March rainbows 2018

[Myshelsong]

As someone who has also had a second tri loss last year, the idea of announcing anything before baby is actually born is just terrifying.
I think holding off and keeping this private until you feel "safe" is totally normal. When you feel safe will be different than others, but don't feel pressured by family or friends. It is your choice, and the way you handle your pregnancy is your business.

 

[Sweetkat]

I feel anxious all the time and I was actually asking for regular scans every couple of weeks and got fobbed off with a miscarriage is unlikely now. The dr also said they don't offer scans unless there is an intervention they can make to rectify the issue. I think that's ridiculous because some things like hematomas require monitoring and others wouldn't be detected unless a scan was done. Anyway, so zero luck with more scans.

I don't plan to announce at all. When I start showing in a very obvious way (which I think pretty much is a couple of weeks away) and if people ask I will tell them, but not otherwise. Even with DD I only told close friends after I had a scan at 18 weeks and work at nearly 20. I am 16 tomorrow and it might be obvious I am pregnant to some but I am not saying a word!

Most people I know especially those that live far away will find out once the baby is here.

 

[maryanne1987]

Baby growing wonderfully and due on my birthday 9th march! That makes me 13+5. Sonographer also 95% sure it's another little lady for us. I'm so excited and happy. Bleed still there so on pelvic rest and not allowed to lift or carry anything but I will manage if it keeps baby safe.

 

[loves_cookies]

Great news Maryanne. Glad your scan went well too Sweetkat and sorry about the fleas. It's really unfair of the people not to have told you. It's disappointing no more scans it surprises me how so many Dr's and nurses have no understanding the emotional state of women (I know it effects men too, but my experience is that they don't find it as hard) during pregnancies after a loss/losses.

Glad you had a good time home Karoolia.

I've realised I've not checked in for a while. I had booking in with the midwife last week and she's arranged for a reassurance scan for this afternoon in the EPU. I have no reason at all to think anything is wrong, but I can't relax and I'm still talking in negative terms and I don't see being pregnant in my future. I'm really not ready to announce at all but it's becoming difficult to hide, which i'm surprised about. I've not put any weight, but I've already had to go up a size in trousers/jeans and they're still too tight. I tried to wear a dress at the weekend, but I looked very pregnant in it. This hasn't happened with my previous two pregnancies. I'm thinking it coulf be a result of the molar.

 

[Myshelsong]

Congrats Maryann, that is wonderful news. Healthy little baby.

Cookies - God luck on the reassurance scan.

Afm Harmony test (NIPS) came back all clear so yeah for no abnormalities, we are over the moon.
We now the gender but for some reason I am keeping it secret lol. Maybe will tell once we have told family.
Vacation will be coming up soon, thinking about staying around the area and going to a few resorts to get away. We are lucky to be so close to Niagara Falls. It is always a beautiful place to stay.

 

[Myshelsong]

Is Kristy still in Florida on vacation? The storm looks so crazy

Hope everyone is having a good week!

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne - great news re scan.

Myshel - fantastic that Harmony came back clear

Loves_cookies - hope EPU scan went well.

Afm, I am going to book a private 18 week scan as my scheduled one is at 21 weeks and I can't wait that long . So just under 2 weeks to wait for that.

It's 5.30am and I have been awake for almost an hour! Grrrrrrr

 

[xkirstyx]

I'm in Paris thank god!!!!

 

[darlingqueen]

Hi ladies hope you all are well! Had my 3hr glucose test today. Waiting for results. Also have my blood for the genetic test, so we'll have those results and the gender next week!! Baby's heart rate was 174 today, so that's exciting

 

[Myshelsong]

Kristy - why did I think you were in Florida on vacation? Hahaha. Glad you are ok!

Darlin queen. What a beautiful heart rate.
Good luck on the results for both the genetic and glucose test. Fingers are crossed for you.
Why did they test you so early for glucose? Isn't that something that happens later on in pregnancy?

Ah sweetcat! Hope you were able to fall back asleep. I woke up at three and couldn't fall asleep four when I finally opened the window and cooled the room back down. Apparently I was over heated.

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne, just read re your hematoma in another thread. I had one with DD, they pointed it out at the 12 week scan, but I didn't have more scans until 18 weeks so I have no idea when it got reabsorbed. With this pregnancy I was also told I had a small hematoma the first couple of scans and a bleed on the other side to where the baby is, but more recently I was just told they are gone.

I googled and some women had really big ones and were fine. Also, can you ask the dr to prescribe you sth? Online people talked about magnesium, vitamin E and also some people had antibiotic injections to help it reabsorb.

Did the dr say it's a concern at all?? It sounds like it will get reabsorbed eventually.

 

[maryanne1987]

Thanks sweetkat. Yes unfortunately things are not great at the moment. I had an emergency appointment with my consultant yesterday. The bleed is still growing and the are concerned about blood flow to baby. It also looks like there may be blood in the amniotic sac itself. Doctor said at the moment things could go either way. I'm on bed rest for the next few weeks and I will be rescanned every two weeks but there's really not much that can be done. They are hoping it will reabsorb or bleed out but where it is makes bleeding out unlikely. I'm in such a mess. I honestly just can't believe this is happening. I'm trying to be optimistic but it's hard. I'm off to see a specialist privately tomorrow as I want second opinion as I don't have much faith in the NHS. Want to make sure I'm doing everything possible to help baby.

I hope everyone else is well. Sorry i haven't replied. I've just been upset and haven't wanted to update and bring everyone down.

 

[Myshelsong]

Maryanne I am so sorry love. This is unimaginable stress you are going through, don't worry about replying to anyone. Take it as easy as you can, unfortunately there is nothing you can do but pray and hope. Sending love and positive thoughts.
Good luck at the specialists

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne, I am so sorry you are having a tough time. I really hope the specialist can recommend injections or vitamins or something else that will help and also a rescan and a different specialist might give a different opinion re the location and the size of the hematoma.

Keeping everything crossed for positive news and a good treatment plan.

 

[maryanne1987]

Thanks both. I'm hoping a second opinion may change things, or at least just give me a better idea on what I can do to give baby the best chance possible. Not going to give up hope just yet.

Hope everyone else is doing ok x

 

[karoolia]

Oh maryanne, I am so sorry you are going through this. I have no experience with hematomas so I have no advice, but I think you are right to seek a second opinion. I read your other thread and it sounds like bed rest is what helped most other ladies, but I know that doesn't seem like much. I'm hoping it gets reabsorbed soon and you can relax.

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne, I think it's going to be ok, although it's hard to go through it....

 

[maryanne1987]

Back from the specialist. Odds of losing baby are about 20-25% which is better than the 50% we were oringinaly told. Bleed hasn't grown and they agree with bedrest and carrying on with my blood thinners. Oh and we are definitely team pink!!

 

[xkirstyx]

Just catching up. Sorry about the sch Maryanne. Fingers crossed with the bed rest everything will be ok! Yay for team pink! Can't wait till I find out gender next week! Xxxx

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne, so glad you have much better news . I think percentages are meaningless anyway. I had a 0.004 chance of having a baby with trisomy 21 and yet i did have an mMC for that reason. Whereas you could have 50/50 or 25/75 or any other percentage and be fine . I really think things will turn out ok.

How is everyone else doing?

I am really showing and lots of people asking me if we are thinking of having a second. Lol.