Lucky thread

[cupcake1981]

Sulking in my bedroom mostly!

 

[baileybubs]

Aw cupcake that's horrible! How did you find out that they knew? It's not up to anyone else to tell them something like that at all! I don't blame you fr being upset. What has dh had to say about it?

 

[cupcake1981]

SIL told him on the phone that she knew! I feel totally let down by them. I hate the thought that all the rest of his family probably know now to cos they will all have been gossiping about me. I'm just so angry and really finding it hard not to get stressed out for baby's sake. He's not said much at all, but I hope he pulls them up on it and I get an apology or at least an explanation as to why they felt they were allowed to discuss my private life behind my back.

 

[cupcake1981]

The worst of it is his mum has had mcs so should know how I feel. At the end if the day I don't go about randomly discussing my smear tests and stuff with his family, it's no different them discussing other things going on with that area of my body, but just because its to do with us having a baby it's some how acceptable to discuss me in that way? Arrrrrggghhhhhh!!!!

 

[AmyB1978]

Ttc,

Bailey, so sorry about your Nana. I have this odd belief that when a soul passes just before one is conceived or born that they pass each other somehow, maybe Millie is meeting your Nana now and will always have her as her guardian angel. I am so glad you got to see her and have those memories. Big hugs for you

Cupcake, sorry your in-laws told the others about your miscarriages, that sucks and is just plain wrong.

 

[baileybubs]

Don't worry about being upset or stressed and how it affects the baby too much, it can be worse if you don't allow yourself to feel your emotions and bottle them up.
You have every right to be angry about it too and I hope dh understands that (my in laws, MIL mainly, can be a pain with this sort of thing and I never feel like df supports me coz he's a wuss!!).

 

[cupcake1981]

Amy I hold that same belief, my paternal grandfather died very close to when I was conceived and I have often felt bonded to him by that, even tho i never met him xx

 

[cupcake1981]

He better say something about it to them, otherwise this is just gonna eat away at me and cause resentment and that's not really the relationship I want with my inlaws.

 

[baileybubs]

It's weird coz whilst I have been pregnant with Millie both mine and df's grandmother have passed away. So she's going to be named after them both. I am funny with what I believe in coz sometimes I can be skeptical, but I do believe in people looking out for us and watching over us. I believe in guardian angels, I have always felt like I had my other grandma watching out for me and my brother as she passed away when I was 3, just before my brother was conceived.

 

[baileybubs]

Yeah you need to get dh to have a word and ask why people have been discussing that without your permission.

 

[cupcake1981]

It's kind of a comforting thought I think.

He's gonna have a word, then his mum will get all upset, and well be the bad guys in all this.

I caught lots of people looking at my belly today at work, something popped out overnight lol! Think I'm gonna have to tell soon although I already people have guessed from my tummy!

 

[baileybubs]

They'll get over it though Hun, you have to say your piece and if they chose to take it overly sensitively then that's their own fault, you have a valid point to just say that you have been upset that they have discussed something that was private to YOU, about YOUR body, and what you specifically asked them not to tell anyone. They need to understand boundaries and even if they do feel like you are the bad guys and they have done nothing wrong, they will get the point and won't do anything like it again.

 

[baileybubs]

I've learnt all this the hard way recently with my in laws, and was relieved when BIL and SIL told me that they went through the same struggles with MIL when they first got together and had their own house and had kids. Everyone gets a bit grumbly about it for a few days and then it's forgotten but in laws will then at least be put in their place on where they stand when it comes to your private business.

 

[cupcake1981]

Yeah you are right bailey, I have to make sure hubs goes say something now as this needs to get resolved and I'm not just gonna let this go.

Have you seen that mum and me range by cussons, it's new. I got a sample if the bump cream, and liked it, bought it tonight, it smells soooooo good!

 

[baileybubs]

Lol I got a bit ranty there didn't I? I love my in laws, I am very lucky we get along but sometimes I feel the way you do now and it gets me riled up lol!!

Yeah my mum bought me some! Doesn't it smell gorgeous!!!

 

[cupcake1981]

No everything you said was what I'm thinking!

I'd be smothering my whole body in it if it wasn't £10 a tub?!! I'm already getting stretch marks on my sides (I think I'm gonna be I've of those unfortunate girls that widens rather than being all bump up front lol!), hope it helps!

 

[baileybubs]

Well my mum only got me a small bottle in this set with shampoo as well. Didn't realise it was £10 a tub!! Don't know if its any good for stretch marks but I haven't got any and when I have used a moisturiser it's been that and Asdas own little angels stretch mark cream, which also smells gorgeous!!

 

[cupcake1981]

Oh I saw that set in Tesco, I think it's different the cream in that one, this one is a tub. Well Ive been using bio oil but find quite greasy so didnt want to put clothes on on top in the mornings, so wanted a cream. Think sadly if I have them already I must be probe to them!

 

[baileybubs]

Yeah sadly cupcake I do think they are genetic and you either get them or you don't. But think of them as tiger stripes that you will have earnt and be proud lol!

 

[cupcake1981]

Ill have to quiz my mum to see if she had them! I don't mind ill put up with whatever for my baby!