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[DobbyForever]

Second trust me I've also considered bed sharing or falling asleep holding him. It doesn't make you a bad mom. A nurse st my hospital said usually it's dad's who roll onto kids. If you feel nervous arms reach has a great cosleeper bsssinet. I got mine from buy buy baby with a 20% off coupon and free shipping so total $131. I use it as a bassinet but I liked that the cosleeper literally tied to the bed so there's no gap. But my cousins all bedshare.

And aww about the hair. Mine has thin hair in spots and I'm like wtf old man head haha

Omg girly right?! The fedex guy showed mid feed and I was like f***^ can I just get the door boob out but then the porn music started playing in my head so I put A down and tossed on a short haha

I had some leftover pre mixed formula from the hospital and lc so I take those when I'm out. Or I'll pre measure powder formula and take a water bottle. My kid will drink room temp formula so it works out. I don't have a nursing bra or tops so formula on the go is waaaay easier for me.

Re burn I did but looks too little too late lol

 

[DobbyForever]

The burn lol it's so angry

 

[Weebles]

Owie! That looks nasty!

I've had such a hard day today with dd, I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel good from her shots yesterday. She is totally miserable and cries when she's been awake. Even when nursing she stops to let out this pitiful little wail. Poor baby.

I haven't ventured out of the house too often except for my daily walks but when I do I just bf. I find it so much easier than bottles. I get a little self concious about how loud she is though! Normally we would have a little conversation, lol.

I have no idea what to do about nights when I go back to work. DH and I work different shifts and so there will be no more taking turns. When am I going to sleep? The sleep deprivision is already taking its toll, pretty sure I'm losing IQ at this point.

 

[Girly922]

Second trust me I've also considered bed sharing or falling asleep holding him. It doesn't make you a bad mom. A nurse st my hospital said usually it's dad's who roll onto kids. If you feel nervous arms reach has a great cosleeper bsssinet. I got mine from buy buy baby with a 20% off coupon and free shipping so total $131. I use it as a bassinet but I liked that the cosleeper literally tied to the bed so there's no gap. But my cousins all bedshare.

And aww about the hair. Mine has thin hair in spots and I'm like wtf old man head haha

Omg girly right?! The fedex guy showed mid feed and I was like f***^ can I just get the door boob out but then the porn music started playing in my head so I put A down and tossed on a short haha

I had some leftover pre mixed formula from the hospital and lc so I take those when I'm out. Or I'll pre measure powder formula and take a water bottle. My kid will drink room temp formula so it works out. I don't have a nursing bra or tops so formula on the go is waaaay easier for me.

Re burn I did but looks too little too late lol

I have fallen asleep with A lying next to me latched. It's a very light sleep, but has been necessary. We have a crib pushed up to my side of the bed, but that doesn't help when A wants to stay on the boob for over an hour!

Haha, porn music playing in your head!! I opened the door in just my shorts and bra today as we'd just finished feeding.

I don't have a great deal of breastfeeding tops, and the ones I do have are suited to winter so too warm to wear now. I just wear low cut tops and pop a boob out over the top. I'm a lot more comfortable breastfeeding in public this time and knowing that it is my right and no one can ask me to stop.
Ps, get a nursing bra! So much comfier! I have to wear a sleep bra too otherwise I leak everywhere!

Please get some silver nitrate on that burn.


AFM: we had our newborn shoot today. We used our wedding photographer, and I'm so pleased with the shots we were able to get, I can't wait to see how they've all come out, but she's already sent a sneak peek over.

We got our appt for the tongue tie too, first thing Tuesday morning. Apparently the hospital have had some staff off sick in the clinic so that's the earliest available. But A was reweighed today and has gained 50g in the past 48hrs with having top ups so that's a really good start. She's now back up to 7lb 3oz. So we've just got to continue the top ups until after the tt snip.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

I've fallen asleep while feeding Alex too. At least once a night. I just make sure that I'm propped up as much as possible, so I won't roll onto him, and that he has a pillow under him for if/when my arms go a little limp.

In terms of feeding, he was insatiable yesterday. I probably couldn't go for more than 30 mins before he'd start fussing again and I'd put him back on the boob. I finally gave him some gripe water, and he seemed to calm down enough to take a nap.

He had another Dr appt today. He weighed in at 3570g (7lbs 14 oz?), so he's almost back up to his birth weight. The Dr suggested trying to supplement after feedings (with pumped milk, preferably) and to not give him a soother until he's put on more weight.

That pic is really cute, Girly. All you ladies talking about your photo shoots kinda make me feel like I shoulda done that too. I never had newborn shots and I turned out fine, but am I missing out?

 

[Girly922]

Thanks pretty. I'm really glad we did it earlier this time. DD1 was 3 weeks old when we had her shoot so we didn't get any of the newborn scrunched up shots. A is 9 days old and to be honest it felt like the perfect time as she was so settled and compliant with all the shots.

Why has the dr suggested supplementing? He's so close to his birth weight now and I know they say they should be back at birth weight by 2w but some don't reach it until 4w which is still okay.

He's very cute!

 

[DobbyForever]

I don't have any and I'm too tired to go to the store. I'm at the hospital trying to turn in my disability paperwork, there's an hour wait!!! Wt actual f! So I'll swing by the pharmacy and see if they have anything

I'm just so broke ATM. I'm really stressed financially so buying more tops and bras for temporary comfort are low on my priority list

Love the pics ladies! Pretty honestly you're not missing out. Yes, having the memories are great but as long as you took your own personal pictures or keep track of milestones that's what matters.

Congrats on the weight gains for both! A's slowed so on for the millionth weight check on Sunday. But yesterday we were at 5 lbs 10 oz.

SO and I got into it last night. To the point we woke up A and I couldn't console him back to sleep. One of those I'm tired of f*ing changing myself to make you happy and you're never happy and if we're going to have this conversation every day then just effing leave arguments. I just cannot stand his yo-yo. Like literally went from I love you, I want to marry you, I love our son, you're the best partner ever to I why don't you wear make up and heels and dress nice (you never take me anywhere nice) which turned to you were never the person I wanted to be with, having A was a mistake. I ran out of diapers upstairs and politely asked him to go get one as A shit in three in a row, and he comes into the room and says some shit about if I want to be a single mom so bad then I can go downstairs and get it myself for the single mom experience. Which like f* you I'm a big girl I don't need you but how dare you HOW DARE YOU have the nerve to in the next breath after he's diapered and I'm swaddling him bend over and tell him you love him when you just let him sit in his shit while he's crying hysterically.

Like I'm not the one who lied and sold myself as anything other than I am. But I'm the one changing everything about myself to make him happy. And I sure as hell will not tolerate him treating my son that way. So not looking forward to him coming home from work today.

 

[DobbyForever]

My pediatrician says two weeks for birth weight as well. But I have a bitty baby so we're like eeeeaaaat all the time. I know I have to supplement because even though he sucks, after like ten minutes he's not getting much. So that's why we have to supplement. You can really tell because his lack of poo, slowing weight, fussiness, constant rooting, extended suckling time, and the fact I can still pump 2-3 oz AFTER he's eaten.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Girly - Thanks. So, it's kinda funny how things go sometimes. Mere minutes after I posted about doing a shoot for Alex, BD's aunt tags me in something on FB; a set of outtakes from baby photo shoots, with the babies peeing and pooping and all that. lol

As for the supplementing, I guess cuz (according to the Dr's math), he's only put on like 20g/day since his last appt. I guess she wanted to see a little more gain. I just pumped twice today with my manual pump. I've been able to get like 2.5 fl oz so far. I may pump one more time, if I think my nipples can handle it. lol. BD watched me pump one time and said it looked painful and asked why I didn't get an electric pump. I told him I'm not made of money, but I wanted to have some kind of pump at home, just in case. He offered to give me some money for a better pump, but I declined. The manual works fine, it just takes a little longer.

Dobby - Jeez. What an asshole. Would you wanna see if you and SO could go to some kind of counseling? You and A totally deserve someone who wants to be around you and be a productive member of the family. Hopefully he realizes he's being a jerk.

 

[Weebles]

Dobby I had to supplement DD with pumped milk too. When they're that tiny they can use more calories at the boob then they're getting too.

Sorry things are so stressful for you. DH and I have been fighting awful too.. It's a little better this week but yeah, babies are a stressor for sure.

Girly the pic is super cute!, she's got sooo much hair!

Pretty, you're not missing out. I never had a newborn photo shoot for DS and I've got plenty of pictures that make my heart melt. No where near as many as DD, gawd Its different now with cell phones. He looks so sweet bundled up in his blanket.

 

[DobbyForever]

We went to family counseling for like six months and got nowhere. I'm just exhausted and not in the mood for his shit this week. Two hours at the hospital and guess who is home nowhere closer to having the disability stuff sorted

Pretty idk how Canada insurance works but are there any breast pump coverage? I have two pumps: the hospital grade one covered by my insurance because it was a "medical need" due to the low birth weight for 60 days (pediatrician said she can extend it though). And then the insurance standard pump for a year. Both free.

 

[second.time]

Girly, what a gorgeous photo! She has SO much hair, oh my goodness. And pretty, that's a lovely photo of your cute guy. I never got professional photos of my older son and we have a LOT of photos and videos and memories of him. You can always take them when he's a little older too.

Good to know some of you are bed-sharing/considering bed-sharing too. I have his cradle pushed right up against the bed so it's easy to put him in and take him out, but he'll be sleeping peacefully right beside me and then I put him in the cradle and his eyes pop open. I've used a pacifier a few times and that helps ... bf'ing is going well enough that I'm not as concerned about nipple confusion and I even read that using a pacifier at night can lower SIDS risks. I find that I'm really conscious of him during my sleep and my husband is a light, attentive sleeper, but I'd still like to move to the cradle more and more.

Dobby, that sounds so stressful and upsetting. Babies can make any relationship rocky at first, but you don't deserve to deal with that stress on top of dealing with your newborn. I hope your SO realizes he needs to be here for the two of you right now and avoid unnecessary fighting.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

We went to family counseling for like six months and got nowhere. I'm just exhausted and not in the mood for his shit this week. Two hours at the hospital and guess who is home nowhere closer to having the disability stuff sorted

Pretty idk how Canada insurance works but are there any breast pump coverage? I have two pumps: the hospital grade one covered by my insurance because it was a "medical need" due to the low birth weight for 60 days (pediatrician said she can extend it though). And then the insurance standard pump for a year. Both free.

Well, I'm sure you don't need us to tell you that you deserve way better than what you're dealing with right now, but you totally do. Hopefully he pulls his head out of his ass ASAP.

I've never heard of insurance in Canada covering pumps. We have general healthcare in my province (OHIP: Ontario Health Insurance Plan), but I doubt something like that would be covered. And I don't have any additional insurance through work.

 

[DobbyForever]

Yeah I'd peace out if A wasn't here. He's more bipolar than my bipolar grandfather sometimes

Gotcha yeah I just googled it looks like ohip only gives them to moms with preemie babies . That was sweet of BD to offer and considerate of you that decline, but it the manual gets too much don't hesitate to take him up on it. Hopefully you won't be pumping/supplementing for too long

 

[Girly922]

Girly - Thanks. So, it's kinda funny how things go sometimes. Mere minutes after I posted about doing a shoot for Alex, BD's aunt tags me in something on FB; a set of outtakes from baby photo shoots, with the babies peeing and pooping and all that. lol

As for the supplementing, I guess cuz (according to the Dr's math), he's only put on like 20g/day since his last appt. I guess she wanted to see a little more gain. I just pumped twice today with my manual pump. I've been able to get like 2.5 fl oz so far. I may pump one more time, if I think my nipples can handle it. lol. BD watched me pump one time and said it looked painful and asked why I didn't get an electric pump. I told him I'm not made of money, but I wanted to have some kind of pump at home, just in case. He offered to give me some money for a better pump, but I declined. The manual works fine, it just takes a little longer.

I've seen some of those outtake pics! They're hilarious and so cringey! Lol. Luckily A didn't poop on us, but she managed to pee while laying on my wedding dress, luckily I'd managed to put some padding under her that you then couldn't see in the photos.

Ah I see, I think they hope for around an ounce weight gain a day at this point, but we're way below that. I don't really understand Canadian healthcare, but we have national healthcare so can't get a pump from the hospital unless baby is in NICU or SCBU. However we do have children's centres where we can rent baby carriers and electric pumps from for a really small deposit.
I've got an electric single pump and a haakaa. The haakaa only really works when I'm feeding on the other side, but with the electric I got between 2-3oz per pumping session yesterday so I'm fairly happy with that as I know she's getting some from the breast too.

Dobby, I'm sorry SO is being such a dick! You shouldn't have to put up with that, and A really doesn't deserve to be in the middle of his bulls***.

We've got a wedding reception to go to tonight and I'm a little bit anxious whether I have enough pumped milk for top ups. Oh, and pumping is killing my nipples!!

 

[lesondemavie]

I think this is the 10th time I've tried to post so lots to say! Going to see what I can get down while she sleeps in my other arm.

Dobby that sounds so tough! My heart goes out to you . I really can't complain. DH is a dream, and C was only fussing for an hour or so...plus I have it figured out now. She was getting too much milk from me with the whole 15 on each side plan! I guess my let down is just really intense. I left my boob out the other day while rocking her to sleep and completely soaked my shirt. Now that I'm just going for 10 on one side and letting her stop before then if she needs to things are much better. No more massive spit ups and just tiny burps here and there. We had a bit of a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance yesterday, but getting her feeds closer to 10+ minutes and just staying on one side per feed fixed that. Seems we've adjusted. She gained more than she needed to in the last week, so no concerns about her getting enough, but I'm keeping an eye on her diapers and weight just in case. She only fusses now when she gets overtired and fights sleep. She's pretty easy to calm though. Pacifier+standing/rocking and off to dreamland she goes. I think I was just getting stressed because my mom started making comments about colic and tummy sleeping etc projecting her experience with me onto C and I started to worry that my super calm baby was going to be super fussy for a long time to come (and my mom was going to secretly put her to sleep on her tummy bc that's what helped her with me - eek sids!). Should have just tuned her out and trusted my mommy instincts. All is well now.

I think the only frustrating thing is when she flails/kicks while nursing losing her latch but cries if I take her off my nipple to try to burp her/calm her down. I want to keep her on for the full 10 minutes but it just doesn't work in those moments. I've found I can get her to take the pacifier and calm with a rock. Sometimes she'll just pass out, but often times she'll get the hiccups or poop up a storm. If she's still awake after that, I can get her back on for a longer feed. Still learning more about each other every day, and I'm sure that will continue.

I was on the fence about the pacifier, but she's such a good latcher and I feel like breastfeeding is well established as a preference for her at this point. No worries about nipple confusion, and I think it's better for both her and me if she uses the pacifier rather than my nipple to calm when she doesn't need more milk. My mom bought us the nuk kind and it's working great.

Pretty - If we didn't have a family photographer that we love (she did our engagement, wedding, and maternity shots), we would have skipped the shoot as well. I think they are nice to have so we can print a pro-photo or two and frame it for our walls, but they are definitely not necessary. We started a photostream album on the apple app for family with all the shots we take on our phones every day and I think that is going to be a fantastic treasure of memories for Charlie later in life. That is so much more important to me.

Also I received fantastic news today. After heading into the hospital this past Tuesday at 38 weeks for induction due to climbing bp, my SIL and brother welcomed their little boy this morning at 8 am. They didn't start pitocin until Friday morning, and I suspect it all ended with a c-section bc my brother was in scrubs of some sort in the photo. My SIL is a champ no matter what happened and so, so happy for them! My SIL has PCOS and struggled to even O let alone conceive. I supported her through her struggles and she supported me through my losses. We had the good fortune of being pregnant together (though far apart geographically) and now the cousins are just two weeks apart! Over the moon with joy today !

 

[second.time]

Aww, lesonde, that's great! My nephew and son are 16 months apart and they're so close they're like brothers. With only two weeks between them, I'm sure your LO and her cousin will be even closer! It's so sweet to have that cousin relationship.

 

[second.time]

Oh yes ... we reached four weeks today! I'm feeling pretty great, recovery-wise, but I'm eager for my six-week checkup to make sure everything really is OK. I'd like to get back to some light exercise too, I'm a little stir-crazy. Baby's doing well, nearly up to 11 pounds by my scale at home. He also spits up A LOT. I never had this problem before but apparently it runs in DH's family. I just keep little blankets and cloths in every room and do a lot of laundry. Adjusting to doing everything with a baby nursing or in my arms is tough -- I'm considering a baby wrap but just trying to figure out the right one. At least I'm getting a lot of reading done on my kindle.

 

[Maries_s]

I'm definitely not enjoying the feeling the pump is leaving my nipples with. But if I can keep to BM top ups rather than formula I'm hoping it won't affect my supply too much.

Dobby, that sounds painful! Get some silver nitrate on that asap!

Midwife is back tomorrow. Really hoping for a better weight gain.

What kind of breastpump do you have? I was using the medela and it was killing my nipples now that I switch to Spectra S1 feels way more gentle and I don't have to spend much time on it either.

 

[Girly922]

I'm definitely not enjoying the feeling the pump is leaving my nipples with. But if I can keep to BM top ups rather than formula I'm hoping it won't affect my supply too much.

Dobby, that sounds painful! Get some silver nitrate on that asap!

Midwife is back tomorrow. Really hoping for a better weight gain.

What kind of breastpump do you have? I was using the medela and it was killing my nipples now that I switch to Spectra S1 feels way more gentle and I don't have to spend much time on it either.

I've got an avent comfort, it's quick and efficient. But between pumping so often and a shallow latch my nipples were suffering.

We had A's tongue tie snipped this morning and I can already feel an improvement in her nursing technique. Now she just needs to gain some weight!