MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[OurLilFlu]

Brandy: I see something too, not sure what cuz it's dark and on my phone but FX

 

[ALiKO]

Ladies I have a question am I the only one who feels this way? This is to the ladies who have never been pregnant before. I'm talking nothing. Never had a chemical pregnancy, mis-carriage, just simply never been pregnant at all. This is no disrespect to woman who have had these things happen please do not take offense to this.

Of course we have all had boyfriends and had previous relationships and whether you are currently married or spending your life happily with a significant other just thinking back over the years have you ever wondered why you just haven't managed to get pregnant?
Not even by accident? I have been with my husband for 4 years 3 years of which we are married and obviously we do not use protection and i am still have not gotten pregnant to my knowledge.

Not even by my ex boyfriend who I was in a steady relationship with for 2 years. It makes me feel like can I even get pregnant. I have gone to doctors in 2 countries and have had numorous blood tests and ultrasounds just to be told that everything is in tip top shape and that I should be able to become pregnant anytime.

I think a lot of us obsess over becoming pregnant because we never have never been and are simply afraid if we'll ever be. I know that's how I feel and I can only speak for myself. If I ever had been pregnant before even if I had a chemical pregnancy or a mis-carriage god forbid, I don't think I would feel as anxious because I would know that I can become pregnant and that its only a matter of time before I fall pregnant again. But since I never have been pregnant I'm so anxious.

Sorry for the long spill. Just putting it out there... I know I can't be the only one feeling this way...

 

[OurLilFlu]

Hmm I can't really say I've had the same feelings as I have always been on the pill in prior relationships but me and my current bf agreed to not go back on it in December. So if I'm reading your story right, you haven't been using any form of protection for 3 yrs currently? Because I always thought that the guideline for ntnp was most couples will get pg in a year or two... Are you charting now to maybe improve your timing?

 

[amanda111308]

J_Lynn...that DOES sound exciting!!! Especially when your dr clearly sounds excited...that's an awesome dr right there!!!!

Amanda I'm so sorry to hear that...I hate that these people have such life altering test information and it's like they can't "get around" to calling....I understand they're busy but don't they understand just one result to them is literally a woman on the other end of the line going crazy????? Very frustrating.....

KKSY.....I'm so sorry to hear that....but ya...June is gonna be a GREAT month for us ALL!!!!!! The phrase "summer lovin'" didn't come out of no where!!!!

Aww thanks Chulie I am afraid I have bad news for me though... I tested negative for pregnancy and all my other hormone levels came back normal... I don't know what to do should I try angus cactus or just wait for the witch to get me??

 

[MzImpatient]

i lost track of this forum, but am excited to see the bfp's grow just an update, i had my ultrasounds and its twins! I've experienced losses so was very grateful to this group for getting me through the tww! Good luck to you all

congrats!!!!!

 

[ALiKO]

Hmm I can't really say I've had the same feelings as I have always been on the pill in prior relationships but me and my current bf agreed to not go back on it in December. So if I'm reading your story right, you haven't been using any form of protection for 3 yrs currently? Because I always thought that the guideline for ntnp was most couples will get pg in a year or two... Are you charting now to maybe improve your timing?

I see what you mean... Well I have been on the pill in the past on and off and forgot plenty of times to take it so I'd either skip a day or have to double up, and I must admit I have taken plan b before. Other than that me and hubby used to do withdrawal method after I decided to get off birth control. And also having extremely irregulars periods as a cause of all the birth control I was on didt help either (longest without AF was 6 months). It's only recent we actually started TTC since Nov. 2012. so its been about 6 months. And yes I do temp. I've been temping since Nov. as well.

I really hate to be the "Debbie Downer" but I just thought more women shared my sentiments as I had this discussion with a cousin of mine who actually went on to become pregnant and now has a beautiful 9 month old daughter and my sister who felt the same way.

 

[chulie]

J_Lynn...that DOES sound exciting!!! Especially when your dr clearly sounds excited...that's an awesome dr right there!!!!

Amanda I'm so sorry to hear that...I hate that these people have such life altering test information and it's like they can't "get around" to calling....I understand they're busy but don't they understand just one result to them is literally a woman on the other end of the line going crazy????? Very frustrating.....

KKSY.....I'm so sorry to hear that....but ya...June is gonna be a GREAT month for us ALL!!!!!! The phrase "summer lovin'" didn't come out of no where!!!!

Aww thanks Chulie I am afraid I have bad news for me though... I tested negative for pregnancy and all my other hormone levels came back normal... I don't know what to do should I try angus cactus or just wait for the witch to get me??

Oh Amanada I'm so sorry to hear that!! I'm sorry I don't know anything about asngus cactus but i've heard lots of people mention their on it?? I think anything that can naturally help is a good thing and makes you feel like your being more pro-active.....how long have you been trying? maybe it was just a silly egg and next month you'll have a beautiful egg waiting to be fertilized and THAT will be your month!!!

 

[chulie]

Hmm I can't really say I've had the same feelings as I have always been on the pill in prior relationships but me and my current bf agreed to not go back on it in December. So if I'm reading your story right, you haven't been using any form of protection for 3 yrs currently? Because I always thought that the guideline for ntnp was most couples will get pg in a year or two... Are you charting now to maybe improve your timing?

I see what you mean... Well I have been on the pill in the past on and off and forgot plenty of times to take it so I'd either skip a day or have to double up, and I must admit I have taken plan b before. Other than that me and hubby used to do withdrawal method after I decided to get off birth control. And also having extremely irregulars periods as a cause of all the birth control I was on didt help either (longest without AF was 6 months). It's only recent we actually started TTC since Nov. 2012. so its been about 6 months. And yes I do temp. I've been temping since Nov. as well.

I really hate to be the "Debbie Downer" but I just thought more women shared my sentiments as I had this discussion with a cousin of mine who actually went on to become pregnant and now has a beautiful 9 month old daughter and my sister who felt the same way.

Oh I don't think your a debbie downer at all... I definitely used to feel that way......I started having sex when I was 18 and let's just say...wasn't the most reliable with birth control...hahaha...I was terrible at it...so when I started trying...it hit me really hard...for 12 years i've done an "ok" job...and havent gotten pregnant...maybe there is something wrong???? It was a question I asked myself for sure!!!! I do have a 2 year old now...so was very lucky....but it is something I think must cross a LOT of women's minds!

 

[FrancoRie710]

Ladies I have a question am I the only one who feels this way? This is to the ladies who have never been pregnant before. I'm talking nothing. Never had a chemical pregnancy, mis-carriage, just simply never been pregnant at all. This is no disrespect to woman who have had these things happen please do not take offense to this.

Of course we have all had boyfriends and had previous relationships and whether you are currently married or spending your life happily with a significant other just thinking back over the years have you ever wondered why you just haven't managed to get pregnant?
Not even by accident? I have been with my husband for 4 years 3 years of which we are married and obviously we do not use protection and i am still have not gotten pregnant to my knowledge.

Not even by my ex boyfriend who I was in a steady relationship with for 2 years. It makes me feel like can I even get pregnant. I have gone to doctors in 2 countries and have had numorous blood tests and ultrasounds just to be told that everything is in tip top shape and that I should be able to become pregnant anytime.

I think a lot of us obsess over becoming pregnant because we never have never been and are simply afraid if we'll ever be. I know that's how I feel and I can only speak for myself. If I ever had been pregnant before even if I had a chemical pregnancy or a mis-carriage god forbid, I don't think I would feel as anxious because I would know that I can become pregnant and that its only a matter of time before I fall pregnant again. But since I never have been pregnant I'm so anxious.

Sorry for the long spill. Just putting it out there... I know I can't be the only one feeling this way...

You are DEF. not alone! I have felt the same way. I have never EVER seen a second line and all my tests are normal I'm just not getting pregnant (and I'm officially cd1 today, so this month is out). Dh is not worried and is just SURE we'll get preg this summer but I'm very anxious. And more anxious with each unsuccessful month. I visited my friend yesterday who just had her third baby. The month she discovered she was preg was my 4th month of trying and I was sure I'd be right behind her. But now she has a newborn and I have nothing. It's not fair and it's very confusing.

 

[newbie2013]

Ladies... weird experience. AF is due on the 4th June with today being CD24. DTD with DH just before and as I was... um... cleaning up I noticed some blood. Did a cm check and there was only a little blood then nothing. Put in a liner to check, but just wanted thoughts from those in the know... Too rough or possible IB?

Was it on this forum that we had a poster earlier in the month with a similar thing? Can you please remind me of the outcome??

DH (bless him) was horrified that he could have hurt me. He was practically in tears when I came back from the bathroom and gave me a big hug and didn't want to let go... aww... he's a sweetie

 

[chulie]

Ladies... weird experience. AF is due on the 4th June with today being CD24. DTD with DH just before and as I was... um... cleaning up I noticed some blood. Did a cm check and there was only a little blood then nothing. Put in a liner to check, but just wanted thoughts from those in the know... Too rough or possible IB?

Was it on this forum that we had a poster earlier in the month with a similar thing? Can you please remind me of the outcome??

DH (bless him) was horrified that he could have hurt me. He was practically in tears when I came back from the bathroom and gave me a big hug and didn't want to let go... aww... he's a sweetie

I definitely don't know about the other poster but just had to comment on your dh...bless him....how adorable!!!!!!!

 

[MamaPeaches]

Ladies... weird experience. AF is due on the 4th June with today being CD24. DTD with DH just before and as I was... um... cleaning up I noticed some blood. Did a cm check and there was only a little blood then nothing. Put in a liner to check, but just wanted thoughts from those in the know... Too rough or possible IB?

Was it on this forum that we had a poster earlier in the month with a similar thing? Can you please remind me of the outcome??

DH (bless him) was horrified that he could have hurt me. He was practically in tears when I came back from the bathroom and gave me a big hug and didn't want to let go... aww... he's a sweetie

I spotted on the day before Oing and have spotted a bit last night and a bit this morning. I asked a week ago if it was normal to spot or if it was too rough bding. Someone said it can happen around oing. It could definitely be IB! Unless your bding was more rough then normal i would say its a good chance it could be!

 

[pennymarie]

Ack. I am to the point of peeing every 5 hours (which I'm scared is going to give me a uti), and still negative on the opk. Has anyone else used the dollar tree opks??

 

[Mme2kdee]

Ladies I have a question am I the only one who feels this way? This is to the ladies who have never been pregnant before. I'm talking nothing. Never had a chemical pregnancy, mis-carriage, just simply never been pregnant at all. This is no disrespect to woman who have had these things happen please do not take offense to this.

Of course we have all had boyfriends and had previous relationships and whether you are currently married or spending your life happily with a significant other just thinking back over the years have you ever wondered why you just haven't managed to get pregnant?
Not even by accident? I have been with my husband for 4 years 3 years of which we are married and obviously we do not use protection and i am still have not gotten pregnant to my knowledge.

Not even by my ex boyfriend who I was in a steady relationship with for 2 years. It makes me feel like can I even get pregnant. I have gone to doctors in 2 countries and have had numorous blood tests and ultrasounds just to be told that everything is in tip top shape and that I should be able to become pregnant anytime.

I think a lot of us obsess over becoming pregnant because we never have never been and are simply afraid if we'll ever be. I know that's how I feel and I can only speak for myself. If I ever had been pregnant before even if I had a chemical pregnancy or a mis-carriage god forbid, I don't think I would feel as anxious because I would know that I can become pregnant and that its only a matter of time before I fall pregnant again. But since I never have been pregnant I'm so anxious.

Sorry for the long spill. Just putting it out there... I know I can't be the only one feeling this way...

ALiKO - I don't think you are the only one who feels like this. My best friend from childhood started having sex way before me (14!) and no birth control really (somewhat used on and off through high school)...she didn't get pregnant until she was 24 and then miscarried. I thought for a while she could not get pregnant because I was 17, first guy, first time and I got prego. I since have had another child..so 2 now. Now, I feel like I cannot get pregnant for different reasons but I cannot lose hope...easier said than done.

Your time will come soon Don't let yourself give up if it is something you truly want - which I think you do
if ever you need to vent - that is what we are here for!!

 

[Mme2kdee]

Ok ladies...i took this last night at 6 dpo with a 2 hour hold. I swear i see something. This pic was taken about 10 minutes after i took it. Wondfo this morning with fmu had a shadow line. Saving my other frer for friday morning at 9 dpo! Hope this isnt a fluke cuz 6 dpo seems way too early.

I see it!!!

 

[J_Lynn]

Ladies I have a question am I the only one who feels this way? This is to the ladies who have never been pregnant before. I'm talking nothing. Never had a chemical pregnancy, mis-carriage, just simply never been pregnant at all. This is no disrespect to woman who have had these things happen please do not take offense to this.

Of course we have all had boyfriends and had previous relationships and whether you are currently married or spending your life happily with a significant other just thinking back over the years have you ever wondered why you just haven't managed to get pregnant?
Not even by accident? I have been with my husband for 4 years 3 years of which we are married and obviously we do not use protection and i am still have not gotten pregnant to my knowledge.

Not even by my ex boyfriend who I was in a steady relationship with for 2 years. It makes me feel like can I even get pregnant. I have gone to doctors in 2 countries and have had numorous blood tests and ultrasounds just to be told that everything is in tip top shape and that I should be able to become pregnant anytime.

I think a lot of us obsess over becoming pregnant because we never have never been and are simply afraid if we'll ever be. I know that's how I feel and I can only speak for myself. If I ever had been pregnant before even if I had a chemical pregnancy or a mis-carriage god forbid, I don't think I would feel as anxious because I would know that I can become pregnant and that its only a matter of time before I fall pregnant again. But since I never have been pregnant I'm so anxious.

Sorry for the long spill. Just putting it out there... I know I can't be the only one feeling this way...

ALiKO - I don't think you are the only one who feels like this. My best friend from childhood started having sex way before me (14!) and no birth control really (somewhat used on and off through high school)...she didn't get pregnant until she was 24 and then miscarried. I thought for a while she could not get pregnant because I was 17, first guy, first time and I got prego. I since have had another child..so 2 now. Now, I feel like I cannot get pregnant for different reasons but I cannot lose hope...easier said than done.

Your time will come soon Don't let yourself give up if it is something you truly want - which I think you do
if ever you need to vent - that is what we are here for!!

I think we all feel that way if we've never had anything - I have said multiple times, even if I have a chemical or something I will be sad but at least I will know I can at least get pregnant. Not having anything ever happen just makes me crazy. It's a completely mystery if my vagina really does hate me or not. Only it, and time will give me the answer to that thought.

 

[hopeforamirac]

sorry i have been awol.. im currently 2dpo test date 9th june

 

[newbie2013]

Ladies... weird experience. AF is due on the 4th June with today being CD24. DTD with DH just before and as I was... um... cleaning up I noticed some blood. Did a cm check and there was only a little blood then nothing. Put in a liner to check, but just wanted thoughts from those in the know... Too rough or possible IB?

Was it on this forum that we had a poster earlier in the month with a similar thing? Can you please remind me of the outcome??

DH (bless him) was horrified that he could have hurt me. He was practically in tears when I came back from the bathroom and gave me a big hug and didn't want to let go... aww... he's a sweetie

I spotted on the day before Oing and have spotted a bit last night and a bit this morning. I asked a week ago if it was normal to spot or if it was too rough bding. Someone said it can happen around oing. It could definitely be IB! Unless your bding was more rough then normal i would say its a good chance it could be!

Ladies I have a question am I the only one who feels this way? This is to the ladies who have never been pregnant before. I'm talking nothing. Never had a chemical pregnancy, mis-carriage, just simply never been pregnant at all. This is no disrespect to woman who have had these things happen please do not take offense to this.

Of course we have all had boyfriends and had previous relationships and whether you are currently married or spending your life happily with a significant other just thinking back over the years have you ever wondered why you just haven't managed to get pregnant?
Not even by accident? I have been with my husband for 4 years 3 years of which we are married and obviously we do not use protection and i am still have not gotten pregnant to my knowledge.

Not even by my ex boyfriend who I was in a steady relationship with for 2 years. It makes me feel like can I even get pregnant. I have gone to doctors in 2 countries and have had numorous blood tests and ultrasounds just to be told that everything is in tip top shape and that I should be able to become pregnant anytime.

I think a lot of us obsess over becoming pregnant because we never have never been and are simply afraid if we'll ever be. I know that's how I feel and I can only speak for myself. If I ever had been pregnant before even if I had a chemical pregnancy or a mis-carriage god forbid, I don't think I would feel as anxious because I would know that I can become pregnant and that its only a matter of time before I fall pregnant again. But since I never have been pregnant I'm so anxious.

Sorry for the long spill. Just putting it out there... I know I can't be the only one feeling this way...

ALiKO - I don't think you are the only one who feels like this. My best friend from childhood started having sex way before me (14!) and no birth control really (somewhat used on and off through high school)...she didn't get pregnant until she was 24 and then miscarried. I thought for a while she could not get pregnant because I was 17, first guy, first time and I got prego. I since have had another child..so 2 now. Now, I feel like I cannot get pregnant for different reasons but I cannot lose hope...easier said than done.

Your time will come soon Don't let yourself give up if it is something you truly want - which I think you do
if ever you need to vent - that is what we are here for!!

I think we all feel that way if we've never had anything - I have said multiple times, even if I have a chemical or something I will be sad but at least I will know I can at least get pregnant. Not having anything ever happen just makes me crazy. It's a completely mystery if my vagina really does hate me or not. Only it, and time will give me the answer to that thought.

I'm with you all! I've NEVER seen anything other than stark white next to a gleaming control line. Drs say there's nothing wrong with me and I just need to keep trying. Only 18 months of NTNP for us, so I'm still trying to be hopeful, but as my 35th birthday edges closer and closer, I'm getting more anxious. DH had a SA done about 6 yrs ago for another issue and he had a totally normal count there and hasn't had anything between then and now to indicate that his SA would dropped - he's even stopped smoking and reduced his coffee intake.

Darn good thing I've got this thread to read and vent on... better than therapy because you guys are all in a similar position to me. Hopeful said about someone before that ladies around the world are thinking about a poster - it is true. It is lovely to think that women all around the world are reading what we write, thinking about us, replying to us, helping us, offering support, sharing virtual hugs, celebrating for us. Thanks for being here for me!!!

 

[J_Lynn]

Oh girl what you said - because without this forum I would probably be locked in a padded room. Not even my therapist can understand and my Dr, I love him to death, but he sees this all day every day so he's a bit desensitized to it. He is still compassionate but he is definitely desensitized.

 

[newbie2013]

Ack. I am to the point of peeing every 5 hours (which I'm scared is going to give me a uti), and still negative on the opk. Has anyone else used the dollar tree opks??

Pennymarie, you can go 5 hours without peeing??? Wow! I rarely make it to 2 hours but that's because I drink so much water (about 1.5 hours while at work from 7:30 to 3pm, plus about 2-3 cups of tea per day and water at home). I doubt I'll be able to use extra peeing as an accurate symptom

(Hope you don't have a UTI and nope, never used dollar tree opks, nor any other opks (can't get them where i live) and not sure what dollar tree is!!)