MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[newbie2013]

Thoughts are with you, Profwife! I hope your HSG goes well and your doc had a good plan for you on the 22nd.

Hopeful, sorry to hear about your chem. Hope you have a sticky one soon.

Any new from momwithbabies or clandestine?

I'm doing ok. I had an awful stomach bug on Thursday night that ran all through Friday and most of Saturday. Only just started feeling human again this morning. Not a good way to start Spring Break. Thank goodness we haven't booked to go away anywhere. I'm currently on CD24, 13dpiui, about 11/12dpo. Haven't tested yet as I'm trying not to get my hopes up. DH is convinced the stomach bug was enough to disrupt any potential embryo. Because I probably o'ed earlier than usual, I'm expected a shorter cycle, but going to try to hold out on testing until Tuesday or Wednesday. It depends on how much DH bugs me about testing. I don't have any tests at home (deliberately). Any idea how many dpiui I should wait for a blood test? The doc didn't say.

 

[ProfWife]

I would think 2 weeks post iui...

My protocol (modified as we don't do the iui part) has listed on it to take a hpt 2 weeks post ovidrel injection/post iui or as directed.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Sorry about your chemical hopeful. Hopefully the next cycle will be the one for you. Yes please update the front for me. I couldn't believe it was actually happening but feel slightly more confident after the 12 week scan. Hoping we all get to update the front soon xxxx

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks Profwife. That's good to know. I don't have a protocol but given my natural scepticism, I haven't tested yet. I'm trying to work out if my funny tummy is remnants of the stomach bug that I had or not. I might test tomorrow if I get to a pharmacy to to buy a test.

Lazydaisy, it is definitely real!

 

[nikkilucky77]

Hopeful: I'm sorry about your chemical. It is so hard when you see that positive...but your body is going in the right direction so I'm SURE you will get your positive soon .

Momwithbabies: I'm glad to hear your doc is optimistic .

Newbie: I can't wait to hear if you get your positive this month.

I check in every now and then and I am always hoping to see more positives . You ladies are amazing and your perseverance is admirable.

 

[newbie2013]

Nikkilucky - it has been a while. How are you? Hope you're doing well.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Newbie hope the stomach bug is a good sign xx

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks Lazydaisy. It wasn't good at all! Still not eating or drinking properly but no af either. Will buy a test or two today.

 

[newbie2013]

Ladies, the most sensitive test i could find detects levels of 25IU/ml. Opinions, please - test now (CD26, 15DPIUI, 13-14DPO) in the mid-afternoon or wait until tomorrow's FMU?

 

[ClandestineTX]

@newbie: I've always heard FMU is the way to go, but I had darker tests PM versus AM with my nonviable pregnancy.

@Hopeful: sorry about the possible CP, FX it's just a sign your body is getting ready to go again.

AFM... tomorrow is baby or bust day. Skipped meds this cycle, as Hubster requested we go for a consult with an RE to be extra sure this wasn't going to work out (really, I think he's having a hard time walking away). CD 3 blood tests and AFC was actually good for my age, CD 10 HSG totally normal (though I apparently have mild cervical stenosis). RE wants to try a stimulated cycle plus IUI (Gonal-F, Novarel trigger, and Crinone during LP). Even though I am completely over all of this, Hubster (who has super sperm, per SA) really wants to make sure we've done everything we possibly can - so I'm willing to entertain him by giving this up to 3 IUI cycles. Though - I am not tracking anything myself after tomorrow morning. I have a very almost positive OPK right now, hoping it's positive by the end of today - and then we just wing it with RE from here.

 

[newbie2013]

Should have waited to read your post clande! I tested after almost 4 hour hold. Bfn. My follicle was 21 or 21mm at iui. I would have expect o the next day or the day after, right? back to waiting....

Clandestine, good luck with the iui. Thinking of you.

 

[newbie2013]

I need to stop obsessing... I can't get anything done that I need to. I am supposed to be working on two docs for my PhD and I can't get onto either of them. Just can't concentrate. The doc told me to go to the clinic for a beta if no af today... just waiting on my hair drying and I'm going. I kind of wish I wasn't on spring break right now and could distract myself with work.

No idea how long the beta result will take. Hopefully not long.

 

[ClandestineTX]

Mine does same day - I would ask them when you go in when you can expect results. I think most do them in-house. FX for you!

And as far the PhD business - my suggestion (coming from someone who defended about 6 months ago) - start with low hanging fruit. Pick something easy and just go with it, even if it's formatting the document or making an outline of something to do later. Usually doing ANYTHING will get the juices flowing again. And remember if you are pregnant now or soon, you NEED that off your plate! So try to force your TTC worries aside and push through the work.

 

[newbie2013]

Thanks clandestine. I appreciate the advice!

The beta was negative. Not sure what will happen next. Dh did not enjoy the whole iui process. He didn't like my doc at all and neither of us liked the clinic we had to go to for the iui. Considering stopping everything ttc related..

 

[ClandestineTX]

Can you try another clinic? My understanding is IUI can take up to 3 cycles, but if it doesn't work in that time, you should move on to something more aggressive or stop/ adopt.

I LOVE the doctor at mine, but his office is super inefficient - like I refuse to call them, but their email system in their patient portal is awesome and I get same-day replies.

I'm also super in-favor of adopting if this last-ditch effort doesn't pan out. I actually rose above the stress of this as soon as I realized that the only thing I would lose by not STC anymore was the ability to be a parent. And then I realized that I don't need to get pregnant or have a baby to parent a child. My husband and I (thankfully, ROFL) aren't blood-related and we are 100% family to each other - there's no reason I can't have a child who is also my family-by-choice, without a biological tie, you know?

 

[newbie2013]

My longest cycle since May 2014! Stupid, malfunctioning body.

I will hopefully find another clinic, but I have asked DH to think about what HE really wants, not what he thinks I want. If he doesn't want to continue with intervention, then I will give it a break for now and consider options. He wants it to happen easily (naturally) rather than scientifically. I laughed when he said that. Isn't that what we all want? Well, it isn't happening for me and likely to never happen like that.

Unfortunately, the culture I live in does not support adoption, so sadly it just isn't an option for us.

Hope everyone is going well. I'm feeling better than I did last week, despite it being CD1. Thanks for the support, as always.

 

[momwithbabies]

Sad news. Have tons of bleeding. No fetal heartbeat. Waiting on my doctor to get here to discuss what to do. The ER doctor said he'll probably recommend a D&C.

 

[newbie2013]

Oh mom with babies! I'm so sorry to hear this news. Sending a thousand virtual hugs...

 

[ProfWife]

Momwithbabies - Oh my gosh! Wish I could be with you to give you a hug right now in person. I am so sorry!

 

[momwithbabies]

I ended up having an interstitual pregnancy (sp). I had a D&C and laproscopic surgery to make sure they got all of the tissue out. I didn't have to have my right tube or part of my uterus removed. I go back in 10 days for a check up. I'll go in two months for the dye test to see if my tubes are functioning properly. He said no getting pregnant these next two months (not that I'd want to anyway). Very sad and disappointed. Telling my kids was tough. I'm praying this will bring us all closer, and better days are ahead for us. Thank you, ladies for your prayers and support.