MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[J_Lynn]

Yeah, he's amazing He's Catholic, and I am also - so we have that in common and down here it's hard to find other Catholics (Everyone is southern Baptist around here) and my husband is ALWAYS involved in EVERYTHING and is always at all the appointments and asks questions, takes notes, makes sure I listen to everything (even the bloody no wine rule ... ugh!) and the Dr really, really likes that and is always talking him up because of it. So over the last couple years, we've just bonded with him.

Although last month I could have slapped him because I am deathly allergic to all antibiotics, and he sure did say - "Well, I am going to put you on an antibiotic, that is known to help increase CM ... so I am going to put you on pennicillin for about 10 days" and I looked at him like he just stabbed me in the heart. I said, "NO WAY - that will kill me!!" he said, "OH THAT'S RIGHT! I'm so sorry! Ok, low-dose steroid for you then!"

That was the only time he almost messed up, but of course it's nothing I wouldn't have caught - but still, and I gave him a pass on that because he had just finished being up for like 3 days straight almost because of labor and delivery calls at the hospital plus his clinic time. So, he got a pass on that one

What's the "no wine rule?"

As I mentioned in a previous post, wine is my consultation prize for not being preg; at least I can drink!

If there's some definitive "no wine rule" I don't know what I'll do...

Alcohol can pretty much kill your fertility, especially when you already have infertility issues so I am not allowed to drink except for once in a blue moon and it can only be for the day or two between when I get a BFN and when my cycle starts. So I usually just have one on the night before AF gets here. Both my Dr and hubby stay on my ass about it, and it pretty much sucks

However, this cycle I missed my window because AD started tonight while I was at the freakin gym! So I get no sparkling moscato this month And that breaks my heart because unused to drink like a bottle a week lol!!

But, now I get to start femara on Saturday! I'm so looking forward to see what happens this next cycle!!

 

[ALiKO]

Hang on to your hats girls this is gonna be a long one.

I do have a 2 year old now...so was very lucky....but it is something I think must cross a LOT of women's minds!

Thanks for that chulie!!! That definitely gave me hope!

...anxious with each unsuccessful month. I visited my friend yesterday who just had her third baby. The month she discovered she was preg was my 4th month of trying and I was sure I'd be right behind her. But now she has a newborn and I have nothing. It's not fair and it's very confusing.

I totally understand Franco! Many of my friends are currently preggers or had children even my mom had a mis-carriage in May but let's just say I already have an 8, 6, and 4 years old little brothers. My mom is still having kids haha! Besides them there's me and my older sister so there 5 of us. Also my cousin just had a baby in Aug. we are 7 months apart I'm older and we always had a silent competition between us. Like who would get their period 1st she won. Who would get boobs 1st I won. And i guess who would get preggers 1st she won lol. U will get pregnant soon I totally understand your struggle. As Long as you have your lady parts there is always a chance .

I since have had another child..so 2 now. Now, I feel like I cannot get pregnant for different reasons but I cannot lose hope...easier said than done.

Your time will come soon Don't let yourself give up if it is something you truly want - which I think you do
if ever you need to vent - that is what we are here for!!

You currently have 2 beautiful children so I have no doubt that number 3 will definitely be introduced soon . Thank you so much for your response and allowing me to vent. If you ever need to vent please let pour out!

I think we all feel that way if we've never had anything - I have said multiple times, even if I have a chemical or something I will be sad but at least I will know I can at least get pregnant. Not having anything ever happen just makes me crazy. It's a completely mystery if my vagina really does hate me or not. Only it, and time will give me the answer to that thought.

J_Lynn those are my sentiments exactly. Not having anything happen is jus like what the heck is goin on . Your definately right only time will tell and as long as all the ladies parts are there it's only a matter of time before we're both knocked up .

I think lots of women worry about their fertility even when they havent tried or ntnp, when others are just sneezing on tests and getting a BFP. It'll come!

Yea I'm starting to realize that I'm not the only one questioning my own fertility. You ladies have definately given me a piece of mind. Yea isn't it funny how some people just get pregnant from standing next to a man . Dust to Us!

I feel so funny thinking of those times when I was like, are you sure nothing got out of it and then I would be nervous. HA! Of course I was much more naive then. I agree that once you do get pregnant you will feel like okay, I can do this! I hope we both get the feeling this month!

Yes Hopeful I know exactly what you mean about those naive days and now it's completely different. I am definitely still clinging to hope I just want to keep at it until I see results. And yes dust and FX for all of us in this month and the next

Once again thank you so much ladies for responding, allowing me to vent, and clearing my mind. You all are so wonderful and this thread truly is like therapy haha. Come On June BFP's we are all so ready! !

 

[ALiKO]

@J_Lynn: that sounds like a solid plan! I'm loving it. He definitely sounds like he knows his stuff.

@Hopeful: don't know if I mentioned but I'm enjoying what you have done with the front page!

 

[MamaBear93]

@chulie Thanks! I'm so glad you found us as well!

@FrancoRie710 I'm sorry. I hate the dreaded temp drop. It's depressing to wake up and see the drop and know what it usually means. Let me know if you need to be moved to another date or to TBA for now.

@omgbaby I hope you feel better soon.

@ALiKO I understand about not testing. I am nervous about testing too early. I always get a slight/large drop on 13 dpo so I know what's happening by then usually. I also understand about worrying if I can get pregnant. I have never been pregnant, I've never really had a pregnancy scare, and everything seems 'normal'. I've been with my husband for twelve years, not married that long since it started in high school, but we always used protection before trying. I feel so funny thinking of those times when I was like, are you sure nothing got out of it and then I would be nervous. HA! Of course I was much more naive then. I agree that once you do get pregnant you will feel like okay, I can do this! I hope we both get the feeling this month!

@kksy9b Date updated. I'm sorry. I'm glad you're both feeling good about June. Good luck!

@kiki13 I hope she doesn't show and that you have a good, relaxing vacation. Good luck!

@J_Lynn That sounds so good. That sounds like a really nice place to go. I hope this gets you on the path to a BFP!

@amanda111308 I'm sorry that you are having to go through this confusing and frustrating time.

@melann13 & @allforthegirl Awesome! I updated your information. I'm looking forward to hearing news from both of you on June 4th.

@newbie2013 It could be either too rough or IB. I've had small spots after dtd before. It could be IB as well, which would be so much more exciting! I am so glad your dh is so sweet to you. I agree; it is amazing to think there are so many of us who can connect on something so intimate and so personal especially when we can't/don't want to with people we 'actually' know. It is so helpful. Thanks for being here for us as well!

@pennymarie I haven't used them before. I see you marked W cm today. I hope that means it's coming soon for you.

@hopeforamirac Welcome back! How have you been doing?

@Mme2kdee I'm sorry. A lot of people feel out before they get a BFP. Sometimes we don't get all the expected symptoms. I know it's so hard to see those around us seemingly get pregnant so easy.

@MamaBear93 I'm soo sorry. You were on the original list, but when I updated last night (copying/pasting/splitting months/separating BFPs) I split the May 31st - June dates and I see now that a couple were left out when I added the lines in-between months. You're on the front now! Good luck!

@kirstyjane13 You might have had a temporary surge. Sometimes lh surges before ovulation but it is delayed to actual ovulation time. Keep testing to see. Good luck!

Thank you Pretty sure it's a BFN this month. Tested quite a few times now and nothing, not even a glimmer...So Once AF shows I will let you know and be added to the June list.

 

[imaginary8x]

Well I just got my solid smiley face on clearblue advance opks. best get in.

 

[FrancoRie710]

@FrancoRie710 I'm sorry. I hate the dreaded temp drop. It's depressing to wake up and see the drop and know what it usually means. Let me know if you need to be moved to another date or to TBA for now.

Yeah, she showed up yesterday while I was at work A day early too! You can put me down for June 25th.

 

[PrettyPixie]

Update..4 days late..no AF and still BFN!

 

[Hopeful2014]

@PrettyPixie That's so frustrating! It's true that a lot of women do not get positives until they are a week or so late. I hope you have a BFP at the end of your wait.

@MamaBear93 You're not out until she shows. Fingers crossed she stays away!

@imaginary8x Great news! How have you been? I haven't seen you around. Fingers crossed for June!

@FrancoRie710 I updated your date. Why!?! Why does she have to come and always pick horrible times? I hope your work day went by smoothly and that today is better for you.

 

[Hopeful2014]

MAY , HERE WE COME!!!

Ladies, Remember
1. That it's not over until AF comes
2. That many ladies get false negatives
3. That implantation happens 6-12 dpo
4. That we are here for you no matter what


We are approaching the end of May. Some of us got a BFP in May! Some of us are continuing on our journey into June. I look forward to hearing more about the pregnancies already taking form and the upcoming pregnancies soon to be announced. We started this group in April-all with the same goal-wanting a BFP. Since then we have expanded on that goal. I want us to have a thread where we all know each other and can help each other along. I want to see a BFP blinking by each of our names. I want it to be a place we can look back on in time (while cradling baby!) and remember our struggle and and share our happiness. We will keep adding to the list from May and on until we can see everyone have that beautiful beside her name. Good luck and fingers crossed!

TESTERS:
May 30: MummyWant2be

 

[imaginary8x]

@imaginary8x Great news! How have you been? I haven't seen you around. Fingers crossed for June!

I've been good thanks, just been waiting to ovulate, you?
could you put me down for the 15th June? please.

 

[chulie]

Yeah, he's amazing He's Catholic, and I am also - so we have that in common and down here it's hard to find other Catholics (Everyone is southern Baptist around here) and my husband is ALWAYS involved in EVERYTHING and is always at all the appointments and asks questions, takes notes, makes sure I listen to everything (even the bloody no wine rule ... ugh!) and the Dr really, really likes that and is always talking him up because of it. So over the last couple years, we've just bonded with him.

Although last month I could have slapped him because I am deathly allergic to all antibiotics, and he sure did say - "Well, I am going to put you on an antibiotic, that is known to help increase CM ... so I am going to put you on pennicillin for about 10 days" and I looked at him like he just stabbed me in the heart. I said, "NO WAY - that will kill me!!" he said, "OH THAT'S RIGHT! I'm so sorry! Ok, low-dose steroid for you then!"

That was the only time he almost messed up, but of course it's nothing I wouldn't have caught - but still, and I gave him a pass on that because he had just finished being up for like 3 days straight almost because of labor and delivery calls at the hospital plus his clinic time. So, he got a pass on that one

What's the "no wine rule?"

As I mentioned in a previous post, wine is my consultation prize for not being preg; at least I can drink!

If there's some definitive "no wine rule" I don't know what I'll do...

I really am a huge believer different things affect people differently...Much like some folks have food allergies other folks dont. I know many girls who are on a total clean diets trying to get pregnant and are still unsucessful.......for me...I usually have like 3 or 4 glasses of wine a week until 5 dpo...I have a beautiful 2 year old so...I guess it didn't have that much effect on me....I really don't think there can ever be "blanket" statements that say things affect ALL people..I also think things in moderation are key...I think if your having a bottle of tequila every single night...yup....that will probably have some effect on your fertility....but I think if your concerned and the stress of having a drink or two is going to get to you...then don't do it...but I really think it's an individual choice and only you know what works for you....Good luck!

 

[burgbrandy]

I agree. Everyone is different. I know a girl who was using heroin, has pcos and endometreosis, and got pregnant 2 months after stopping birth control. (she also continued using heroin until 8 months pregnant and then got on suboxone and the baby was born and had to take methadone and morphine for months before beeing weaned, but they are both drug free now and he's almost 2. But thats completely not the point.) If wine or any alcohol or drugs hindered fertility that much, only sober and clean people would have babies and we wouldnt have so many problems in the world.

 

[burgbrandy]

Ok ladies...these are my wondfos from last night and this morning. Hoping tomorrows frer will give me a definite answer!

 

[chulie]

I agree. Everyone is different. I know a girl who was using heroin, has pcos and endometreosis, and got pregnant 2 months after stopping birth control. (she also continued using heroin until 8 months pregnant and then got on suboxone and the baby was born and had to take methadone and morphine for months before beeing weaned, but they are both drug free now and he's almost 2. But thats completely not the point.) If wine or any alcohol or drugs hindered fertility that much, only sober and clean people would have babies and we wouldnt have so many problems in the world.

I know this not a comment I should laugh at...but that last line about having so many problems in the world is so bang on!!! Haaaahha.....you hit the nail on the head girl!!

 

[MamaPeaches]

Ok I gave in and tested early. I see something, it came up within the time limit. Won't test again until Saturday with a frer! My temp came back up, crossing my fingers that it keeps up and goes up more! What do y'all think?

 

[chulie]

Ok ladies...these are my wondfos from last night and this morning. Hoping tomorrows frer will give me a definite answer!

Is the bottom one this morning????? I most definitely see something there!!!

 

[chulie]

Ok I gave in and tested early. I see something, if came up within the time limit. Won't test again until Saturday with a frer! My temp came back up, crossing my fingers that it keeps up and goes up more! What do y'all think?

I see it!!!! Is there colour in real life??? It's hard to tell in the picture but I definitely see a line of some sort....

 

[MamaPeaches]

Ok ladies...these are my wondfos from last night and this morning. Hoping tomorrows frer will give me a definite answer!

Definitely see it, FX for you!

 

[MamaPeaches]

Ok I gave in and tested early. I see something, if came up within the time limit. Won't test again until Saturday with a frer! My temp came back up, crossing my fingers that it keeps up and goes up more! What do y'all think?

I see it!!!! Is there colour in real life??? It's hard to tell in the picture but I definitely see a line of some sort....

Ya it is really faint line but has a pink color to it. I don't really like my ic's and much prefer frer because I've never gotten a evap with them.

 

[burgbrandy]

Yup, bottom is this morning. hoping that this one sticks!