MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[burgbrandy]

Hi ladies! I'm on cycle day 7 and it should be af's last day! I am so ready to get to the fun bding part I am temping and will start OPKS tomorrow or the next. It's odd how it felt like time was going by so quickly before we were ttc now the days drag by!

Also I have heard that doing the deed everyday is bad for sperm count, does anyone know if that is true or not? Thus far ttc usually doesn't take us long or much effort but after my recent miscarriage we want to make sure we are doing our best effort!

Wishing everyone baby and sticky bean dust!!!!

Every day is fine, as long as he has no known issues. Some models of natural family planning recommend every day for 3 days before o until the day after o.

Also, the way a men's body works is this: if u are having sex everyday, the mans body will notice the need for more sperm and will start producing more. If u are having sex every couple days, his body will think he doesn't need as much and produce less sperm.

That's why we usually start about a week before o and BD every day. But in a healthy man, sperm is produced every 24 hours, so its fine.

 

[Dannixo]

Soooooo I had a chem pg....on to next month ;D

I am so sorry! Prayers are with you!

 

[melann13]

Hi ladies! I'm on cycle day 7 and it should be af's last day! I am so ready to get to the fun bding part I am temping and will start OPKS tomorrow or the next. It's odd how it felt like time was going by so quickly before we were ttc now the days drag by!

Also I have heard that doing the deed everyday is bad for sperm count, does anyone know if that is true or not? Thus far ttc usually doesn't take us long or much effort but after my recent miscarriage we want to make sure we are doing our best effort!

Wishing everyone baby and sticky bean dust!!!!

Every day is fine, as long as he has no known issues. Some models of natural family planning recommend every day for 3 days before o until the day after o.

Also, the way a men's body works is this: if u are having sex everyday, the mans body will notice the need for more sperm and will start producing more. If u are having sex every couple days, his body will think he doesn't need as much and produce less sperm.

That's why we usually start about a week before o and BD every day. But in a healthy man, sperm is produced every 24 hours, so its fine.

We had been going back and forth betweem ED and EOD. This last month with our BFP we did BD 5 days in a row up to and including O day.
Burgbrandy, when I read "If u are having sex every couple days" I could've sworn it said "every couple hours" and I was like "holy crap! who are these people? Don't they have jobs?" :haha"

 

[burgbrandy]

Ha ha!!! I definitely couldn't handle every couple hours! Considering hubby works 10 hours and sleeps for 8 hours, we are lucky to get in once a day! When we started ttc, right after our wedding, we went the first 7 cycles bding every single day...for 7 straight months! Now we are tired and do every other day most of the month, but every day the whole week of o.

 

[omgbaby]

Lol melann I just laughed so hard at the dreams your having!!! Lmao

 

[allforthegirl]

Anyone else get really weepy at O? I am just a wreck today!!

 

[melann13]

Well if my crazy preg dreams can make anybody's day, I'll give you another.

This was a few nights ago:
I was driving down the road and saw a baby opossum. I called the humane society and told them someone should pick it up because it was tiny and alone. Later I went to the DOT (dept. of transportation) to see how it was doing (I have no idea how it ended up there). They said "Oh, it's fine, just waiting to go back out with the rest of the items." I said what do you mean? They pointed me to a wall of tiny (8" wide) shelves each with a different item that had been picked up off the road and needed to be returned. One shelf had a street cone, one had rope, one had my opossum and one had a kitten. All just sitting politely on their individual shelves (not in carriers or anything) waiting to be returned to where they had been found.

I've also had a couple more heinous dreams involving murder etc. We won't bother with those...

 

[nikkilucky77]

Its not insensitive. Its practical. I respect practical. I just happened a couple hours ago. It went from discussing if we would try this month because he has been so busy with work, then his story wasn't matching up about when he was out of town for work. Like he worked all last week, he came back home Wednesday for a bit. But he said something about only working 5 days, and I asked where the heck was he then....I don't know. Then it just got crazy from there and he just left. I think I just feel worse cause there was no resolution.

My limited insurance is through his work.
I'm not working right now because I'm finishing up school.
I'm just overwhelmed. I don't even know where to start being upset.
I feel betrayed. After everything this? Is he just upset? Is this actually happening?

I'm so sorry Penny ...I hope he was just out of it at the moment and maybe he wasn't thinking clearly?

 

[nikkilucky77]

Well if my crazy preg dreams can make anybody's day, I'll give you another.

This was a few nights ago:
I was driving down the road and saw a baby opossum. I called the humane society and told them someone should pick it up because it was tiny and alone. Later I went to the DOT (dept. of transportation) to see how it was doing (I have no idea how it ended up there). They said "Oh, it's fine, just waiting to go back out with the rest of the items." I said what do you mean? They pointed me to a wall of tiny (8" wide) shelves each with a different item that had been picked up off the road and needed to be returned. One shelf had a street cone, one had rope, one had my opossum and one had a kitten. All just sitting politely on their individual shelves (not in carriers or anything) waiting to be returned to where they had been found.

I've also had a couple more heinous dreams involving murder etc. We won't bother with those...

Lol...so if being pregnant means even more vivid dreams I don't know what I am going to do! I literally have crazy crazy dreams already. I tell DH and he looks at me like seriously what goes on in your head!


On another note I have some cramping today and I am 8dpo even though FF says I am 9dpo. I am crossing my fingers so hard they will fall off . I am hoping it will be good news next week. I know it is just too early for AF so that is what I am holding on to.

 

[nikkilucky77]

Anyone else get really weepy at O? I am just a wreck today!!

I feel that I do from O to AF ...I could cry at the drop of a hat! Lol

 

[Mme2kdee]

Well if my crazy preg dreams can make anybody's day, I'll give you another.

This was a few nights ago:
I was driving down the road and saw a baby opossum. I called the humane society and told them someone should pick it up because it was tiny and alone. Later I went to the DOT (dept. of transportation) to see how it was doing (I have no idea how it ended up there). They said "Oh, it's fine, just waiting to go back out with the rest of the items." I said what do you mean? They pointed me to a wall of tiny (8" wide) shelves each with a different item that had been picked up off the road and needed to be returned. One shelf had a street cone, one had rope, one had my opossum and one had a kitten. All just sitting politely on their individual shelves (not in carriers or anything) waiting to be returned to where they had been found.

I've also had a couple more heinous dreams involving murder etc. We won't bother with those...

LOL that is great!!!

 

[Mme2kdee]

Soooooo I had a chem pg....on to next month ;D

I am so so sorry to hear this!!!! Praying for next month!

 

[Mme2kdee]

my update: I saw the doctor today about my irregular cycles....she said since I am currently on CD21, feel nauseous, had 4 days of light spotting (not enough for liner) that she is doing blood pregnancy test and I should know by tomorrow....she said if I am not pregnant currently (which I don't think I am) that I will be put on birth control for 1-2 months to regulate then we can continue to try. At first she thought I may have a cyst but checked and I don't. I am not looking forward to going on BC again

 

[Mme2kdee]

my update: I saw the doctor today about my irregular cycles....she said since I am currently on CD21, feel nauseous, had 4 days of light spotting (not enough for liner) that she is doing blood pregnancy test and I should know by tomorrow....she said if I am not pregnant currently (which I don't think I am) that I will be put on birth control for 1-2 months to regulate then we can continue to try. At first she thought I may have a cyst but checked and I don't. I am not looking forward to going on BC again

sorry for all of the spam...forgot to add I noticed ewcm the 2nd to last day of my period but didn't think to check for opk and only been using opks this month since CD13 - all negative

 

[omgbaby]

Well if my crazy preg dreams can make anybody's day, I'll give you another.

This was a few nights ago:
I was driving down the road and saw a baby opossum. I called the humane society and told them someone should pick it up because it was tiny and alone. Later I went to the DOT (dept. of transportation) to see how it was doing (I have no idea how it ended up there). They said "Oh, it's fine, just waiting to go back out with the rest of the items." I said what do you mean? They pointed me to a wall of tiny (8" wide) shelves each with a different item that had been picked up off the road and needed to be returned. One shelf had a street cone, one had rope, one had my opossum and one had a kitten. All just sitting politely on their individual shelves (not in carriers or anything) waiting to be returned to where they had been found.

I've also had a couple more heinous dreams involving murder etc. We won't bother with those...

Lmao!! Omg!! That just made my day! You should make a pregnancy dream journal!! Lol

 

[omgbaby]

Is it normal to get pinching in uterus. I'm on cd4 & felt it as I walked back to my chair & sat down only lasted a few seconds.

 

[littlesteph]

might be a bit tmi but sometimes i check my cervix, and after i checked it earlier i started to bleed only enough for a liner though and the bleeding has stopped now, AF is not due till friday it is possible that i just scratched it and thats why it bleed or could it be something else?

 

[pennymarie]

@pennymarie - we are all here for u! Maybe it was just the stress of ttc. Idk. Im sure u will figure everything out! Stay strong!

Pennymarie, that you are going through this! It's hard to go through all this and men def have a different way of seeing and dealing with ttc. Try to do something nice for yourself today and keep us updated, never think you have to go through this alone! We're all here to listen!

Just went to bathroom and had blood tinged cm if AF comes tomorrow that's only a 10 day lp, that's not good is it? This will be my shortest cycle for months.

You temp on your chart today is fantastic so maybe it is IB as you are 10dpo??? FXd

Pennymarie - I am so sorry to hear what you are going through please stick around and let everyone give you someone to talk too and comfort you they are a great bunch

Thank you all. He came by today with some flowers and we talked a bit more. He said he is a bit tired of talking and talking and just wanted to spend "normal" time together. But from what I gather he is thinking of a career change. He turned 30 this past October, and he realized mechanic work isn't what he wants to do for the rest of his life (also because most cars are becoming computerized, mechanics are losing jobs). So he said maybe now isn't the best time. And he knows that is what I'm mainly concerned with since I'm a semester away from graduating. But that is all we discussed and tried enjoying ourselves before he had to go again.

I guess all I can say is remember to do the normal life things too. Most of us do, but I guess beyond school, this was consuming my life.

Thank you all for your support.

 

[pennymarie]

So this is not entirely related, but husband discussed a seperation with me tonight. Then said he was staying with friends, and left. It came out of left field. Even though we've been through so much, and he has supported me through all of this, and he was as devasted as I was. I don't know. I really don't know who else to talk to about this. All my in life friends and family just don't know what to say. And they have been standoff-ish since my miscarriage because they don't know what to say. I'm falling to pieces now

This has got to be hard to go through for anyone. I remember having going through much of the same thing with past husband. The dishonesty killed me. It was worse to me then us talking about separation. The only thing is I knew what was going on, the suckiest thing about being very intuitive. He needs to come clean to you, you will feel 80% better just for it, and then at least you can move on in your life no matter with him or without him. All the best my dear. i hope if comes about soon for you!

My temp was 37.11 this morning!!! That's not normal is it? There wasn't any reasons for me being hotter than usual?l

If I was you and had temp spike like that at 10DPO I would

I would test anyways at 10DPO

GL FX

Thank you for your imput. I felt so selfish for thinking about still starting a family. If we weren't concerned about this, then I would be worrying about the normal things, but all I thought about is the fact we wouldn't be TTC now. But even if the worse comes about, it doesn't mean April was my last chance. I need to remember that. I love my husband dearly though. The point of starting a family was because I wanted to share that with him. Ack.
But honesty is good.

 

[OurLilFlu]

That's a good point about this is not your last chance and how much you live him and wanting to have a family together is key. I understand your feeling of selfishness because I just recently graduated and even thiugh i only have a casual nursing position ( as opposed to a permanent/ full time) want everything now as well. House and baby are simultaneously at the top of the list.
My oh is going to start school in an apprenticeship in aug and thinks its not the right time but I have a hard time understanding it since his schooling is only 8 weeks at a time and during which he receives unemployment. It's hard to see the other side and be ok with waiting.
I'm glad you guys have aired out some concerns and feelings even if it wasn't what you wanted to hear. But this is exactly what a relationship is and it's hard to see that sometimes. Stay strong and just think of how much closer you guys will become by communicating more and indulging in the 'normal'