LTTTC and feeling alone... lets get together.

[sedgeez]

That sucks wannabe. Hopefully for her sake she'll come around cause like you said she'll miss out...not you. And she's on the down slope of life. She should be cherishing these years with her family not behaving this way. But I know where you are coming from. My family doesn't speak to me...their choice, because there lives are in a bad place and I'm not gonna be their punching bag. So if they can't take their anger out on me, then they want nothing to do with me. Have it your way is what I say, cause they will miss out on holding her grandchild and his niece/nephew. I'll be there everyday for it. My own skipped out on walking me down the isle two weeks before my wedding with some bullshit excuse. My husband was pissed because I wad hurt, but I told him not to worry about it cause karma's a bitch. My wedding was 2 days before thanksgiving, so thanksgiving wad at our place. My brother ended up being 5 hours away with people he didn't like and that don't like him, and couldn't none of them cook. His car was broken so when he came to his senses he couldn't even come if he wanted. He could have been with family eating food that I prepared out of love.

So be mad. I know it hurts right now but your wedding will be beautiful and one of the best days of your life...regardless who is there!

i totally agree with this

 

[wannabemummyb]

Thanks No Doubt. I was upset at the weekend but i feel calmer now.....as my dad says, the people I love and who love me will be there! Anyone who chooses to make the day about them do not deserve to be there!
The most important thing is df and I become man and wife

 

[BobDog]

Thanks No Doubt. I was upset at the weekend but i feel calmer now.....as my dad says, the people I love and who love me will be there! Anyone who chooses to make the day about them do not deserve to be there!
The most important thing is df and I become man and wife

that'll be your happily ever after - well the start of it anyway.

 

[No Doubt]

Glad you are feeling better wannabe. When is the special day? I'm so excited for you, but I love weddings and hearing all about the dresses and colors and blah blah blah...I'm a bit of a softy in that area. Of course it's completely different and stressful when it's your own wedding to plan and the softy turns into the bitchy...lol.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Glad you are feeling better wannabe. When is the special day? I'm so excited for you, but I love weddings and hearing all about the dresses and colors and blah blah blah...I'm a bit of a softy in that area. Of course it's completely different and stressful when it's your own wedding to plan and the softy turns into the bitchy...lol.

2 months and 26 days. i don't think i have been a bridezilla....hopefully not! We are having a 1940s theme....purple is our colour. I can't wait!

 

[BobDog]

WOOHOOO!!! i love a theme wedding!! i'm always jealous of them, because i wasn't allowed any theme cos my MIL didn't like it.

 

[No Doubt]

I love it! I'm so excited for you...and just under three months, getting close. Are you nervous?

 

[wannabemummyb]

I love it! I'm so excited for you...and just under three months, getting close. Are you nervous?

Strangely not nervous at all! I am so excited to be marry df, i guess the only thing i am nervous about is him liking the dress and everyone looking at me!

How are you all today?

 

[sedgeez]

I love it! I'm so excited for you...and just under three months, getting close. Are you nervous?

Strangely not nervous at all! I am so excited to be marry df, i guess the only thing i am nervous about is him liking the dress and everyone looking at me!

How are you all today?

congratulations!! i bet you cant wait! and im sure he will love the dress

todays been abit crappy today, just family stuff really but it really puts me in a mood
you?

 

[wannabemummyb]

Thanks huni. Hope so

I'm ok ta, had a weird day at work, one of my colleagues (20years old) found out she has a cancerous brain tumour!

 

[sedgeez]

Thanks huni. Hope so

I'm ok ta, had a weird day at work, one of my colleagues (20years old) found out she has a cancerous brain tumour!

thats awful!! i hope everything works out ok for her.

 

[No Doubt]

Wow...I hope your coworker is ok wannabe.

Sorry you're having a bad sedgeez. Feel free to get it off your chest. I hope your day gets better.

AFM I'm good. I realized yesterday afternoon that I'm in state of euphoria right now for some reason and I'm really not sure why, but I'm gonna roll with. Gotta snag these moments as they are few and far between.

Hope everyone else is having a great day!

 

[sedgeez]

Wow...I hope your coworker is ok wannabe.

Sorry you're having a bad sedgeez. Feel free to get it off your chest. I hope your day gets better.

AFM I'm good. I realized yesterday afternoon that I'm in state of euphoria right now for some reason and I'm really not sure why, but I'm gonna roll with. Gotta snag these moments as they are few and far between.

Hope everyone else is having a great day!

thanks, theres not really much to say tbh, its too long winded but i just feel fed up

and definitely take the euphoric moment!!!! make it last

just wondering nodoubt, if im not mistaken ive read on another post you have pcos, i was wondering what kind of symptoms there are? im think i might have it from things ive read.

 

[No Doubt]

The symptoms include irregular periods/lack of cycles, weight gain, difficulty losing weight, heavy facial hair/hair in places you wouldn't normally expect, increased testosterone levels, lack of O, dry dark skin splotches.

These are just some of the ones I know of...a few I have. My cycles used to be extrememly irregular. When I was 19 I actually skipped 5 cycles and thought I was preggo cause the times lined up...I wish I had that problem now...lol, but I skip 2 months here three months there, then right before I got married I had my period for about 6 weeks straight very heavy. Ever since then they've been like clockwork with no help from anything. I also have the dark dry splotches. I thought it was cause of my exzema which is really only on my index fingers, but my gyno that diagnosed me told me that wasn't the case, and that a lot of time people with pcos do have exzema. I don't have excessive hair growth, but I do get like 2 or 3 little chin hairs that are thick and dark. And obviously the weight gain and difficulty losing weight.

I'm not sure what kicked in with my cycles but I'm glad that they are at least regular now and I O on my own. I'm always afraid that they will become irregular again, cause that used to happen too.

 

[sedgeez]

The symptoms include irregular periods/lack of cycles, weight gain, difficulty losing weight, heavy facial hair/hair in places you wouldn't normally expect, increased testosterone levels, lack of O, dry dark skin splotches.

These are just some of the ones I know of...a few I have. My cycles used to be extrememly irregular. When I was 19 I actually skipped 5 cycles and thought I was preggo cause the times lined up...I wish I had that problem now...lol, but I skip 2 months here three months there, then right before I got married I had my period for about 6 weeks straight very heavy. Ever since then they've been like clockwork with no help from anything. I also have the dark dry splotches. I thought it was cause of my exzema which is really only on my index fingers, but my gyno that diagnosed me told me that wasn't the case, and that a lot of time people with pcos do have exzema. I don't have excessive hair growth, but I do get like 2 or 3 little chin hairs that are thick and dark. And obviously the weight gain and difficulty losing weight.

I'm not sure what kicked in with my cycles but I'm glad that they are at least regular now and I O on my own. I'm always afraid that they will become irregular again, cause that used to happen too.

hmmm.. ive suffered with irregular cycles for about a year now and a few times skipped them all together. my af is about 4 weeks late, when it was 2 weeks late i did a hpt and got a bfn ive not tested again since, i was putting it off coz i just know the answer, but im getting some tests tomorrow. but also at a similar time when my cycles went irregular, i started putting on weight quite fast which is unusual for me, and i havent been able to shift it no matter what i do, and ive recently started getting acne which ive never got before and im sure i read somewhere that it can be a symptom.
ive only been to my gp a couple of times regarding ttc and now shes gone on mat leave, and all the other docs are idiots. i just dont feel comfortable going, but if the next test is a bfn then im going to go, because there must be something wrong

 

[No Doubt]

Yeah that sounds like me. I used to be 160...pretty much since I was maybe 13. Once I hit my growth spurt I completely stepped into a woman's body. But I have big boobs, big butt, and big thighs...runs in both sides of the family. But at least when I was 160 it was all healthy and toned, flat stomach, abs...a nice solid build. I stayed that way until maybe 17 or 18 and then the weight just started piling on. I gained 20lbs in a year, another 20 within a semester, and I was even working out, going on fast speed walks, hitting the gym. Then I had to be put on a steroid at one point and gained 30lbs. Yo-yoed for a while and finally hit 250. I would get winded walking up my stairs, and I live in a cape cod so it's really only 1.5 stories. But I finally broke down to my doctor one visit because I was having lower back pain everyday and my left leg was starting to go numb...both from the pressure of my weight on sciatica. He prescribed me phentermine, the generic for adapex, an appetite suppressant. And it's been working, but I've also been eating better and working out...trying to stay active. So I'm finally back at 200 which is comfortable for me considering I have bigger features but would like to lose 20 more to really get my body in shape.

It really does just seem like it comes out of no where. Probably for about 5 years I dealt with the whole irregular cycle, yoyo weight issue and it was like as soon as fast as it all came on 5 years later it all stopped just as quick. I do however think that the exercise does help though. It seemed like when my cycle would be normal I would be working out and then a couple months after I stopped it would jack up again. But you should definitely see someone if you keep getting a bfn with no af. I can't tell you how many tests I've went through wondering if I was pg or if it was just another irregular cycle.

 

[Kimiw]

I would like to join this thread, me and DH have been TTC for 6 years so I have a lot to say lol. As much as I know that DH wants this child as much as I do, he can't talk about it all day like I can. There are days where I feel like all I want to do is talk about my frustration with ttc, he listens, but only for a short time before the TV has distracted him, and I want more then just a "uh huh, and I know what you mean" answer that I get from him 99% of the time! I love him to death but some days I don't know if he completley understands how I am feeling.

 

[No Doubt]

Welcome Kim! We know exactly what you mean about the hubby. I call it the "manswer". Unfortunately i really think that's just the way men are. I've said something about it to my hubby and he just shrugs his shoulders and says he doesn't have anything to say...another manswer. I've gotten him to break out of his shell a little bit more, but not by much, so i come here and write novels...lol.