LTTTC and feeling alone... lets get together.

[No Doubt]

I agree...and I don't think that those come in who aren't ltttc mean any harm, but it still can be painful for some to read, and see the preggo tickers and spoilers. They don't me anymore, but I hate when I see someone that's preggo come in here and say things like "first u/s...so disappointed, only one baby". Really?!?!? I wish I had a first u/s to go to and see just my one baby on the screen. That's what gets me, the one that are unappreciative of the blessings they do have.

Sedgeez, I was thinking like you...I thought stress could be a contributing factor, but them again I thought stress could delay af, but apparently it doesn't delay af, it delays O and because people who aren't in our boat and maybe don't know how the different stages of a woman's cycle work, think it delays af. Fxd your next bean is sticky!

Bobdog is there nothing they can do? It sucks how everything is just a ripple effect. I think if it was that we only had to deal with one thing it would be easier, but unfortunately with infertility one thing triggers another that triggers another that triggers another. Blah...

I hear a lot of people over in the UK and surrounding areas say they are on waiting lists for meds or procedures when it comes to IF. That's such a downfall. NHS will pay for a lot, but you have to wait for it or fall into those stupid guidelines. Here in America depending on insurance...most insurances don't pay for anything with IF, but you have all the access in the world to it if you have the money. Guess what I don't have...yep thousands of dollars or insurance that covers IF. If it's not onw thing it's another...such is life...lol.

Just gotta keep pushing through though. We will all get there ladies. Maybe we will start a ripple effect of bfps and this thread will turn into a huge BFP thread...fxd!

 

[zanDark]

I'm currently in a "I'M FINE DAMMIT" ragey phase trying to get through ovulation week!!

I'll be back in a couple of days when I'm in the TWW and ready to deal with the feelings

love this thread btw!!

 

[BobDog]

I agree...and I don't think that those come in who aren't ltttc mean any harm, but it still can be painful for some to read, and see the preggo tickers and spoilers. They don't me anymore, but I hate when I see someone that's preggo come in here and say things like "first u/s...so disappointed, only one baby". Really?!?!? I wish I had a first u/s to go to and see just my one baby on the screen. That's what gets me, the one that are unappreciative of the blessings they do have.

Sedgeez, I was thinking like you...I thought stress could be a contributing factor, but them again I thought stress could delay af, but apparently it doesn't delay af, it delays O and because people who aren't in our boat and maybe don't know how the different stages of a woman's cycle work, think it delays af. Fxd your next bean is sticky!

Bobdog is there nothing they can do? It sucks how everything is just a ripple effect. I think if it was that we only had to deal with one thing it would be easier, but unfortunately with infertility one thing triggers another that triggers another that triggers another. Blah...

I hear a lot of people over in the UK and surrounding areas say they are on waiting lists for meds or procedures when it comes to IF. That's such a downfall. NHS will pay for a lot, but you have to wait for it or fall into those stupid guidelines. Here in America depending on insurance...most insurances don't pay for anything with IF, but you have all the access in the world to it if you have the money. Guess what I don't have...yep thousands of dollars or insurance that covers IF. If it's not onw thing it's another...such is life...lol.

Just gotta keep pushing through though. We will all get there ladies. Maybe we will start a ripple effect of bfps and this thread will turn into a huge BFP thread...fxd!

yeah that's one thing i don't want to happen... i know it may sound daft but i see these kinds of threads that post about so many people in it getting their BFP's etc, but that's what turns me away from them. don't get me wrong, i'm please that a fellow LTTTC'er gets their long awaited BFP, and i know they deserve them in every way. but it doesn't mean i'm ready to read about it and congratulate so many people thinking i'm the unlucky sod who has to stay behind, you know what i mean?

that's not to say i wouldn't be happy for anyone in here!! i would be thrilled for all of you if you got your BFP's!! and i would let you all know that. but i don't want to post it in the title thread because that would make other ltttc'ers not want to come in and see that really we are here to support each other through infertility.

i know it might not make sense, because i can't find the words to make it so i'm not downing people who do get BFP's. that's not my intention at all.

 

[BobDog]

I'm currently in a "I'M FINE DAMMIT" ragey phase trying to get through ovulation week!!

I'll be back in a couple of days when I'm in the TWW and ready to deal with the feelings

love this thread btw!!

i'll miss you my lover!

xx

 

[zanDark]

aawwwww I'm featured in your sig!

 

[BobDog]

yip yip!! as if i could pass up letting the world wide web know that you are virtually my wifey! hahaa!!

 

[sedgeez]

I agree...and I don't think that those come in who aren't ltttc mean any harm, but it still can be painful for some to read, and see the preggo tickers and spoilers. They don't me anymore, but I hate when I see someone that's preggo come in here and say things like "first u/s...so disappointed, only one baby". Really?!?!? I wish I had a first u/s to go to and see just my one baby on the screen. That's what gets me, the one that are unappreciative of the blessings they do have.

Sedgeez, I was thinking like you...I thought stress could be a contributing factor, but them again I thought stress could delay af, but apparently it doesn't delay af, it delays O and because people who aren't in our boat and maybe don't know how the different stages of a woman's cycle work, think it delays af. Fxd your next bean is sticky!

Bobdog is there nothing they can do? It sucks how everything is just a ripple effect. I think if it was that we only had to deal with one thing it would be easier, but unfortunately with infertility one thing triggers another that triggers another that triggers another. Blah...

I hear a lot of people over in the UK and surrounding areas say they are on waiting lists for meds or procedures when it comes to IF. That's such a downfall. NHS will pay for a lot, but you have to wait for it or fall into those stupid guidelines. Here in America depending on insurance...most insurances don't pay for anything with IF, but you have all the access in the world to it if you have the money. Guess what I don't have...yep thousands of dollars or insurance that covers IF. If it's not onw thing it's another...such is life...lol.

Just gotta keep pushing through though. We will all get there ladies. Maybe we will start a ripple effect of bfps and this thread will turn into a huge BFP thread...fxd!

yeah that's one thing i don't want to happen... i know it may sound daft but i see these kinds of threads that post about so many people in it getting their BFP's etc, but that's what turns me away from them. don't get me wrong, i'm please that a fellow LTTTC'er gets their long awaited BFP, and i know they deserve them in every way. but it doesn't mean i'm ready to read about it and congratulate so many people thinking i'm the unlucky sod who has to stay behind, you know what i mean?

that's not to say i wouldn't be happy for anyone in here!! i would be thrilled for all of you if you got your BFP's!! and i would let you all know that. but i don't want to post it in the title thread because that would make other ltttc'ers not want to come in and see that really we are here to support each other through infertility.

i know it might not make sense, because i can't find the words to make it so i'm not downing people who do get BFP's. that's not my intention at all.

i know what you mean, its hard to word it without sounding kind of bitter towards people, your happy for people but at the same time you dont want your face rubbed in it my 3 cousins pop kids out like no tomorrow, and as much as im happy for them, it makes me sad, that i try so hard and wish so much, and yet im still here with no bfp. i guess people just dont understand if they're not going through it.

i just hate the ungrateful people, like my brother, who really dont appreciate what they've got, id give anything for a child

 

[sedgeez]

I agree...and I don't think that those come in who aren't ltttc mean any harm, but it still can be painful for some to read, and see the preggo tickers and spoilers. They don't me anymore, but I hate when I see someone that's preggo come in here and say things like "first u/s...so disappointed, only one baby". Really?!?!? I wish I had a first u/s to go to and see just my one baby on the screen. That's what gets me, the one that are unappreciative of the blessings they do have.

Sedgeez, I was thinking like you...I thought stress could be a contributing factor, but them again I thought stress could delay af, but apparently it doesn't delay af, it delays O and because people who aren't in our boat and maybe don't know how the different stages of a woman's cycle work, think it delays af. Fxd your next bean is sticky!

Bobdog is there nothing they can do? It sucks how everything is just a ripple effect. I think if it was that we only had to deal with one thing it would be easier, but unfortunately with infertility one thing triggers another that triggers another that triggers another. Blah...

I hear a lot of people over in the UK and surrounding areas say they are on waiting lists for meds or procedures when it comes to IF. That's such a downfall. NHS will pay for a lot, but you have to wait for it or fall into those stupid guidelines. Here in America depending on insurance...most insurances don't pay for anything with IF, but you have all the access in the world to it if you have the money. Guess what I don't have...yep thousands of dollars or insurance that covers IF. If it's not onw thing it's another...such is life...lol.

Just gotta keep pushing through though. We will all get there ladies. Maybe we will start a ripple effect of bfps and this thread will turn into a huge BFP thread...fxd!

thank you

 

[uwa_amanda]

I'm currently in a "I'M FINE DAMMIT" ragey phase trying to get through ovulation week!!

I'll be back in a couple of days when I'm in the TWW and ready to deal with the feelings

love this thread btw!!

i'll miss you my lover!

xx

Just wanna let y'all know that you crack me up...now get a room!!!!!

 

[BobDog]

my sister is on here, but she doesn't know i'm me on here if you know what i mean...?? so i can't really go into to much detail... but she has had 2 terminations and has 2 children... guess who got the fertile genes! i get so angry at her, but i love my neice and nephew with all my heart. it makes me wonder how she could have even thought of terminating a pregnancy when she has 2 beautiful children. especially when she knows that me and DH have been trying for so long. it's heartbreaking! then she wonders why i don't turn to her when i feel miserable about my broken body.

 

[BobDog]

I'm currently in a "I'M FINE DAMMIT" ragey phase trying to get through ovulation week!!

I'll be back in a couple of days when I'm in the TWW and ready to deal with the feelings

love this thread btw!!

i'll miss you my lover!

xx

Just wanna let y'all know that you crack me up...now get a room!!!!!

NOW THERE'S AN IDEA!!!!

lol!!

 

[No Doubt]

I completely understand what you are saying Bobdog and I don't think it sounds bad. Of course we are happy when a fellow ltttcer gets their bfp...I think it gives us hope. The bfps used to bother me, and while they don't anymore I agree that people shouldn't post bfp info in the titles and what not. I do think that's a bit inconsiderate, especially considering just the day before they were in our shoes so they know how it feels.

I could never imagine terminating a pregnancy. I understand everyone has a choice but I just personally don't agree with it. I never have and it goes against my religious beliefs. That is like a punch in the gut when I hear of someone terming a pregnancy or doing thing to try to lose the pregnancy.

 

[BobDog]

I completely understand what you are saying Bobdog and I don't think it sounds bad. Of course we are happy when a fellow ltttcer gets their bfp...I think it gives us hope. The bfps used to bother me, and while they don't anymore I agree that people shouldn't post bfp info in the titles and what not. I do think that's a bit inconsiderate, especially considering just the day before they were in our shoes so they know how it feels.

I could never imagine terminating a pregnancy. I understand everyone has a choice but I just personally don't agree with it. I never have and it goes against my religious beliefs. That is like a punch in the gut when I hear of someone terming a pregnancy or doing thing to try to lose the pregnancy.

i'm not relidgious and i don't go to church, but i was brought up in a christian home and still hold a lot of the morals from the christian community. and i don't agree with termination, and that's why i find it all the more difficult to accept what my sister has done because in my eye's she killed one of Gods angels. she never even gave the poor wee things a chance to have a life. there are so many other options. i would have adopted them no questions asked! i think that's why i resent her so much.

 

[No Doubt]

Hmm...you adopting her kids never crossed my mind but you're right and that's a wonderful idea. Considering that she knows your situation I can understand how you've come to resent her. But don't worry...you will have your miracle soon enough and then hopefully you'll be one of those people where it seems like a pregnancy and baby fixes all their fertility issues, and you'll have all the miracles you want!

 

[CanadianMaple]

I feel lonely too. I haven't talked to anyone in my "real life" about what we are going through lately, we may end up using donor sperm and don't want everyone to know. So, it's so difficult to vent about how we're actually sterile right now, with a 0% chance of pregnancy, and I feel like my marriage is starting to suffer now too. I think we are going to start counseling, I feel like a wreck.

Since we found out our diagnosis, we have heard of 22 pregnancy announcements from our friends (close and distant, including cousins.) I just got hit with two this weekend and two births last week.

I feel like I am drowning.

 

[No Doubt]

I'm sorry to hear that Maple. Is there anything that they can do about his hormone levels or to try to increase or guess produce sperm in him? Then possibly icsi for you two? I know what you mean about not wanting everyone to know. Our fs threw diui at us at our last appt, along with icsi and it definitely knocked us off our feet. I only have just a few people in my life that I can actually talk to about this, and even then I don't want them to know everything.

I think counseling is a good idea cause dealing with IF can definitely cause marital issues. I think we've all been there at some point or another. Maybe even try getting back to some of the Things you guys used to do for fun...try to rekindle things to what it was like before ttc. We had to do that. It's not easy but it helped us to relax a bit cause we were focusing on us instead of a baby all the time. I guess it brought a healthy balance between our life and the life if ttc/ltttc back. Its easy to let this journey take over thing without even realizing it, but you two will make it work and make the perfect decision for yourselves and your future family.

 

[BobDog]

https://cdn.indulgy.com/Q9/e4/t7/286611963755348817wYMYaxTWc.jpg

saw this and thought i'd share...

i think i'll get that on a t-shirt!

 

[StephieB]

Me me me!! I would love to join another thread where I can scream and shout and moan when I need to!

I know a lot of you on here, but for those that don't know me we have been TTC for 27months with one miscarriage last September. All tests come back fine so in the ever so annoying 'unexplained' category. However waiting for an appointment with specialist to confirm hypospermia is the issues...knowing the NHS its going to be September before we get one!

I kept quiet about our IF for a very long time, and didn't post on BnB for a very long time because all the people I had made friends with were moving over to first and second trimester! But I finally started posting in here, came out to our friends and family and started a blog to document the whole thing, and since doing so my outlook on it has gotten ever so slightly brighter, but I would say that as I'm currently 2dpo and still in the stage of hopeful denial! In about 12 days I'll need you ladies to talk me down off the ledge!

 

[smallstar]

I would very much like to be part of this!!!!

Ive had the weekend from hell and it all erupted last night and feel so drained and tired of IF i have run out of tears anger...EVEYTHING.....feel really REALLY lonely at the minute and kind of just numb

x

 

[BobDog]

I would very much like to be part of this!!!!

Ive had the weekend from hell and it all erupted last night and feel so drained and tired of IF i have run out of tears anger...EVEYTHING.....feel really REALLY lonely at the minute and kind of just numb

x

IF is far tougher than so many think. and i forget so often that it's actually OK to feel what you feel. it's frustrating, draining and just damn painful month after month. and we may feel lonely, and sometimes that's the worst part.

but in here i hope that we can all feel a sense of friendship and have that one thing in common - the day to day struggles with LTTTC and IF.

if you want to tell us what's making you feel so much and so little at the same time, then please do... i know that letting it out, is far better than keeping it tucked away in little boxes in our heads, cos we soon run out of boxes.