Lucky thread

[cupcake1981]

Mrs d I was just thinking that out of all of us, you are the only one that I have no idea what you look like, unless you are in fact a cuddley white duck!

Well we've finally agreed on paint to match our paper and have been getting rid of final bits in the nursery ready to decorate! I'm rubbing out of space to put the bits I've bought so told hubby he needs to get his finger out and get started so I can put baby boys things away at least! Furniture is supposed to come next Friday 14th!

What's everyone up to. We're being pretty lazy today after yesterday's escapades.....feeling quite sad to go back to work in Monday x

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw bailey 49 it's only your first go I'm sure that will lower after a few tries

Oh cupcake you couldn't have been on the thread when we all posted pics of ourselves ?? Ok I'll post one of me too

You deserve a lazy day after your action packed one in London, it's always horrible going back to work after being off xx

Barbecue for dinner yummmmm xx

 

[AmyB1978]

hi ladies! I am still at work but am the only one here, the girl I was meant to work with showed up sick so I had her stay a bit to get things settled and then sent her on her merry way. Our appointments are all done for the day so the Dr is also gone. It means I get paid to play but it also means I have almost 2 hours with nobody here and, possibly, nothing to do but miss my baby. I made the Dr watch the front/phones before she left for the day so I could go pump Just because I am here alone doesn't mean I am willing to risk leaking/engorgement or messing up my supply. My boobs are hurting anyhow, I think it's gonna be a long few hours until I get to feed my girl again.

Bailey, I hope you enjoyed the walk with DF, Bailey, and Millie. It was probably nice to have family time, it sounds like with DF's work you don't get much of it.

Cupcake, we need an updated bump pics and, of course, pictures of the nursery when you get it sorted. It will be "sod's law" that as soon as the room is done you will get an offer on the house!

Sath, hope you are having a good weekend and that you are doing well. You are right, when Emily is sleeping on me like that, especially when I know I need to leave her for work in a few hours, it is very tempting to just stay up cuddling.

MrsD, avoid the boat as long as you possibly can! I see you lurking, does this mean hubby is starving and still waiting?

Cheryl, glad Leo had a better night... hopefully it continues to improve!

AFM, thanks for the advice re: Emily. I am going to show it to DH and either make an appointment with her pediatrician again and make her REALLY look at it or, likely, try to find someone else to take her to. The problem is I would love to take her to a specialist who might be less likely to brush it off if it could be an issue but the one I had figured I could try calling doesn't even see the baby until imaging (ultrasound and/or MRI) has been done. I don't know where to take her for the 2nd opinion.

 

[baileybubs]

Mmmmm I love BBQ food mrs d!!

I had one of those birds eye fish fusions for tea with potatoes and veg. It was pollack fillet with chilli and lime coating, was delicious!!!

Aw Amy sorry you are bored Hun! Like you say it's good to be paid to do nothing but at the same time all you wanna do is go home!!

I had to have a little nap after going on the wii fit, was shattered haha!!

Cupcake I always hate going back to work after a holiday. But it won't be too long til your mat leave now will it? I bet you cannot wait!! And yay for getting all the nursery stuff sorted!

 

[cupcake1981]

Why do you have to stay Amy if its quiet and there's noone there? Can you store your milk for use later on?

Ill do a bump pic later and try and upload tomo as its a bit of a pain. Heartburn is killing me today . I was feeling all sad earlier that we are spending all this money and love doing LBCCs room up and he may never even use it. I think we may take the flat off the market for a few months and go back on in the new year, just to feel settled for a bit. I'm sick of this now we've been trying to sell for for 15 months x

 

[baileybubs]

Aw cupcake maybe that would be an idea, but would you be happy in that flat with a toddler if it took a while to sell once you put it back on the market?

 

[cupcake1981]

Well I'm not going to be happy here with a newborn but we don't have much choice! I don't know of taking it off and then putting it back on might be better as all the people that are looking now will have bought what they want and it will go on as a new listing, rather than our flatt being at the bottom of the list as an old listing!

 

[AmyB1978]

Bailey, yay for a yummy tea and a nap!

Cupcake, taking it off the market for now is probably a good idea as long, like Bailey said, as you can cope there for awhile with LBCC. I know it was a nightmare when we moved and I was only about 17 weeks or so (I can't remember) pregnant. I can't imagine having to deal with it on short notice later in pregnancy or with a newborn. Your entire lives are about to change (in an amazing way but that doesn't make it any less stressful) why not have one constant of where you live, at least to start.

As for work, I can't leave because we are open until 2pm on Saturdays and sometimes patients stop in to pick up glasses or contact lenses, to pick out eyeglass frames, call to schedule an appointment, etc. There've been a few stop ins but mainly I am just sitting here on BNB!

As for storing milk, yes... it can be kept in fridge or frozen. She is actually still going through all the milk I pumped when she was in the NICU as I made so much and she didn't take hardly any of it. Frozen milk can be kept anywhere from 3-6 months, depending what source you are looking at. Supposedly you can tell if it has gone bad and I hate to have to throw it away so I plan on trying to use it up as much as possible until it smells off or it has hit the 6 month mark.

I only pump now on Saturdays that I work so she is drinking NICU mama milk and the milk I pump is also getting frozen, for later use. Ideally I will pump what she takes that day in order to keep a "stash." If not, I try to make sure I pump at least once when I am at work (though depending on the day that could be hard.) Technically anytime baby gets a bottle you should pump to keep your supply up (breastfeeding is total supply and demand) but I was told if I can't manage to pump that it won't hurt my supply just one day a week. I am so paranoid about my supply/something screwing up our breastfeeding that I plan on trying to make sure I am pumping what she has taken when I am away at some point that day (even if it has to be before I go to work or after I get home.) This morning I chose to nurse her an extra time and didn't get to pump before I left home. (sorry that was a long winded answer and probably more info then you needed!)

 

[cupcake1981]

No it's interesting Amy, I really want to BF but it does seem like quite a minefield and very scientific! I have bought a book on it but not read it yet as I figure ill probably forget it by the time I have him! I'm mostly worried about not being able to do it or just not producing any thing, but my mum managed to bf me so hopefully ill be all good. Don't know whether to buy all the bottles and stuff b4hand as they are expensive, or just to see how I get on.

Well we defo won't move b4 he's born, a sale and purchase take like 12 weeks to go thru, and that's on a straightforward chain! My main concern is that my salary will drop significantly when I go back part time so be best to get a mortgage offer while I'm still technically full time employed (which technically I will be even on mat leave).

How much longer do you have to go at work? It's 19:20 pm here, not sure on time difference! X

 

[AmyB1978]

I've got 25 more minutes of work, then 35 minutes or so to drive home so I will see my girl in just about an hour.. which is good... my girls are aching for my girl! If she isn't super hungry when I get home I think I am going to need to pump again.

If I were you I wouldn't buy a pump or anything expensive that is breastfeeding or bottle feeding specific just yet. I also wouldn't spend a lot on any one bottle as some babies are particular and will only take a certain kind (whether formula fed or breastfed with the occasional bottle.) So many women have trouble breastfeeding so I'd recommend making sure you can get it established before spending much... DH can always run to the store and get things if need be. I didn't read much on breastfeeding beforehand, just some minimal things that were in my pregnancy book. I figured it made more sense to try it out and then read up on any specific issues I was having, which is what I did and it has seemed to work.

If you are set on breastfeeding, give it a good try but try not to be too disappointed if it doesn't work out, as it can be hard and challenging and it isn't for every baby or Mama. I am lucky that we managed to make it work. After feeling like my body failed her (even though she was ultimately ok) when she came at 34 weeks and struggled those few weeks in the NICU... after having to pump for her and not be able to feed her, having to wake up to an alarm and hook myself to a pump instead of a warm snuggle with my daughter, etc... I was hell-bent that it would work and, thank God, it has. I still get very emotional over breastfeeding, it was the thing in the beginning that always set me off and it still can.

Cupcake, that is true regarding the mortgage and was partially why DH and I moved/bought our home when we did. We'd been renting and wanted to stay (it was one bedroom but we figured we could make it work) there for another year (until the baby was almost 1) but then we realized if we were going to qualify to rent a bigger place or buy a place we needed to do it on two incomes, we never would have qualified now.

Sath, I see you here... Hi!

 

[SATH]

Cheryl sounds like you had a good night. A friend's baby had reflux it was really hard for a while then it just disappeared overnight. Bless he looks a little cutie love the idea of Buzz cut hair.

Bailey my Wii fit age was so much worse it's embarrassing! hope you had a lovely afternoon nap love those.

Cupcake can't wait to see bump pic. Think I would take flat off market too like you say it never looks good as an old listing. You need to feel settled as everything around you changes. I've not tried soy but I brought some a few months back but I've been too scared to try but I will try July cycle if no luck June.

Amy hope not much longer till you get to go home and see Emily. Sounds like you are doing great with bf and pumping.

Mrs d how's your day bet you've had great weather.

I had a look for shoes I'm so not a shoe girl. Got some cute pumps in the end. OH was up early working today any excuse to escape housework! I went to see my friend and 2 Godsons this afternoon so been playing football for 2 hours apparently I rubbish, cheek. Shattered now and I have a date with the ironing while oh miss the lawns.

 

[baileybubs]

Cupcake I can see the dilemma about a mortgage offer coz that's exactly our issue now. Basically if I don't get my ideal perfect job I don't intend going back to work full time for at least the next 2-4 years coz we want baby number 2, but that means we may struggle to get a decent mortgage so no idea what we are gonna do for the best. We love our house we are in now though, and I would quite happily stay here until we can afford a mortgage so it's not as big of a problem for us.
I agree with what Amy said though about needing a constant in your life. I never realised how much I would struggle adapting to being a mummy, I'd imagine it would be quite hard to move when you have a newborn. And maybe as a new listing it will be more likely to sell once you put it back on the market. What does your dh think?

Amy yay for being nearly finished and get to go home to Emily!!
I get what you mean about the breast feeding. I still feel a little sad that we couldn't do it but I know that we gave it 100%, she just couldn't seem to latch at all. At first they thought she had tongue tie but one midwife said (sorry tmi here) that coz I've got big boobs she thinks my nipples were too broad for Emilia to get it into her mouth properly. Combined with the fact that she was impatient (best way to describe it as she's always frantic to get her feeds) and we just couldn't do it. We kept trying for 3 days though and I was expressing the whole time and giving it to her. Weirdly I never got anything from my left boob!!
I wish I had actually just carried on expressing though and continued giving her that rather than formula, but never mind. I think I actually felt like a bit of a failure coz only one boob seemed to be working lol!!

Sath it's Saturday night sod the ironing lol!! I don't do ironing unless its needed haha. I'm so lazy. I used to iron df's chef whites but I hated it so much and he doesn't even care that his chef whites are creased so I stopped lol. And most of my clothes don't need ironing.

 

[SATH]

I hate ironing too I'm thinking a glass of wine and DVD instead. Sat down for few mins now I don't wanna move plus I have my Millie cat on knee she needs some momma time time

 

[AmyB1978]

Bailey don't feel bad, you tried your best and so many babies just aren't good at breastfeeding. And don't feel bad for not expressing and feeding expressed milk either. As important as breastfeeding was to me, after pumping/feeding/supplementing in those first few weeks I seriously doubt that I could have done full-time pumping/feeding from a bottle unless I had an army of help. It consumes so much time to pump, then feed, then clean pump, etc. If for some reason she stopped feeding off the breast well I think we'd just do formula, or maybe try to do one breast milk bottle... I just think I would be a better Mommy to her not trying to do all that, if that makes sense. again, you are NOT a failure in any way!

Gots to go see my girl... work is over!!! WOO HOO

 

[cupcake1981]

Thanks for all the info Amy, you are right tho and I just have to see how it goes and be prepared to do what is best for baby.

Sath my friend at work used soy last month and got her bfp, she had been trying for number for several months, and it took her many years to conceive no.1. It defo helped her!

 

[baileybubs]

Thanks Amy, I know myself that I did everything, one midwife said to me that some babies just can't do it, just every now and again I wish we could have. But she did get 3 days worth and they say even a bit is good for them.
Yay for going home to Emily!!!

Cupcake I think that you will figure something out, that's what I keep telling myself about our living situation lol!! And even if you only end up having LBCC in there just for a few weeks/months it will still be worth decorating and preparing it for him.

Sath definitely a good plan, wine and DVD! I've just moved my basket of laundry out of sight lol, it was sat on the sofa glaring at me to be put away but I can't be bothered!

 

[cupcake1981]

Aw enjoy your bubba Amy hope she is super hungry for you!

Bailey I have massive nips at the mo, my noobs are an eyesore at the moment lol, like roadmap a with all the blue veins and my nips are going a lovely shade of lumpy brown! Maybe ill have the sane issue!

I think baby boy is facing inwards and is constantly on my bladder and kicking me in what feels like my bowels!!

 

[baileybubs]

Cupcake - Yeah I had (well still do have really) giant burger nips lol!! Df was amazed at how massive my nipples got. They don't seem to come to a point if you know what I mean, the nipples aren't inverted but the aureola around it is very flat if you will, and too wide for her to get a grip with her mouth........if any of that makes sense lol!!!

Oh my god, I've just seen that they appear to be televising the trial of Oscar Pistorious! I hope that means just coverage of what's goin on not anything from the actual trial like they did with Michael Jackson!

 

[cupcake1981]

Yeah mine were ways big but they need their own postcode these days lol! Haha my hubby calls them burger nips to!

Really? What channel?

 

[baileybubs]

On sky, I didn't get which one but I think sky one.

Aw bless LBCC for kicking his mummy's bladder lol! Are you feeling him all the time now?