Mid June and July Firecrackers Group Due June/July 2017!

[Girly922]

Mumma, I'm so glad you're standing up for what you know is right. Are you on the facebook home birth UK support group? Im so glad I've got so much support to fight for the right birth for me and my baby. I've consented to growth scans, I've only got one more scheduled so far at 35+2, and I've said I will see the consultant after that but if I get the same response this time I will be speaking to the head of midwifery and declining any further consultant appointments. It sounds like our appointments were both very similar, which doesn't say much for consultant led care does it?! But crawling into a hole and not seeing anyone else until baby arrives was exactly how I left the hospital feeling on Monday. I didn't know whether to cry or break something.

I've also got my birth pool here already, I'm not really sure when todo a trial run? I need to order a new liner too.

At the moment I only seem to leak milk in the bath/shower which surprises me as I only stopped leaking about a year ago, if that.

I can't believe how organised you're all being with shower planning. DH still reckons he planned pretty much every step of our wedding.. He didn't. But he did plan an awful lot. He has a lot more patience than I do. I would love a maternity photo shoot but I don't think we could realistically afford that and a new baby shoot, and I'd prefer the new baby shoot out of the two.

 

[Mummafrog]

Awh girly I hadn't noticed until now how similar we are, both with 3 year olds, planning home births and dealing with this stuff. Only two days apart for our due dates too! I am on that group would you like to chat on fb? It would be so nice to talk more, I feel quite lonely today.
I think I'm also feeling so sorry for myself because I have a rotten cold and am quickly developing a temperature I'll live.
Were you before or after your due date the first time?

 

[Girly922]

I hadn't really noticed either, I knew you were the other mum on here planning for a home birth but didn't realise we were so close in our dates and care and little girls. I'll make a post in the July FB group.

I went overdue last time so expecting to again this time! Lol.

 

[DobbyForever]

Mumma I agree. Good for you for standing up for what you want.

Girly my shower is only organized because in one offing hour I went from 6 guests to 20, and it’s in 9 days. My mom is freaking out we don’t have enough m&ms for the favors now. Oh well. I’m too tired to give a f*. As for maternity photos, I’m only doing it because SO and I are set on one kid. Where we live, having two kids you need an income of like 500k+, 750k for the lifestyle we are accustomed to. So since I just get this one pregnancy, I’m splurging a bit. I’d definitely choose the newborn shoot over maternity photos.

 

[TTCfirstovr30]

Haven't been on in forever, and have missed so much! Ladies, I think the next 10 or so weeks are going to fly by!

Dobby - Baby's get "Lo-Jack" now in the hospital, at least on the west coast. So if the baby gets near an exit door an alarm will go off. So I wouldn’t worry. Are you getting excited for your shower, you seem to be in full planning mode!

Girly, that is horrible. Who has the right to say things like that. Can you write a review or note about the registrar that saw you? I am right there with you on birthing no one should bully you into birth. You should have whatever options you want.

OMG Second.Time, I am so excited for you and how close you are to meeting LO.

I wonder which one of us will have baby(ies) first!?!

AFM - DH and I attended birthing class. I loved it and I feel super informed. What I didn't love and left crying was the videos they showed. You see these women going into pure primal mammal mode. Like making these crazy noises like a mama bear. I am probably the quietest/introverted person you will meet and I don't know how I am going to make those sounds. I felt so weird when we tried them in class. But I guess if that is my only worry from class that's a good thing.

And I am not breastfeeding. I have to get back on my medication so formula it is for my LO.

 

[DobbyForever]

I'm a little more excited now that some people I actually give a crap about are coming lol. . I heard about the alarm thing. I'm still overprotective. I want eyes on my baby at all times. I know a lot of horror stories are gone now with technology, but idk. Lol I'm crazy

Also I can't believe we're st the point of baby watch/whose coming first. It feels like yesterday we just got our bfps

If it helps, I always felt weird in krav making noise when spar/practice but in the heat of the moment/testing day when the adrenaline going I totally forgot my discomfort and was one of the loudest voices hehe. So I imagine the birthing noises will be like that.

 

[Girly922]

Dobby, I'm so glad you've got more of the people attending your shower that you really want there. Just relax now and enjoy it on the day.
I can completely understand the splurging when you know you're only having the one. We originally said we want 3 ( I'm one of 3 and DH is one of 5) but I'm starting to think we'll likely have a better lifestyle if we stick to two.

Thanks TTC, I will certainly be making my feelings known with my usual midwife, and making a point that I'm requesting to see someone else at my next appointment. I have no intention of being spoken to like that again.
I'm glad you had a good birthing class, with regard to the noises you make during labour. The majority of them are involuntary. I didn't have pain relief with my first labour, and I moo'ed like a cow throughout the pushing stage. DH made fun of me for weeks. Lol. However quiet a person you are, in the midst of labour you won't notice what noises are coming out of you. I'm quite self conscious and prudish so I wanted to wear a tunic/dress top in the pool to hide my lumps and bumps. By the time we got there and because I was in established labour I stripped naked the moment I saw that pool, I could've ran half way around that hospital naked if it meant getting into that pool quicker!

I'll be one of the last if not the last to give birth. I'd put money on it. Lol.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Dobby I'm so happy things are working out for the shower..

Girly don't be so sure.. I'm on baby 1 and supposedly they all usually come late so well see lol.

As far as per hospital they have a lo-jack type system too as if the anklet falls off or gets torn the hospital goes into full lock down mode.

Also we finished putting together the baby furniture. Now it's time to decorate and honestly it's exciting. Pretty soon we will have a little peanut to fill the room with!!

 

[Mummafrog]

Aww don't be worried, if you make the noises it'll be involuntary, but you might not, I was pretty much silent because that's just how I managed the feelings. Everyone manages differently, the classes are just covering lots of different things

Haha I'm so UN prudish, I was naked for the whole thing xD but then I was in my home so it's a bit different.

Ahh getting prepared is so exciting

 

[DobbyForever]

My mom's gut has me delivering almost two weeks late. She's pretty intuitive, so I'm hoping she's wrong lol. I really want a July baby/work.

I'm assembling the crib Saturday since my mom bought it as an early Mother's Day gift to me, and she kind of hinted that she would love to see it assembled. So I'm going to do that. My only concern is I know SO has a motorcyclie ride that day so depending how hard they go he may not want to then I'll do it alone and he'll get butt hurt

Ty ladies. I'm still not excited to be center of attention but things are coming together which makes me excited

 

[PrettyInInk42]

I'll take that bet, Girly. My mom says women in our family deliver late. She was 13 days late with me. If I'm the same, I'll actually be looking at an August baby. We'll see though.

 

[Girly922]

I love how all the nurseries are soon to be coming together. I've ordered our crib mattress so DH just needs to get the crib out the loft and at least we're ready for the first few months.
I also need to start washing the newborn and 0-3 clothes soon. I've been trying to clear some of the nursery today, it's been used for storage since DD moved into her big bedroom. I'll probably get DH to put the cot sides back on the cot before baby arrives too so at least it's done.

Pretty, I've already resigned myself to an August baby. Lol. I really want this baby to Coke in July but I just can't see it happening. It'll be a race between a few of us at least then

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Edit: ok so ignore the blip in the right side of the picture.. moved my phone too fast.

https://i65.tinypic.com/2cmkjde.jpg

 

[DobbyForever]

Loooove it!

 

[Weebles]

I'm feeling better about my shower too. I'm still pretty bummed out that my step mom can't make it but that's just the way it is. It will still be a lot of fun... and it's tomorrow!

DH and I are moving the desk out of the nursery tomorrow. I'm starting to feel the pressure to get this done.

Spoke to the NP who gives me my weekly injections.. I haven't been sleeping hardly at all and it's taking a really tole. She mentioned the medication they give for morning sickness, I guess it's really a sleep aid, and after thinking about it I'm phoning on Monday to request it. I really wanted to go med free but I don't think not sleeping is healthy either. I actually dread bed time and I'm desperate. She even said that Tylenol PM is considered safe, class B she said so... I need some shut eye.

Love it gagrl!!

 

[808malia]

So my friend who got pregnant about 2 months before me just had a tragic birth experience... I know that I probably should not let this worry me, but I can't help but think about what can go wrong now... I need some positive insight from you ladies, I was doing well with feeling like it will be ok until this happened to my friend... Now I am extremely nervous...

 

[lesondemavie]

Ugh I'm with you malia. I just had an article about increasing maternal death rates in the US pop up in my feed this morning. It sent me into a Google frenzy and I found out that the rate for my state is much lower and on the decline, but yikes so scary! I guess the only thing I can cling to is that I haven't heard of anyone in my life or on these forums dying from pregnancy/labor. Some scary complications here and there but all turns out just fine for most.

 

[second.time]

Malia, just remember that because you hear about something going wrong with somebody else, it doesn't at all change your own chances of things going wrong or not. One birth experience doesn't say anything about another. Even the same woman can have an excellent birth one time and a less-than-perfect birth the next. But I know it's natural to have those fears, especially when it's someone close to you. Just let yourself acknowledge how hard it is to watch a friend go through that without feeling like it's going to change your own experience. Your odds of having a great birth are still exactly the same. I hope your friend is doing OK ... I'm sorry she went through that.

 

[DobbyForever]

Malia, I think Second stated it perfectly. I know how you feel though. I'm getting increasingly nervous as I approach 32 weeks. All of my moms babies were born at 32 via csection except one I think. Her first son was an emergency c, and he died within 24 hours. I was taken out at 32 weeks because her stress was killing both of us. My twin brothers were out at 32 weeks because they didn't think she could go further with both measuring what they did. So it's like ok great... what does that mean for me. But I just keep telling myself exactly what Second just said. Her birth experience doesn't dictate my own, and no matter what happens I'm strong enough to make it through and I get my son after it. My friend just went through hell, but she is so positive because she has her son now. Hopefully we won't have to go through that though.

I'm sad-happy. Happy that the photographer who did my engagement shoot got back to me, but sad because she's not free until 6/18. I'll be 34 weeks. I know that's in the 30-35 range everyone says to do it, but I'm still bummed. I already feel huge, and I don't want to wait another 4 weeks

 

[Weebles]

Dobby, I think once you have your bundle you'll look back fondly on your 34 week bump! I know I look back at pictures from times when I thought I was fat... I wasn't. 34 weeks will be perfect.