We haven't been trying that long but when you get your hopes up as we have and it doesn't happen or there is a miscarriage or ectopic as you and I have had then that tears us apart emotionally! The biggest depressed state for me was the ectopic because I do not believe in abortion because of my religious backgroud and here I have a 9 week baby on my right ovary that has to be removed. To this day, I still have regrets but my hubby said that it was a medical emergency and there was no choice!
It may have happened 3years ago but it will always be like yesterday! We as women take on so much and feel so much with our emotions, our love, feelings even anger, because that is the way God made us! That is why we get stressed more easily than men. I would love for one day for men to have the feelings, emotions, stress, responsiblity, everything that we as women half to deal with and they would appreciate what we go through on a daily basis. To please, to have perfectly good babies as we are intended with no difficulties. I have a 16 year old that will never drive because she has seizures. How is she going survive? I have a 13 turning 14 that we have to wait for her to get her license to drive the oldest around! She sees flickering lights and she starts seizing. She has 2 more years and then I don't know what will become of her. All I can do is give her hope as a good mother should! I could go on and on!
I agree with you! We do get knocked down and get the stuffing kicked out of us and we do need to get up and brush the dust off. I always tell my oldest that we can fall in a mud puddle but do not waddle in it, get up, wipe yourself off and walk out of it. Don't wallow in it.
to be honest hun i don't think it really matters how long you have been trying when you have experienced loss, it does tear you apart, it changes you, and i can also understand your ectopic, my boy was 10 weeks and nestled in my right fallopian tube, i wasn't aware of anything being wrong with the pregnancy till my tube burst and it took out a vein behind, 3 pints of blood in my pelvic cavity and i nearly lost my life, so i understand your pain sweet, i do but you are right it is an emergency and one that could have cost your life so please try not to have regrets
you sound like you have a lot of stress going on at the min, can you go away on vacation for a rest hun, try get some you time to relax and be you, not Mom not wife, you!! easier said than done i know that well too lol,
you sound strong and determined in your post and i know you can do it, as you said we just do! men would fall apart if they had to deal with half the stuff we do, i mean look around you, the state the world is in being run by men lol, us women should be in charge, we would have it sorted in no time!!
i saw a film tonight that said the planning arrangements for the the wedding shows you how your marriage will be, involved husband then you will share most of the responsibility, you did all the planning? well there you go........guess which one i was, you got it the wife who planned and sorted it all out same way as it is in our marriage lol!!
keep smiling hun,xx
my poor little babies are sick...Patrick just eat to much last night and thats why his stomach was bothering him...so anyways I'm home and checking on you all I'm sooo tired I think I will have to take me a nap
...hope you all have a wonderful day today....
