MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[nikkilucky77]

Catching up on reading and CONGRATS Ruskiegirl and Ourlilflu!!

Hopeful14: Yes...every symptom is maybe..I wish it was black and white instead of gray . I know I have gotten a little better during the tww...trying not to read into things TOO much. Now it is trying not to poas since I'm 8 dpo hehe. Once I hit 7 dpo the addiction is hard to ignore

 

[Tangerine]

Your symptoms sound promising!!!
My symptoms mimic yours, except for being extremely hungry. I feel more queasy. Nothing sounds good to me. except last night i ate taco bell and it was incredibly tasty!

This is cycle 3 for me.

It's so weird, the cramps have actually been kind of intense. Like I sprained my uterus or something. Hahaha. I would be wondering if AF is on her way but she's not even due until the 20-21st. I actually laid down this morning because I felt really nauseated suddenly, then ended up falling asleep for a couple of hours. That's not abnormal with my Still's Disease, though. I feel like I'm on the fast train to Crazytown because "they" always say that you can't have real symptoms this early.

With some luck maybe we will each be looking at our BFPs soon! I am glad I bought FRERs yesterday. This month I just bought HPTs locally so they're like $15 each and I don't want to waste them! lol It's the only thing that will stop me from testing toooo early.

 

[Ruskiegirl]

So much CM ! Everytime I use the restroom my undies are wet I have never had so much cm its crazy

 

[chulie]

So much CM ! Everytime I use the restroom my undies are wet I have never had so much cm its crazy

Oh man Ruskie that's such a good sign its crazy!!! There are gonna be a LOT of ladies wondering what you did different this month!! Hahahaa

 

[Ruskiegirl]

The only thing I did different was every other day

 

[chulie]

Uuugghhhhhhh. I just need to vent ladies and I apologize profusely if I offend anyone. Sometimes these public forums are insane. There's all these people in the first trimester talking about how they still smoke and want to cut down and everyone seems to coddle and "oh it's ok"...like. Am I living in some f&@$ing alternate universe here!??!!!!!! Like why are people acting like this is even a little bit ok? Telling her it's not that bad. Seriously!?!? I dunno. I get in different places its maybe viewed differently but then I got called out because I was the only one who "nicely" said she needs a bit of a kick in the pants to just quit. Aarrrgggg. Like I said. I really apologize because I don't know everyone's situation. Maybe it's just the ttc thing that it extra got to me!!!

 

[nikkilucky77]

Chulie: I hear you! My half sister got prego and smoked the whole time! I was soo pissed because here I am trying so hard. I am trying to make myself ready for a baby and she just didn't care the whole time. It is understandable right away but ween yourself off that S*%#!

 

[nikkilucky77]

Ruskiegirl: I have heard that a lot of cm is a good thing! I think I am going to try your every other day .

 

[chulie]

Chulie: I hear you! My half sister got prego and smoked the whole time! I was soo pissed because here I am trying so hard. I am trying to make myself ready for a baby and she just didn't care the whole time. It is understandable right away but ween yourself off that S*%#!

Omg I know right. My cousin smoked her whole pregnancy and told people her doctor told her it was worse for the baby if she quit. Ya maybe at 30 weeks but not if you'd stopped right away!!!! Surprise surprise her poor son has the worst asthma thanks for understanding. It felt so much better to get that out!! I didn't response and just walked away from that thread!!

 

[MamaBear93]

Uuugghhhhhhh. I just need to vent ladies and I apologize profusely if I offend anyone. Sometimes these public forums are insane. There's all these people in the first trimester talking about how they still smoke and want to cut down and everyone seems to coddle and "oh it's ok"...like. Am I living in some f&@$ing alternate universe here!??!!!!!! Like why are people acting like this is even a little bit ok? Telling her it's not that bad. Seriously!?!? I dunno. I get in different places its maybe viewed differently but then I got called out because I was the only one who "nicely" said she needs a bit of a kick in the pants to just quit. Aarrrgggg. Like I said. I really apologize because I don't know everyone's situation. Maybe it's just the ttc thing that it extra got to me!!!

Here we go. I am about to say something to you that you may not know if you have never been a smoker.

It is hard to quit! Nicotine is one of the most addicting drugs in the world. I am with you that PG women have no business smoking! I found out I was PG and I have now been six days since I have nicotine. It took me a few days to taper off but I also quit with DD. But at the same time if a woman acknowledges that it is bad and that they are trying to quit, that is still better then her just continuing to do what she is doing and not feel bad about it at all.

Don't judge what you have not been through. Your life is your life and their life is their own. Every one has different issues and trials and you must not judge someone based on their ability to do something you have never had to do.

 

[chulie]

Uuugghhhhhhh. I just need to vent ladies and I apologize profusely if I offend anyone. Sometimes these public forums are insane. There's all these people in the first trimester talking about how they still smoke and want to cut down and everyone seems to coddle and "oh it's ok"...like. Am I living in some f&@$ing alternate universe here!??!!!!!! Like why are people acting like this is even a little bit ok? Telling her it's not that bad. Seriously!?!? I dunno. I get in different places its maybe viewed differently but then I got called out because I was the only one who "nicely" said she needs a bit of a kick in the pants to just quit. Aarrrgggg. Like I said. I really apologize because I don't know everyone's situation. Maybe it's just the ttc thing that it extra got to me!!!

Here we go. I am about to say something to you that you may not know if you have never been a smoker.

It is hard to quit! Nicotine is one of the most addicting drugs in the world. I am with you that PG women have no business smoking! I found out I was PG and I have now been six days since I have nicotine. It took me a few days to taper off but I also quit with DD. But at the same time if a woman acknowledges that it is bad and that they are trying to quit, that is still better then her just continuing to do what she is doing and not feel bad about it at all.

Don't judge what you have not been through. Your life is your life and their life is their own. Every one has different issues and trials and you must not judge someone based on their ability to do something you have never had to do.

Here we go???

Your right. I do know how hard it is. I watched my nanny die from lung cancer from smoking. My husband was a massive 2 pack a day smoker and I watched him struggle his ass of to quit. He knew I would never marry a smoker so he quit...it was so tragic to be by his side while my grown husband actually cried because he wanted nicotine so bad but didnt want to cave. But he did it...for me. While I held his hand and had to lead him to bed when the nicotine patch literally made him crazy in the middle of the night. As I stated. I wasn't trying to offend anyone. But if he could do it for me...I know it can be done. Anyways. Clearly i won't be bringing it up again. My apologies

 

[MamaBear93]

Don't get me wrong I hate it when I as a mother who has now twice done every thing that I could to quit smoking during my pregnancies and then I see those women who just keep smoking like they don't give a crap.

My mother told me to imagine my baby, in my stomach, smoking a cigarette...and that was pretty much it for me.

I have done what it took twice now to make sure that I have a healthy baby and it does upset me when I see that, but at the same time we stoop to a terrible level when we are talking bad about those women. Please don't do that here. That is not what these forums are for. That is why other women are not being that way.

 

[nikkilucky77]

Chulie: I hear you! My half sister got prego and smoked the whole time! I was soo pissed because here I am trying so hard. I am trying to make myself ready for a baby and she just didn't care the whole time. It is understandable right away but ween yourself off that S*%#!

Omg I know right. My cousin smoked her whole pregnancy and told people her doctor told her it was worse for the baby if she quit. Ya maybe at 30 weeks but not if you'd stopped right away!!!! Surprise surprise her poor son has the worst asthma thanks for understanding. It felt so much better to get that out!! I didn't response and just walked away from that thread!!

Lol I would have walked away too...I do understand that I've never been through it though. I was always around smokers all the time. My sister, my mom and my brother smoke. My sister (not the one who just had a baby) just had a heart attack two years ago and her doctor told her that she has about 5-10 years left if she gets healthy including quit smoking. Needless to say she hasn't quit and it makes me so upset that I cry about it. UGH...someone should invent a way to quit so it is so hard for people that want to quit. For my ttc life it has been hard for me to quit the caffeine . I used to love energy drinks on occasion and no more .

 

[MamaBear93]

I am not offended at all so please do not take it that way. But this is not the place to bash on other people for not doing something that you believe is right.

I know it can be done as well. Like I said I have been six days without nicotine and I went an entire year without with DD.

I know exactly how you feel and I am sure a lot of other women around the world have the same strong feelings against it, but we don't just go around bashing...

 

[nikkilucky77]

Mamabear: That is awesome how long you can go without! I know it is hard and your vision of a baby smoking in your belly is now in my head too!

 

[MamaBear93]

Mamabear: That is awesome how long you can go without! I know it is hard and your vision of a baby smoking in your belly is now in my head too!

It's a good/horrible vision to have. It's good when you are actually trying to quit but it is also pretty horrible to have to imagine it.

I just know that there are people that just don't care, and it does make me angry, but that is their life and if they want to have to deal with an unhealthy baby that is their problem because we know better.

 

[nikkilucky77]

Mamabear: That is awesome how long you can go without! I know it is hard and your vision of a baby smoking in your belly is now in my head too!

It's a good/horrible vision to have. It's good when you are actually trying to quit but it is also pretty horrible to have to imagine it.

I just know that there are people that just don't care, and it does make me angry, but that is their life and if they want to have to deal with an unhealthy baby that is their problem because we know better.

AMEN to that! I feel 98% of people on these forums want to have a healthy baby and do everything they can to have a healthy 9 months. Plus most of us want to have a baby instead of oopsies!

 

[Tangerine]

I quit smoking 4.5 months ago. I started with gum, got a stomach bug and couldn't chew it so I ended up going cold turkey. One of my goals to be met before I even started TTC was to be smoke free and taking prenatals for a minimum of 3 months. OH decided on his own to quit with me. I can't deny that it was hard; it was extremely difficult for both of us. OH used the patch and he still has some bad days. But we did it for each other and our future family and that was great motivation for us. I know not all pregnancies are planned but surely knowing the risks when you have a LO on the way would give a lot of great reasons to stop. Much better reasons than any you might have for continuing to smoke.

ETA OH and I were both pack a day smokers up until the day we quit; definitely not casual!

 

[ClandestineTX]

@nikkilucky77: I disagree completely. I want an oopsie, or at least a
8 cycles and counting into TTC, I seriously wish I could have spontaneously created a baby.

 

[nikkilucky77]

@nikkilucky77: I disagree completely. I want an oopsie, or at least a
8 cycles and counting into TTC, I seriously wish I could have spontaneously created a baby.

Lol ok I get what you are saying! I am not up to 8 cycles yet but I am sure I will be feeling the same way . I guess I was referring to one night stands with strangers that result in pregnancy for one example...btw they make it look so easy to get pregnant. It's not fair

I was an oopsie for my mom but I'm the best oopsie for her . It is never good to hear that you were the result of make-up sex and your dad was dating two women at the same time lol.