MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[momwithbabies]

I tested this morning and of course, BFN. I have no clue what's going on with my body. I'm so tired of this. I had two dreams last night that I got BFP's, so I woke up maybe a little hopeful.

How is everybody?

 

[ClandestineTX]

@momwithbabies: I hope your limbo is over soon. I hate not knowing what's going on with my body!

AFM... got a +OPK Thursday afternoon, so spared from further doses of suppositories. Temp super low today, so I expect O-pains before the day is over.
And I got all my paperwork submitted to be cleared for graduation - finally, after 6.5 years, I am PhinisheD

 

[mummy2o]

Hi guys,

I know I haven't been on this forum for a while but I've got a really lovely positive story for all you LTTTC

My car mechanic has a motorcycle accident when he was younger and he thought he would never be able to have kids, but the doctors were unsure. He met his wife and got married. After a year or two they decided to try and have a baby. They tried for 4 and a half years and they did all the tests and treatment you ladies are going through. After that time they decided enough was enough and decided to go through the adoption process. In the UK this takes a long time and after a year were loosing hope in that also. However, one day she was late, got a BFP and now due in May. He's over the moon and he cried like a little girl when she got her positive. I'm hoping you can all experience this in the near future

 

[Hopeful2014]

@ClandestineTX Yay for O and the end of the suppositories! Congrats on having all the paperwork submitted. That's quite an accomplishment.

@momwithbabies I'm sorry for the negative. I know it's hard and especially hard when you make yourself wait to test.

@mummy2o It's nice to hear from you. I hope you are doing well.

AFM I believe O is behind me. I am just waiting for temps to confirm. I'm feeling positive that it will happen - if not this time - then eventually. I want that for all of us. Does anyone have any traditions, plans, recipes, etc. for Thanksgiving? Do any of you plan to go Black Friday shopping? I may browse online. We are skipping most of the family dinners. We will probably eat with my in-laws on one night. We'll probably make a nice dinner for ourselves on Thanksgiving. It will not be the Thanksgiving that I had planned and that makes me sad. I'm thankful to be alive and to have a chance for a future.

 

[newbie2013]

Woo hoo! Congrats on being cleared to graduate!! I'm waiting on my final grades for my masters to register for my grad. hopefully on Monday.

I am thankful for so many things and despite not being American, I will share some with you. I am thankful for my health and happiness and those of my family and friends. I am thankful that I love my husband and he loves me. I am thankful that I enjoy what I get paid to do and I work with some fantastic people. I am thankful that my parents encouraged me to learn which has resulted in my applying for a PhD to start next year. I am thankful for the potential to have a baby even if it hasn't happened yet. I pray that it will happen one day for me and for each of you. I am thankful to be a part if this group.

 

[KatyW]

Ladies,
I still check in here time to time and say a prayer for each of you. I hope you have wonderful Thanksgivings if you celebrate. I hope you don't mind me posting here, as you were all so supportive to me.

Hopeful, I am saying a prayer for you during the holidays. I believe this time next year things will be brighter.

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Hopeful: we usually host Thanksgiving, because I make an awesome turkey. My mom and brother are coming, as is one of my cousins that recently moved here - so it will be fabulous. I understand you keeping things low key this year, and I hope this time next year you have a baby to take around with you to all your family.

AFM in the STC-dept... I am 2 DPO, already completely impatient. I wish we could just get a text or something that says "yep" or "nope" and carry on trying again.

 

[melann13]

Clandestine- I like that app idea...
Hopeful- Dissertation should be out to my committee around Dec 5 (2 weeks prior to my defense). I have my public defense on the 19th and the ceremony is on the 21st of Dec. I already have my hood and tam! My degree won't "technically" be conferred until May because following my defense I have to make any edits to the dissertation and submit it in bound published form to the graduate school and the deadline for this semester is noon on the 19th. Pretty sure that's not going to happen as my defense will likely not be over! But it doesn't really matter as I'll still be done as far as the school is concerned, but the diploma folder will be empty til May.

You ladies are all remarkably strong and I'm thankful to have "met" all of you.
I will share a story that I hope can inspire. My best friend and her husband have been trying for about 2.5 years. She was told that she wasn't ovulating and was on Clomid and some other meds. They suffered through a chemical and a 6wk MC. This past summer they were told that the only option for them would be IVF so she needed to go off her meds to "save" them for a harvest cycle (since you're not supposed to take some for too long in a row- forgive me if I don't know all the details). Anyway, she went off all her meds. She knew her cycle would likely be off since it was the first unmedicated one, but after it went way long she took a test and BFP! They're due in the spring with a baby girl. I'm over the moon for her.

Continued prayers that you may all find joy, no matter what form it comes in.

 

[pathos]

the most inspiring story to me is my story
I get all the science behind ttc, but there is always this x factor- and you cannnot control it. Its maddening especially for control freaks like me, but once the x is on your side... it happens

I m thinking of you ladies, when the time comes -cannot be long now- I ll say your (nick)names and pray that you go through the same pain soon

 

[ClandestineTX]

@melann: we have similar time frames for this and that. I didn't want to pay tuition for another semester, which they require if you aren't 100% done by the deadline for a given semester. Getting the last round of paperwork completed was amazing, I finally feel like I am free of it, but also feel like I need to see the piece of paper to really believe it's over. And we only have commencement in May... so no ceremony for me quite yet. They will mail the diploma to me in about a week or two.

And I'm a whole 3 DPO. Please tell me someone is testing sooner than I am, because I need the distraction. I finally get some time where I'm free of work, completely, and I am about to go crazy cleaning lady on my house, just to keep myself from thinking about all the what if's and possible dates for this cycle.

 

[athena87]

Hello ladies. I still read along and think of you ladies often, I hope so bad for each of you to get your little miracles. I wanted to share a recent pic of my little miracle. He is 2.5 months now and has recently within the past couple of weeks started grinning with a little giggle to things we do. Hope everyone has a happy thanksgiving!

 

[Lazydaisys]

My frozen transfer didn't work. So it's back to ttc, if my body can o after all those drugs
. Hope to try another frozen embryo transfer in jan or feb. Here we go again. Hope everybody is doing well. I'm always here hovering xxxxxx

I'm beyond jealous of people with babies right now!!!!


I'm cd 8. Oooh this ttc is fun. Xxx

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Lazydaisys

I hope everyone is doing well! Nothing to report here at 7 dpo... finishing up some side projects this weekend, then preparing for a week of proctoring and grading finals... and then I'm off for almost a month and no clue how to get started on all my house projects. I hope I figure it out soon!

 

[ProfWife]

12/13 dpo right now...test was negative this morning. No big surprise there.

And just found out one of my former students is pregnant with her first...she and her husband have been married about 8 months. They got pregnant within the first 4-5 months of their marriage. Happy for her, but wish we'd obviously started earlier (like immediately after the wedding...maybe we would have at least one child by now). Hindsight is 20/20, isn't it?

 

[ClandestineTX]

My $0.02 is not to berate yourself with the "would've, could've, should've" thinking. There's no guarantee for any of us that earlier in life would have made a difference, for some - possibly - but none of us can be sure. I had this talk with Hubster this morning, I feel guilty because if I had to choose between a guaranteed child earlier in life or my career and the life we have now... I would choose my career and the life we have now, and so would he. We waited so long because we wanted certain things in our lives, with or without kids. It's unnecessary torture to worry about what's already done or worse - about someone else's circumstances. Just be kind to yourself, that's really what I'm trying to say in a really long-winded, round-about way. None of us did anything to deserve this happening to us or cause this on purpose, and some folks are just more fertile than others. It's not fair at all, but nothing in life really is. to ya.

 

[momwithbabies]

Athena: He's precious! Hope you had a great Thanksgiving! Thank you for sharing the pic!

ProfWife: I'm sorry this cycle isn't the one. I hope it's your turn soon.

Clandestine: That's cool that you get one month off. I hope you get to relax and enjoy it

Lazydaises: I'm sorry about what you are going through. I hope you get a baby soon. I admire your perserverance.

Hi, to everybody else. Anybody get any shopping done? I haven't bought one thing!!! I hate shopping!!!!! I like to go when the crowds aren't as bad.
AF finally came and went. I'm glad to see her go. Thanksgiving was kind of yucky. We've had the flu and strep throat at my house, so we've all been cooped up together. I haven't been sick, knock on wood. I don't want to go back to work tomorrow...3 more weeks until Christmas Break!!!

 

[ClandestineTX]

"Relax" isn't actually in my vocabulary. I wish it were! I honestly envy people who can just not do things. I have been running on high since birth, it's just my nature.

No shopping here. We don't celebrate Christmas (or any other winter holiday for that matter) and honestly, the commercialism blows my mind and makes me a bit uncomfortable. We have so much excess in this country and watching people go mad, largely buying things they don't need, just boggles my mind. No offense to anyone, as I believe everyone should go out and do what makes them happy - it just seems crazy to me.

Sorry to hear you were all sick, but glad to hear you are all over it!

 

[newbie2013]

I'm good. found out on the weekend that a friend is 19 weeks which wouldn't have bothered me so much if It wasn't cd 1. Another friend gave birth today but I'm super happy for her coz they've been trying for 12 years and have had several miscarriages.
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Trying ferning this month but have really seen anything at all in the scope that came In the pack. Will keep trying In the lead up to what should be o. I was going to get blood tests but they're the equivalent of $200 and we can't afford that this month.

We don't celebrate Christmas either but my family back home does. Fortunately I do all my shopping over summer so I'm done!!

 

[Lazydaisys]

I'm not crazy into christmas, I like it. I like to see my family and do a few festive bits but it's all quite minimalistic. I hate it when people post all their kids presents under the tree wrapped up on facebook. It's more presents than some people see in a lifetime. I also see families who buy loads of stuff on credit and and end up in a financial mess all year. I went into Manchester yesterday. They have Christmas markets and an ice skating rink. It was so crazy that you couldn't even see what the stalls were selling or get a seat in the outside bars. The mulled wine smelt amazing. I hate crowds too so we opted for afternoon tea in a quiet bar. Lovely.

I'm good a relaxing if I have a few days or a set week off work. When you relax for a couple of hours I find it making getting back on task difficult! I should be on task planning my lessons but I somehow found my way onto here.

Thank you for admiring my perseverance. I cant give up. Some day it might bite me when I don't want to give up but I have too:-/

 

[ProfWife]

Commercialism is for the birds. I have a few digital books picked out...hubs has some camping tools...but other than that I make most of the presents for my family. Gator scarves for my sisters this year. Not sure for parents yet. I'm thinking maybe a nice doiley for the table.

Other than that, we decorate but keep it low key. I'd rather spend my time with friends and family, at our Christmas candlelight service and helping others. We spent Black Friday finding things to donate at our home...we have a LOT that we really don't need but that could be keeping others warm in the FL cold snaps. Hubs and I both felt it was much nicer than fighting the crowds to save money on stuff we really don't need anyway. We'd rather put that money towards his MBA or a trip.