

 

[Smiler82]

I can't wait to hear his reaction! Are you telling him today?

 

[PurpleIvy44]

I can't wait to hear his reaction! Are you telling him today?

Yes, I'm going to pick up dinner and then give him the frame after. The first time, I told him as soon as he got home and was so stunned that he couldn't eat. lol

 

[Smiler82]

Haha is that why you're giving him the frame after dinner this time Let us know how it goes!

 

[Shannon30]

SUCH WONDERFUL NEWS PURPLE!!!! I go in a half hour...post when I get back!!! So happy...CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

 

[Shannon30]

Well as is good..measureed 6w1d and hb of 120...and a edd July 24, 2013!! Still keeping quit for a few more weeks after I do all my other test!!! Good luck to everyone!!!