March rainbows 2018

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne I am keeping everything crossed for your scan tomorrow and I hope it's perfect . Please update us after, we will all be thinking of you xxxx

 

[maryanne1987]

Thank you sweetkat, that means a lot. Nerves are starting to set in now. Be glad when it's over xx

 

[xkirstyx]

Good luck Hun! What times it at?

 

[maryanne1987]

Thank you. 10.55. Wish I'd booked it earlier so I didn't have to wait around in the morning. I've been so calm all day but I feel sick with worry now xx

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne I am really praying everything goes well and we are all still here past 12 weeks with good news.

Every day is hard and I think about nothing else all day every day. When I am not pregnant I want to try. When i am trying i am scared it will be bad news.... Better to try and risk it, than have anxiety over not trying and the clock ticking away.

Big hugs xxxx

 

[Trying4first1]

Thanks ladies xx
Sweetkat IVF won't be for us because as far as we are aware, our embryos are normal genetically. It's my body that is attacking them. It sees them as a foreign body.
The only thing I am now concerned about is that DH has never had a sperm test. They said it's unlikely that it is a cause.
Would DNA fragment cause my babies to stop growing at the same stage each time? I am unsure of what to think as the baby we had tested was genetically normal.

 

[Sweetkat]

Trying, my second MMC was exactly like yours. Smaller baby from the start and then slow growth. The yolk sac was enlarged and the growth was slow and they said to me that was a classic sign of chromosome issues. So it could be that not all the babies are chromosomally normal (we only had 3rd one tested but all the drs said it was also cause for second one).

I think there is definitely no harm in having sperm DNA fragmentation tested because 30% of men have it apparently!

You could also have different causes for each miscarriage??? Some could be bad lack, some could be because of immune issues and some could be because of sperm??? Anyway, nobody ever gave me definitive answers. They just said bad luck/ sperm/ NK cells/ we don't know.

I hope you find an answer or answers soon!


https://www.simply-fertility.com/ne...rent-miscarriage-and-unexplained-infertility/

Sperm DNA fragmentation linked to miscarriages - link above.

 

[flou]

Hi ladies can I join I'm currently just over 5 weeks pg with my second rainbow. I think I am due 22nd March. Which is 5 days before DS' 3rd birthday. I actually feel really guilty that I due near his birthday. We managed to catch first month trying which caught us both by surprise as it wasn't easy to conceive DS. It took us 19 months to conceive my first pregnancy, 11 months the second and 7 with DS. So even though knew it could happen I didn't expect it to.

Good luck to all the ladies having scans soon. I remember being anxious before every scan and appointment when I was pg with DS. I think it will be the same this time round. Once you have had losses it changes everything. I hope we all have a h&h next 8-9 months!

 

[xkirstyx]

Welcome and congratulations!

Good luck with the scan this morning maryanne xxx

 

[Sweetkat]

Welcome Flou.

Maryanne, hope scan went well

 

[maryanne1987]

Good and bad news. We are are expecting twins. One measures at 6w3d with a strong heartbeat, the second measures 5w with no heartbeat. There's a tiny chance it will catch up but it's very very unlikely. Happy and sad both at the same time.

 

[xkirstyx]

Massive hugs hunny. What a crazy set of emotions you must have right now!
I'm so glad the other baby is doing good though. When's your next scan?

 

[maryanne1987]

Thanks Kirsty. I don't know how to feel to be honest. I'm grateful baby one is ok but I'm broken hearted at the same time. Next scan in two weeks to see if baby has caught up but they have warned me it's only a 0.3 chance.

 

[karoolia]

Wow, Maryanne, I'm not sure what to think! I'm sure you are on an emotional rollercoaster right now. I'm so glad one baby is doing so well! I'm sorry the second baby is behind. You said your babies often measure behind though, right? Maybe there is a chance this baby could catch up. I'm hoping for you!

Did you suspect twins at all?

 

[maryanne1987]

Right from the 7dpo bfp. I've carried two sets of angel twins and my daughter was a twin and one stopped developing at 7-8 weeks so I had a strong feeling. I kind of don't want to give up hope but a 0.3 chance is tiny. My heads all over the place now. I don't want to come across ungrateful for a healthy baby, I'm so happy baby one is doing so well, I'm just so sad that the other most likely won't make it

 

[karoolia]

I completely understand. I've never had twins, but I know I would already be grieving over one of them while also kicking myself for not celebrating the healthy one enough. But then if I switched gears to celebrate I would feel guilty for not grieving. I think it is a very emotionally complicated situation. No wrong way to feel. I say remain hopeful, you never know what will happen.

 

[maryanne1987]

That's exactly it. I'm not sure how I should act. Two more weeks till next scan. Feels like forever.

Hope everyone else is well today?

 

[xkirstyx]

That two weeks is the worst! My scan with my daughter there was no heartbeat at 6 weeks and it was a long hard emotional time. Xxx

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne I am so sorry that the scan was not more reassuring . As all your babies measured behind there is every chance this little one will catch up. And the good news is one baby is on track - that's fantastic

I hope the next two weeks fly by and you get reassuring news. I am on a two week countdown myself (well 7-14 days starting last Wednesday). So let's wait together

 

[maryanne1987]

Thanks everyone. You have all been so lovely. I really appreciate it.

Hope the time flys by to all of our scans.