MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[melann13]

my reasoning for 5dpo is that there is no connected blood supply until at least implantation, so no harm. I definitely don't drink a lot, last month when I got my BFP I think I had half a beer on 5dpo.

 

[omgbaby]

So I've had low temps for 3 days & had just a few sips of oh's drink last night but still put alcohol on my chart. I've had some slight pains the past few days but since they don't actually hurt I'm not sure whether or not to put as 'o pain'

 

[FrancoRie710]

Chulie, I agree with you about the caffeine. I will eat soft cheese as long as it's pasteurized, I did not drink after 5dpo each cycle (and now not at all of course). I used to be VERY addicted to caffeine, and would get horrid headaches in the afternoon if I didn't have it. So for me it's about keeping it low enough that I don't miss it if I don't have any at all.

Ok it's so funny you mention drinking. I was saying to my DH this weekend...when I was ttc with #1 I don't know what happened to me but I don't remember even thinking about wether I should drink or not....I can't even tell you if I stopped drinking or when???? but since I've been fertile I've been like...hmmmm..should I drink(before I got my BFP) or not? we go for dinner and I'm like...hmmm..should I have wine or not (I was ovulating so not a day past anything! haha)..I'm so torn between not being someone who gives up everything when ttc and having my normal life until I get my BFP....I think that's actually a rule that works for me....say 5 dpo....because then it's less than 10 days where you avoid and then can go right back to it if you get af.....Thanks! I'm totally gonna use that if I don't catch this month!

I agree- it's so hard to know what to do. I have read several articles that cite a Danish study where even moderate drinkers (5 or less drinks per week) had reduced fertility compared with non-drinkers, and says you should stop drinking 120 days before you want to conceive. So this tells me I should quit. But my OBGYN told me a drink or two per week would be fine, and my friend who finally conceived through IVF said she didn't give up anything until she was pregnant. It seems like such a simple thing to stop drinking but alcohol seems to be the one consultation in this whole thing; I'm not preg so yay! I can have a glass of wine! To give it up entirely would feel like another change to my life that I've made since starting this whole process. I would have NO trouble giving up alcohol, caffeine, etc. if I was preg because at least there's the promise of a healthy child at the end of it all. If I give up alcohol NOW, it's like depriving myself of something I enjoy with no guarantee that anything will come of it in the end.

For the record; I drink MAYBE a glass of wine per night. It's not like I go out and get hammered. Right now this is my plan; I am going on vacay to California in June/July and want to relax and drink wine on the trip. When I get back I have an appt with an RE and I'm going to ask his professional opinion. Is anyone else there with me, or am I just a whiner who should give up alcohol already?!

 

[MamaBear93]

Tested again with FMU at 10DPO today. BFN...Ugh...I am pretty sure this is not my month...Going to try to hold out until AF is due...bleh...I was so confident that this would be my month...but I guess not...

 

[chulie]

Chulie, I agree with you about the caffeine. I will eat soft cheese as long as it's pasteurized, I did not drink after 5dpo each cycle (and now not at all of course). I used to be VERY addicted to caffeine, and would get horrid headaches in the afternoon if I didn't have it. So for me it's about keeping it low enough that I don't miss it if I don't have any at all.

Ok it's so funny you mention drinking. I was saying to my DH this weekend...when I was ttc with #1 I don't know what happened to me but I don't remember even thinking about wether I should drink or not....I can't even tell you if I stopped drinking or when???? but since I've been fertile I've been like...hmmmm..should I drink(before I got my BFP) or not? we go for dinner and I'm like...hmmm..should I have wine or not (I was ovulating so not a day past anything! haha)..I'm so torn between not being someone who gives up everything when ttc and having my normal life until I get my BFP....I think that's actually a rule that works for me....say 5 dpo....because then it's less than 10 days where you avoid and then can go right back to it if you get af.....Thanks! I'm totally gonna use that if I don't catch this month!

I agree- it's so hard to know what to do. I have read several articles that cite a Danish study where even moderate drinkers (5 or less drinks per week) had reduced fertility compared with non-drinkers, and says you should stop drinking 120 days before you want to conceive. So this tells me I should quit. But my OBGYN told me a drink or two per week would be fine, and my friend who finally conceived through IVF said she didn't give up anything until she was pregnant. It seems like such a simple thing to stop drinking but alcohol seems to be the one consultation in this whole thing; I'm not preg so yay! I can have a glass of wine! To give it up entirely would feel like another change to my life that I've made since starting this whole process. I would have NO trouble giving up alcohol, caffeine, etc. if I was preg because at least there's the promise of a healthy child at the end of it all. If I give up alcohol NOW, it's like depriving myself of something I enjoy with no guarantee that anything will come of it in the end.

For the record; I drink MAYBE a glass of wine per night. It's not like I go out and get hammered. Right now this is my plan; I am going on vacay to California in June/July and want to relax and drink wine on the trip. When I get back I have an appt with an RE and I'm going to ask his professional opinion. Is anyone else there with me, or am I just a whiner who should give up alcohol already?!

Oh no girl I'm right there with you!!!!! Honestly...unless someone came to me and said...100% of the women who drink within 120 days of trying cannot get pregnant at all...no WAY am I giving it up...yes...let's be clear here...I'm not talking bottles of wine...I'm talking maybe 3-4 glasses a week....

That's why I hate "studies"...they seem to constantly contradict eachother and no one really knows ANYTHING....that being said...I do agree like I said before....why do some people have allergies to certain foods? I do agree some things affect people in certain ways...but considering basically the night I conceived my daughter I was at a bachelorette( to be clear I went home to my husband that night...lmao) and was basically the drunkest I've been since I was 25.......I dont agree with those "studies"...I do agree with overall health being a fact...but I also work with women who literally live on detox clean diets where they don't even eat SUGAR and are STILL unable to get pregnant......so ya...your not just whining.....I believe everything in moderation because there is no point in putting your life in hold for a)a study that will be contradicted in a week or b) a child who may never come.....so ya.....life is stressful enough...I'm enjoying my glass of wine while I can!!hahahaha.....

Awwww...sorry to hear Mommabear...but it's still only 10dpo....a day or two could change a lot hormonally in your body!

 

[Lazydaisys]

I'm out for this month. Having a month off but will be back in July. Best wishes to everybody else x

 

[chulie]

I'm out for this month. Having a month off but will be back in July. Best wishes to everybody else x

Awww Lazydaisys......so sorry....enjoy your month off!!!

 

[EAandBA_TTC]

All right, those of us who just had to see AF, what is the plan for this month's ttc?

My plan is to continue:
Pre-natal & b12 every day (I have a b-12 deficit & b-12 is what helps your body absorb folic acid)
OPK's
Temping
Musinex @ ovulation

To introduce:
Pre-seed
Staying hydrated

Next month we start clomid if needed...

 

[RaeChay]

I think I'm out - I cracked and took the test this morning, and it's so negative the test laughed at me.

Oh dear!
I'm sorry about the circumstances but this just cracks me up. This is exactly how I feel using hpt's... "Oh look, there's the control line. And yes, there's where the test line would go...white as the driven snow.."

 

[J_Lynn]

I think I'm out - I cracked and took the test this morning, and it's so negative the test laughed at me.

Oh dear!
I'm sorry about the circumstances but this just cracks me up. This is exactly how I feel using hpt's... "Oh look, there's the control line. And yes, there's where the test line would go...white as the driven snow.."

Yup. It's like, "Oh well, I'm just going to sit here and let this still be white. "

Like it's just another day. I was thinking the other day, they need to switch it around and make the 1 line BFP

 

[ALiKO]

Hey Ladies!

I've been absent from this thread for soo long! about 2 weeks and change I think... Anyways I just wanted to drop in and say WOW! Congrats! To the new 's and FX to all the ladies still awaiting their 's!

About me: just been goin through a lot but I'm back . I ended up ovulating a week after my predicted ovulation day which was a bit of a bummer but i ovulated so that's all that mattered. I BD'd the day of ovulation so we'll see what happens...

With that being said I can finally be moved from TBA to testing day June 15th . I'm in a bit of a weird space right now as I do not totally feel in but I do not want to say I'm out. Here's to having faith!

 

[PrettyPixie]

Well Ladies...i am 2 days late...15dpo (if i am correct)..tested this morning and got a BFN! I have a very regular menstrual cycle..so confusion reigns! What to do..sit and wait i guess..how long do i give it till i test again? PG tests are extremely expensive where i live so dont want to test every single day.

 

[MamaBear93]

Craving some chinese food like no other. And my back is killing me...I wish DH would give me a massage but no luck

 

[J_Lynn]

All right, those of us who just had to see AF, what is the plan for this month's ttc? My own commitment is to cut down on my caffeine (possible coincidence, but my daughter was conceived the month I did this) and take my prenatal vitamin very day. Trying to think of positive action to take for better health/ better chances of conceiving a healthy baby

My plan is to go back to my doctor; we will be starting femara this month. I'm always going to be eating cleaner - we've cut out all the junk food (well, ok ... I sneak some Worther's Originals here and there, but I can't give them up) and anything that's not grass fed, organic, free-range, etc. I'm also making it a point to work out EVERY day - except for right now, because I have managed to sprain my ankle Boo. So I am really limping around but I'm trying to still at least walk. But those are the main changes I'm going to make. Wait - I may also beg for IUIs. But that's just because my CM hates me and clearly wants all sperm to die.

 

[ALiKO]

Quick question, as all of you seem to know way more than me!!

Would you still have reasonably reglar AF if you don't ovulate?

Thanks!

Hey Newbie,

I actually read before that you can have a period without ovulating. I know someone who had an anovulatory 40 day cycle and still had AF. If you ovulated with no AF than that means you are pregnant. For me personally if I do not ovulate I do not have a period, my cycle would just be really long until I ovulate then I'd have a period 2 weeks after that. That's why it's very important to bbt chart. Hope that helped

 

[ALiKO]

I have managed to sprain my ankle Boo.

OMG J_Lynn you too!
Girl I tried to look cute over the weekend and wear some high heeled wedge sandals... Lets just say it was a fail of epic proportions! I'm also walking around limping with a sprained ankle right leg haha.

 

[Hopeful2014]

@littlesteph It sounds like you have been having lots of fun minus the cramps. I can't wait to see Hangover 3. Good luck catching ovulation and on getting a BFP!

@burgbrandy It sounds like you have been having fun as well! Good luck on the pinches and pulling.

@MamaPeaches Sometimes we have light lines because we always have lh. It just goes really dark when it is surging. Valentine's day will be amazing. If I get a BFP I will be due the day before, I think.

@Fallen8905 Date updated. Does that mean it was closer to when your husband was home? I hope you get a BFP! Good luck!

@newbie2013 I definitely recommend temping. It's one of the easiest ways you can find out if you are ovulating. Your temp will go up after ovulation. You can identify if you are or are not ovulating and when it is happening. I would go ahead with the blood work as well.

@omgbaby I'd say with the ewcm and the slight pains you are about to ovulate. It won't give you crosshairs based on the "o pain" entry. It gives them to you after three high temps. I'd say it's coming soon if it wasn't the last day. Good luck!

@FrancoRie710 I understand. I'd say don't do it after possible implantation time if you're worried about it at least. We try so hard to do everything right. Doesn't it seem aggravating when women do everything wrong and it comes so easily and doesn't it really aggravate you when they continue to do so during pregnancy. Practice moderation and be happy!

@Lazydaisys I'm sorry. I hope you definitely rejoin us in July. I'll move you to TBA for now.

@EAandBA_TTC You'll have to let us know what you think about the pre-seed. I do think drinking more water helps with cm. Good luck!

@ALiKO Date updated. I'm so glad you're back. Good luck!

@PrettyPixie I've heard that if you make it much longer it is almost sure to be a BFP if you don't usually have that long of a luteal phase. You may have implanted late and it may be taking time for the hCG to build up. Good luck and keep us updated!

 

[FrancoRie710]

Well Ladies...i am 2 days late...15dpo (if i am correct)..tested this morning and got a BFN! I have a very regular menstrual cycle..so confusion reigns! What to do..sit and wait i guess..how long do i give it till i test again? PG tests are extremely expensive where i live so dont want to test every single day.

What's your typical LP? Maybe it's your month!

Also, it took me a while, but someone clued me in to the opk's and hpt's that you can buy on Amazon that are MUCH cheaper than the store. I can test more now and not worry about the cost. Seeing the bfn though, that's another issue altogether!

 

[J_Lynn]

I have managed to sprain my ankle Boo.

OMG J_Lynn you too!
Girl I tried to look cute over the weekend and wear some high heeled wedge sandals... Lets just say it was a fail of epic proportions! I'm also walking around limping with a sprained ankle right leg haha.

hahaha it's horrible!!! I just woke up one morning and obviously forgot how to walk because on my way to the bathroom *pop* there it went lol I just stepped wrong somehow. I swear I am so clumsy. I just am hoping it gets better soon so I can actually walk on it; I thought the elliptical at the gym would be no real strain on it, but I was veryyyyy wrong. Holy moly that hurt hahaha

 

[PrettyPixie]

Well Ladies...i am 2 days late...15dpo (if i am correct)..tested this morning and got a BFN! I have a very regular menstrual cycle..so confusion reigns! What to do..sit and wait i guess..how long do i give it till i test again? PG tests are extremely expensive where i live so dont want to test every single day.

What's your typical LP? Maybe it's your month!

Also, it took me a while, but someone clued me in to the opk's and hpt's that you can buy on Amazon that are MUCH cheaper than the store. I can test more now and not worry about the cost. Seeing the bfn though, that's another issue altogether!

LP is normally 13days...just have to wait and see what happens i think. I am currently in the UAE and due to return home first week of July...so might do 1 or 2 more tests..if nothing i will see a dr when i get back.