MARCH 2014 Monkeys! - Please join if you're due in March 2014

[Nikkilewis14]

I live in the US and if i ask my ob gyn to scan me because i just dont feel right he usually will do a scan to put my mind at ease. not all doctors will do that. I had a scan at 5 weeks just because we didnt know my exact days, i had one a week later to check for heartbeat, and again at 8+4 for spotting.



My husband only took a week off of work to help me the first fiew days and he was back to work, but he stayed with my in the hospital for 3 days he just didnt get fed. We only lived right up the road, which was nice.

 

[BaniVani]

Shabuti I also had some light pink spotting last night. Almost freaked out! but then decided not to cry or get sad or anything until I know for sure what is going on.
In the past week I have had a couple of days where I had no ms and was not too tired. Then yesterday I had a killer headache all day, sore boobs as usual, ate so much I thought I would explode and (sorry TMI coming up) had sex with OH for the first time in 4 days. About a half hour later I went to the bathroom and there was blood so I checked my CP and it was very low and felt a bit open which worried me even more. But this morning all the bleeding has stopped. Its still scary, but I am just going to try to not worry about it.

I am now considering having an early scan even though it costs a bit more than I would like to pay.... maybe... I don't know. I am sort of in the same boat as you LADY... Don't know what I should do.

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Could be from sex or you might have a urinary track infection---try not to worry and good luck on your scan.Hope all is well

 

[JessesGirl29]

9 weeks today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe it's my previous loss or my hormones but I feel on top of the world and I just never thought I would make it here after my previous loss. It's still hitting me that last week I saw my little baby with a heartbeat floating in there safe and sound. First time Mom here but I CAN'T BELIEVE I have something with a beating heart inside my uterus and Im hardly any bigger!!! I just looked like I had a big burrito or something......
I thought my ticker was wrong but I misunderstood my midwife. My ticker is correct, I just had the wrong due date so my due date is March 10th but I am actually where I was before.....I'll be in second trimester by the end of this month. Can't wait to tell everyone, we haven't even told family yet!!!!!

 

[Eltjuh]

Could be that you can get an early scan in the US because you guys have health insurance which pays for it (right??) Cause here you pay national insurance when you work, so that pays for everyone's medical care. (unless you go to a private GP or hospital).


We just tried finding baby on the doppler again and we just can't find it!!
Tried up high, down low, left, right, middle... It's frustrating! I wanna hear my baby!!!
Hubby thinks the doppler we have isn't very good, I'm so tempted to try and sell it again on ebay and get a different one with the money we get for it!

 

[Nikkilewis14]

Yes eltjuh! Im pretty sure thats why they will scan more often.

 

[Nikkilewis14]

U can rent great dopplers for 25$ a month, i rented mine last pregnancy until i felt baby move at 14 weeks...the piece of mind it gave me was great.. It worked from 8 weeks!

 

[Eltjuh]

Apparently hubby just found that people that use the one we have can't find it until about 12 weeks! I wanna hear it now!!

 

[BaniVani]

9 weeks today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe it's my previous loss or my hormones but I feel on top of the world and I just never thought I would make it here after my previous loss. It's still hitting me that last week I saw my little baby with a heartbeat floating in there safe and sound. First time Mom here but I CAN'T BELIEVE I have something with a beating heart inside my uterus and Im hardly any bigger!!! I just looked like I had a big burrito or something......
I thought my ticker was wrong but I misunderstood my midwife. My ticker is correct, I just had the wrong due date so my due date is March 10th but I am actually where I was before.....I'll be in second trimester by the end of this month. Can't wait to tell everyone, we haven't even told family yet!!!!!

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It's a wonderful feeling--I saw my baby last week and I'm still in awww. Especially after seeing little arms and legs moving around like crazy! I'm starting to feel an attachment to this life inside me and it's making me really take care of myself.

 

[overcomer79]

I'm sorry all I am having a hard time keeping up. DD is up all night (not sure why) and we have other issues to deal with now. I hope everyone is well.

 

[J_Lynn]

My hubby was up all night looking at baby stuff, and dopplers - I thought it was so cute So I think he may be ordering one.

I really want to call the doctor and go in and get an ultrasound - or just at least have them take their doppler and find a heartbeat for me. I don't have any symptoms and haven't since day one, but now I don't feel my uterus stretching and pulling ... so it just scares me a bit. I am 10 weeks, but I am just worried because it stopped 2 days ago. I hate that. I know they do stop, but I was hoping it would come back. I keep thinking if I stretch or stand up too fast that I'll feel the feelings that I usually feel - and nothing yet. BLAH. 2 weeks until my 12 week check up and it's killing me.

I don't want to bother my doctor, so I am just going to wait ... if something did happen, it's not like they can do anything about it anyway, so I am just going to be patient. Even though it's driving me nuts.

 

[DecemberWait]

I literally haven't had one single cramp or stretching feeling at all so I'm sure you're fine

 

[minni2906]

I haven't either, J_Lynn. Not since implantation. I'm sure you're fine as well!

 

[Disneylovers]

Nor have I, I only get a pulling/weighty feeling there when I turn over onto my right side. Makes sense seeing as we know baby implanted on the left side of my uterus. Other than that I haven't had any cramping or odd feelings since implantation which was very crampy for a few hours and then nothing since.

 

[Fixsohn]

Fixsohn...I have considered going to my doctors and asking if they can do anything but iv got a feeling I already know the answer...also I don't want them to give me one and then refuse to give me one at 12 weeks...xx

Here in Iceland, we just have to go to our own lady doctor if we want an early scan and we pay around 60 dollars for it unless the doctor or midwife think it is essential to have an early scan. But then all visits with the midwife and the 12 and 20 week scans are free. The midwife also comes to your home after the birth for a week, twice a day to begin with and then less frequently as time goes on. The stay in the hospital around birth time and all food while in the hospital is free for mother and child and the father only pays a minimum fee for staying and eating as well.
Also, you get 6 month maternity leave receiving 80% of your full salary. You can extend to 9 months and your salary % will go down a bit. The father also gets two to three months off from work still receiving 80% of his salary.
I feel really blessed to be able to have children and not worry about insurance or money too much!
We just have to find a bigger flat now... we live in a tiny studio flat.

Wow you get a lot of help over there!! My husband got 2 weeks off after my son was born (and he was lucky to actually get it, but that was because he was in the army and the army in the UK doesn't look after their people very well, unlike the US army). And he wasn't allowed to stay in the hospital... I was transfered to the antenatal ward whilst I was in labour, because they wanted me to try and get some sleep, so they sent him home at about 2am, then I rang him back up around 4am to come back because they were going to break my waters! And after my son was born he wasn't allowed to stay either, they sent him home after I got put on the ward(my son was born around 19.30). And he wasn't allowed to come back until 10 am the next morning! And then cause it was taking ages for them to discharge me and my son (cause they were slow, nothing was wrong with us) he should've gone home when visiting hours were over, but we didn't know that... so he stayed!

Ohh my goodness, thats just ridiculous! I hope you don't have to go through that again!! My uncle married a woman who was in the US military and was stationed in Iceland back when there was a NATO base here. Anyways, she gave birth to twins who turned out to be sick, they had cystic fibrosis and she was told to go back to work and that her husband and his family should take care of the children. I thought that was absolutely horrifying!

 

[wannabubba#4]

Fixsohn...I have considered going to my doctors and asking if they can do anything but iv got a feeling I already know the answer...also I don't want them to give me one and then refuse to give me one at 12 weeks...xx

Here in Iceland, we just have to go to our own lady doctor if we want an early scan and we pay around 60 dollars for it unless the doctor or midwife think it is essential to have an early scan. But then all visits with the midwife and the 12 and 20 week scans are free. The midwife also comes to your home after the birth for a week, twice a day to begin with and then less frequently as time goes on. The stay in the hospital around birth time and all food while in the hospital is free for mother and child and the father only pays a minimum fee for staying and eating as well.
Also, you get 6 month maternity leave receiving 80% of your full salary. You can extend to 9 months and your salary % will go down a bit. The father also gets two to three months off from work still receiving 80% of his salary.
I feel really blessed to be able to have children and not worry about insurance or money too much!
We just have to find a bigger flat now... we live in a tiny studio flat.

Wow you get a lot of help over there!! My husband got 2 weeks off after my son was born (and he was lucky to actually get it, but that was because he was in the army and the army in the UK doesn't look after their people very well, unlike the US army). And he wasn't allowed to stay in the hospital... I was transfered to the antenatal ward whilst I was in labour, because they wanted me to try and get some sleep, so they sent him home at about 2am, then I rang him back up around 4am to come back because they were going to break my waters! And after my son was born he wasn't allowed to stay either, they sent him home after I got put on the ward(my son was born around 19.30). And he wasn't allowed to come back until 10 am the next morning! And then cause it was taking ages for them to discharge me and my son (cause they were slow, nothing was wrong with us) he should've gone home when visiting hours were over, but we didn't know that... so he stayed!

Ohh my goodness, thats just ridiculous! I hope you don't have to go through that again!! My uncle married a woman who was in the US military and was stationed in Iceland back when there was a NATO base here. Anyways, she gave birth to twins who turned out to be sick, they had cystic fibrosis and she was told to go back to work and that her husband and his family should take care of the children. I thought that was absolutely horrifying!

Eltjuh - this is one of my reasons for wanting a homebirth - our last baby was born at 18:28 and I was sent to the ward about 9pm and hubby was sent home. I could not even lift my bottom of the bed after a traumatic forceps delivery and severe SPD and I felt so alone. All the curtains were pulled in the room so each bed was isolated; and although I was told by the delivery staff not to get up (even though I couldn't have at that point anyway) and not to attempt to lift baby out of the cot myself -the ward staff were totally rude to me and basically said I had ONLY had a baby and thus made me feel really bad and embarrassed about asking for help. I eventually had to co-sleep with him, ( I didnt mind but they were furious lol) as I got a nurse to hand him to me for feeding and then she never came back after promising to. I eventually was able to drag myself up using my crutches by about 6am and sat impatiently waiting to go home until the staff were ready to discharge me about 13:00.

xxx

 

[J_Lynn]

I literally haven't had one single cramp or stretching feeling at all so I'm sure you're fine

I haven't either, J_Lynn. Not since implantation. I'm sure you're fine as well!

Nor have I, I only get a pulling/weighty feeling there when I turn over onto my right side. Makes sense seeing as we know baby implanted on the left side of my uterus. Other than that I haven't had any cramping or odd feelings since implantation which was very crampy for a few hours and then nothing since.

That's the only symptom that I had consistently. But, you're all probably right I am just fine. I just got a moment of panic, but I have no cramping or spotting or anything so surely everything is OK.

I wish the first tri went by quicker because it would be a whole lot easier to relax, that's for sure. lol

 

[LaDY]

Fixsohn...I have considered going to my doctors and asking if they can do anything but iv got a feeling I already know the answer...also I don't want them to give me one and then refuse to give me one at 12 weeks...xx

I don't think they'll refuse to give you one at 12 weeks, because they have to do the nuchal check (for downs) and apparently that can only be done for a certain amount of weeks (mw just told me it the pocket of fluid they measure gets soaked up by the body from about 14 weeks I think).
There's no harm in asking your GP or MW, the worst they can do is say no! You never know, they might let you have it!

Your right...I have my first MW appointment next Monday (so excited!!)...I think I am going to ask then...also tbh I would like to know exactly how many weeks pregnant I am...I hope im not less though...the early days have been so difficult to get through as it is! xx

Fixsohn...I have considered going to my doctors and asking if they can do anything but iv got a feeling I already know the answer...also I don't want them to give me one and then refuse to give me one at 12 weeks...xx

Here in Iceland, we just have to go to our own lady doctor if we want an early scan and we pay around 60 dollars for it unless the doctor or midwife think it is essential to have an early scan. But then all visits with the midwife and the 12 and 20 week scans are free. The midwife also comes to your home after the birth for a week, twice a day to begin with and then less frequently as time goes on. The stay in the hospital around birth time and all food while in the hospital is free for mother and child and the father only pays a minimum fee for staying and eating as well.
Also, you get 6 month maternity leave receiving 80% of your full salary. You can extend to 9 months and your salary % will go down a bit. The father also gets two to three months off from work still receiving 80% of his salary.
I feel really blessed to be able to have children and not worry about insurance or money too much!
We just have to find a bigger flat now... we live in a tiny studio flat.

Wow that's excellent...you have amazing support! Also great maternity pay! Blessed you are indeed...we should thank God for that hun xx

Morning ladies...

Im after some advise...having experienced 2 mc's previously should I be contacting the gp/midwife and request a early scan? Im feeling positive about this pregnancy but im unsure what the right thing to do is...

What would you do? xx

Ive had 2 MC before and when I phoned the NHS direct up due to bleeding, the doctor said he wouldnt scan me because I was too early, even for the reassurance becaude of previous miscarriage. So I dont know, I get the feeling they wont. it is such a worry isnt it.

Aww im sorry you have been through the same...I know a lot of people say to me they only offer them if you have had 3 mc's...it really is such a worry hun...every day I sigh with relief and feel blessed to get through the weeks that I have...have to admit I have started to get excited now too...but have had to hold myself back at the same time! xx xx Glad your ok x

 

[Nikkilewis14]

I get 0$$ or time for maternity leave Im only a part time professor, but with my dd I took 0 time off! I was back to work in a week! Oy vey... I plan on only taking a week off this time as well, but i also teach from home, so if I just have online I will not take any time off

 

[J_Lynn]

I get 0$$ or time for maternity leave Im only a part time professor, but with my dd I took 0 time off! I was back to work in a week! Oy vey... I plan on only taking a week off this time as well, but i also teach from home, so if I just have online I will not take any time off

You still qualify for FMLA if you've worked 2080 hours, don't you?

I thought even part time you still qualify as long as you've worked that many hours. But it's been a few years since I've worked in HR so I may not remember that correctly lol

 

[Nikkilewis14]

Oh god i dont work near that many hours. I work maybe an hour at home max per day and 3 hrs out of my home every other week... lol