March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[ESwemba84]

Pink, in the words of a wise mentor: "This too shall pass."

It'll get easier. I know friends who had trouble with BF at first, and then they did great. I know it has to be hard right now. I even think MackJess had difficult times with her baby right after birth. (I think it was Mack.....) Hang in there, and when it seems like too much, just think of all of the wonderful things about her and your new life.

 

[eyemom]

Aww pink what ES said, this too shall pass. I think the first two weeks are the hardest. It's normal for them to have a fussy time but boy is it rough. Hang in there.

 

[Unexpected212]

Oh believe me it's all an elaborate rouse I cried on fri when I got into the ward and my oh left, I was totally alone the one other person on my ward was asleep, I was struggling to feed and when I called the mw she was so unhelpful I almost just freaked out, I had never changed a nappy before and I was just left on my own with a newborn baby! Obviously it was fine somehow I figured it out but I just feel like I'm stumbling about innthe dark.
I'm home now and my oh is not talking to me because I told him off for smoking and him mum was here I don't think I was outbid order I told him I didn't want him smoking after I had Stella and he did so I was annoyed, it's just like he's been so wonderful the last few days been there at the hospital every day being surrportive and stuff but then as soon as I get home and people leave it's like he can't bear to be around me, I feel like shit, I've just had a baby 2 days ago in agony, I'm totally exhausted, hormones are all over the place I honestly don't know if I'm coming or going and he's just ignoring me.
I'm sorry I'm just venting, ranting, over sharing, I just can't share this stuff with anyone irl, it's prob just my hormones and lack of sleep or something.

Oh hun I remember this stage all too well.

After I'd had my son I remember the complete overwhelming feeling of being responsible for the life of this tiny little human being I'd created. I'd never changed a nappy either. I wanted to breast feed but none of the midwives had time to show me other than trying to shove my boob in his mouth really forcefully and rough which just put me off completely. It is so scary and daunting.

As for your OH it may be he's feeling just as overwhelmed but isn't sure how to show it. I think he needs to realise this is the time you need support more than ever. You just had a baby. Hormones are going mad.

I'm sure he does love you and want to be around you and I have my fingers crossed for you that you can work through this and be a happy little family. I'm sure you can.

and you ARE doing great. You sound like a fantastic mum already.

 

[Unexpected212]

Sorry for the selfish post today but it's my angel's due date and I'm bit of a wreck. I think everyone here knows I'm so super happy and grateful about my current baby but right now I keep thinking of the baby that could have been and how it would be in my arms now instead of me having to wait another 5 months to see if all ends well or not.

My due date is also making me miss all my other angels. I want to have all my babies with me. My first angel's third birthday is on Tuesday. It's a little hard that I've been denied both of my Christmas babies.

*hugs*

I'm thinking of you. One loss nearly destroyed me so I can only imagine how you must be feeling.

It WILL end well. I'm sending you luck and good vibes and happiness xx

 

[Unexpected212]

Eyemom - Got my FX'd for your Christmas BFP

I'm 5dpo and having tonnes of symptoms but I got most of them the month I was pregnant and the month I wasn't so I'm not getting my hopes up. Got stuffy nose only at night, weeing a lot, really hungry and tired, emotional, weepy, sore back and loads of other stuff but like I said most of those I get with PMS

Last time I was pregnant I just 'knew' and I don't feel like that this month

 

[Pinkcasi]

Thanks guys it's nice to have the reassurance.

I think my milk has come in yeah, the midwife has just been and course Stella was good as gold, sleeping like a baby, woke to feed, latched perfectly then went back to sleep, meanwhile I look like a haggard freak.

Glad the mws been tho and reassured me that everything is ok, and hearing from you guys that it's just par for the course is really helpful, it's hard but if I know there's an end in sight hopefully I can perserve.

 

[Unexpected212]

It's normal to look haggard lol. I think I lived in pyjamas for the fist 6/8 weeks of my sons life!

See Pink, your doing great.

Everything your thinking or feeling is normal...hopefully your OH will come round.

 

[qwk]

lol we all look haggard at that point hon. You are doing just fine, trust me!

 

[sailorsgirl]

Ah you sound like you are doing brilliantly pink. Everything you are thinking, feeling is totally normal.

I recieved my BBT today!! Can I begin my chart even though I haven't exactly started my cycle? When would a cycle after a miscarraige begin? Ive started from the day I got the sad news at the moment, would that be ok?

Xxx

 

[garfie]

Starry - Oh hun this is normal to feel like this - one of my babies would have been due next month

This little one in you is a fighter and I'm with the others - this is finally your rainbow baby

Pink - What you are feeling is perfectly normal too - if you weren't haggard I would be worried it takes time to adjust to having a little one and of course as we all said a while back they don't come with instruction manuals You will also find that they have an instinct when to be good and when not - it's like they are always good for nanas, teachers, baby sitters the woman in the street - us mums (and that is you) call it mummy mode - they go into mummy mode whenever we are around - why? - because we love them unconditionally good or naughty

Eye - Still got my fingers crossed for you

Sailor - You have to start somewhere hun - but usually it is when your HCG is O and AF arrives or the day of a DNC why not practice though - it won't do you any harm to get into a routine in case you need it next month

Unexpected - I'm the same - this cycle is perfect (not like me at all) so I know I will be mega disappointed when she arrives - I keep getting a tugging around my belly button - my sis said I just needed to fart I've had it since Saturday and I wish it would just bugger off

Love to all the other ladies, sorry I'm not on here as much but I'm still rooting for you all



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[eyemom]

lol garfie I hope it's not just a fart. If it is, that's an awfully long time to hold it in.

Right now I'm just enjoying looking at my pretty chart because I don't think it'll look so nice tomorrow, lol.

 

[sailorsgirl]

Ooh thanks hun. I did think that might be the case. It might be a while before I get my 0 on hcg though so thought I'd try and get into the habit for now

Xxx

 

[MamaTex]

ESwemba84: So sorry you are dealing with red tape and insurance company bs. If they still deny your surgery, try to appeal. The appeal process is meant to wear you down and make you give up, but keep at it if you can. Hopefully your doctor can convince the insurance company to gets its head out of the sand!!!

Pink: Sorry your OH is being a butt. I would have totally flipped if my OH had lit up. I wouldn't let my OH hold the baby until after he had a shower because I wouldn't want her to be affected by the smoke smell on his clothes!! ANywho, you will get the hang of things. I never used the Lanolin cream, but I hear it does wonders. You might also want to consider a nipple shield too if you have issues with soreness and latch. Just keep at it! I am drying up after 3 months and I think my breast feeding journey is coming to an end, but I think that is just because it was hard the first few weeks. However long you decide to breast feed is good, but there is nothing wrong with supplementing or giving formula either. Just wanted to throw that in there!

As far as the sleeping thing goes, newborns will sleep a lot for the first few days and then they just do what they want, whenver lol. It takes them awhile to get adjusted to the day/night schedule.

DSemcho: Of all the symptoms to have, why must it be nipples that don't quit? Hehe. Gl!

Leahlou: Sorry if I missed saying hi before or if I did and forgot lol. Welcome.

qwk: How did your temps turn out today?
mowat: Been watching your title update. You are WTT and moving forward. Hoping your cycle does get back on track and your son feels better.

Starry: Sending you a big virtual hug!!

garfie: Always happy to see you pop in!!

Unexpected: It's so odd that out of all of the signs you can see that might indicate pregnancy, "that feeling" ends up proving you more right than wrong!!

eyemom: I laughed at the last line of your signature about putting DH in a Santa hat

sailorsgirl: Hopefully you don't have to wait too long for your
HCG to drop.

To everyone else since I only have a little bit of time here: Hello and good day!!

AFM: Nothing new to report. Gained a few pounds, as expected due to holiday eating lol. My cervical mucus output is confusing me still. It increases, gets thick like egg white mucus, gets thinner, stops, gets thicker again. UGH!! Last night my DH thanked me for making such a beautiful baby and it made my heart melt. I told him I could make another one and he smiled and said, "Whenever you are ready!!" I am excited. I don't want to TTC until spring or even summer of next year (closer to when it has been a year since Sky came), but I do want to try for a second child. I might do NTNP in the summer and see what happens.

 

[garfie]

Eye - Your chart does look pretty - could do with a pretty green line in there to make it look extra special

Mama - Nice to see you as well I managed to bf my second for three months then it became to much as eldest was more demanding - well done you

AFM - I was looking back on my old charts (like you do) I have one that was this time last year - I only had an 8 day LP but wow can you all see the similarities if I put it up on my next post - that's a year on



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[Starry Night]

sailor - with my m/c last fall it took me 6 weeks for the bleeding to stop and just as long for the hcg to go to zero. Pretty much the day after I got ewcm and one-sided pains and then two weeks later AF arrived. I hope it doesn't end up taking that long for you! For me, the return of AF is pretty quick once the hcg goes down. For my other losses, AF would show up about 30 days after the first day of bleeding....this includes the one that ended up with a d&c (I had passed the bulk of the pregnancy naturally just couldn't stop bleeding).

garfie - I hope that tugging means something more exciting than trapped wind!

unexpected - I know what you mean about that "feeling", however I really felt 'out' the cycle I got my latest bfp. So sometimes we can mix up our body signals if we're feeling downcast or stressed out. We can not really know until we take a test. Good luck!

mama - what a sweet thing for your dh to say. But he gave you a sweet baby too! A real team effort.

pink - the first little while is tough but it doesn't mean you're doing a bad job. And the first year with a baby is hard on any relationship. I daydreamed about divorce and/or running away frequently and dh and I had a good relationship going into our son's arrival. He was totally clueless to how I was feeling too. I was convinced he hated me and was ignoring me and he thought everything was hunky dory. Hormones can really toy with your mind. It does pass.

 

[eyemom]

Welp within 30 minutes of admiring my chart, I went to the bathroom and saw blood. Heh well it was nice while it lasted. Still need to update my chart.

 

[garfie]

Hope this works look at this months chart to compare spooky

 

[Pinkcasi]

Just taking a moment to vent apologies in advance.

Ok so I posted in the Breastfeeding part if this forum thinking that would be a good idea people that have been in my position and come out the other side, people that could reassure me that I'm not a terrible mother, you guys managed it super well and this thread is about trying to conceive, what with everything that you guys have been through you shouldn't have to listen to me complain about the one thing you all want.

So I posted and told my story, how Stella is only 3 days old and how hard last night was and how she went from feeding every 6 hours to every 5 bloody minutes and do you know what I got?!?!?! I string of replies telling me that 6 hours is far too long to starve a newborn baby.

Several midwives told me at the hospital and in antenatal classes that 6 hours is the longest you can leave them, Stella wasn't waking for food so I left her, my milk hadent come in it was only colostrum so she didn't need as much apparently, the mw also said that she'll feed more often as my milk comes in which is true she has been today.

I'm just so pissed off that everyone just totally jumps on me like I'm starving and neglecting my child, it's not like she's screaming for food and I'm ignoring her, she really wasn't bothered.

My oh says that I shouldn't put all my business on the Internet with strangers in the first place, but I've always thought that b&b is really knowledgable and helpful, through my mc and pregnancy I've never had a bad word to say until now.

So now either I'm a terrible person with a defective child or about 6 professional midwives are wrong.

I don't feel like I'm a bad mum but I really have no clue.

 

[garfie]

Pink - Aw hun no you are not a bad mother BIG when your milk comes in trust me she will feed more often - she will be able to smell it - you will know how it feels to be a cow she will only have to stir and your boobs will fill up.

You do not have a defective child she is perfect

As I say to my hubby if he gave me as much support as my ladies I wouldn't need to go on BNB as much hun.

Eye - Grrrr so will you get a chance to test again or will it be a New Year baby



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[eyemom]

pink you are a wonderful mommy, you're just doing as you were told. I think it's every 3 hours, my daughter's ped didn't want her going more than 4 hours in the early days. That 6 hour rule may apply for overnight, but I don't think you should go that long through the day. I'd recommend learning the hunger cues (it will come even if it's confusing at first), and consider nursing on demand. She may be hungry for a while before she starts to actually cry. It's common in the early days for them to want to cluster feed. You'll be like what the heck, I just nursed her like 15 minutes ago. But it's good for your supply and baby's happy too. If she gets angry at the breast it might just be normal fussy infant, but she might be so hungry she's hard to console. Don't beat yourself up dear, it's a learning process.