Mid June and July Firecrackers Group Due June/July 2017!

[Ad0rkkable]

Thanks everyone! I do think once we have the scan we will end up on the same page. I'm feeling better about it today, I think it was the hormones and exhaustion getting to me yesterday

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Dobby I'm so sorry I can't even imagine...

Ador- in sure he'll come around after the scan. We won't have another scan until around 20 weeks so we will be announcing at Christmas and I'll be like 10.5 weeks. We are just telling them were area not going public until after the first of the year.

 

[Girly922]

I'm really sorry to hear that Dobby. I hope you're as okay as you can be, you'll be an excellent mum and it sounds like you will have a decent amount of support around you.

 

[Thejoie]

Woke up today without that "hunger over" feeling and later in the morning had a little brown spotting. Ugh. I know it happens a lot, and it's not bright red, and I'm not cramping. But UGH. This ultrasound can't get here fast enough...

 

[Maries_s]

Woke up today without that "hunger over" feeling and later in the morning had a little brown spotting. Ugh. I know it happens a lot, and it's not bright red, and I'm not cramping. But UGH. This ultrasound can't get here fast enough...

I'm sorry of the spotting. I know the feeling but everything is going to be ok. Make sure you don't have any infection I'm pretty sure my spotting was caused for my UTI.

 

[Thejoie]

Definitely no UTI. It seems to have gone away, I peed and there was absolutely nothing abnormal. I'm hoping it doesn't happen again!

 

[Mummafrog]

Hey people! Sorry I've been off for a week or so, I have been so crazy sick and having my mum stay so I've been trying to vomit quietly because I really want to surprise her in a special way at Christmas the nausea has been rubbish and way more than my first pregnancy and it's harder with a toddler.. :sigh: also general dizziness and weakness and stretching pains. I've found healthy food SO hard to eat, it makes me gag when I'm trying and nothing takes my nausea away like burger and chips or pizza! It makes me feel so sad and guilty but I've just got to get through and on better days I shovel in as much good stuff as I can.. I hope baby isn't mad at me

I also had a scan yesterday, I didn't get a picture, it was an NHS scan because I was worried about some left sided pain I was having. Just one baby in there (phew!), measuring well with a little heart beating away my little girl saw and she was so happy but I think she's forgotten now, we'll talk to her about it more at Christmas.
I've got a private scan on the 17th still, I want my picture!

Finished uni/work for Christmas which is a much welcome break, hopefully some of the nausea will be better by the time I go back.

I know it's silly but I swear I've felt tiny tickles around my pubic bone.. I'm sure it's just something else though :embarrassed:

Dobby.. you can do it, okay? I believe in you mama, you'll be amazing and your baby will have everything it needs. Do you want to talk about it?

 

[DobbyForever]

Mummafrog sorry for the pain scare but congrats on the scan, and so cute that DD saw and is excited

Joie hugs I know spotting is terrifying. Happy to hear it was brown and has stopped. Hang in there

Ty ladies for the support. I feel better now. I don't want to get into details. I did some venting and found being told SO is an ass, while true and I say it as well, does not make me feel better lol. What does is a good scan.

Had my follow up scan and all was perfect. CRL measured 6w4d, so I'm just going to leave my ticker for now. Heartbeat was 128, so another old wives tale tally for team blue. Gyn was the sweetest. She let me keep 6 pics and listen to the heartbeat extra long

 

[Thejoie]

What a great scan Dobby!!!

 

[lesondemavie]

Dobby - My little one's heartbeat was just 118 at 6+4 and then this week at 9+2 it was 172! You just never know! Great scan and glad the gyn was nice

 

[DobbyForever]

True but I'm pulling for about so hard haha. I have heard that heartbeats are inconsistent. The same tech could scan you and get two different heart rates just based on the angle that they scan you at but anythung leaning team blue I will take hehe

 

[Aphy]

Gorgeous scan Dobs,glad it left you feeling better. Your sticky bean is already becoming everything to you which is how it should be

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Dobby I'm so happy for you.. At 6w4d our babys hb was 111.. At 7w4d its 130. I've heard it's supposed to go up about 10bpm every week.. My dh really wants a boy so I'm hoping that is a good sign...

 

[DobbyForever]

Yay team blue!

So far the old wives tales lean blue. I have zero morning sickness (which is bizarre normally I am throwing up by week 5), my cravings are for salty things and heavy in protein, I have zero acne and my face has a 'glow', I'm not terribly moody but very clumsy and forgetful, Chinese gender using a lunar calendar says boy. When I got my bfp my intuition was girl, but every dream since last week's scan is boy. Oh and my mom had 4 kids, 3 were boys. My dad is one of five boys. SO is one of two boys, but his family tends to produce boys. And I read somewhere that family tendencies do have a scientific backing when it's heavily one way or the other.

I'd be happy either way but my mom has already confirmed what I already know: she wants a grandson.

 

[Thejoie]

I think about gender stuff daily!!

I did the baking soda gender test and it said girl. DH thinks girl.
Every dream I have says boy. Chinese gender says boy!

I've had bad acne. But I crave salty foods. I'm not moody. No nausea but crazy food aversions.

My parents had 3 girls. His mom had a boy then two girls and his dad had 2 boys and a girl.

First US is this week. I'm thinking boy so far....

 

[DobbyForever]

Ooo I was waiting to do the baking soda test. Does it "work" this early?

I'm getting antsy because I want to go ahead and Christmas present to myself do the bloodwork. The private gyn who does it likes to wait until 10w since sometimes it comes back inconclusive in week 9. I'm calling them Monday to schedule. I just hope he isn't on vacation that week for the new year =\. But I am going to make an old wives tale then reveal video

 

[lesondemavie]

Hah fun stuff! I will have to sit back and just watch all of the fun . DH and I are team yellow. I'm really not a fan of gender stereotypes, so I'm big on the whole gender neutral thing. I don't want a bunch of pink frilly things for a girl, nor do I want only trucks and sports for a boy. We figure the only way to avoid all of that is to just not know. Clearly it will start to flood in a bit once we have the baby, but that's to be expected. I actually get a bit annoyed when my best friend and sister "tell" me what I'm having. Looks like it's going to trickle in a bit based on guesses regardless, and well one of them will be right. My sister says she keeps dreaming of me with a girl, and my best friend is going with the "empath" from the bar who says boy. Ah well, I'll let them have their fun, and none of it really matters so long as we have a healthy baby in July

 

[DobbyForever]

The empath from the bar idk why that makes me giggle so much. I hear you on stereotypes. I was a sociology major and took several courses on gender studies, and it's all lame. Could you hint to people/register for neutral things? My coworker was having a girl but she is like my. Hates pink and frills and had no problem telling people (politely) she would prefer purples and greens and yellows and pastel blues.

I only want a girl because I want to go through pregnancy with her. Even if So and I stayed together I would not share nearly as much of my pregnancy with his parents and hell no would his mom be in the delivery room. As for the boy, in Thai culture boys are more valuable. There's a saying that girls take care of their parents in this life, but boys take care of them in the afterlife. Only boys can be monks and guide people's souls into the afterlife. And they can only do it once, maybe twice in an extreme if need be. So Thais definitely place a high value on boys. I know my mom would be happy either way but I would like her first grandchild to be a boy.

 

[Flueky88]

I'm thinking of doing baking soda test this weekend. My intuition is girl, but who knows. I have some pimples, nothing horrible. I crave salty and sour. Sweets turn my stomach for most part. I really think it's amazing people stay team yellow. I'm too much of a planner and impatient too.

My ultrasound appt is Thursday. I can't wait to see that heartbeat and lil jedi looking more like a baby

 

[lesondemavie]

Dobby - That's so sweet that you want that for your mom

I could hint to people or even make it clear that I wanted more neutral things, but people impose what they think is best anyway. I've experienced that already with the whole name change thing. I did not change my name when I married. I thought long and hard about it, and it was not an easy decision to make. In the end I made the right choice for me, and it is very important to me. My best friend this year sent her xmas card addressed to "The (his last name) Family." She was always good about putting my last name before, but I think now that we're expecting she thinks it would be best for us to just go by his last name. She played it off as a joke, but for something that's so important to me I didn't find it very funny. She happily took her husband's last name and I love that for her...I just wish she could love the decision I made for myself even though it's different. It doesn't bother me when his family does it bc they consider me part of the family and they don't know the story behind the decision or even that I made that decision. My best friend though, she was there through it all. She knows...I just don't think she understands why I wouldn't want what she wants for herself.

I think the same thing would happen with the whole sex of the baby thing. Someone would say to me, "I know you wanted neutral things but every girl needs something pink," or, "how else will people know he's a boy." I think babies are babies and it's not so important that strangers know if I'm holding a boy or a girl. It'll be totally ok with me if someone uses the wrong pronoun. As you said, stereotypes are deeply seeped into cultures, and it's hard for people to let those go. No matter the sex of my baby, I want them to grow up believing they can be anything...and if there's not a path for what they want to be that they can fight for it. I basically just want to impose as little on my child from the start (other than a sense of empathy for others, the ability to think critically, and a hunger for learning) and see what they grow up to be with as free of a choice as possible...and love them for it even if it wouldn't have been my choice .

I'm sure all of you current mom's are laughing a bit at the ideals of not-yet-a-first-time-mom here. I get that reality will be much messier, and that's ok. All part of it right, but it's good to have some ideals to strive for to start. Overall, I just want this baby to be my rainbow, and I just want to be a mom...whatever that turns out to mean or be for me .