Mid June and July Firecrackers Group Due June/July 2017!

[lesondemavie]

Oh the best part of this rough week was coming home. I greet little C with lots of kisses on her cheeks and she just laughs and laughs and laughs . It’s wonderful.

 

[DobbyForever]

Aww it is so nice to come home to your baby after a long day/week. I love picking up A from daycare for that reason and the staff totally has him ready to go because they know I want my 10m of cuddles before I get in the car lol

I’m so excited for you to ttc soon! Hoping for a speedy return of your ovulation for you!

The Mom guilt is real and totally never goes away. I tried giving A the drops in my shield/on my boob and he hated me for it/wasn’t having it. So being exclusively bottle fed with a kid who always finishes his bottle made it easy like you said to just drop it in first feed of the day.

A’s physical development is stalling/regressing because he’s not getting enough tummy time at daycare (not for lack of trying on their end). He went from 30m-45 to 5-10 if i’m lucky. PT says to just rebuild his stamina but it’s hard when I only have him for 3.5 waking hours M-F.

 

[DobbyForever]

Had a scare last night/this morning with A having pained breathing. Doc says reflux and wants me running a humidifier at night, keeping him elevated, and adding a teaspoon of oat cereal to his fortified milk. Sigh

 

[second.time]

Oh dobby, I'm sorry. That sounds so stressful. Here's hoping all those measures work and help your poor guy breathe a little easier.

Halloween was fun for us, just trick-or-treating around our neighborhood. A. slept in the stroller the whole time so nobody really saw his Yoda costume.

Meanwhile, he's getting frighteningly mobile. Every time I put him in his podster pillow he pulls himself up to sitting and then crawls/rolls out. If I leave the room for a second, I come back to find him next to it on his tummy. He moves around so much I joke to DH it's like we're being haunted, I leave him in spot and he mysteriously winds up across the room. He's still a little small ... I know he hasn't doubled his birth weight yet ... so I'm glad he's strong.

 

[DobbyForever]

Actually turns out that doctor is a moron because it got worse and my gut said it’d not reflux so I took him to the ER (can’t wait for that bull) and they IMMEDIATELY said he had croup which I asked the doctor about because croup is in the daycare and the director said he sounds like croup ffs so four hours in the ER and some decadron and a humidifier hose right in his face and we were cleared to go home. He never spiked a fever but I took Tuesday off and my mom took Wednesday off. He went back to daycare today. And his usual pediatrician was like um stop giving him cereal she’s Stupid after I already slit all my bottles sigh

Then I had to talk to the detective about the flasher. And we had this whole stranger danger talk because we had a lurker on campus who turned out to be a registered sex offender! Like ffs

Didn’t get to dress A for Halloween he spent the entire day sleeping under the humidifier

That’s awesome he’s so mobile! A is so immobile it’sstartong to worry me. Sigh

 

[lesondemavie]

Oh how stressful Dobby! Hope A is ok.

Little C must be teething already. She’s just having the worst time of it and the only thing that will calm her is cold. We’ve just been putting her wubbanub in the freezer and letting her suck away on that since this afternoon. She just broke my heart today. Cried all morning before I tried using a covered ice cube on her gums. She had another rough week with DH so we thought she was just still adjusting but nope it’s totally her gums. Could explain why she’s eating less too. She had to suck on the cold wubbanub or ice cube before nursing well today every time so it’s not just the bottle. How is this happening so early?!?!

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Jeez, Dobby, that sounds like a lot to deal with. Hopefully A will be all better soon. And Alex isn't moving too much either. He still hates tummy time and he would be doing a proper back to front roll over, but he still hasn't figured out that he needs to move his arm out of the way. He'll sit up and have pretty good neck control, but he still needs to have his torso held.

Some babies just teethe early, leson. I think Alex is starting to and my friend says her 12 week old has started, too.

For Halloween, I ended up just dressing up as a Hogwarts student and Alex was a jack-o-lantern.

So, I've been thinking about my pregnancy and labour recently and getting pretty down on myself. BD's cousin's wife had a baby boy on Oct 27. She was 6 days late and apparently went from water breaking to baby in arms in 4 hours, so "there was no time for an epidural." I don't wanna be melodramatic, but I friggen hate myself. I hate that I put on 60lbs during my pregnancy. I hate that I lost 32lbs in the first few weeks, but I've since put 15+lbs back on. I hate my saggy belly. I hate that I couldn't keep him in til my due date. I hate that my labour took 27 hours. I hate that I gave in and got an epi after 19 hours. My mom was hoping I'd get the epi, BD had like zero experience with the situation, so he didn't wanna tell me what I should and shouldn't do, and my friend admits she could've done better to support me and my wish to not be medicated. I expected better from myself and I met myself down. I've been fighting tears about this on and off for like a week. I wish I could just crawl into bed for several days and not eat. -.-

 

[DobbyForever]

Aww leson big hugs! I have heard of some kids teething early . When we ask google Home the answer says some babies start as early as 3 months. I’m glad the cold helps but . Also lol wubbanub makes me giggle it’s fun to say

Thanks Pretty. I think having torso support while sitting is within milestone, right? Can sit with support? A used to love tummy time, but he refuses to do it at daycare and at home his stamina is gone.

Lovvvvve your Halloween pics! Looks like you had a great time!

I think the Mom guilt is real and manifests for all moms in different ways. Can we say we could have done better? Absolutely. We love our kids and nothing will be good enough for them and that includes us lol. But every pregnancy and woman is different. You made it 19 hours with no epidural, that’s amazing! You have no control of when Baby comes that’s literally up to baby. Try not to beat yourself up too much but it’s also ok to cry it out. Big hugs. You are doing an amazing job. Alex is happy and healthy and there is no shame on a long, medicated pregnancy or weight fluctuations postpartum when our hormones are wonky and you're Breastfeeding

 

[second.time]

Pretty, I try not to compare labor experiences. My first was 28 hours long and I was mad at myself for having an epi. But some women who didn't get an epidural only had 3-4 hour labors. When your labor is nine times as long, you make different decisions. Also, I was in a similar situation to your BD's cousin, being told there was "no time" for an epidural, although in retrospect I think there might have been? And sometimes I think, well, I didn't really CHOOSE to not have an epidural, I was forced to not have one, so should I even be proud of myself? In the end, we're all doing our best and making decisions that work for us during the crazy process of labor/birth. I wish we could all push aside these things and just feel positive and proud about getting our babies here.

Dobby, I'm sorry you're having to deal with all this ... it's so hard to have a sick baby. And my older DS definitely wasn't at this level of mobility when he was four months old and he hit his milestones just fine. There's no rush.

I think my A. is just being an early-bloomer in this one area, but I know he's going to be a late-bloomer in other areas to balance things out. That seems to be the way it works, every kid has strengths and weaknesses, but they tend to even out quickly.

 

[DobbyForever]

Hope everyone is well! I caught A’s croup in the form of a cold so woot r_r so miserable. My supply is tanking from work stress just as A’s appetite is growing. So i’m Back to pumping 5x a day to not even keep up =\. But he laughs every day now and I love it. Crazy that he’s 12 days away from four months!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Dobby I know right? I cannot believe P is less than two weeks away from four months.

P is rolling a lot from her belly to get back and very close to rolling from her back to her belly. She is giggling all the time and babbling up a storm. She also does this fake cough thing to get my attention.

She is grabbing toys now and takes her binkie out of her mouth and puts it back now. She is also holding her own bottle (although not well).

If any of you guys the wonder weeks she is in the dead middle of leap 4 and we found she cannot sleep if she doesn't have her zippidee zip on... She is also going through the stage where my DH comes home after work and she sees him and starts crying. I know it hurts his feelings but since I'm home with her during the day all day she gets so much of me.

 

[DobbyForever]

Awww that sounds awesome! P is really growing! Sorry about her crying at the sight of DH . A used to do that and now he rolls off my tummy to get to SO r_r.

Still no rolling on a flat surface. He can get to his side going both ways but can’t quite figure out the rest haha. We have a pt appointment on his four month birthday so i’ll Ask her about it then

Wonder weeks says A has 32 more days in this leap and the sleep regresssion is getting progressively worse

 

[second.time]

It's hard when babies cry because of your spouse. A went through a brief period where he'd be inconsolable when DH held him. Luckily he has a flexible schedule and is able to spend a good amount of time around him. A does prefer me, and selfishly I kind of like it when he smiles the most for me, but he also grins at DH now. It takes time. And babies/kids go through so many stages of preferring one parent and then the other.

Dobby, I'm sorry about the cold! Sounds like your A is making strides in the rolling department.

I managed to get A on video launching himself out of his pillow and crawling halfway out. But he's a small guy! He's only about 24 inches long (sometimes 24.5 but that might be wishful) and about 15 pounds. For a 4-month-old boy, that's in the low percentiles. I have a lot of short people on my side and I'm only 5'1" so it's not a shock. He's clearly healthy and happy and I know that's what matters. But people can be so negative about short men that it bothered me a little. Then I read a lot of studies about how shortness doesn't matter as much as we think and confidence is what matters, so I'm vowing to focus on that even if A stays in the low percentiles.

Still, my older DS grew so quickly and was in the top of the charts. I almost want to start solids but it seems like it's best to wait till six months if possible. I do have sweet potato ready to go if he shows interest.

 

[thexfadingpat]

Second- Elliot sounds about the same as A. At his 4 month appointment he was 14lbs 10oz and around 24". Which I find so weird because my older son is huge (tall) for his age- 20 months and already 36".

 

[second.time]

Wow, it sounds like they're almost exactly the same size! And I'm so surprised by it too -- my older son was about that size at nine weeks and A. is eighteen weeks now. I guess every baby is different. I know I'm nursing him about the same amount as I did my older son. Did your pediatrician seem concerned at all? I know four months is pretty young and there's a lot of time to hit a later growth spurt, but if he stays little I'll be OK with it as long as it's healthy!

 

[thexfadingpat]

Nope, they weren't concerned at all. He was born decently small (6lbs 7oz) so going by that he's gaining good. And he's got some chubby thighs.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

P is such a peanut compared to most four month olds. She's somewhere between 11 and 13lbs and she's around 24in tall. All my nephew's and my neice were all peanuts too though...

 

[DobbyForever]

Sorry for not responding A has croup again for sure

He was 13lbs 13oz (though 4 was probably from just eating because Friday he was 13lbs 4oz). His four month is Tuesday so I hope we get the go ahead to stop fortifying

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Sorry for not responding A has croup again for sure

He was 13lbs 13oz (though 4 was probably from just eating because Friday he was 13lbs 4oz). His four month is Tuesday so I hope we get the go ahead to stop fortifying

Can't wait to hear how the appointment goes.. I'm sorry to hear about the croup 😔

Ps four month appointment is next Friday the day after Thanksgiving. We are doing family pictures that Sunday so I'm hoping she does well for those.

Afm, I am officially down 40lbs since giving birth.. and since I only gained 26 during my pregnancy I'm lower than my pre pregnancy weight!!! I'm still losing with this new eating and diet program even with my thyroid staying to climb again from my hashimotos...

 

[second.time]

Congrats, gag! That must be a good feeling to find a weight loss plan that works for you. And the growth charts are pretty different for boys and girls, so it sounds like your little girl is growing fine.

Fading, that's great that they weren't concerned! If he started out a little more petite, it sounds like he's putting on weight really wonderfully. My A. was a big guy, 8 lb. 4 oz. at birth, but then he just went sliding down the chart. I'm going to ask his pediatrician tomorrow. I don't know what else I should be doing, maybe making more of an effort to feed him even if he's not expressing interest?

Dobby, I hope the croup clears up! How hard to deal with it again.