MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[ProfWife]

Tangerine - I am so sorry for the sudden change of events. Hopefully the doctor can help with some sort of explanation.

 

[chulie]

So sad this morning. I was excited about my appointment with my GP today but I've started bleeding and cramping, also got a BFN on a dollar store test. I knew there was always a chance this might happen because of my autoimmune disease but still really really hurts. I just had to give OH the bad news over the phone, he left for work before I knew what was happening.

He's upset but seems ok. We'll see what my GP says when I see him this afternoon but we hope we can try again ASAP.

Oh dear........I am so very very sorry!!!!!!!

 

[RaeChay]

Tangerine- I am so sorry to hear this. I hope your heart heals quickly from this disappointment, we were all so excited for your bfp. BUT I believe it was recently discussed that CP's can be a positive sign for future TTC efforts? So there may be a silver lining here somewhere.

Chulie- FX for your bfp this upcoming test date!! And I am with clandestine on this one- maybe an April baby is what's meant to be for you? And think of this- what if it came a month premature! Sorry to play devils advocate, but it seems sad to have to wait out an opportunity

 

[ClandestineTX]

Hahahaha, PEER PRESSURE >>>>> Chulie! It's getting stronger!

 

[chulie]

@chulie Date updated. I'm so hopeful that you'll be announcing next month you won't have to worry about sitting it out. I'm hoping your method works for us both! I'm cd 16. I had ew yesterday and today. I am hoping that today will be ovulation day. The latest I've ovulated in the past (while tracking anyway) was cd 16, but it may be a bit off this month. I'm trying to stay positive. I've just thought of a bad joke...perhaps if I squeeze some of that positivity out at the end of the tww the test will soak up some of my positivity. Is that too far?!?

Have a great day!

Hahahaha.....never a bad joke, I really don't think that's too much to ask AT ALL!!! Ya....very interesting..I'm CD 18 today and...last month I didn't really have very much ewcm...I mean I had "bits"...enough to sorta let me know when I was ovulating....but this month it's like..."on like donkey kong"....I must be ovulating late though because i've had small amounts when I wipe since CD 14-ish.....but now it's like....when I pee I can see it really dripping out when I'm on the potty (yes I sit and watch my pee to watch for ewcm....) So.....it must be late "o"...which makes sense because I do have the occasional 30 day cycle...I guess this is just one of those....so ya...definitely getting my groove on and feeling MUCH better about timing this month. Not sure that means we necessarily caught a good egg or the other bazillion factors that can get in the way....at least the timing was right this month! hahahaha..

 

[chulie]

Hahahaha, PEER PRESSURE >>>>> Chulie! It's getting stronger!

Haaaaaaaahahahahah....omg you guys are so bad!!! I guess I just feel bad for the FAMILY members......but who knows...with this type of encouragement....GAAAAHHHHH Omg my whole family would seriously kill me......but.....yeah...like..what if I'm just meant to have april babies?????? Omg............ok let's burn that bridge when we get there! HAHAHAHAHAHA....YOU ladies are a terrible influence!!! My DH also wants a little one so bad...he'd full side with ALL of you!

 

[ClandestineTX]

This is what friends are for Peer pressure when you need it the most!

 

[chulie]

This is what friends are for Peer pressure when you need it the most!

Truer words have never been spoken!!!!!

 

[KatyW]

So sad this morning. I was excited about my appointment with my GP today but I've started bleeding and cramping, also got a BFN on a dollar store test. I knew there was always a chance this might happen because of my autoimmune disease but still really really hurts. I just had to give OH the bad news over the phone, he left for work before I knew what was happening.

He's upset but seems ok. We'll see what my GP says when I see him this afternoon but we hope we can try again ASAP.

Oh, Tangerine, I'm really sorry. Hugs & we are all here.

 

[MamaPeaches]

So sad this morning. I was excited about my appointment with my GP today but I've started bleeding and cramping, also got a BFN on a dollar store test. I knew there was always a chance this might happen because of my autoimmune disease but still really really hurts. I just had to give OH the bad news over the phone, he left for work before I knew what was happening.

He's upset but seems ok. We'll see what my GP says when I see him this afternoon but we hope we can try again ASAP.

I am so sorry! I hope you get some answers from your gp! Sending up prayers for you!

 

[Mrs A]

Sorry tangerine x x x

 

[Lala8]

So sad this morning. I was excited about my appointment with my GP today but I've started bleeding and cramping, also got a BFN on a dollar store test. I knew there was always a chance this might happen because of my autoimmune disease but still really really hurts. I just had to give OH the bad news over the phone, he left for work before I knew what was happening.

He's upset but seems ok. We'll see what my GP says when I see him this afternoon but we hope we can try again ASAP.

I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Hope you are as okay as you can be.

 

[Lala8]

Nausea seems to have subsided, was only bad yesterday must have been something i ate. Im sure its waaaayyy to early even if I was. I did have a dream last night that i got a bfp and then freaked out because I would have to tell my mom and shes going to be less than thrilled more like pissed actually. Hubby and I have been married 10 years and have two DD and my parents are in the 2 is more than enough camp (I am an only). And have expressed often how having more would be a horrible life ruining choice.

Also, I was using SYLK as a lube and in my girl sway. but i just read that its horrible for TTC, has anyone here used SYLK and conceived?

I haven't hear of SYLK, I'm based in the UK and we use YES lube. It says it is suitable for TTC. https://www.yesyesyes.org/index.htm

 

[Hopeful2014]

@chulie Timing is all we can control sometimes. I hope you get your BFP this month. If not, I agree with the others. I know, I know. Peer pressure is bad. But we all want what's best for you. It's ultimately up to you and how you feel about it if the time comes.

 

[Tangerine]

Thanks so much for your support, it means a lot. I'll put more info in spoiler tags in case anyone might be upset by it:

Spoiler

My doctor decided to reschedule my appointment with him on Friday and sent me to the local hospital to make sure I was ok since I was vomiting and had heavy cramps/bleeding. I ended up getting an ultrasound and blood tests that unfortunately confirmed an early pregnancy loss at 4 wks +4. I'm home resting with some pain meds and already feeling better; they said it might take some time to complete naturally and for my hormones to return to normal but they don't expect any problems.

The doctor at the hospital said we can try again this month if we feel up to it, but take it easy and no BD until my bleeding and cramps have stopped completely. She said it's fantastic that we were able to conceive so quickly even if it ended in a loss this time. Even though I do have a higher m/c risk she still thinks we have a very good chance to have a healthy pregnancy in the future. OH feels good about trying again ASAP too so we'll probably be in this month, but just try as well as we can to keep the stress level down for both of us.

I am going to chart my BBT because I have no idea when O might be happening this cycle. I guess we just have to wait and see.

 

[chulie]

So i figure I have a funny story I can share that will make all us ttcers laugh..cause if we can't laugh at ourselves... Who can!?!

As you know my SIL is stayin with us. Well..I'm 98% sure I o'd like today, yesterday..something...so I was hell bent on bd tonight!!! Well...my SIL's baby has been totally upset ALL night crying on and off (teething most likely) so neither nor her dh could calm her dd down. DH and I go to bed. His siste and her hubby are very much awake and walking around all over our house ( very small) plus add a screaming baby for background noise! Hahaha Dh was like "babe...tonight is just a bit akward..I think it'll be hard to get in the mood ya know??" Then he tells me how he's never turned me down but it's just too akward. So I totally pout and get upset. Hahaha. I'm like "babe I've never pulled the fertility card but..this is critical timing". He's like "show me your app!" Bahahahaha. So I had to SHOW him where I was and how it was time. Like 5 minutes later he found a way to get it done! Hahahahaha. Good man!!!!

 

[ClandestineTX]

@Tangerine: I'm so sorry at least you have the all clear and there doesn't appear to be any issues that will delay your efforts in the future! If you look at the links I posted earlier - if you want it relatively low stress/ high accuracy, I'd suggest getting some cheapie OPKs off Amazon (Wondfo or Babi). Temping is just really not awesome, by itself, for predicting ovulation.

@chulie: Cheers, ma'am!

 

[Hopeful2014]

@Tangerine I'm glad to hear that the doctor says you can try again. I know it feels a bit scary to think about trying again, but I'm sure you and your husband will help each other through it. I hope that your hormones and your cycle regulates quickly. I think you'll be able to tell when your hormones are regulating once your temps become more stable. They may be stable from the beginning or they may take 2-3 days or a little longer to become stable. We're not all the same. I've heard some ovulate earlier than usual, some right on time, and some a little later than normal. Take time to rest and recover physically and emotionally. I know you will get your sticky BFP and I hope it's very soon.

@chulie Good man, indeed! I had to pull out the fertility card the other night after a rough day with my husband. He was stressed physically from working (somewhat, not really broken down, just tired and a bit sore) and it was one of those days when everything kept being a hindrance. We managed and we both definitely feel better for it.

 

[burgbrandy]

Chulie: awesome story! Lol! Hubby and i were bickering all day my o day but he knew what day it was, so we put everything aside to dtd! And of course we talked and settled our disagreement while i laid with my legs in the air. Lol!

 

[newbie2013]

You guys are a fantastic support group! I've said thank you before and I'll say it again. I'm fortunate to be a part of this group and read your heart-felt compassion for others