argh!!!!
so the visit with my nan was actually not so bad i think i wond myself up with the whole phone call thing that actually once the first 10mins of no twinges questions we had a good time its my mum that has now worried me
so she is looking after ds whilst i pop dd out lol and obviously it has been agreed and is much much better for ds if she looks after him at ours, yes it isnt as convenient for her to have a child dropped off at hers and then sorted but it will actually be much much much harder for her to keep him happy and entertained at hers, she cant fit the carseat in her car so wont be able to go anywhere whereas if she comes here she can use my car to go to the park i have bought loads of his food, new toys, all hisbooks, his bed, his clothes, his bath, nappies wipes EVERYTHING is round here.
so today she suggested i drive 40 minutes to the hospital, drive straight past it, drive another 20mins to hers drop ds off and then drive 20mins back to the hospital when i get told to come into the labour ward . . . erm . . . even my nan was like errrrrrrrrr so in the throws of labour you want them to drive for an hour and 10 mins (on a good day!) not including unpacking the car at your end? and packing it at theres? erm . . . .
she then said it would be better if i went all the way to the 5th sep so i just get a c section so it will be easier for her (?!?) and then had a little bit of a go when i said well it was originally booked for this tuesday but i pushed it back response "but that would make it more likely you will be in labour" errr that is the actual point! and lets face it if she isnt ready just two days past the date i think she is due then to me forcing her out that soon means she isnt ready but anyway errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
i know it is selfish for me to say er stop being so selfish you are looking after my son at mine but it isnt about what is easier for me, we are introducing a whole new person into our family after at least a day of him not seeing his mummy and daddy we could at least make it easier for him to be in his own home, room, bed etc!
argh! she even suggested that if i call at 3am she might be too tired to drive and she worries about that every night!
i know when it comes to the crunch if i say come on we are waiting for you we need to leave she will get in her car and get herself here, she may moan but i will ignore her but i could really really have done without worrying that she is going to say oh i am too tired come to me or whatever. i might even send my sister an email and say i will give you the petrol money to get yourself to mine, if i pop over the weekend can you please keep mum at mine!
argh! sorry to rant and rant but arggggghhh!!! if i took on an important job like this i would be like ok so what do YOU want to do in terms of organising this what is easier for YOU not i cant be arsed to drive that far! eeeek!