March rainbows 2018

[xkirstyx]

My last was a week early hope it's the same this time! My other two were a week late. Not fun!

 

[karoolia]

I'm having a rough day. A friend lost her 6 month old last night in a car accident last night. She and her husband have been long distance for a year now (both doctors, both finishing training in different countries). He just finished his job and was scheduled to move to live with them in just a few weeks. She was so excited to have him and be a family and now their world has been shattered.

I keep thinking about how I felt when I had a miscarriage and knowing this must be 1000x worse. It's not my tragedy, but my heart is completely broken. Last night I just sat on our couch and cried when we heard the news.

 

[maryanne1987]

I'm so sorry for your friend karoolia. How absolutely dreadful. Life is so cruel sometimes.

 

[xkirstyx]

Omg how heartbreaking!!!

 

[karoolia]

We're all so heartbroken. She works with my husband. There are only 18 residents in his program and all the residents, spouses, and children are close. Just last week the nurses and social worker at their clinic were taking turns babysitting him while his mother was on a very busy shift.

I don't think being pregnant helps. I feel like an emotional wreck. Then I feel guilty because it isn't my loss. I know anything can happen at any time, but I have been so focused on having a healthy pregnancy and not miscarrying, I hadn't even imagined a future where I might lose my baby. I just wish I could do something to help. She is over an hour away right now where they airlifted the baby. Others are with her so at least she isn't alone.

Thanks for letting me ramble. I just have so many emotions right now and had to express them somewhere.

 

[maryanne1987]

Ramble as much as you need to. You sound like an amazing friend. When something like that happens it can shake you to your core. My son developed neonatal sepsis after he was born due to gbs. He was given a 10% chance of survival. There was a baby next door in intensive care who's odds were a little better than Henry's and I got very friendly with his mum and dad while we were all going through a horrible time. Then early one morning I heard the alarms go off and it woke me up. I panicked thinking it was Henry but I soon realised it was next door. Half an hour later the mums hysterical screaming confirmed what had happened. I will never forget it as long as i live. I didn't know what to do to help. I really do know how hard it must be for you and how much it can scare you but it really taught me to value everyday with my loved ones.

 

[momcaroline]

Hi ladies
I'll be 6 weeks pregnant tomorrow
I had a stillbirth in January 2016
No need to say how stressful this pregnancy is.
I had an early US at 5 weeks 2 days where we could see the sac in the uterus
Next US is Tuesday 🌈

 

[karoolia]

Welcome momcaroline! Congrats on your pregnancy and I'm so sorry for your previous loss. I can't imagine. I hope this pregnancy goes well and you can try to be as positive as possible.

maryanne - what a terrible experience. That poor mother! My mother spent a lot of time in the hospital with my brother when he was very young. Doctors had him for weeks at a time trying to figure out his diagnosis. Trisomy 15 rarely results in a viable pregnancy so it took a while to get there. Unfortunately a lot of the other moms she met were there for reasons closer to you and that mother you were friends with. She always left feeling for grateful for a living, healthy child, regardless of disabilities.

I'm sure that was a very scary time for you. I'm sorry you went through that, but glad that Henry did well.

 

[Sweetkat]

Karoolia, so sorry about your friend. Devastating.

Maryanne, I had group B strep as well and have been tested for it at the booking appointment. I had to have intravenous antibiotics during labour and DD and I were kept in for 3 days after she was born on antibiotics and until tests confirmed she hadn't caught it. I didn't realise that things could go wrong even with the drip/ drugs

 

[Myshelsong]

How absolutely horrible, I can't even imagine losing a child like that. Try not to feel guilty, there is nothing you can do test will make this any better. Maybe look into getting meals delivered when she gets back?

Momcaroline. Sorry about your loss.
Congrats on this pregnancy, wishing you a happy and healthy nine months. Pregnancy after a loss is so terrifying, I hope your next ultrasound goes smoothly.

 

[Sweetkat]

Momcaroline, very sorry about your loss. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months

 

[xkirstyx]

I had gbs with DD they didn't tell me I had it will I was in labour and they refused to test me for it in my last pregnancy.

 

[Sweetkat]

Kirsty that's terrible. You can insists on a test and ask for an IV drip during labour. Apparently it can cause serious illness (even meningitis I think) in newborns.

 

[maryanne1987]

The hospital refused to test me to last pregnancy even though I've had it every pregnancy. I paid privately for the test and it came back positive but they refused to accept the results. My labour would have been too fast for the antibiotics anyway as it was only 31 minutes with 6 minutes established but he should have had antibiotics as soon as he was born but of course they wouldn't give them to him. 12 hours later he was fighting for his life. My midwife agrees with the consultant that a c section is best this time. One cause I've had 2 third degree tears and they are worried about my giving birth again with the scar tissue but two as my labours are so fast it means they can not give antibiotics. With a c section the risk of passing on gbs is very low, almost nil. I'm scared about it but know it's for the best.

Welcome momcaroline. I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne, that is shocking! The NHS is a joke sometimes. So sorry you went through that.

 

[maryanne1987]

It's ok. My little man pulled through. But the NHS are responsible for the death of my daughter and my son almost dying. Two official apologies mean nothing at all. I don't trust them as far as I can throw them. People ask why we spend so much on private care, and that's exactly why. I do have the utmost respect for NHS nurses though who cope in hospitals that are severely underfunded. The nurses have always been fantastic to me through everything.

Hope everyone else is ok tonight?

 

[darlingqueen]

Hi ladies hope you are all well
Maryanne yay your scan is soon!! I hope it goes smooth for you and everything is fantastic!

My appointment is on Monday and it's at 9am. Nervous wreck but excited too. I'm just hoping everything is all good. I got to finally officially add morning sickness to the list of preggo symptoms. I had a little queasiness but now it's full force "try not to throw up all day" and I don't feel like moving haha I love and hate it. I just got over an aura migraine from hell and still recovering from that. Im going to ask if there is migraine meds for pregnancy because I am prone to them anyways and I don't wanna go through that again... lol

 

[maryanne1987]

Thank you darlingqueen.

Not long till your appointment now. Will you be having a scan?

 

[Myshelsong]

Yay(and nah) for morning sickness Darling! I am still the all day nausea but slowly getting better. I hope your scan goes well on Monday.i know how crazy it is waiting, not fun at all.

Unless it is prescribed I think the only thing you can take is Tylenol .... but I have no idea lol

 

[karoolia]

How is everyone feeling today? My throat is getting a little scratchy, I'm a little worried I may have caught my cat's cold. Not that it is anything much, but I'm pretty sure being pregnant means I'll just have to tough it out.

maryanne your scan is really soon right? tomorrow?