Lucky thread

[WestEndMum]

Baileybubs, yes it was a natural mc. Tbh the healthcare people we have seen have not been very helpful. When we went to the hospital on Wednesday, I had 2 scans, internal and normal and the mid wife just said she couldn't see anything. She took some blood and said I was to get more blood taken on Friday (tomorrow). I was in for less than 5 minutes and felt they weren't helpful at all, they didn't offer any pain relief or advice at all. I was left wondering if I had even been pregnant and if it hadn't been for all the symptoms I would have doubted myself.
I have learned more from reading threads like this than I did from any of the professionals I saw. I didn't even get the chance to ask any questions.

 

[Tawn]

WestEndMum, I don't think there IS a right response hun. it is honestly whatever gets you through day to day as you go through the grieving process. For me it was obsessing about TTC straight away, it kept me together. But I did have to face up to my grief when my AF showed, and random times over the months afterwards too, because you never really get over it. So give yourself a lot of leniency and be kind to yourself, hun!

Bailey, I feel fine today! I don't know if you read, but I was pretty darn open about the fact that DH and I dtd for the first time since BFP and I was very happy about it! Honestly, my main symptoms right now are just some tiredness, sore nips (since O, though), some occasional AF-type gentle cramps and dizziness (which is apparently because your blood pressure drops? I thought I was imagining it lol I feel drunk!) Did blood work today and will hopefully get it back tomorrow so I don't have to wait till Tuesday! How about you?

 

[WestEndMum]

sorry for those of you who asked, the mc started on Sunday and I would say that I passed the sac yesterday and since then the bleeding and pain has been less

 

[cupcake1981]

Westend that is unfortunately quite a common situation, it seems like ladies in the us get a lot more care after mc than we do here ( mostly cos they pay lots for insurance), but it is sad that we are just sent away and made to get in with it with no support, and like you I have learned more from the ladies on bnb than from any doctor! Have you stopped bleeding now? x

 

[baileybubs]

Oh I know the nhs are just rubbish at treating mc's with any ounce of empathy or care (in my experience anyway) Westendmum. My local epu told me to go away when I was bleeding for over a week and I was worried, fair enough I now know that it wasnt something to worry about but at the time I didnt!!! Any questions feel free to ask us, theres bound to be one of us knows the answer. And as for ttc I think if you feel emotionally ready for ttc again and for being pregnant again then I think you could ttc as soon as you like. You are more fertile after a mc. But maybe I would contact your epu and see if they will do a follow up scan just to check everything has cleared from your womb.

 

[WestEndMum]

No I am still bleeding but it is much less than before and I am not in pain anymore. The last couple of days, the pain was really quite bad and had to take hubby's painkillers for his back to get any relief at all.

 

[Tawn]

Cupcake, yup! Back in March alot of us m/c around the same time and Poppy started this thread for people who were trying before their first AF. So many of them got their bfps right away, that eventually Poppy was kind enough to change it to the "Lucky Thread" for us ladies it took a bit longer for. But a lot of the preggos you see pop in every now and again to say hello were from when we were trying before AF! Believe me, this thread is so lucky, I think about 10-15 bfps have been here since March and I know you are all next!

WestEnd, I know what you mean! My nurses told me that they didn't even expect me to bleed so to just go home (mine was ectopic) and when I did start bleeding (for 7 days) I had no idea you couldn't use tampons until I came onto BnB, they told me NOTHING! I think, sadly, they are just too used to it if that makes sense? Maybe they forget that a woman's entire world just caved in, when for them it is just a day at the office?

 

[baileybubs]

Oh yes I did read that Tawn, yay!!! I have to say the one time we dtd after our bfp was very good, but it took me a while to feel 'in the mood' coz I was worrying, although I have no idea why!! Do you think you'll be able to do it more now?I have wanted to with oh recently but he's always at work til nearly 11pm by which time I'm shattered, and I get up at like 7am and he doesnt!! So we just never have time. Have to say I've had some vivid dtd dreams hahaha!! Why is it that when ttc we have bfp dreams and when preggo I get dtd dreams lol!!

 

[cupcake1981]

Aw Hun I'm sorry you are in pain, it's the worst having to go through the physical stuff whilst grieving for your baby to. It does sound like you are probably through the worst if you have passed the sak though, and pain can be intense and way worse than period cramps (and mine was just post operative pain and bleeding, not even my body trying to expel anything!)

 

[baileybubs]

Oh this is hard to keep up with everyone lol!!

Hi again cupcake!! Its normally so quiet on here this time of night, normally just me you and mrs d lol!! Speaking of, where did mrs d go?

I love it when its all chatty!! So glad Ive got my new laptop to type on yay!!

 

[MrsDuck]

Bailey did you read Poppy's post earlier she had a dream Christian grey whisked her away to a fancy hotel haha xx

Unfortunately I very rarely remember my dreams

 

[baileybubs]

Westendmum did you say they didnt give you any painkillers?? I got given dyhydrocodeine! It was still mega painful though. As cupcake said though I think if you have passed the sack then physically you are over the worst.

 

[MrsDuck]

I'm still here x

 

[baileybubs]

Oh yeah I did read that too mrs d, doh!!!! My brain is so forgetful!! I read it just before I made my tea so by the time I came back on the laptop i forgot, I knew someone had mentioned that dream but I couldnt remember who, sorry Tawn!

 

[baileybubs]

Sorry mrs d I think I'm just getting lost and confused with everyone so chatty lol!! You did indeed just say that you had missed eastenders didnt you? Seriously think my brain is dying lol!!

 

[cupcake1981]

Tawn you hit the nail on the head as per usual, it is just a day in the office to them and they do forget that we have just lost the thing most previous to us in the whole world, it's all very tough

 

[WestEndMum]

No they didn't give me any painkillers, they never asked how I was feeling or really showed any empathy at all. I did actually tell the nurse that I had been in pain. By the time I got home, I found it really difficult to move around at all without being in pain. I found the whole experience quite odd. I came away not really sure if I had had a mc or not.

 

[MrsDuck]

At least you have an excuse for preggo brain bailey I'm permanently like that haha

 

[cupcake1981]

Lol baby brain bailey! I didn't believe in it til I was preggo and had the worse case of it ever, in fact I think I still have it at times, or maybe I was always loopy and didn't know!

 

[MrsDuck]

Gosh this thread moves fast tonight