MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[newbie2013]

Af hit with full force, so I'm back to CD1. Pleased about a 27 day cycle, which is longer than the last few. Going to try to remember OPKs this month and use them in the lead up to O.

 

[ProfWife]

I'm finally awake...sort of...thought I'd say hi. I'm not 100% sure of what results were; about to ask hubby for the run down. Eating saltines and drinking Sierra mist. The people there were excellent. I am in some pain, but nothing completely horrendous.

 

[momwithbabies]

Nickilucky: I hope AF comes and goes quickly. Good luck at school! I've got one more week before the kids come back.

Lazydaises: I pray that this works out for you. Fingers and toes crossed!

ProfWife: I'm glad you're not hurting much. Hopefully you'll be back to normal soon.

Newbie: Sorry about stupid AF.

 

[nikkilucky77]

Prowife-Hope you feel normal soon!

Newbie: Ugh sorry AF is here but I'm glad to have a cycle buddy . Hope she goes quick.

Momwithbabies: Thanks! Good luck when you head back...where did the summer go?!

 

[Lazydaisys]

Thanks momwithbabies.

Hope you recover well pro wife x

 

[Hopeful2014]

@ProfWife I've been thinking about you. I hope the laparoscopy went well. Take it easy and pamper yourself.

@Lazydaisys Thanks. I might look on ebay too. I'm so excited for you. I can't wait to hear how everything goes on Saturday and I can't wait to hear that you got your BFP! Fingers crossed! You should ask about the picture. That would be something really cool to keep and a neat thing to show baby when older.

@nikkilucky77 I'll look at those. I might order them soon and have them ready for when we start trying. A heavier af is another indication that you did have a cp. It was heavier for me as well. I really hope it happens soon for you. I am so hopeful for you.

@melann13 Thanks. I've heard a lot about those. I'll check them out.

@RaeChay Thanks. I'll look at those too.

@newbie2013 I'm sorry af came. I'm glad you had a longer cycle. I definitely feel positive for you. Fingers crossed this is the last af.

 

[ProfWife]

Well...first day post op. These incisions HURT. I'm usually a side sleeper...no way that was happening!

Doc found stage 2 endometriosis. He believes he vaporized it all and put a preventative gel to lower the rate of recurrence. This might be exactly what was needed to open the way for us to get pregnant. Looking forward to this surgery resetting the clock so we can have our miracle baby.

 

[newbie2013]

Yay for resetting the clock!!!!

Question for you, profwife, what led to the need for surgery? I'm curious because I've given myself a 3-6 month limit for seeking further intervention. My cycles have been so wacky and af weird for a while that I want to know why, but I also want to give my body a chance to regulate itself after my hsg. Can you refresh me about your journey? Thanks

 

[ProfWife]

Well, we've been ttc for nearly 2 years. Never a pregnancy (had what I think was a chemical...only appeared on a single test). We started going to an endocrinologist in our area. He ruled out PCOS, did all the bloodwork, which came back clear, and tested hubby, who totally showed off by almost quadrupling his number (now at 112 mil.)

When the doc was running an ultrasound, he found fluid in the cul-de-sac (aka Pouch of Douglas). That is often a warning sign of endometriosis as your body produced that fluid to try to beat it back. My older sister had a hysterectomy when she was 31 due to excessively low iron. My niece is also suspected to have it.

The only true way to diagnose endometriosis is through laparoscopy as it doesn't always show up in ultrasounds or MRIs. So, we did it. While he was confirming the diagnosis, he "vaporized" (used a laser) to get rid of the adhesions. He told my husband that there is a 15% chance it could come back in 3 years; a 40% chance in 5 years. He also had to fix the situating of my colon as it was a little out of place.

I didn't know until I met this doctor that not only do the egg and sperm normally meet in the cul-de-sac, but that the fluid the body produces to fight endo is toxic to both sperm and egg. So, all these months it would have been virtually impossible to get pregnant as I've had that fluid there for a while. We're hoping that now we'll be able to (perhaps with a little nudging from clomid or femara). The doc was very pleased with what he found (only stage 2) and how it was removed.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Hoping you get your baby soon now pro wife glad you are reset

 

[momwithbabies]

ProfWife: I'm happy this could be it for you! You could be on your way to a baby! How exciting!!!! You have made me wonder about myself. I've never heard about hardly any of that!

 

[Hopeful2014]

@ProfWife I'm sorry you're in pain and that sleeping is hard. I'm sorry that he confirmed endometriosis as well. I love your way of thinking. I hope that having this done will help you get your BFP! You will still get to try this month, right? I didn't know that having that fluid could interfere with the sperm and egg. I know your chances will be better now! Keep resting, have a nice weekend, and get ready for a BFP!

 

[ProfWife]

@momwithbabies - do you have any of the symptoms (heavy periods, irregular periods, larger clots, major cramps and/or bloating before period, family members with it)? I only get minor cramps, heavy bleeding 1-2 days, but severe bloating and lots of clots. Some women also have painful intercourse in certain positions or pain with bowel movements. Thankfully, I rarely have either of those.

The major thing I've noticed improvement in is my low back pain. I found out that fluid pouch was sitting right on top of a bundle of nerves. So, draining it should help that pain. Happy day! It may also reduce my uti frequency! So, I'm in pain, but a happy girl.

@Hopeful - I'm actually glad there was something to find. It would have killed me to go through this surgery and find nothing. This actually gives me hope for the future. And, yes, we have this cycle to try on our own if we want and I can tolerate it. Next cycle will probably be medicated. I'm going to ask about us trying without iui for a few more cycles.

 

[newbie2013]

Hmmm... I think I will be researching endometriosis. I have 1-2 days of clots but only in the morning and have noticed more bloating than usual recently... thanks for the info.

 

[ProfWife]

More Info Here: https://www.endofound.org/endometriosis

My symptoms were actually worse as a teen...but I never thought to investigate them. Who does as a teen? While I don't recommend that everyone get a laparoscopy just to find out, there are warning signs that a doc can look for. If you have a first degree relative (mom or sisters) with it, you are about 6 times more likely to have it.

 

[momwithbabies]

@momwithbabies - do you have any of the symptoms (heavy periods, irregular periods, larger clots, major cramps and/or bloating before period, family members with it)? I only get minor cramps, heavy bleeding 1-2 days, but severe bloating and lots of clots. Some women also have painful intercourse in certain positions or pain with bowel movements. Thankfully, I rarely have either of those.

I have a heavy period, usually on days 2 and 3. Back in May, I had a period so bad that I bled out at the pool within 15 minutes of changing my super plus tampon (I am not exaggerating). With that period, I had huge clots that were larger than a quarter. My cramps some cycles are unbearable, and they are located in my descending colon (which is why I was misdiagnosed two years ago with diverticulitis). The pain is so bad that I have to take two hydros and I can still feel the pain. I do bloat before my period, but I don't think I have it too bad. No one in my family has said they have it. My mom was diagnosed with diverticulitis when she was in her late 20s...maybe she was misdiagnosed as well??? She's too private of a person, even with me, to discuss things of that nature.

I don't have cycles like these every month. Last month, I had the bad cramps, but they were not like the ones I described above. I wonder why some months are worse than others? I'm not getting pregnant on any of these cycles, good or bad.

I am so happy for you that you got this done and out of the way. I'm glad you're taking it easy. I'm praying this is the ticket for you!!

 

[pathos]

Profwife, so you have really really increased chances now
my doc was also suggesting exploratory laparoscopy but i chickened out , how long does it take to heal? did it hurt?

 

[ProfWife]

It hurt pretty badly the first two days. I spent most of my surgery day sleeping. Friday I spent about 70%-80% of it sleeping. Saturday I was sore, but I stopped using the pain and nausea meds. Today I'm about an 8 out of 10.

I have one friend who was back to work the very next day. I don't see how that was possible. So, I had false expectations about my recovery.

I'll be back at work tomorrow unless I wake up in some weird funk.

 

[melann13]

I've never pursued it with a doc, but I've often wondered if I have endometriosis as well. I got my period starting at age 12 and would miss at least one day of school a month for it. We're talking fetal position on the floor and vomiting from pain. I don't remember it being heavy right away, but I do remember it being heavy starting in high school. Big clots that would make tampon use super awkward. I also had pain during intercourse, especially in certain positions but I didn't have sex until marriage at age 23, so I didn't know that for quite some time. I also would always get diarrhea at the start of my period. I always assumed that the diarrhea and the painful sex were because I had a tipped uterus. (I am suspicious that it's not anymore after giving birth- sex isn't uncomfortable in the same positions like it was- my DH even says it seems like it's a different angle). BC really calmed my periods a lot, which is why I didn't think it was endometriosis. After my MC I had several months of light periods and than a TERRIBLE one that had me completely incapacitated for 2 days. My husband was terrified that I could be in so much pain. I told him that this is what they used to be like before BC. To me it meant my body was finally getting back to my normal. Thankfully I got pregnant the next month (6mos post MC) and haven't had a period since (knock on wood). That's like 16mos without a tampon! I'm already back on my prog only BC too, so hopefully I don't have another nasty one like that until we're TTC again!
That's my rant- not sure what the point was, but it was stream of consciousness I guess.

Good luck to all. Praying this works for you profwife.

 

[ProfWife]

The fact that BC makes it better and all the others, it's possible that you have some endo. You'd be surprised that mild endo can cause awful symptoms, and some have awful endo and don't have any or have only very mild symptoms. Mine are no where near as bad as yours, but I was at stage 2 with adhesions.

So, when you start ttc again, if it doesn't happen within a time frame you're ready for, it might be worth investigating.