MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[ProfWife]

Clandestine - CONGRATULATIONS! :-D Way to go!

AFM - Camping this weekend, but waiting on news from my parents in TN. My aunt has been in a coma since Sunday. She was declared brain dead today. Her partner isn't ready to say goodbye; so, she hasn't authorized the removal of the ventilator. Waiting to see what will happen and when the funeral will be. I was supposed to host my best friend's shower on Saturday (along with another friend). Now I might be attending a funeral instead. I feel bad I may need to bail on my friend, but my family comes first.

 

[kksy9b]

Congratulations Claude!! What a great achievement!

Profwife- I am sorry to hear about your aunt I'm sure that your friend will understand

 

[momwithbabies]

Hopeful: The dance was fun, but I'm glad it's the weekend and Halloween is over!! I hope this cycle is it! It feels good to know you've done everything possible. The waiting is maddening, though. I had some more EWCM yesterday, so I have no idea.

ProfWife: I'm so sorry. Yes, I think your friend will understand...family always comes first.

Clandestine: You go girl, lol! Yay!!!

AFM: My husband and I are not the closest right now. It's hard when it seems like he works all of the time. I'm appreciative of his hard work, but I'm saddened at times when he seems like he doesn't care about us. It's always work, and even when he's off, he's working. He's always on his phone. I don't want to be insensitive about it, but it upsets me because it seems like we take a back seat to his work lately.

Be honest, what the hell is wrong with me? I'm hurt, mad, but I haven't said anything. I'm holding this inside, but I know it will come out one way or the other. I work a lot, too. But when I'm home, I'm home...at least until kids go to bed. He gets home after working late, sometimes even when he doesn't have to, and then he's on the phone, emailing or something. I'm frustrated. Somebody needs to tell me that he's working to provide for your family, lol. I know I need to chill.

And I have no idea how to have a relationship with someone who is never here. We don't have sex, we don't talk, and when we do it's, "What time are you coming home?" or "Can you take the kids to school?"

Rant over (for the time being).

 

[Lazydaisys]

Sorry to hear about your sad news pro wife xx

 

[melann13]

Congrats Clandestine!! That's awesome!

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Profwife: I agree with the other ladies, family comes first. It sounds like a very emotionally trying situation, I hope you all find peace.

@Momwithbabies: Hubster is 24/7 on call, so I feel your pain. What we have done is set limits to his responding to work calls (like not during dinner) and if we are doing something, he checks his messages at regular intervals, so he's not constantly bombarded by it. It is hard on them, too, I promise. Definitely try to be honest with him, but in a way that shows you care about his life too.

AFM: spent the weekend living it up (as much as one can at the beginning of a TWW), still really tired, not sure if I am recovering from the nonstop work party, the actual party, or if it's just the hormones kicking my ass again. Going to be a long few weeks wrapping up final projects and teaching for the semester. I am ready for December!

 

[Lazydaisys]

I'm pupo!!!

I had one 5 day blast transferred today. Although only 60-70% of it survived the thaw apparently this is quite common. it was moving, just need to hope it repairs and grows. We decided to put that one back rather than waste it and unfreeze another one. (We have 2 frozen ones left.)

Test day is Friday 14th nov. I'm taking tomorrow off work then I hope to be busy and most of all not testing until test date! X

 

[ProfWife]

So excited for you!! Hoping this is it.


AFM - My aunt was take off life support today...she's actually still breathing on her own. Not quite sure how it's going to play out. My father started getting ill. So, he and my mom said their goodbyes and left to come home (not knowing how long they'd wait to turn off the machines or how long she'd last after it). There have been no plans for a funeral or memorial yet. She'd just had a pain pump implanted to control her pain from MS. There is a chance that surgery caused this situation. I'm sure an autopsy, etc. will take some time. So, not sure what's going to be done with it. It's unlikely my parents will make the drive back up and they can't fly. So, we may all stay home instead. I hate this waiting pattern.

 

[ClandestineTX]

Congrats and FX Lazy!!!

@ProfWife: if she's breathing on her own, there's at least a chance of recovery. Autopsies don't take that long (usually just a day for the procedure), the things that take longer are histology (looking at tissue samples under a microscope) and/or toxicology (tests for drugs in the body), if those are possible issues. Not all autopsies require those for cause and manner of death to be determined. Whatever the outcome, I wish peace for you and yours. It's never easy to go through something like this, big

 

[ProfWife]

She died about 7 hours after they stopped life support. Her funeral is Thursday. We likely won't be able to make it after all. It's been an emotional week. My parents arrived back home a bit ago. They sounded good and don't appear to have any regrets about not being there for the moment of the call...she was gone before they shut that machine off. Reality of it hit me a few minutes ago when her obituary went online. I just can't believe I'll never hear that Southern drawl of hers again (she looked and talked like my grandmother). She was only 66...just a few months older than my own mom.

 

[ClandestineTX]

ProfWife.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Sorry pro wife xxxxx

 

[momwithbabies]

So sorry for you loss, ProfWife.

Thank you, Clandestine, for the advice. I think you're right. I hope to talk to him about it, in person, soon.

 

[kksy9b]

Sending prayers to you and your family Profwife

 

[ProfWife]

And the fun just keeps coming...on my mom's side we currently have one aunt under hospice care after fracturing her pelvis in 2 places, her husband (my mom's brother) is in radiation treatment for cancer, another of their brothers has been under hospice since May with cancer, and another has COPD. It's quite the downpour of bad health around us lately. OY!

 

[Hopeful2014]

@newbie2013 How are you? Has af stayed away?

@ClandestineTX That's wonderful news! Congratulations! I hope the weeks pass for you and you get everything finished. I'm ready for December too. I'm more ready for spring and warm weather!

@ProfWife I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt. My thoughts are with your family. Losing someone is always so difficult. It can be a scary thing as well especially when you start to think about how fragile life is and all those you care about. I hope your aunt has found peace and that your family is able to find meaning in her life and keep her memory with you all.

@momwithbabies I hope he is able to take a break or that work slows down a bit soon. Perhaps you can have a date night or some special time. Maybe even just a movie and snuggle after the kids go to bed. Suggest giving each other back rubs after a long day. Try to bring up having some non-technology time together in a way that shows you miss spending time with him.

@Lazydaisys Congrats on being pupo! I'm so hopeful for you!

AFM AF is here. It comes as a disappointment because I had very promising signs. I had a large drop at 7 dpo and a very large sustained rise of temps for many days after the drop. I only had a dip twice before. Once was in a wonky cycle after my early loss (without the sustained rise of temps following) and the other was in my BFP cycle with Emma which was very similar to this one. However, my temp was down Thursday so I knew af was coming. I didn't test so I won't know if it would have been faint or not. It does mean I'll be one month closer to the year mark (assuming one year would be better than the necessary six months of wait time), I'll be on the aspirin and extra vitamins for another month, and I can continue to lose the last four pounds. I'm not too upset and will be excited to try again this month. My hopes are high for all of us. I'm still holding out for our BFPs.

 

[momwithbabies]

Hopeful: Dang it! I'm sorry AF came. I hope next month is better. Those are good ideas. I won't be able to try them for a while because he works this weekend and goes out-of-town this coming week. It's hard finding a balance, I know.

Another week down, ladies. Thank goodness it's Friday! I'm tired, hungry, and I have no one to cook dinner for me, lol! McDonald's might be calling my name

 

[ProfWife]

And she passed this morning. My uncle is (obviously) not taking it well. He will likely stop cancer treatments, although those really weren't likely to prolong his natural life by much anyway.

One of my friends lost her baby - still born via c-section @ 34 weeks. There are no words.

Too much tragedy lately. Please keep my family and friend in your prayers.

 

[Lazydaisys]

In my thoughts prowife xxxxxxxx

 

[momwithbabies]

Yes, prayers.