MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[Hopeful2014]

@pathos Thanks! I wouldn't encourage you to walk that fast right now. It took me a while to build up to that pace. I was lucky to get 3,000-5,000 a day when I first started walking. Now I'm getting stronger and trying to get at least 10,000 a day, but really aiming for 12,500+ for most days.


I hope all of my American friends are having a nice 4th of July weekend and all our other friends are having a nice weekend as well! I spent some time with my nieces, watched some fireworks, watched a lot of movies, and grilled for the last few nights. We got my dog a new retractable leash that is really long for walks and she is having a blast.


How is everyone?

 

[River54]

Haven't had a scan yet. I am supposed to go in Thursday, but I emailed them today about a pain in my left side that comes and goes, and a leg pain, so they may want to see me earlier. I am a worry wart I think.
Keep thinking the leg pain is dvt, and the left side pain is a cyst or something...I think I'll be much better when I go see them and can air all my concerns, and they can check stuff out. I'll be much happier when I can see the little peanut in the right spot with a heartbeat!
dd birthday today...she turns 18!

 

[RaeChay]

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[mummy2o]

Congrats on DD18th birthday. Good luck on your scan.

 

[ProfWife]

So far, negatives. about 12 dpo.

Looks like we're not getting our miracle this month. First RE appointment is scheduled for Wednesday. We were hoping to be able to cancel the appointment due to a positive, but it looks like that's not going to be the case. :-/ I don't know why I keep holding out for miracles like this...if this RE can't help us get pregnant by the end of the year, I am thinking of giving up.

 

[athena87]

Profwife a friend of mine tried to get pregnant for probably 6+ years, they couldn't figure out other than pcos why she wasn't getting pregnant. 2 yrs ago they decide to adopt their foster child that was 2 at the time. They got through the process and soon after she found out she was pregnant. Sometimes our timing isn't in the plan, but don't give up hope.

 

[ProfWife]

The adoption to pregnancy route is actually a very slim population. I just don't see how this can "end well" considering we feel like we should have multiple kids but I'm not getting any younger...and fertility is only declining at this point. We don't really have four more years.

I don't want the ivf route...too many ethical issues to consider it for us. So, unless Clomid/Letrozole and/or iui work, we'll be done.

I regret ever agreeing to go on birth control when we got married. Sometimes I really feel like it's a punishment for us delaying that way - even though I know that's not the way God works. It would be completely counter to His character.

 

[athena87]

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? I was on birth control for 4.5 years and while I had trouble conceiving it wasn't because of the birth control. Clomid worked for me since I wasn't ovulating at all, I don't know if it will help but the month we conceived along with dh taking fertilaid we bd'd every other day but when I entered my fertile period we bd'd 4 days straight. It wasn't forced either it was just when we wanted to. I tried to not stress about timing and just go with the flow.

 

[ProfWife]

We've done SMEP, just going every other day, just doing whatever we want...there's no timing issues. BBT shows I'm ovulating regularly (or at least that my body believes I am). According to what I know right now - I don't actually have PCOS, tubes are open, semen analysis is within parameters.

Hubs was on fertilaid for about 6 months - no noticeable changes in anything for him. CoQ10 did help, and he's still taking that. I did fertilaid for over a year. We're both now just taking regular multivitamins (I'm on a prenatal multivitamin).

I'm 32 now. My sister went into early stages of menopause by about 37-ish. Other sister and mother had hysterectomies before they got to menopause. No other women on either side of my family continued having kids into their late 30s to my knowledge. So, I'm not exactly winning the genetic lottery. (Neither sister had any issues getting pregnant. Neither did my mother.)

I used NuvaRing for a few years, and I'm starting to hear stories of long-term side effects. That's what worries me the most. I only used the pill for about a year before my body started to override the hormones and do what it wanted, when it wanted.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Please don't give up hope prowife. I would love you to get your bfp soon. It could be simple tweaking. My friend just been given clomid and it's done the trick first time. Annoying but a good story all the same! I'm telling you not to lose hope as I'm telling myself the same. I'm hoping to try first ivf this summer. My last two iuis were cancelled. My period bleeding came on day 16 and my body is messed up. I'm waiting for an appointment with hosp and for my body to sort itself out. My husband is against ivf and I'm at a point where I'll do anything. Hoping we can agree on ivf as I can't face anymore iuis. X

 

[momwithbabies]

I'm so sorry, ProfWife. It sucks to do everything possible and still nothing. I've had the same type of feelings about birth control, being that I was on it and wasn't supposed to be because I'm Catholic. I still feel guilty about it and wish I would have had the courage to just let things be. I'm not judging anyone here that has used birth control, but part of me feels like I'm being punished for using it. I know that's the wrong attitude to have, but I see where you're coming from on that. Those thoughts come to me when I'm at my lowest. I hope you cheer up soon and God gets you through this. I'm with you on the IVF thing as well. Plus, I don't think I could afford it anyway. This fertility issue stuff is expensive!!! I'm 31 and hear my clock ticking as well. Time goes by so fast.

 

[pathos]

good luck with your scan River.

we all have our "tests" to tackle, how i wish we had a remote control and we could fast forward this ttc phase or got a little sneak peak into the future, than endurance would come easier

 

[momwithbabies]

Amen, Pathos! I wish I knew if the money I was spending will pay off or is a waste.

 

[mummy2o]

Prowife, as soon as you mentally stop trying you'll get a BFP. It happens a lot. Hopefully something will happen in the mean time and it will sort out your fertility. We're here to support you wherever your journey decides to take you.

Lazy: I hope you can convince him. Are you going private or NHS?

AFM: I took a test for giggles as a year ago today I got one with my daughter. BFN, but not to hung up on it. I was deciding I needed to loose weight, so might focus on the and do NTNP for a bit, but not sure :/

 

[ProfWife]

Mummy2o...could you please explain how exactly a woman who has been yearning for a baby "stops" mentally TTC? That's just like telling me "just relax and it will happen." Sadly, there is no "off" button for wanting a child. There is no way to really ignore when your fertile days hit once you know what they are and the signs. I know you mean well, but there is no way to shut that off when you have been struggling to conceive for almost 2 years. Even if I "gave up"... I think I'd always still try until I hit menopause.

 

[mummy2o]

I don't know why I keep holding out for miracles like this...if this RE can't help us get pregnant by the end of the year, I am thinking of giving up.

I know what its like, prior to having Erika I was a LTTC and she took roughly two years to conceive and I was offered no fertility treatment as I had a loss in the middle of that. In the area of UK were I live I couldn't get treatment unless we've been trying longer than a year with no losses or go private which we can't afford. I found for me that once I stopped stressing about it and focused on other things helped me. I'm a pretty passionate person and can get absorbed into things which helped so I got a new hobbies. It took my mind off things when I was depressed so I figured it would work here also. Although I'm pretty passionate about things, I'm also like a whirlwind, when I've learnt enough about something I quickly need a new hobby to occupy my mind. So although it wasn't constantly on my mind, like it is now, it relaxed me enough.

I'm not saying it will work, but its worth a try if you've tried everything else. Plus the clomid may work or anything else you plan on trying after that. I really hope it does as you, Lazy, mob and everyone else on this thread deserves babies.

 

[melann13]

profwife, I understand the ethical dilemma with IVF as a very conservative Christian myself (Lutheran), my SIL though has been able to find a doctor in MA (where they live) that was understanding of their concerns. They only fertilized a couple eggs so that all could be implanted. They have extracted new eggs each time they've done IVF (4 times- 3 pregnancies) so that there are no eggs or embryos sitting in a freezer somewhere. I understand where your concern may lie in other areas, but I'm just offering it up. Another couple I know of my same religious affiliation has now begun the adoption process for the same reason. Prayers for you and your husband. I also believe that God does not punish. Sin and pain are a result of man turning away from the way God intended things back in the garden. Man turned his back on God. God has never turned his back on man except for his own Son in order to save us. I pray that you find peace no matter the outcome of your struggle. Know that you are not alone, not only with those who face the same strife, but with God there to see your tears and the only one who can truly understand the love in your heart that you have for a child.

 

[momwithbabies]

ProfWife: I know exactly what you mean about not being able to mentally stop trying so hard. Even though I'm technically "on a break" right now, it pops into my head many times a day. And you know your body so well that you can't just ignore it anymore. And it's worse in the summer for me, as I'm not teaching right now. Even though I go to summer workshops and do online courses and book studies, the thoughts of having a baby or the what ifs keep popping up. It sucks and is not fair, I know. Sending hugs your way.

Mummy2o: Sorry about the negative. I hate seeing that single line!!! I'm glad it's not getting you down, though. I admire your wanting a baby right now. Being a mother to a baby is exhausting! I hope you are eating well and getting enough sleep. I wish I would have listened to people who told me that after my kids were born.

Melann: I love that picture! So precious! That's interesting about the IVF. To be honest, I don't know a lot about it.

AFM: Waiting, just waiting, for good CM. I wish it would happen sooner than later, as we may be going on a little family vacation in a couple of weeks.

 

[ProfWife]

Even though I'm technically "on a break" right now, it pops into my head many times a day. And you know your body so well that you can't just ignore it anymore. And it's worse in the summer for me, as I'm not teaching right now. Even though I go to summer workshops and do online courses and book studies, the thoughts of having a baby or the what ifs keep popping up.

This is exactly what I mean by there is no "off" switch. Plus, when you have to take timed supplements or medication, there's no such thing as not tracking. We took this month off of all supplements...and it has been nice...I'm still not pregnant apparently though.

BTW - Sending hugs back my fellow teacher...hoping you're enjoying your vacation!

When I read or hear the advice to "relax" - it puts MORE pressure on me, as if I'm doing something wrong...that it's my fault that I'm not pregnant yet. That if I could just "relax" then I'd get pregnant, but since I want a child so much, it won't happen. Most women I've talked to say the same thing. BTW - I'm certainly not just sitting around. I've been more active in more ways this summer than in the past several years.

Melann - This doc we're seeing tomorrow does a thing called "natural ivf" as well as traditional. No injectable meds (or Clomid/Letrozole only), egg retrieval each time, 1-2 only. That I would consider.

By this time tomorrow I'll be in with the doctor. I have to say I'm a bit excited. I'm hoping a fresh perspective will give us some additional answers and help.

 

[melann13]

It is exciting profwife. I hope you love the doctor and you guys can feel like you have direction.